I can't offer any help, but i can say that I'm in the same boat. My BF works thirds and I do so good while he's at work or asleep. But every other week he has 4 days off and switches around his schedule. So when he's hungry he will go to McDonald's or something and always asks if i want some thing. And It's just so much easier to grab a quick bite than to cook. I have been doing better the past couple of weeks though. I have found that if I eat before he gets up, or start cooking before he gets hungry, he won't get fast food and I won't want it because I'm already full. I hope that made sense lol.

Thanks for sharing about this. My BF loves to eat! I don't always want to be the party pooper. At the same time, I know that it makes him smile that his middle aged gf looks kinda cute in a bathing suit I like to be trim and I have a hip injury that requires that I don't get too chunky.

So I shared with him that I really need to stay trim to stay healthy--I focus on the healthy part and not make it about anything else...Sometimes I have a bite or two of his treats but he knows that I cannot match him bite for bite.

Also, we live separately and I try to do my best when we are apart.

when it comes to my BF, he's doing lots of sport and is really lean -but he loves rich foods.

Being on a diet, I normally cook the same meal for us (minestrone, ratatouille, salade de tomate/ tuna...) and just before serving, I add cream or olive oil to his portion, and leave mine in the original, low cal version.

Like that, we share a meal, no reason for any of us to be frustrated by our individual wantings not being met.

For snacks, I bring a bowl of dried raisins, almonds and chocolate, we both nibble in the bowl, and can pick the parts we want.: me, mostly the almonds, him lots of chocolate. Sharing, but still getting what we want each of us...

Hope these ideas helps you...

Oh man! I totally feel you! My boyfriend is like a non-stop eating machine who just can't put on weight! He is actually trying to gain some weight, while I am trying to lose, which can be super tricky. We both have committed to eating healthier overall, though. I have a few suggestions that have helped me be successful in my endeavors.

1. We have a "naughty cupboard". My mantra is "out of sight out of mind" so by putting all of his naughty snacks away in a place that I don't go or look they definitely don't tempt me AS MUCH (that is not to say I don't sneak in there sometimes and grab a few treats, but it is way less often than if they were out or mixed with the healthy snacks). We also recently got him a cookie jar for his sweet treats, which, again, just keeps it out of my line of sight, for me this is the biggest life saver.

2. We meal plan and grocery shop together. When I plan meals, I usually double the portion size for him, and try to add healthy fats to his meal that I may not necessarily add to mine (usually some additional carbs like rice/pasta/potatoes). I also only cook or prepare enough of these additions for him to eat so there aren't a ton of leftovers for me to snack on. We always try to compromise on what we are eating, so maybe it's enchiladas, but using chicken and low fat cheese instead of pork and full fat cheddar, simple decisions like that ahead of time make meal times easier. I also try to find super tasty healthy option to keep at home that both of us like and I don't feel bad about eating.

3. When we go grocery shopping together, when we buy snacks for him, like chips, he now tries to be a bit more conscious about what he's snacking on, and make healthier choices like pop chips or whole grain crackers. We've found a few of these things that we can compromise on, and I feel a lot less guilty when I do indulge. He may not put on weight, but that does not mean what he eats won't impact his health long term. Educating him on the harms of saturated fats and sugar intake over extended periods of time could be helpful. Just because he CAN be eating these things, doesn't mean he SHOULD. Lord knows you don't want to be the one caring for him if he winds up with clogged arteries and/or type II diabetes.

At the end of the day it is really about both of you being on the same page and communicating with him what you may be struggling with and what your goals are. When you do this, and help him to understand the WHY of a healthy lifestyle, rather than just the WHAT, so that he can support you fully.