i went through this, no kids though. I always knew i was gay but my first coming out didn't go well so i married a guy. we were together for 10 years (only married for two). there came a point where we were both just miserable. the relationship was unhealthy for a multitude of reasons, but being gay was definitely a major contributor. for me, ending the marriage was the best possible route for everyone involved. i am so much happier.

i'm not advising you to do anything, this is just my personal experience. feel free to ask me anything you might wanna know.

I don't believe in marriage as a concept. But I was in my longest running relationship when I came out as ace. Even though for a variety of reasons we were already not sexually active, it turned into a very abusive unhappy experience for him, so I left. It wasn't easy, but things turned out for the better in the end. Life is too short, and the people who care about you don't want you to suffer through it.

I have three grown kids. I knew I was gay for many years. But was afraid to come out. So I married 2x to guys. I finally realized the straight relationship was just not making me happy. I divorced and started to enjoy my new life. My kids were older and all understand. As matter of fact my daughter is gay also. I can say one thing if your happy your kids will be in time. There will be bumps in the road but keep traveling and you will find peace with your inner self!

I was married but divorced when I was pregnate with my only child, so i didn't have to worry about hurting anyone, it was a good decision and i dont regret it, it would have been much harder if the child was older though. Sorry to hear that you are going through that!