My really good friend & me were like that, all around food. Now we get our nails done together, no food involved. We see each other, and are able to focus on our relationship, not food. I hope that your bestie is as supportive as mine has been in my journey.

My best friends are a couple, both very obese. One of them actually had gastric bypass and ended up gaining his weight back. Another bestie of mine is obese as well. Before I had surgery, our social lives definitely included LOTS of food. When I chose to have surgery, we actually talked about changing certain things. Now when we go out to eat, we share food, or they are ok with me just having a coffee while they eat, or if we do something and they want to go eat after and I don't, we just go our separate ways. They are super supportive and we don't judge each other. Thinking ahead about how things will change with the people in your lives, along with planning for it and communicating, really helps.

One of my co-workers the other day, when we were discussing weight loss, said "well, I'm doing it the hard way."... Uh, come with me for a day, see what my eating habits are, what my routine is (gym), then tell me this is easy... this is the hardest thing I've EVER done in my life!

I let another co-worker know my frustration about the "I'm doing it the hard way" comment... and she had sleeve surgery a year before my RnY, and she was like, "if it were the "easy way" I would be thin right now, but I'm still the same weight I was when I had the surgery."

Took all my might to bite my tongue and not say anything other than, "trust me, this isn't the easy way".

@Aztec4Life I guess this is the downside of working from home! She does see me not eat the crap foods that she brings in (chocolate candies, chips, other junk foods-and shares with everyone) when we are onsite for something. She does see my eating lunch when we are onsite too. But she lives 3 hours from me, so seeing me outside working out, doesn't happen. (granted, it is WAY too cold here in the mid-west to be outside working out, super stoked that it's going to be a high of 50 tomorrow!)

Just have to remember, some people are jerks, and try to bring everyone else around them down, because they aren't happy with themselves.

This isn’t just a WLSurgery issue...my son who is now 18 and 6’ft tall, weighed about 220 last year at this time, did not have WLS...he worked his butt off in the gym (a couple of hrs a day, almost daily) he completely changed how he ate and started taking care of himself nutritionally (protein, vitamins, supplements etc) he now weighs about 183 and very fit.
2 nights ago, he went to a birthday celebration for one of best friends that passed away 1 1/2 years ago...when he got home I asked him how it went, he was bummed, understandably..but not for the reasons I thought.

He said he was mocked, called Protein boy and Mr Flex, and they gave him crap saying he was addicted to weight lifting and working out and didn’t care about hanging out with them anymore ( not true, several of them were just here last week, and came over many times a week) I asked by who, he said almost everyone..keep in mind, these are young adults and his “friends” ..many of them had been for years, and about 85% of them are at least a little overweight and he’s asked many of them to work out with him, and several have over this last year.

It’s very sad that he’s worked so hard to be fit and healthy, and now has pride in himself and what he’s accomplished and his friends mock him and distance themselves from him for it.
I firmly believe some people just don’t want to see you succeed, if they themselves, are not willing to change or work for it. It’s not surgery itself that causes this, it’s the people who are doing it, whether it’s jealousy, fear of something,laziness..whatever the reason. Please don’t let it upset you and sidetrack your progress towards your new life journey.

A profoundly obese (~400+ pounds) friend ended our friendship six months ago. She was constantly sniping at me and bragging about how healthy she is because she walks a mile every day. Saying I’d mutilated my body. She even had a “Ban WLS” badge in place of her FB avatar. I made it very clear: My body - My choice. No one held a house n to my head and forced me into this. Since my June 2015 VSG, my sleep apnea, high blood pressure, swollen calves, incipient diabetes - all gone. I can cross my legs and tie my shoes without a struggle. I find I honestly don’t miss her, and expect I’ll outlive her by many years.... moreover, I will be there to see my grand babies!! I’ve gained 12 pounds since my lowest weight, but have lost 2.8 pounds this week, and am turning my back on some bad behaviors I’d allowed to creep back in, because I am #nevergoingback !!! It’s been useful to go back and read my post-op food journals, btw.

Yep I too had to clean house of obese friends. All they ever wanted to do was eat and party and they were all over 40 not youngsters. Now I have wonderful friends from my community who support me every step of the way. I was once 497 and am now 211 and getting my second excess skin removal surgery March 19th. It was the best thing I did for this 60+ body.