I confess....
Jennifer10723
Posts: 374 Member
Ok .. I'm bringing this back. lol
I confess that a man on POF messaged me and we have been chatting for a week or so and he seems really cool! The problem? He is an hour away from me. The confession? I am thinking in the back of my mind, this is the area that I want to move to .. or near it anyway, maybe if we hit it off really well ... lmao. Too early .. YES. But I am infatuated with him! We have spoken on the phone, but not met in person. He sends me pictures of him and his son. I am hoping we will meet in person this weekend. I'm excited!!! I don't want to be excited but I am! HELP!
I confess that a man on POF messaged me and we have been chatting for a week or so and he seems really cool! The problem? He is an hour away from me. The confession? I am thinking in the back of my mind, this is the area that I want to move to .. or near it anyway, maybe if we hit it off really well ... lmao. Too early .. YES. But I am infatuated with him! We have spoken on the phone, but not met in person. He sends me pictures of him and his son. I am hoping we will meet in person this weekend. I'm excited!!! I don't want to be excited but I am! HELP!
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Try to temper your excitement a little, but otherwise go for it. I dated a girl 1000 miles away from me for a year and it was the best relationship I've ever had (was all set to move down there too)...it ended because of issues unrelated to the long distance part but we ended up with an incredible friendship since then so it's all good. Anyhow an hour away is nothing! (of course I live out in the country so everything is at least 30 minutes away...my perspective is a little different!) I wouldn't even consider the hour distance a problem for you. Just go for it!
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An hour is nothing. And we all know if he's into you, he won't mind it. Well at first he won't but then you can figure out a better way like taking turns etc!
It's good to be excited though! Just havr fun and see how it goes.0 -
I just reported myself using this new crap. Grrrrrrr0
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Tube_socks wrote: »I just reported myself using this new crap. Grrrrrrr
Didn't your momma ever tell you that you'll go blind from that??? lol
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Tube_socks wrote: »I just reported myself using this new crap. Grrrrrrr
Didn't your momma ever tell you that you'll go blind from that??? lol
bhahahahahahahaah!!!! That is funny!!! Both of them!0 -
I just re-read what I wrote .. and to clarify, he isn't the first one to message me ..lol. He just kind of caught my attention. lolololol
I will try and control my excitement. I don't want to freak him out ..lol. It is such a pain to drive that far to go on a date tho!
AND .. I almost flagged myself quoting the other text!!! hahahahahahahaha0 -
Jennifer10723 wrote: »I just re-read what I wrote .. and to clarify, he isn't the first one to message me ..lol. He just kind of caught my attention. lolololol
I will try and control my excitement. I don't want to freak him out ..lol. It is such a pain to drive that far to go on a date tho!
AND .. I almost flagged myself quoting the other text!!! hahahahahahahaha
hahaha! I always thought guys were more into that than girls!
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that's cute! but yah, way too soon but wouldn't that be sweet.
hey... what's BBCode???
also, thadenge, read your response on the other post... how old do you think i am??? (no cheating!) LOL!0 -
It's hard to contain excitement sometimes. But I do think that it's ok to think of those things, being a single mom, jesus, I have to think of everything, but don't let it consume you. I did the same thing recently, guy was almost an hour away, which means no random lunches, no drop-by's, none of the convenience, but I thought ok - I'll go outside of the box, and we really hit it off. Until he went back to his exgirlfriend that was causing "drama" - was I sad, you bet. Was I mad, you bet, did I have a smally pissyfit, absolutely. Was I bummed about it for a while. Yes. Being a woman I think we have too many emotions wired into us. Ugh.
It's all good. PS-I dislike this new look so far but it will just take time to get used to it.
Edit: I should add most people don't have as bad of luck as I do, so don't think that your's will end badly!!! didn't mean to make it sound that way. Turn as much as you can into a positive!0 -
Jen - I would contain myself until you meet in person. No issue with the distance, just the required chemistry!
Can't wait to hear what you think after you meet
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sweetcurlz67 wrote: »that's cute! but yah, way too soon but wouldn't that be sweet.
hey... what's BBCode???
also, thadenge, read your response on the other post... how old do you think i am??? (no cheating!) LOL!
Hmmmm...from your pic I'm gonna guess late 30's maybe early 40's though I think probably younger than me.
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farmers_daughter wrote: »It's hard to contain excitement sometimes. But I do think that it's ok to think of those things, being a single mom, jesus, I have to think of everything, but don't let it consume you. I did the same thing recently, guy was almost an hour away, which means no random lunches, no drop-by's, none of the convenience, but I thought ok - I'll go outside of the box, and we really hit it off. Until he went back to his exgirlfriend that was causing "drama" - was I sad, you bet. Was I mad, you bet, did I have a smally pissyfit, absolutely. Was I bummed about it for a while. Yes. Being a woman I think we have too many emotions wired into us. Ugh.
This made me think of one good thing about the distance here or even in the last couple relationships I was in...if it doesn't work out, you don't have to worry about running into them at the store or gas station or whatever. It doesn't sound like that big of a deal, but not having to see them with a new SO (or vice versa) does make the getting over things easier in my mind.
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Wonder if it's a bug. Normally when there's a report in the Groups section of the forums, the mods get a notice but I see nothing unless Anna took care of it already.Tube_socks wrote: »I just reported myself using this new crap. Grrrrrrr
Didn't your momma ever tell you that you'll go blind from that??? lol0 -
sweetcurlz67 wrote: »that's cute! but yah, way too soon but wouldn't that be sweet.
hey... what's BBCode???
also, thadenge, read your response on the other post... how old do you think i am??? (no cheating!) LOL!
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/BBCode0 -
It allows you to do many things like change the colorsize strikethrough among other things though not all of it is working just yet.0
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My clutzy self came out in the past 24 hours. Tripped running to 1st base last night due to a dip in the basepath and jammed my pinky finger. Then this morning my cell went face first into a sharp rock at a drop height of 5 feet and the glass did not survive. Can it please be the weekend?0
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LMAO .. I read that kind of quickly and I had to double take .. I thought you were saying you "came out" yesterday .. like came out of the closet kind of thing! lol That sucks about your phone!!!!! I have shattered my share as well. do you get a long weekend?0
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3 day weekend. Thanks Columbus for killing off the indigenous tribes.0
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sweetcurlz67 wrote: »that's cute! but yah, way too soon but wouldn't that be sweet.
hey... what's BBCode???
also, thadenge, read your response on the other post... how old do you think i am??? (no cheating!) LOL!
Hmmmm...from your pic I'm gonna guess late 30's maybe early 40's though I think probably younger than me.
AWE!!! Thanks! you're AWESOME!!! I'm 47.
edit: I don't act my age either... lol!0 -
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sweetcurlz67 wrote: »sweetcurlz67 wrote: »that's cute! but yah, way too soon but wouldn't that be sweet.
hey... what's BBCode???
also, thadenge, read your response on the other post... how old do you think i am??? (no cheating!) LOL!
Hmmmm...from your pic I'm gonna guess late 30's maybe early 40's though I think probably younger than me.
AWE!!! Thanks! you're AWESOME!!! I'm 47.
edit: I don't act my age either... lol!
Wow...very nice! You definitely don't look or act your age from what I see!
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Columbus only made it to Haiti. He was a hell of a salesman though. How else do you get a holiday named after you for "discovering" a place that is already inhabited?MissingMinnesota wrote: »3 day weekend. Thanks Columbus for killing off the indigenous tribes.
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Most of my relationships started with someone who lived an hour plus away (I met them on my old commute - it's not unusual to commute 1 hour each way in Southern California). I didn't have a car, so they had to really like me to drive an hour to pick me up, go on our date, and then drive an hour home.
I kinda liked that they had to make the effort - it made it...purposeful.
You can make this work, and if he's feeling it too - he'll make it work.0 -
An hour is NOTHING. Try a 32 hour flight. Smdh0
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Saw Gone Girl this weekend and I highly recommend it. Some people hated the ending but I think it is just as much of a shock as the other twists and turns and the acting was excellent.0
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I confess I can't believe this thread got all the way to page to before someone wrote in it again.....
I confess I was up super late last night playing D&D and forgot there was no school today which means half the normal traffic. SO instead of sleeping in a little I arrived at work about an hour early lol
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I confessed to my friend that I'd been lurking in MRA/PUA (men's rights advocates/pick up artists and no, you shouldn't check it out) forums and she deduced that I should not have done that since now I'm actually terrified of men. It never occurred to me that my morbid curiosity could have affected me like that but she said I never look men in the face anymore. So, lesson learned and now, therapy?0
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Sofaking .. omg .. I went on a couple ProAna sites (completely unrelated) and it distorted my views so much. I can't even explain the affect it had on me. I couldn't diet for some reason .. it was the weirdest thing .. it messed with my head!0
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I confessed to my friend that I'd been lurking in MRA/PUA (men's rights advocates/pick up artists and no, you shouldn't check it out) forums and she deduced that I should not have done that since now I'm actually terrified of men. It never occurred to me that my morbid curiosity could have affected me like that but she said I never look men in the face anymore. So, lesson learned and now, therapy?
The only good thing though is that unlike women, men are totally OK with you looking somewhere other than our faces...you'll never hear us say "Hey my eyes are up here!" LOL Sorry...couldn't resist...
On a more serious note though it's amazing how much reading stuff like that effects your view of things...in any area. I made the mistake many years ago of following some of the "OMG Y2K is going to destroy everything" boards...even though I was a programmer working on Y2K remediation and KNEW it wasn't going to be like that it still got me scared for a while (no I didn't buy any of the freeze-dried foods or anything, I came to my senses first lol).0 -
My bf lives about 30 minutes from me but owns a business 30 minutes in the opposite direction. As the owner, he tends to work 7 days a week most of the time. An hour won't be an obstacle if you really want to see each other.
He is also a single Dad with full custody of 3 kids ages 7-12. Needless to say, this all makes spending much time together a challenge, especially since their mother is out of the picture so he doesn't have the typical every other weekend free. We live for and make the most of every minute we can get together and talk every day. We dated several years ago so I knew what I was getting into when he contacted me a few months ago.
He frequently makes comments about how nice it would be to be able to be together every night and how he would like to come home from work and relax together. I have ALWAYS said I would never get married again...but I would seriously reconsider that if he asked. Kinda scares me a little...OK...it scares me a lot!0
