The more I fight for my health...the more problems I uncover... ***CROSS POST***

KnitOrMiss
KnitOrMiss Posts: 10,103 Member
edited November 16 in Social Groups
Honestly, today is one of those days where most of me, if not more, wants to just give up. A 5 am or so today, I pulled up the updates on my blood tests that I'm going to the doctor for tomorrow, and one result stopped me in my tracks. When something switches from negative result (being good) to a positive result (being bad), I wanted to know what that meant. And so I googled.

One answer jumped off the page at me over and over again: AUTO-IMMUNE

I was so floored you could have pushed me over with a feather. This was EXACTLY the kind of future I was fighting to avoid. My mother is so severely auto-immune that at this point, I've honestly no idea how she has a quality of life. I immediately wanted to give up on everything.

This past five years, I've been fighting like hell to regain myself, my health, my happiness, etc. It seems like the further I come in that fight, the more problems I develop, discover, or simply have to face! It is so demoralizing, like I'm being tested. "You want to get healthy? Are you sure? Oh, here, have some plantar fasciitis! Oh, that didn't stop you? Divorce. Misery. Lose everything you think is important! Nothing? Really? Let's give you female complications... Barely a blink? What about some high blood pressure? No? Maybe some insulin resistance, ha! No? Fall asleep every time you eat (postprandial somnolance)! NO?? Fine, I'll pull out the big guns! AUTO-IMMUNE. WHAM! Ha! That slowed you down a bit, no?" as this inner mental demon does a happy dance.

So forgive me if I'm contemplative this morning, trying to figure out what it all means. Apparently, I'll likely have to do some more blood work to determine what type, but the Rheumatoid test was lower than ever, so I guess at least it isn't that. And yes, I know there can be false positives, but all of my white blood cell counts were up across the board in all my other tests, too, so I highly doubt that. I have a family history of this. And I spent the better part of two decades treating my body like crap. So I suppose I really shouldn't be surprised...

Just send good thoughts, if you can... And for any of my amazing friends out there who've dealt with all this, please feel free to let me know how you deal with it, live, function, and hell, even give a damn! (hugs) to all...

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  • Twibbly
    Twibbly Posts: 1,065 Member
    *hugs*

    Any chance you just have some kind of infection that you don't realize you're fighting, and that's why your WBC is up?
  • auntstephie321
    auntstephie321 Posts: 3,586 Member
    Sending good thoughts.

    My family has many auto-immune disorders and I assume eventually I will too. I'm convinced it makes us special :) that our bodies are more evolved and rejecting all the bad things that hurt us, that eventually after we've overloaded our bodies with bad our immune system doesn't know what to do. Thats what I tell myself at least.

    You'll have to find out exactly what it is. I think you are on the right path with how you are caring for yourself and after decades of damage you have to expect some negative effects. I think it will take some time for your body to completely heal, but don't give up on it.
  • baconslave
    baconslave Posts: 7,021 Member
    I hate this for you. :disappointed:
    You've been through so much.

    Healing the body often takes awhile, and there are bumps and regressions on the journey. At least you know to look out for that. Over time, some of these issues will resolve. Some of them you will learn how to manage well, some even very well. I'm still struggling with Chronic Fatigue myself. It didn't go away with keto. But I can overcome it and live with it, now. What I was doing before wasn't living. I'm still looking for something to take the fatigue away completely. Haven't found it yet. But I'm not giving up.

    I hope someone who has autoimmune issues reads this and has some tips for you. Hang in there. <interweb-hugs> :heart:

    In the meantime, try to find the silver linings in your life, no matter how hidden or elusive, and focus on those. I call it "trying to keep things sunny". Yeah, I'm always tired. But I can do my mommy-gig and exercise regularly now. My mind is super clear. There are so many things I can do. So what if I'm tired? I'm not always exhausted any more. I'm tired but physically able to rally and live life. NSVs.
  • KnitOrMiss
    KnitOrMiss Posts: 10,103 Member
    Thanks, everyone. I'm just so down. I'm trying really hard not to be...but... sigh.

    It was easier than I imagined walking away from the urge to "eat everything in sight" for at least some temporary relief. My fiance has an entire box of chocolates I bought him after the holidays (he's eaten maybe 3 pieces out of it) that he put on the kitchen counter last night. It stared at me then and this morning. I knew we'd gotten some free Bel-Vita biscuits with our Staples order at work yesterday. I have berries galore in the fridge.

    I just wanted to BINGE ON EVERYTHING I've been moderating so I could just FEEL SOMETHING. But I knew it wouldn't really help, and the ridiculous thought of not wanting 10 pounds of water weight at the doctor's office tomorrow and trying to justify it to him was just so not worth it... I still have that feeling of wanting to stuff my feelings, but for now I'm ignoring it. About to go make some bullet proof tea.

    And yes, as a friend pointed out quite intelligently, it can always be worse. Indeed that is why I try never to ask, "What else you got?!" of life. I generally do try to think positively, I'm just overwhelmed at the immediate moment.
  • Twibbly
    Twibbly Posts: 1,065 Member
    KnitOrMiss wrote: »
    And yes, as a friend pointed out quite intelligently, it can always be worse. Indeed that is why I try never to ask, "What else you got?!" of life. I generally do try to think positively, I'm just overwhelmed at the immediate moment.

    Same category as "Don't pray for patience."

    Do something for you.
  • GrannyMayOz
    GrannyMayOz Posts: 1,051 Member
    :( Love and support to you dear Carly. I hope the doctors can have a happy surprise for you and put your mind more at ease ♥
  • robert65ferguson
    robert65ferguson Posts: 390 Member
    @Knitormiss; sorry to hear about your understandable frustration. You have clearly shown that you're someone who has the capacity to tackle problems in a methodical manner. There are times when the sheer complexity of a problem can overwhelm us. Perhaps this is a good time to step back and break the cycle of the ever growing mushroom cloud of conflicting thoughts and emotions which can threaten to engulf us. Every complex problem can be broken down into it's constituent parts. You're clearly a thinker with the ability to evaluate information. While accepting that a number of factors can be interlinked or perhaps even causal, you may find it helpful to try to focus on some of the factors that you can influence and then use that success as an incentive to try and tackle the more difficult issues. As a wise man once said ' we can eat an elephant if we take it one bite at a time.' I wish you well in your endeavours to find a solution.
  • stillonamission
    stillonamission Posts: 140 Member
    I don't have much advice, but here is a big *hug* & I will be thinking about you!
  • wheatlessgirl66
    wheatlessgirl66 Posts: 598 Member
    edited April 2015
    Hugs from me too, @Knit. Hope your BPT and a moment of peace to drink it helps calm your mind and spirit.
    Sometimes I ask myself, "What do you want more than berries or a spoon of ice cream, or.....whatever the temptation is that won't really do anything to help my circumstance?" It's enough to make me pause and save me from what I know is a poor decision, and helps me crawl back to where I really want to be. <3
  • sljohnson1207
    sljohnson1207 Posts: 818 Member
    @Knitormiss; sorry to hear about your understandable frustration. You have clearly shown that you're someone who has the capacity to tackle problems in a methodical manner. There are times when the sheer complexity of a problem can overwhelm us. Perhaps this is a good time to step back and break the cycle of the ever growing mushroom cloud of conflicting thoughts and emotions which can threaten to engulf us. Every complex problem can be broken down into it's constituent parts. You're clearly a thinker with the ability to evaluate information. While accepting that a number of factors can be interlinked or perhaps even causal, you may find it helpful to try to focus on some of the factors that you can influence and then use that success as an incentive to try and tackle the more difficult issues. As a wise man once said ' we can eat an elephant if we take it one bite at a time.' I wish you well in your endeavours to find a solution.


    Could not have said this better!

    I understand your frustrations and overwhelming feelings. Feel them. Let the anger flow for now. Try not to binge, that's counterproductive. Meditate. Do you do yoga? It's very calming and centering. Wait until your doc puts it all together. I know that's easier to say than do, but Google isn't really your friend with medical stuff when it isn't put into perspective. Maybe it's a lab error. Those happen more than you may know. They will probably re-test and run some others. In the meantime, I'll be thinking about you. Keep your chin up.

    <<hugs>>
  • totaloblivia
    totaloblivia Posts: 1,164 Member
    Poor you! I understand your frustration....not sure what to say. The thing that has helped me a lot in my life and in thinking about problems is Byron Katie's the work. She has a few books eg loving what is. It's a deceptively simple idea of 4 questions, but very deep when you get into it. But that's my answer for everything, read a book, lol! I know "self help" isn't for everyone. Big hugs.
  • nill4me
    nill4me Posts: 682 Member
    edited April 2015
    Dang. I feel for you Knit. truly, truly I do. Honestly, one of the worst things you can do for yourself if you truly have an autoimmune disorder is to get extremely distressed about it. Internalized stress can send AI disorders into an absolute tailspin. Stress is your enemy. Stress is everyone's enemy, but with AI, its really your enemy.

    The other worst thing for you that you can do is google all of the weird AI disorders out there and their symptoms.....someone mentioned that as well. You will never sleep again if you do that. Sleep is your friend (think rest and repair).

    Meditation? yes. Mellow Music? yes please. Maybe a contemplative walk? definitely. Genuine laughter every now and again? a MUST. If you would like to read about AI information...I'd suggest reading about ways to improve or alleviate / lessen the potential impact. You know knowledge is power....because you are a very knowledgeable person, Knit. I recommend Chris Kresser a lot. He is very knowledgeable with regard to AI, and is all about treating the underlying causes of AI, not just the symptoms. i.e., gut health is very very VERY important. He also has many many podcasts you can listen to if that is your thing.

    http://chriskresser.com - search autoimmune. Lots of good information there.

    There are also a few good posts on marks daily apple with regard to AI. Here is one. just search autoimmune on his site.

    http://www.marksdailyapple.com/the-autoimmune-protocol-what-to-do-when-nothing-else-has-worked/#axzz3YBKbMsCY

    Research the Autoimmune Protocol (AIP). Familiarize yourself with foods and situations that are known to potentially trigger AI symptoms/attacks. Stress. Constant fatigue. OVER exercising (this does not mean DON'T exercise - know your personal limits). Soy. Wheat / Grains. Processed foods. Legumes. Nightshades.

    These are positive things you can read to further educate yourself for your doctor's visit. Write your questions down...because I can guarantee that when you are in your doc's office, if he uses the word "disease" with regard to your diagnosis...you will forget everything you wanted to ask.

    I, am an autoimmune train wreck...lol...My T2 is autoimmune. My thyroid is autoimmune. Last summer I had to get a bone marrow biopsy (and yes it hurts like hell - sorry), and they found I have a mast cell disease. It also is autoimmune. Luckily its not yet progressed / proliferated to the bone marrow (Its non-systemic for now)....*whew*! I've also been tested for Lupus. Thank the Lord that one came back negative.

    I know where you are. for the last couple of years, i could barely walk from the parking lot to my desk without either tears or such extreme fatigue and pain. The inflammation was unbearable. Daily events were major events. My concentration was in the tank (I'm also slightly ADD - this post took me well over an hour to write...sheesh...lol). I bought an additional life insurance policy because I didn't think I was going to make it, it was that bad. But I did. and I am. Some days are better than others. Some days really suck....I won't lie, I'm sorry.

    You can face this....whatever "this" is. Level yourself. Look at all the things you have been through, and how very far you've already come? Don't binge. Be good to yourself.

    Your body needs you right now, more than it ever has, to love it and care for it like no one else but you can.
    Love and prayers for you.
  • Twibbly
    Twibbly Posts: 1,065 Member
    If you want info on the autoimmune protocol, I can tell you which books & blogs to head for, 'cause I've pretty much read almost all of them (and often look there for recipes without nuts, since I can't have almonds). If you want to look into it, let me know. I may even be able to loan you a few Kindle ebooks (I'll have to see which ones I can loan).

    However, Nill is right about the stress. Even the people who write the books have autoimmune flare ups when under stress (as in, book deadlines). Sending you resources may actually harm you before you're ready, as it's more stress. So...holler when you want something else to look into. After your brain has quit going whack over the idea.
  • DianaElena76
    DianaElena76 Posts: 1,241 Member
    Just reading this. *Hugs* I can't be much help otherwise, as I know nothing on the topic. But definitely as previous commenters have said care for yourself! Enlist your man to help you with some distraction and/or relaxation. I don't know what helps you, but for me it's alone time. A warm bubble bath with soothing music and mood lighting... undisturbed. Whatever it is that relaxes you, do that.
  • KnitOrMiss
    KnitOrMiss Posts: 10,103 Member
    Yeah until I know what I'm facing, no way in hell am I telling my guy anything other than I got a questionable result on a test, my endo said it isn't his area of expertise, and follow ip woth my regular doc. he wouls get stressed out enough for us both.

    And someone mentioned that having a reaction can cause the results come back oddly. And I'm fighting a major wacky sun reaction still, and its possible it might be related or a false positive. so I'm just going to keep thinking well until I know otherwise.

    I did get some good news though. My numbers are looking great overall. He called me a "success story" which felt weird because I feel like I'm just started. it was odd.
  • GrannyMayOz
    GrannyMayOz Posts: 1,051 Member
    I'm so pleased to hear the 'success story' title for you Carly, and I hope it *all* turns into that quickly for you <3
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