I am a direct person but not mean. I don't care if I have 1 friend on here or 50. I just want to be friends with people who are positive, honest and have similar goals.

I think as long as a person delivers advice or support in a positive way it's a good thing & I sincerely agree that to 'like' a post where a person has had a bad day, over indulged, gone off the rails etc that's not so good. I know I joined MYP for true support and for someone to tell me what deep down I already know. It's people not being totally honest with me that's probably contributed to me being in this mess in the first place, that and my inability to realise that eating does not help my emotional state, be it happy, sad or angry.

Oh! Oh! Add me! Add me! I will be more than happy to be that friend that cracks the whip or questions your food choices!!! LOL!

I swing a couple of ways. After a couple of days logging that don't look like their normal pattern, either I send them a note asking if everything is OK or I don't comment at all.

The thing is you only see what is logged and unless they share (and they may not want to) there could be a whole host of reasons why they're not their usual selfs.

I do find it difficult because I think who am I to judge someone else. Everyone has their own idea and plans on why and how to lose weight/gain fitness etc. What works for you may not work for me.

I like to have friends who's approach is both the same and different to mine but am I not a friend collector. There's that comfort thing where you feel you're in tandem with someone and you can bounce ideas, borrow receipes etc, but I also like being able to see and support other approaches. Who knows at some point I may want or need to try it - if I get bored, start to falter or weightloss stalls.

All joking aside...

It's very difficult because the problem is not food.
The majority of my friends are also Fitbitters so I can talk exercise with them.
Some of my MFP friends are not.

It's difficult watching some mfp friends struggle and for me to not say anything. My educational background is in psychology. So when I see someone post a workout that they've burned "x" amount of calories and then turn around and reward themselves with food I want to ramble something off on the keyboard.

I've pretty much kept my opinion to myself because I'm on a calorie reduced diet and I am cranky and I know I'll come off sounding like a complete and total jerk! Or Little Miss Bossy!

Btw- I had a chocolate bar for dinner last night. Any of you guys want to click like on that?

I think a person should be Honest (with friends and themselves) , Direct (without being mean) and a good listener.

Feel free to add me

I am in total agreement with what all of you have said. One day I was totally discouraged and because MFP is a place where a macho man like me can actually share his feelings I decided to write a post. It was funny how everyone just hit "like" as they scrolled down the page. They didnt even read what I had wrote. Not one of them posted anythingon my wall to give me the support I needed. Since then I have made some wonderful friends and we are there everyday for one another. I also think if you want to be a true friend, you need to keep your list rather small so you can give the support you promised when you either requested or accpeted a friendship. I will never decline a friend offer because they may have read something I posted or was referred by another friend and I might have something to offer. I only delete if the friend is just a friend collector or isnt supportive or motivating in any way, or just simply never logs on. I want to be a good friend to all whether it be with humor, sarcasm, advice, a listeneing ear, motivating, or a good sports quote. I appreciate this post because I am on MFP daily and a lot of times hourly for the motivation and support. I have been able to accomplish remarkable things because of MFP. I have met some wonderful friends on the site. I am always looking for friends who are motivating, honest, supportive, active, and looking for friendships and not friend collectors. Anyone who reads this, feel free to send me a friend request. I would love to be your friend.

I am looking for just that! I don’t want thousands of friends I want as many who will help me along the way. Friends who will give me guidance and support! Friends who will kick me in the butt who will also help pick me up and I will be the same with them. I have just started down this path and I am no expert by any means and would love for people to tell me where I might be going wrong with things and to tell me what I am doing right. I don’t want to be lectured but there is a way to help without demeaning someone. Friends should be honest with each other right? That being said anyone please feel free to add me as friend!

Honesty is the best policy, obeying the golden rule.

I think that is one of the best things about being 40~! I don't care how many friends I have, I say what I am thinking and people appreciate it... come to think of it that is why I got a raise at work! If I care about someone I give them the gift of my time and If I don't then I let them be. Honest, genuine and worry free... Its good to be 40!

I think this is an interesting question and I believe there is are diminishing returns on having too many friends here. Honestly, the more friends I have, the less inclined I am to comment and check diaries. There simply isn't time in the day. But I'm like that in "real life". I don't have a ton of friends, but do have several close ones. I find that too many emails/texts/phone messages add clutter to my day. I'd much rather have a few friends online where I can invest my time in providing support vs. feeling popular by having a lot of friends, but not helping anyone. I guess it boils down to whether a person likes quality or quantity. While there are many things about being in my 40's I don't like, I find that most of the women in our age group prefer quality.