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krash999
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Well, I've joked about it to some of my friends, but the more I think about it, the more I feel it's not a joke. What I am talking about is I said "I'm gonna go look on POF and see who will be the next person who is going to ignore me after I message them."
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Get over it.
This weird sense of entitlement that people have toward internet interactions is ridiculous. No one owes you a response, and everyone gets ignored by people that don't believe the sender is compatible.
what you can do is see what makes you a better match, and to represent yourself in an honest, but more desirable way. What are the introductory messages you are sending?0 -
They are all different, normally something pertaining to what they have written in their about me section. And You misunderstood my post, I'm not really complaining, I was mearely sharing the humor I find in my dating life, or should I say lack thereof.. :-)0
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The main reasons I ignore guys:
~I dont find him attractive
~I dont find his profile appealing
~He has pets (I'm allergic)
~He doesn't have a pic on his profile
~He lives too far away
I'm pretty sure I get ignored for similar reasons.
If you're not having any luck, perhaps you need to rewrite your profile? Approach different types of women? Try a different approach? Try a different site?
Just some food for thought........0 -
Along the same lines... I'd like some thoughts on guys who show up VERY LATE for meetings/dates. I'm talking longer than 15 minutes. Some up to an hour.
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Along the same lines... I'd like some thoughts on guys who show up VERY LATE for meetings/dates. I'm talking longer than 15 minutes. Some up to an hour.
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No texting to let you know? No excuses? They just turn up late and dont say anything? That's just rude and disrespectful!! I wouldnt wait past half an hour anyhow......:noway:0 -
They do text or call and say they are on the way but still. My thing is, if they knew they couldn't make it for that time don't set it for that time! If I didn't have to travel an hour to meet these guys I'd be gone in a flash! I think they are being rude. Had one today was an hour and a half late! He showed up as I was finishing my lunch. You can be quite sure I will NOT be seeing or talking to that guy again.0
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There is no excuse for being that late. I like to leave early for a date, and I'll wait somewhere and waste my time rather than wasting someone else's time. And what's worse than being late, is getting stood up. I mean seriously???? That really sucks. At least let a person know you aren't gonna make it. Don't make them wait for you and just not show up.....0
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They do text or call and say they are on the way but still. My thing is, if they knew they couldn't make it for that time don't set it for that time! If I didn't have to travel an hour to meet these guys I'd be gone in a flash! I think they are being rude. Had one today was an hour and a half late! He showed up as I was finishing my lunch. You can be quite sure I will NOT be seeing or talking to that guy again.
Well, if he texts and has a reasonable excuse, I'd give him the benefit of the doubt. But then again, I'm not to hung up on punctuality like some people are. I'm a bit of a late person myself. But yeah, even for me over half an hour is rude!0 -
There is no excuse for being that late. I like to leave early for a date, and I'll wait somewhere and waste my time rather than wasting someone else's time. And what's worse than being late, is getting stood up. I mean seriously???? That really sucks. At least let a person know you aren't gonna make it. Don't make them wait for you and just not show up.....
Never stood anyone up so dont understand the reasons behind it. I had one guy stop returning my texts about 2 hours before we were supposed to meet. So I didnt actually turn up but still, I felt stood up. He recently contacted me to say he lost his bottle........so I suppose that's a good reason? :laugh: :huh:0 -
Very late is definitely not ok........I was stood up once--the guy texted to say he was on his way, and then never showed......really lousy move I thought......
Anna......what does "lost his bottle" mean?0 -
There is no excuse for being that late. I like to leave early for a date, and I'll wait somewhere and waste my time rather than wasting someone else's time. And what's worse than being late, is getting stood up. I mean seriously???? That really sucks. At least let a person know you aren't gonna make it. Don't make them wait for you and just not show up.....
Never stood anyone up so dont understand the reasons behind it. I had one guy stop returning my texts about 2 hours before we were supposed to meet. So I didnt actually turn up but still, I felt stood up. He recently contacted me to say he lost his bottle........so I suppose that's a good reason? :laugh: :huh:
its been years since i actually went on a first date, but i have been stood up twice so far in my "dating career". One claimed she forgot she was supposed to go out with me, and wasnt home when i went to pick her up(this was actually on a second date). the other claimed a family emergency as the reason, she tried to set up another meet, then she just stopped messaging me... oh well.... i guess thats is life....0 -
Very late is definitely not ok........I was stood up once--the guy texted to say he was on his way, and then never showed......really lousy move I thought......
Anna......what does "lost his bottle" mean?
Oooop, sorry Moe - that's slang for 'he got scared'! ' Lost his balls'? That might be more of an American way of saying it?? lol0 -
Very late is definitely not ok........I was stood up once--the guy texted to say he was on his way, and then never showed......really lousy move I thought......
Anna......what does "lost his bottle" mean?
Oooop, sorry Moe - that's slang for 'he got scared'! ' Lost his balls'? That might be more of an American way of saying it?? lol
"cold feet" would be another one.
I thought "lost his bottle" stood for "lost his mind" :laugh:0 -
haha Cesar! Not a bad guess, but no, I think his mind is intact, just his balls and his feet are in question!! :laugh:0
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I've never been stood up or stood anyone up. Somewhere around age 20, I was on a first date with a gal. She told me how a guy she was on a date with went to the bathroom and never came back. I couldn't imagine anyone doing such a thing. Two dates later, she was so annoying and offensive that I debated doing it myself.0
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I've never been stood up or stood anyone up. Somewhere around age 20, I was on a first date with a gal. She told me how a guy she was on a date with went to the bathroom and never came back. I couldn't imagine anyone doing such a thing. Two dates later, she was so annoying and offensive that I debated doing it myself.
:laugh: I must admit, there was one date that I wanted to jump out the bathroom window too!! I guess we're just too nice to do such a thing David.....lol :bigsmile:0 -
I have never been stood up and I have never stood anyone else up. I find being late can only be excused up to a half hour and they pretty much need a dr. note by that time. Anything after 15 mins pretty much means the guy better be awesome on the date. I am a stickler for being on time and have given up on friendships with people that are always late.0
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I'm a late person, only befriends/dates late people because others get pissed off.I have never been stood up and I have never stood anyone else up. I find being late can only be excused up to a half hour and they pretty much need a dr. note by that time. Anything after 15 mins pretty much means the guy better be awesome on the date. I am a stickler for being on time and have given up on friendships with people that are always late.
I'm rushing all week long at work, so I'm not going to rush for my leisure time. :happy:
Late in life, late in bed. That's not all bad you see.0 -
I'm a late person, only befriends/dates late people because others get pissed off.I have never been stood up and I have never stood anyone else up. I find being late can only be excused up to a half hour and they pretty much need a dr. note by that time. Anything after 15 mins pretty much means the guy better be awesome on the date. I am a stickler for being on time and have given up on friendships with people that are always late.
I'm rushing all week long at work, so I'm not going to rush for my leisure time. :happy:
Late in life, late in bed. That's not all bad you see.
But even you wouldnt be an hour late, would you? I'm a late person too, but I think that's taking the piss.........lol0 -
I'm a late person, only befriends/dates late people because others get pissed off.I have never been stood up and I have never stood anyone else up. I find being late can only be excused up to a half hour and they pretty much need a dr. note by that time. Anything after 15 mins pretty much means the guy better be awesome on the date. I am a stickler for being on time and have given up on friendships with people that are always late.
I'm rushing all week long at work, so I'm not going to rush for my leisure time. :happy:
Late in life, late in bed. That's not all bad you see.
I don't rush I just plan so I have enough time to get somewhere. If I know I can be some place by 7pm I will usually ask someone to meet at 7:15 so that gives a cushion for bad traffic, can't find my shoes, etc. So if I am already planning a 15 minute cushion into the time and that person is an extra 30 mins late that is 45 mins I could have spent doing something else.0 -
Yea, I'm not saying I'm perfect, but I'm saying especially at first dates I think they'd make an effort to be somewhat punctual. If I'm running late, I text them right away and let them know, but it's only happened once, then he ended up being even WAY later than I was! UGH...
I'm kinda new to the dating scene and didn't know what the 'norm' was. Thanks for your input!!!
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I don't think there is a norm. There are those who are late to everything and don't see it as an issue, there are those who are early or on time and see tardiness as the greatest disrespect ever, there are those who are sometimes late, sometimes early and just roll with it.0
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I have never been stood up and I have never stood anyone else up. I find being late can only be excused up to a half hour and they pretty much need a dr. note by that time. Anything after 15 mins pretty much means the guy better be awesome on the date. I am a stickler for being on time and have given up on friendships with people that are always late.
"NEED A DR'S NOTE!" :laugh: I love it!!0 -
Hopefully, I wont get flamed for this post.
I have been ignored a couple of times after sending a quick message. Obviously if you aren't interested, it's perfectly fine, and I am not upset.
However, it's not difficult to send a message to say "I'm not interested"
In my opinion simply blocking someone is rude. Would you completely ignore someone in public if they said hi?
I personally don't block anyone after one message. I will tell them I'm not interested, and if they continue to message me, I will block them at that point.
There are some occasions when I simply don't respond, and if I get more messages after I choose to not respond, I will block them.
On another note, I have had relatively decent luck on PoF, and I have met a few nice ladies. I have never stood anyone up, but I have been stood up before.0 -
I just got back on POF... again. So I am getting a lot of messages, I swear they are looking for fresh meat. I usually don't respond to someone that just says 'hi' unless he is pretty cute. I also don't respond when there isn't a picture, although I did once because he sent me a message I just couldn't help but respond to.0
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Hopefully, I wont get flamed for this post.
I have been ignored a couple of times after sending a quick message. Obviously if you aren't interested, it's perfectly fine, and I am not upset.
However, it's not difficult to send a message to say "I'm not interested"
In my opinion simply blocking someone is rude. Would you completely ignore someone in public if they said hi?
I personally don't block anyone after one message. I will tell them I'm not interested, and if they continue to message me, I will block them at that point.
There are some occasions when I simply don't respond, and if I get more messages after I choose to not respond, I will block them.
On another note, I have had relatively decent luck on PoF, and I have met a few nice ladies. I have never stood anyone up, but I have been stood up before.
No flaming here, but I have to admit, I've avoided the "not interested" response because I don't want to receive the "how are you not interested, you didn't even give me the chance to get to know you, you are a shallow @$%!& for judging me before you get to know me" annnnnndddd..... then the infamous block.
Only person I've ever blocked was someone who was way to close to home, and some dude that was trying to shove God down my throat.
And unfortunately blocking someone on POF does not prevent you from seeing them again in the search and other features.
Kind of annoying, when you don't care to see thier stupid @$$ face.0 -
Hopefully, I wont get flamed for this post.
I have been ignored a couple of times after sending a quick message. Obviously if you aren't interested, it's perfectly fine, and I am not upset.
However, it's not difficult to send a message to say "I'm not interested"
In my opinion simply blocking someone is rude. Would you completely ignore someone in public if they said hi?
I personally don't block anyone after one message. I will tell them I'm not interested, and if they continue to message me, I will block them at that point.
There are some occasions when I simply don't respond, and if I get more messages after I choose to not respond, I will block them.
On another note, I have had relatively decent luck on PoF, and I have met a few nice ladies. I have never stood anyone up, but I have been stood up before.
No flaming here, but I have to admit, I've avoided the "not interested" response because I don't want to receive the "how are you not interested, you didn't even give me the chance to get to know you, you are a shallow @$%!& for judging me before you get to know me" annnnnndddd..... then the infamous block.
Only person I've ever blocked was someone who was way to close to home, and some dude that was trying to shove God down my throat.
And unfortunately blocking someone on POF does not prevent you from seeing them again in the search and other features.
Kind of annoying, when you don't care to see thier stupid @$$ face.
Well, yea, I can understand that. Typically, if someone says they aren't interested, I don't care to know why just because it has the potential to be hurtful.
I do wish there was a way to block those people that you know arent interested in you. I have sent a message to someone before, and they werent interested, then like 6 months later, I had forgotten and sent her another message because she appeared in my matches again. That's quite embarrassing0 -
I made the mistake of speaking w/someone on POF w/o a pic. We got along ok, shared a couple of emails (I have a dating email w/out giving out my personal info). He sent me a pic & I KNEW right away that he was NOT my type! A little later on, I did tell him we could go no further than what we were doing - chatting online. I wanted to be honest with him. He was 'ok' with that but still 'tried'. He canceled his POF account but sent me emails. Next thing I knew, he sent me a friend request on FACEBOOK!!!! WTF??? How the HECK did he find me on FB?!?!?!?!?! But he did. I did NOT accept it. I checked my email, he sent me an email stating that he found me on FB and sent me a request. I did not respond. A few weeks go by, he sends me another email, I do not respond.
Point of this post.... BE CAREFUL out there!!!!!! :flowerforyou:0 -
I have one of those first names that you can put that and my city in Facebook and I come right up. To avoid this I use my intials (CJ). Of course I tried to have my Facebook as locked down as possible just in case.
I think I've been on and off POF for too long. I have had guys send me a message just to say "welcome back".:laugh:0 -
I think I've been on and off POF for too long. I have had guys send me a message just to say "welcome back".:laugh:
LOL! cute!0
