Does this bother you too?
3athlt
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I just can’t help it. Every day I look at the main message board and there’s always someone whining about how they’re SO discouraged and they don’t know what to do. Being a kind soul, I make the mistake of clicking on the message and find out the real story.
It seems that most of the time when someone’s whining, it’s someone that weighs between 100 (45 kg) to 120 (54 kg) pounds. Then you look at their “ticker” and see that they have this seemingly “unreachable” goal of losing 7 (3kg) pounds. I shouldn’t let this upset me, but it really makes me angry! We all have over 100 pounds to lose, and I can’t decide to whether to laugh or get mad at these people! Boy, 7 WHOLE pounds – these folks are really going to have a tough time, aren’t they? They’re really going to have to struggle for MONTHS to hopefully lose their weight! Unbelievable!
These people have NO CLUE about being overweight or even morbidly obese! They think their world is crumbling around them (or act like it), when (I would assume) most of us here struggled to hobble up a flight of stairs – gasping for air and having their heart beat out of their chest when we first started! These people need to get a freaking clue!
And the people who say they’re “fat”? Seriously? No, they may not be “ripped” or have 6-pack abs but you can tell that they’re well within a healthy BMI range.
I think all of us in this group are busting our butts most every day – trying to watch our calorie intake and hoping that they can muster up the energy for their next walk. Seriously. I’ve been measuring EVERYTHING that I’ve been putting into my body and stressing out about food choices. These clowns (for lack of a better word) worry because they had a cake or ice cream splurge and it will throw their weekly goal off track and how they just can't hold back the tears. They need to walk a mile in our shoes and see what it’s REALLY like to live life being obese!
It’s just SO frustrating! I really want to speak my mind and clue these idiots in, but I keep holding back. Heaven forbid, some skinny little privileged princess might get her feelings hurt if I speak my mind, right?
Then there’s the forum for people who want to GAIN weight. Really? Unless someone is suffering from an eating disorder, I just cannot understand their mindset for the life of me. You should read some of their BS sometime. They seriously get frustrated because they cannot gain weight! We should be so lucky!
Anyway, I guess I just wanted to blow off some steam to our group. There! I finally said it on MFP and I feel better for finally speaking my mind!
Does this bother anyone else, too?
It seems that most of the time when someone’s whining, it’s someone that weighs between 100 (45 kg) to 120 (54 kg) pounds. Then you look at their “ticker” and see that they have this seemingly “unreachable” goal of losing 7 (3kg) pounds. I shouldn’t let this upset me, but it really makes me angry! We all have over 100 pounds to lose, and I can’t decide to whether to laugh or get mad at these people! Boy, 7 WHOLE pounds – these folks are really going to have a tough time, aren’t they? They’re really going to have to struggle for MONTHS to hopefully lose their weight! Unbelievable!
These people have NO CLUE about being overweight or even morbidly obese! They think their world is crumbling around them (or act like it), when (I would assume) most of us here struggled to hobble up a flight of stairs – gasping for air and having their heart beat out of their chest when we first started! These people need to get a freaking clue!
And the people who say they’re “fat”? Seriously? No, they may not be “ripped” or have 6-pack abs but you can tell that they’re well within a healthy BMI range.
I think all of us in this group are busting our butts most every day – trying to watch our calorie intake and hoping that they can muster up the energy for their next walk. Seriously. I’ve been measuring EVERYTHING that I’ve been putting into my body and stressing out about food choices. These clowns (for lack of a better word) worry because they had a cake or ice cream splurge and it will throw their weekly goal off track and how they just can't hold back the tears. They need to walk a mile in our shoes and see what it’s REALLY like to live life being obese!
It’s just SO frustrating! I really want to speak my mind and clue these idiots in, but I keep holding back. Heaven forbid, some skinny little privileged princess might get her feelings hurt if I speak my mind, right?
Then there’s the forum for people who want to GAIN weight. Really? Unless someone is suffering from an eating disorder, I just cannot understand their mindset for the life of me. You should read some of their BS sometime. They seriously get frustrated because they cannot gain weight! We should be so lucky!
Anyway, I guess I just wanted to blow off some steam to our group. There! I finally said it on MFP and I feel better for finally speaking my mind!
Does this bother anyone else, too?
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I'm not defending them, but I guess everyone is their own problem (or "problem") the biggest. They don't upset me. I don't think about them. A lot of them are overreacting and just looking for attention. I don't waste my time on them. I have 66 kg or 145 lbs to get rid of . I am the only one responsible for being so overweight and having all other problems following from that, so I don't expect from people who are not in my shoes to understand me. To summarize - No, they don't bother me, they don't exist in my universe. :bigsmile:0
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Hey Marty, I totally understand your frustration. It sure gets annoying even when I am about in town and hear some skinny little teenager whine because she feels so "fat" and she might be 20 pounds over her BMI (WHICH I PERSONALLY HATE). I get so frustrated because at least she can find clothes at the store, she doesn't have people look weird at her when she walks into a restaurant with her family and tries to get into a booth. However; she has problems and they do not stem from being overweight. People look at someone and say oh, your skinny then you are healthy. Health has very little to do with weight, it has everything to do with how you feel, and how you treat your body. If you weigh say 125pounds and smoke, drink, and party like the world ends tomorrow that is not healthy. Skinny people can get diabetes too, being healthy is about what you put into your body. It is almost just as bad if not worse to become obsessed with working out, you know the people I am talking about, the ones that have to work out 6-8 hours a day, or feel that they will automatically get fat. Gaining weight is sometimes hard, my grandmother can't gain weight, she weighs 98 pounds. They have tried everything, she looks so sick. So I can understand that, but I have not been on the MFP site for that, so I have no idea. I wish I had that problem. lol.. Not really, I would rather be 145 pounds which is overweight on BMI, and be healthy.
I hate BMI, because it states that everyone has to be the same, and does not take into account, that weight is simply a number. It is better to be 20-30 pounds overweight (from BMI number) work out daily, and make sure you eat right. Then to be on "target" and be horrible with the way you treat your body. I try not to look or refer to BMI, I really hate that they are making kids in school adhere to it. Or send letters to their parents, I would LOVE for them to send me a letter about my kid. Every kid is different, maybe there is a thyroid issue, maybe there is a side affect of medication. So many things can effect a person's weight.
Anita, I agree that it is good to not pay attention to them, and say, that they can get attention somewhere else. I like that they do not exist in your universe. Unfortunately I am not so lucky, both my sisters are skinner then me. So when I went home in June to see everyone, my dad told my sister who had moved in with us for the summer that she better be careful, she was getting to fat (bc she put 20 pounds on). She was like, I have never been called fat, I said really....seriously... your not fat, your average. Be proud of it. LOL.0 -
I think, it is a sign of our society……”uber-skinny” is in and especially girls with low self esteem blame everything wrong in their lives on being “ fat”. I think, that is just a scapegoat for deeper problems. And let’s be honest most of us obese people also have at least one skeleton in the closet. I look at obesity as mostly a mental health problem. I know, mine has partially something to do with being compared to my siblings and cousins. My mom used to say things like “why you can not be more like your brother etc.” or “you would be so pretty, if you lost that extra weight”. I lost both of my parents to cancer in 1 ½ years by the time I was 17. I never got a chance to resolve those issues. But since they have been gone a long time (over 30 years), it is my fault for not finding a way to resolve my issues by now. Hopefully someday I will master that. I am not trying to get sympathy here, but trying to say it is up each of us to figure out what makes us tick or what causes us to over eat and under exercise. I am trying to work on it for me.
But yes that whining of people that have to lose 10-25 lbs is pretty annoying to someone who had at least 100 lbs to lose……. That is why I was looking for a group that was a little more mature and more like me, in the obese category.
And yes, the “uber-skinny” look is not always the healthiest. My hubby’s neurologist actually told us that the “uber-skinny “can be more unhealthy than a slightly over weight person. I am thinking cholesterol, blood sugar etc…..0 -
Thanks for everyone's replies, I appreciate it. But - stupid me! I just now looked a an UNBELIEVABLE post... I copied/pasted part of it below for your viewing pleasure... this is absolutely INCREDIBLE!
"I have talked about this before but im struggling even more! been struggling like 2 weeks ago went from 107.4 to 109.0 than like end of last week got back down to 107.6 but this week it went up to 108.4+ lbs and i dont know what to do!! "
OMG! The little princess has her weight up to 108.4 and don't know what to do! She went on to say that she's in the healthy BMI range, which just made me even madder!!!
I swear, these people have to be vain - what else can it be? Here WE are - fighting for our life, and little princess is "struggling"!!!
Maybe I shouldn't have done it, but I sent her a personal message. I basically told her that since she's in the healthy range and she's SO concerned about her weight that she may have some other issues going on besides her weight that she needs to look into. I went on to tell her that a LOT of folks on MFP are here because they're morbidly obese (like me) and are literally FIGHTING FOR THEIR LIVES! WE have serious problems and need to make a lifestyle change. I was as nice as I could be, believe me it killed me not to be sarcastic with her. But here's a gal that's HEALTHY and whining about gaining 0.8 pounds (not even ONE full pound!). Someone should talk some sense into people like this! I realize that she might report me or block me - and that's fine with me. I just had to vent my frustrations because this girl is absolutely whining without any reason whatsoever!
What is wrong with these people??? :explode: :mad:0
