Most people binge when they are on strict diets do so because they haven't fed their bodies. Once you actually feed your body and eat regularly, you may find that the binges go away. If not, then it might be worth seeing a therapist and working through it. I can also suggest the book, Overcoming Binge Eating, by Christopher Fairburn.

Cool. Now you know your trigger. So, what can you say to yourself, that you would believe, that is not so harmful to you? For example, I say to myself when I've eaten a bit too much (which happens on occasion) - "Boy you ate a lot of food. What's going on? Were you hungry? If so, did I starve myself before this and need the food? Was I just bored? Figure it out and then move on." (Not quite that clinical, but you get the gist)

All the advice above is excellent!

You said you've been on strict diets in the past. Is this how you still think of it? All I would say is please know that you don't have to be perfect to lose weight. I'm living proof and there are lots of people here who have lost weight without being perfect all the time. In fact, personall I think I've only been successful this time because I've stopped expecting myself to be perfect, but I don't give up after a bad day.

This group is wonderful. You should also know that you don't have to feel deprived all the time to lose weight. I've lost weight with a small deficit and as a result rarely feel deprived. If I start to feel myself feeling deprived I change things up so I feel like I can keep going. I've stopped thinking of this as a "diet" and just think of it as living.

Good luck and hang in there.

Pre-cheat day weight... that should say.

The actual act of counting calories?

You mean physically weighing something out as to either how much you are eating, or how much you want to eat - makes you just skip it and eat it all, and a whole lot more?

Or you are sitting there logging what you have weighed or eaten in packaged food, whatever, and the act of logging the foods or calories makes you sit there and munch away on stuff you aren't logging?

Or you get so annoying merely trying to weigh something that you give up and pig out?

I'm sensing that you are not allowing yourself to really get to the root of the matter.

Perhaps that's just the way it comes across in brief responses, and could be wrong.
If I'm right, really think and type out what it is. There is a reason why journaling is still a recommended method for people to examine themselves and help themselves. The act of thinking and writing helps.

But I will admit that I don't think today's fast paced do everything spur the moment attitude lends itself to success in the weight loss attempts - where planning and preparation are going to lead to success.

While at it - what do you define as binge?
Merely not logging some food eaten?
You can't put items of food down and eat them all up (why are they in the house?)?
What kind of calories are you talking about here in the scheme of what you are attempting to eat?
And where did that goal come from, for how much to lose?

You'll find that help is best given when there is plenty of additional info.
Pulling your car into the mechanic and pointing to the front and saying there is a funny noise up there and that's it, is likely to take a long time to narrow down if ever, and cost you a bundle of money for that time.