I love my family because
BBee5064
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Hi I thought a little love about our families will help us to keep us focused on why we need to get in shape & stay in shape
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I started but didn't finish. Pray continue :
My family - Me ( 52)
My hubby of 26 years this March ( 53)
My two Sons 19 & 21
I'm one of 7 children ( I'm second oldest ) I've got 4 sisters & 2 brothers,
My eldest sister had to have gastric bypass surgery to help her with her diabetes. It worked but she has lost an enormous amount of weight that makes her look so old. She could have done it the hard way & lost a few healthy stone & she would have looked great. My sister 50 years old is crippled with arthritis & chronic crps a pain syndrome. She not in a good way & she needs to lose weight. My father passed away when he was 45 years old of cancer. My mum is incredible she is fit & active.
My motivation to lose weight & keep fit is first & foremost for me but also for the ones I love.
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It's great that you have such wonderful relationships with your family, @BBee5064...
My upbringing was kind of dysfunctional. As is often the case, I ended up in a dysfunctional marriage. On the upside, recognizing this, I've done what I can to make a better life and to model appropriate relationships with my children in the hope they will have positive & uplifting relationships going forward. Time will tell if I succeeded.
I should add that I'm in a good place now. I don't have any animosity toward my parents. Life is too short to carry grudges.2 -
I have a failry dull family. My mom is 78 and has taken a new lease on life in a retirement village. I have one sister (50) who realized today that her precious reason for living will be 18 in 4 short years. I am 53 and trying to convince myself that 53 is fabulous when it is not as fabulous as 23. I have a brother in law whom I think is quite lovely but a conspiracy theorist. The minute he has us in tin foil hats though... I have a 14 year old nephew who is going on 40. And I have a boyfriend who is 44 and thinks he looks 27. I will give him 32ish but 27 is absurd. Then I have aunts and cousins of varying degress of eccentricty and oddballness. My dad and uncles have all passed, sadly. I am trying to get rid of this weight once and for all so I can remain in the company of my family and friends. Also, my graandfather lived to 103 and was in good shape to nearly the end. I want to break his record. I hope heaven exists but I am not that eager to find out for sure. I regained all 43 pounds I lost and have to start over. Sometimes I am my own worst enemy.3
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I miss my brothers and sister terribly – we live far from each other and only once 14 years ago worked things out to all be together at the same time and place.
One brother maintains low body fat in order to participate in his local rowing club. The other brother, despite living in one of the best states for accessible medical care, does not see a doctor, so I worry about him. ‘Sister has good health status.
Hubby and live happily. He frequently does yoga at home and runs/walks at the city park about 25 yards from our door. Other times he drives 2 miles to the gym for yoga class and weights. Two or three years ago, I lost a good amount of weight MFP then went into a stall. I am maintaining.
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It's so nice to read about our family dynamics, whatever they are. Makes us appreciate our reasons for why we do things.
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If you want to hear about family variations, then I'm in.
I had great parents, but as their first and only child, wasn't born until they were 38 (dad) and 43 (mom). They've been gone for years. (Had they lived, they would've been 100 and 105 this year.)
So I'm a widowed, orphaned, childless only child. Sounds grim? Nope. Life is good.
I have amazing sisters-in-law who "kept" me after my huband died (18 years ago now). I spend holidays with them, and talk to them regularly. Delightful people - I married into a great family.
That, and a circle of dear friends? Plenty good.3 -
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Thank you for sharing. Your family sound delightful x1 -
My answer is pretty short. I love my family b/c they would love me no matter my size. We have all struggled with our weight for our entire collective lives. Some of us are more successful with reaching our goals than others, but we all understand what it feels like to be overweight. Dear Daughter has the opposite problem, she's underweight--she definitely gets that from Hubb's side of the family. However, she is mature enough to look past someone's size to see their inner beauty. I feel quite fortunate.3
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Glad you have support. I didn't. My mother died six years ago but for twenty years she made it plain that my weight issues disgusted her. Dad just pointed out over and over his consistent weight - until he lost some ipon retirement and then he obsessed over that.
And most of my eating issues were stuffing feelings about them.
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On the other hand my wife has been extremely supportive of my now three plus year weight loss journey.1
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allenpriest wrote: »Some of us endure family.
Pretty much my experience. Reprogramming yourself away from those negative messages isn't easy.2 -
allenpriest wrote: »Some of us endure family.
Pretty much my experience. Reprogramming yourself away from those negative messages isn't easy.
I should add I recognize weight loss, like all major life changes, starts within the individual. I can't blame anyone else for what I put into my face; it's my own damn fault.1 -
allenpriest wrote: »Some of us endure family.
Pretty much my experience. Reprogramming yourself away from those negative messages isn't easy.
I should add I recognize weight loss, like all major life changes, starts within the individual. I can't blame anyone else for what I put into my face; it's my own damn fault.
Yes that's true. It's taken me a long time to understand what I was doing so that I could learn healthier behaviour1 -
Steve Arterburn's book Lose It For Life deals with these issues. It certainly has a Christian focus. But the premise is that we have to deal with the underlying emotional issues that we inappropriately deal with through eating and lose those issues before we can really be successful in losing weight and keeping it off. It's been a big help to me.2
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When I started my weight loss journey, I went to the Bariatric Medical Institute (BMI) owned & operated by Dr. Yoni Freedhoff. He is a medical doctor who found there was no specialist resources to deal with weight issues. He took an interest, did some extra education and then started his own clinic.
Yoni wrote a book a few years ago called "The Diet Fix" which covers his philosophy for weight loss. He is very much about common sense and humour in his approach to losing weight to what's appropriate for each individual.1 -
Started going to a dementia group to understand better what is happening with my now elderly father. It's interesting.0
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allenpriest wrote: »Started going to a dementia group to understand better what is happening with my now elderly father. It's interesting.
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allenpriest wrote: »Started going to a dementia group to understand better what is happening with my now elderly father. It's interesting.
How are you finding it?
Interesting. Understanding more about what he is going through and what to expect helps. Some of the crazy stuff he comes up with you think that he couldn't really believe that. But he does. Learning some techniques to get him to do something and not get upset is a big deal. And with any group realizing there are others whose struggle is far more difficult can be helpful.0 -
Sounds like a very helpful informative group. Sometime knowing others are going through or coping with the same or similar things can as you say be helpful. Xx0
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Yes it has been. Last meeting is this week.1
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