Not one woman has ever responded to me clicking the meet me button on them without a follow up message. Totally worthless except for finding new people to message

Yeah, I'm not gonna lie... When I used it before, I used the "meet me" thing to let guys know I was "interested" and then they'd message me (sometimes). So I think it's really designed for girls to kind of "poke" guys and get them to make a move.

Just my interpretation.. That's how I used it.

I thought the same

I use to be on POF and I thought the whole thing was a waste of time. My profile stated looking for a relationship and I would get messages from men who wanted an activity partner or friends. I also would finally start talking to a descent guy and yep, all he wants to do is see you naked. The 'Meet Me' button was just to pass time for me and that still didn't give off any results. Had enough of that and deleted my account.

POF in general is worthless.

made an account 3 weeks ago. I have messaged maybe 150 attractive women. Like 5 responses.

My messages are generic. But with a response rate like that, there is NO way I am going to put time and effort into a message just for some girl to read it and delete. I have only sent a few really good messages...to girls that clearly stood out from the crowd. No response either. There are simply too many guys on there...these women are probably spammed with messages.

Are you using your profile pic on here as a profile pic on there?

I have 6 clothed pictures, collared shirts. facebook type photos. Classy and well dressed. No luck. Then last week I added my current profile pic on there but not as profile, it's just the last pic and put the caption as Halloween 2012...so it's obvious it's just a costume. no difference in responses. It doesnt matter. I recently took it back down. but it won't make a difference. None of my pics really show my body or highlight that I am quite fit which is a shame but then again it seems girls hate profile pics of guys with any skin showing

You're going after the wrong girls!

Guess so. I had more luck the last time I used the site a few years ago.

But now it is seriously like dead silence on the other end. The lack of responses is surprising really.

But thank you

See, I feel the same way as a woman. I've sent a ton of messages, very little responses. Now I am getting a ton of messages, but from men that I either A) don't find attractive, Live too far away from me or C) way too different in age range.

It's all luck of the draw.

Let me give you an example of the amount of dumb that comes from these sites.

Apparently women, even in the online world, believe that one way or another a man should email them.

This may or may not, be simply because they get so many emails in general, or because of some ridiculous

standards that are inapplicable to an online set up.

The times I have gotten emails from women, off the bat, one in particular, the convo was this:

Her email - "Hey"

(My head almost exploded right here because HER PROFILE said, don't send her an email without

having something to talk about, aka not "hey")

My response - "Hey"

(I did this because I figure if someone if going to email me, then maybe they should actually try and converse?)

Her response - "Hey"

(LOL, stop talking there)

This isn't the norm though, guys (unless you are a model, or some circumstance where you will

get millions of emails from women, which i guess is possible) we don't get many. We get maybe

1-5ish depending on the week, while most women

here would acknowledge they get that many + much more a day.

It is a waste of time imo. Not only that, the ridiculous standards women set online is mind numbing.

I seem to be the exception to every rule here. I send out emails all the time, and it's usually with conversations starters. But I'm very much a "I see what I want and go for it" type of gal. I don't wait too long for someone else to make the first move.

I have gotten one in the past week. it said "how are you". huge double standards on that site.

Extremely true.

And I agree with Run, if you personalize your message, you're more likely to get a response. It doesn't have to be a super long e-mail, but give a good indication that you really read her profile.

trojanbb wrote: »

POF in general is worthless.

made an account 2 weeks ago. I have messaged maybe 150 attractive women. Like 5 responses.

My messages are generic. But with a response rate like that, there is NO way I am going to put time and effort into a message just for some girl to read it and delete. I have only sent a few really good messages...to girls that clearly stood out from the crowd. No response either. There are simply too many guys on there...these women are probably spammed with messages.

Well I would say the same thing on the female side. If I find someone attractive I look at their profile and read it all. If we seem like we would really click I send them a message to try to get conversation started. Very few times have I ever actually had someone respond and even fewer have asked me to meet up. When I did get asked to meet up (a whole 2 times) one of them stood me up and one of them hung around for a while but then just stopped talking to me. The rest of the messages I get are asking about serial interaction and I haven't even said hi yet and that is nasty.

I just gave online dating the final chance after I got this message from telling a guy I wasn't interested: "f**k you to h*ll c**t"

*sigh*

OS_KAT wrote: »

I just gave online dating the final chance after I got this message from telling a guy I wasn't interested: "f**k you to h*ll c**t"

*sigh*

I believe that is moron speak for " I am disappointed but wont bother you further"

Some people are just ill mannered jerks.

For me it's fun and entertaining.
I met a few nice ppl there too