Getting anxious for upcoming surgery!

kchaki
kchaki Posts: 75 Member
edited November 9 in Social Groups
I am sure the anxiety that is building is normal, but man it consumes my day! I mean I am undergoing major surgery to help me do what I was not able to do on my own...lose weight!
The pressure I am putting on myself is crazy. I am worried about failing and I haven't even given myself time to succeed. What if I can't get in the protein and water that is expected? Am I gonna be vomiting daily? I hate to throw up! How will I get through the 10 days pre surgery on just liquids? How will I keep from using too much personal time going to the bathroom at work? You know, liquid in = liquid out! I'm doing this to be healthier, my knees hurt so bad everyday. But what if I am opening myself up to a lifetime of new medical problems? Have I asked the right questions to my doctor and my weight loss team?

What questions do you all suggest or wish you would have asked pre-surgery? Any advice is greatly appreciated!

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  • katematt313
    katematt313 Posts: 624 Member
    These are good questions. I think you have it covered.

    The best way to have them answered and to figure out if you need to know more, is to attend support groups for WLS patients. Do they have those where you are? For me, I had to go to them as part of my preparation for surgery. They were the best way to get the real scoop on what life was going to be like.

    I am so happy I had VSG. Life is better, and though I am restricted, I find that I am okay wih that. The biggest lesson to learn was NOT TO EAT AND DRINK AT THE SAME TIME. For me, that is a guaranteed recipe for vomiting. Ugh.
  • rpyle111
    rpyle111 Posts: 1,060 Member
    edited December 2014
    Definitely ask all of the questions you have and we will do our best to give you our experiences, but no one will be able to tell you what your experience will be like. The main thing that I learned here pre-surgery is that there is a huge breadth of experiences and that mine will fall somewhere in that range. It really helped me to know that whatever I felt/experienced, someone else had it similarly. It helps to know that while you are going to have it rougher than the average bear in some areas, some things will go much easier.

    Seeing that others who had it rougher came out the other side and were positive about the experience really helps as well. You are a strong person and will be able to handle whatever is thrown your way. Use whatever pre-surgery time you have to lose as much weight as you can through eating well, get your exercise up so that you walk into surgery in the best shape you can attain, and have a positive attitude. My physical post-surgery experience was much milder than many here, and I attribute that to my pre-surgery work and success.

    For me, the pre-surgery liquid diet was 7 days and while it was a annoying to not feel satiated for a week, it wasn't all that difficult, just boring. Right after surgery, I was physically feeling great, up and walking the next day getting tons of steps in the recovery ward. I didn't feel much if any nausea, and didn't have anything come back up until I was experimenting with solid foods after two-three weeks.

    I didn't have problems getting protein shakes down, or liquids, so you'll have to get that advice from others.

    When is your surgery?

    Rob

  • Thank you for your post kchaki! You are describing many of the same questions and emotions I am going through right now. One day I'm 100% sure that the RNY is the right thing to do and that I'm up to the challenge and the next day I'm scared to death of the lifetime of side effects and the fact that I have failed every other time I've tried to lose weight so why would this time be different.

    It's a roller coaster. Reading other people's experiences really helps to calm me down and believe that this is the tool I need to be successful. I'm looking at the surgery sometime this spring or summer.
  • talinaklocke
    talinaklocke Posts: 42 Member
    kchaki wrote: »
    I am sure the anxiety that is building is normal, but man it consumes my day! I mean I am undergoing major surgery to help me do what I was not able to do on my own...lose weight!
    The pressure I am putting on myself is crazy. I am worried about failing and I haven't even given myself time to succeed. What if I can't get in the protein and water that is expected? Am I gonna be vomiting daily? I hate to throw up! How will I get through the 10 days pre surgery on just liquids? How will I keep from using too much personal time going to the bathroom at work? You know, liquid in = liquid out! I'm doing this to be healthier, my knees hurt so bad everyday. But what if I am opening myself up to a lifetime of new medical problems? Have I asked the right questions to my doctor and my weight loss team?

    What questions do you all suggest or wish you would have asked pre-surgery? Any advice is greatly appreciated!

    Any questions you have don't be afraid to ask your doctor! Trust me they have heard it all, so don't be embarrassed about ANYTHING you have questions about. I was worried about the bowl prep and was a little embarrassed asking my doctor about some of the things to expect, and was plesently surprised by all his responses.
    Also it's important to remember that no two bodies are going to respond the same way. They do give a lot of "worst case" scenarios. I too was expecting to be throwing up all the time! I had one time while still in the hospital I got very very nauseous and thought for sure I was going to vomit. It was due to not using my pain meds before getting up to move around and being a little to active. Don't be afraid to use your pain meds! Especially before getting out of bed for those first few walks. Since surgery (3 months ago) I have only vomited 3 times, once was because I was stupid and not thinking and got some popcorn chicken (deep fried foods are NOT your friend lol), once was due to the flu and once because I ate a little too much too quickly.
    One thing I'd suggest doing now is testing some protein shakes to find ones you like, not just ones you can tolerate (cause when you're using them for most your food intake tolerate isn't going to cut it) but ones you actually like! If possible get a variety, cause you will get bored of the same one over and over. Premier Protein is pretty good (to me anyway), and I've found Cellucor to be pretty good. You can order 4-serving packets (they usually have deals on them) to try different flavors. http://www.cellucor.com/products/21-whey (that is where I order them)
    I haven't had much trouble getting my protein in, but that's pretty much all I can get in at this point. The key is to eat/drink protein first, don't expect to be able to add veggies and starches in for awhile, and remember it's normal to not be able to eat more yet, this is why the vitamin supplements are so important. As far as the water, keep a water bottle with you every where you go, have water next to you pretty much at all times! If you're sipping on it through out the day you will find it's not to hard to get it all in.
    Good luck with your surgery! For me it's the best choice I've ever made
  • Hildabean
    Hildabean Posts: 71 Member
    I am right there with you. with only 3 weeks away for me the nerves and anxiety is really building up. I told my regular physician about this when I saw her for my preop surgery physical. I told her I prayed about this surgery and has research this procedure. I am bipolar and is suppose to have a therapist but haven't gone in a while. I told the dr this and she proceeded to tell me (knowing my faith in God) That I already have the best therapist I can have...GOD! and if I am having one of my panic attacks to raise my fears to Him and give Him the glory to help you. I don't know your faith but I know this comment has helped me so far. I know that I will be fearful but I am also excited for the new me at the same time. God Bless and we can lean on eachother through this wonderful site.
  • kchaki
    kchaki Posts: 75 Member
    Thank you all for your kind words, your words of wisdom and your positive comments. Well I'm here on Day 4 of my liquid diet. Exactly one week from my surgery day, January 19. I'm nervous still, but more excited.
    I have to agree Rob with the boredom of the liquid diet menu. I'm thinking I will get some sugar free hard candy, just to have something in my mouth! Seeing my PCP tonight for my final physical, final blood work and chest xrays, I'll ask him about the candy.
    Kate, I have been and will continue to attend my group support meetings. I have learned so much from my peers. We are such an awesome group of people!! And thanks for the warning, not drinking is gonna be a big change. I try now, but it's tough.
    Reagansdaddy, I feel ya! I am up and down by the day. I am blessed to have this opportunity to hit the reset button and take back control of this monster inside me, eating my way to an early death. I just don't want to blow it!
    Talinaklocke, thanks for the info and suggestions. I tried premier protein and I like it! I hope I don't vomit too much. I am scared of "dumping."
    Hildabean, girl you have been on my mind. I knew you were getting close too. I would feel good knowing that my doctor knows God too. And you are right, He can handle it, so just like all my other stress, I need to give it to Him! God Bless you in this journey and I'm here for you too!
    Thanks again friends, your positive outlook has helped more than you know!!
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