Solo or with spouse/significant other/partner?

zanyterp
zanyterp Posts: 291 Member
Have you told your spouse/partner/significant other that you are doing keto/LCHF? If you did tell them, are you doing it together or on your own?
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  • kpk54
    kpk54 Posts: 4,474 Member
    Solo for non-keto weight loss and routine maintenance.

    I trialed medically therapeutic keto for 52 weeks and let my husband know the specifics of macros and purchased a food scale. Some in my circle of friends knew of my trial and why (neurological movement disorder). Keto minimized my involuntary movement for a couple of months...and then it didn't.

    I now eat LCHF for satiety with no emphasis on ketosis. When people ask how I have maintained my loss, I tell them I eat less than when I was gaining. It's true.
  • zanyterp
    zanyterp Posts: 291 Member
    thank you
  • __Roxy__
    __Roxy__ Posts: 825 Member
    I am keto. My spouse is not. All our shared meals are keto but he has his own stash of non keto snacks. He'll make himself a sandwich or something if he wants carbs. It's not an issue for us at all!
  • xDaniDragonflyx
    xDaniDragonflyx Posts: 201 Member
    Definitely shared with my husband. I dunno how you could live in the same house and not know each other's eating habits. ^_^

    For the most part, he eats keto, except when he's on the road (he's a truck driver) in which case, he'll stop at Arby's or Carl's Jr. and get himself what he wants. He also has his own snacks and space in the cupboard for his lunch bag, but then again, so do I. He doesn't usually eat my snacks, because mine tend to be more expensive, and I'll bite his head off. :lol:

    So I'm doing it on my own for the most part.
  • LeLum5
    LeLum5 Posts: 26 Member
    My husband is doing it with me (kind of lol) he is 6'5 280.. If he skips breakfast he loses 10 lbs..lol... He is that type so he cheats and is not as strict as I am but he can afford to cheat. I told him he is not allowed to bring any cheat meals in this house so he eats his pizza or whatever at work. Its working for us and he is really supportive.
  • Kitnthecat
    Kitnthecat Posts: 2,075 Member
    My partner has adopted all my LCHF/ Keto eating patterns and loves them. He periodically thanks me for introducing great food to him.
  • AgaeCan
    AgaeCan Posts: 5 Member
    I started out by myself about a month ago and my husband decided to join me 2 weeks ago. It's been an interesting journey! It's more fun with him as we plan our meals and cook together.
  • jogetsgains
    jogetsgains Posts: 341 Member
    We are in it together. We are both overweight and it wouldn't work if only one of us tried to eat healthier.
  • DvlDwnInGA
    DvlDwnInGA Posts: 368 Member
    I am on my own. Wife and I really have never shared the same dinners anyway so it’s pretty much business as usual at my house.
  • PaulaKro
    PaulaKro Posts: 5,776 Member
    My husband is the opposite from me. He can't put weight on, even if he tries. Carbs don't trigger any cravings in him. And if he even looks at a piece of bacon, his cholesterol goes through the roof. He does an excellent job of avoiding drugs by controlling his diet.

    Keto isn't for everyone, but it is for me!
  • Sunny_Bunny_
    Sunny_Bunny_ Posts: 7,140 Member
    I told him right away but he has no intention of doing it though he does eat significantly fewer carbs than he did before. He will never believe a glass of orange juice every morning is anything other than completely healthy and still thinks as long as you choose whole grain bread and pasta that it’s really no problem as long as you don’t overeat it.
    He’s a classic believer of everything in moderation. So his cutting back on carbs is just smart moderation in his view.
    I’ve been keto and now carnivore for over 3 years and have achieved the best health of my life and also my smallest body size since I was 15 years old. Meanwhile my husband continues to fluctuate up and down but always remains about 25 to 35 pounds overweight and I have no idea if he has any health issues because he refuses to ever see a doctor.
    I tried carnivore out of curiosity and discoverd that my remaining IBS symptoms resolved and I stay symptom free as long as I don’t eat plants. My hubs thinks the gas, bloating, constipation then diarrhea that I experience from plants is all in my head. He thinks fruit and vegetables are the healthiest food you could possibly eat so he cannot rectify how they affect me in his mind.
    He cannot argue that I’m doing something right though because I had fast and dramatic fat loss and kicked a really bad sugar habit in the process. So he really doesn’t say a whole lot to oppose me and it wouldn’t stop me if he did.
    I don’t put pressure on him to change either but I don’t know if that would be different if he had a health problem that I knew could be improved by low carb. I think I would have a hard time watching him eat foods I knew were harmful if that were the case.
  • Running_and_Coffee
    Running_and_Coffee Posts: 811 Member
    I do keto on my own, and my husband & 3 kids eat a more typical, but mostly healthy diet. Largely this has to do with our schedules. I have always been an early riser and exerciser (like 5-6 am) and my husband and kids hate waking up in the morning and if they have anything in the morning, it's a little fruit or yogurt and often skip breakfast. I meanwhile want lunch at noon and dinner at 6, and they all kind of graze all day long and aren't hungry until after 7-8 for dinner. I am exhausted by 9 pm.

    It's an annoyance, but for years, I've just made a quick, small dinner for myself (keto now, but before, it was just whatever I wanted but fairly simple) and then I make the family dinner, and have some tea with them while they eat. So I guess what I am saying is--nothing has changed since I started keto, except the actual foods I am cooking for myself!
  • sykin
    sykin Posts: 1,676 Member
    My husband is very aware because he's the main cook in the house. LOL - but I am doing it solo. He makes food for everyone and if I can eat it, great. If not, I find my own food. But he usually tries to keep it pretty Keto or make it so he'll just add a side of rice or something for everyone else. It works pretty well. He said he's not ready to give up beer just yet to try it out. LOL
  • ccrdragon
    ccrdragon Posts: 3,374 Member
    My wife knows that I eat keto/carnivore and since my Dr is supportive of keto, the wife accepts it, but does not practice it. We tend to make meals that can easily be split out to support the ways that both of us eat. She doesn't eat a lot of starches, but she absolutely will not give up potatoes and she is another one who believes that a person cannot be healthy if they don't eat a truck load of veggies - it does bug the *kitten* out of her that I haven't been eating veggies for the last 2 months (I have been eating carnivore since the last week in June).
  • rsclause
    rsclause Posts: 3,103 Member
    My wife is a fantastic cook. We eat lots of produce and nothing in a box. She has a wheat allergies so switching to keto was very easy for her and we are doing it together.
  • 2t9nty
    2t9nty Posts: 1,628 Member
    I started the LC and then the keto to try to get my glucose under control as a newly diagnosed T2D. My wife was very supportive. I started losing a little more than a pound a week, and the glucose was looking much better than it had been. She decided to join me almost two years ago. Now - I don't think she is as strict with it as I am, and I *think* she has mild cheat days when doing meals with work, but at home she is pretty good with it. In her defense, she is just wanting to drop some weight and does not get the feedback from the glucose meter. She has lost about a pound a month.

    I am currently in maintenance and off the diabetes meds. I am sticking with the keto because it suits me and it keeps my A1C low. She is sticking with me on it to continue losing a pound a month.
  • shirli2018
    shirli2018 Posts: 74 Member
    I'm single so I'm on my own but all my friends are very supportive and really stay out of my plate. I have a close friend who leaves far away who would not support this at all (I know from past experiences), therefore she doesn't need to know. My little guy is my biggest supporter: always asking me if something is ok for my diet or not.
  • T1DCarnivoreRunner
    T1DCarnivoreRunner Posts: 11,502 Member
    I'm single and do my own thing usually... but I get some odd responses when eating with others. That is because I eat a bit differently. I think low carb would be pretty easy to get by with when eating with others. Keto is also pretty easy (I was keto for awhile). But now I eat zero carb and avoid dairy and eggs as much as possible. In fact, I try to stick with only beef, water, and coffee / tea unless traveling or restaurants make that extraordinarily difficult.
  • shortnsassy422
    shortnsassy422 Posts: 22 Member
    The entire family is on keto. The kids do usually eat some carb loaded foods once a week though, when they're at someone else's home.
  • CarolynRSB
    CarolynRSB Posts: 84 Member
    Solo, but with a supportive spouse. He keeps non-keto foods on shelves too high for me to see what's on them, and cooks what I can eat when he makes us meals.
  • rootbooty
    rootbooty Posts: 9 Member
    Just me doing it here, but I do most of the cooking so dinner is mainly keto and if I prepare a carb, I just don't eat it. My husband and son are responsible for their own breakfasts and lunches--there's a lot of non keto-food in the house for them, which (luckily) has not tempted me yet. I think that if I was having difficulty with self-control, I would just toss all the goodies and drag the boys along with me for the ride 😊
  • Wifett3
    Wifett3 Posts: 24 Member
    I’m eating keto solo as my husband is about 1000 miles away for work. He will eat the same meals as me for the most part when he visits a couple weekends a month to be supportive. When he’s on his own, he’s reduced his carbs but is nowhere near even low carb levels. It will be interesting when he’s back permanently this summer. I’ll hopefully be done with my weight loss by then
  • nvmomketo
    nvmomketo Posts: 12,019 Member
    Solo for over three years.

    I make meals that can be keto but include filler carbs like potatoes, rice or noodles in every meal for my husband and teen boys. Meals are usually meat, veggie, starch/filler. If they want to eat lower carb, the food is there for them, though they tend to go with moderate to high carb depending on who it is.

    I now eat mostly carnivore to help with health issues too. It got a bit trickier to do the cooking, but it's manageable. I tend to set aside my meats for dishes that with include carbs like chilli or a meat sauce.

    I will bake for them, but it's low carb with no sugar and flours are coconut oil, flaxmeal and protein powder.

    I encourage my hubby to lower his carbs but he won't give up potatoes. I think he thinks his weight is fine because he is within 10-15 lbs of his active 25-year old weight, but that looks quite different 25 years later when you are no longer active. ;)

    Plus they get headaches... I used to get migraines when I ate gluten (celiac) or when I had blood glucose swings (often). They all get headaches but won't change. Perhaps one day I'll rally myself and force them low carb, but TBH, my bank account can't afford to feed 3 teens and a man without a few fillers like potatoes and rice.
  • teresamwhite
    teresamwhite Posts: 947 Member
    Our house is a bit more challenging, since our DD is a vegetarian, and DH is on a low cholesterol, low sodium diet (he has rocket high blood pressure, and high cholesterol), and I am on keto.

    So I make a meat, a starch, and two veggies for dinner most nights: DD skips the meat, I skip the starch (and add extra fat, or I'll make my cut of meat fattier), and DH eats a bit of everything. He travels a lot for work, so typically Monday-Thursday is just DD and I. She's almost 16, so she often cooks for herself. I also have a few workarounds for myself, such as keeping a keto pizza crust in the freezer when they want pizza for dinner, or keeping shirataki noodles on hand for spaghetti!

    They both have non-keto snacks in the house, but they don't bother me. I don't mind sharing my keto-friendly foods with them either. They've both become fond of cheese crisps in their salads, lol.
  • gwendyprism
    gwendyprism Posts: 222 Member
    Solo but my husband knows I'm not eating carbs and sugar. I don't go into details because it would be boring for him. He'll ask if he's curious. Meals are pretty easy because we mostly eat meat and starches seperately (not a lot of casserole type dinners.) So he may have a side of rice but I just have meat and veg.
  • bzbs
    bzbs Posts: 10 Member
    I'm doing it solo. My husband has dementia and very adamant about what he will and will not eat. He will eat some of what I cook for myself but I have to cook lits of carbs for him. So far it's working for me
  • etaylor704
    etaylor704 Posts: 31 Member
    bzbs wrote: »
    I'm doing it solo. My husband has dementia and very adamant about what he will and will not eat. He will eat some of what I cook for myself but I have to cook lits of carbs for him. So far it's working for me

    They say its lots of study on keto being really good for dementia
  • tcunbeliever
    tcunbeliever Posts: 8,219 Member
    I do keto for migraines, but also carb cycle for lifting...my husband is doing low carb...my teenagers are both active and the runner is very high carb, the ballerina is mostly carnivore with some fruit and pasta thrown in there. For breakfast and lunch everyone is on their own to make their own food, for dinner I do some kind of protein and a couple side dishes (1 carby, 1 less carby usually) and we pretty much always have salad fixings...then everyone can make their individual plates with whatever food strikes their fancy in whatever portions...a lot of times I'll just have the protein over salad.
  • shelbydodgeguy
    shelbydodgeguy Posts: 194 Member
    I do keto for migraines

    I do it for this, and also to help with autoimmune inflammation as I'm disabled and in a lot of pain. The inflammation is mostly gone in my hands and elsewhere but the body pain lives on.

    On a plus side I'm down 62 pounds since the end of June. I'm doing it solo, but I wish I could talk some close family members into low carb/keto as well. My mother also lives with some autoimmune issues and back degeneration and I'm sure it would help her. However she won't give up her morning cereal, breads, and pastas. :neutral:

  • iceneyes
    iceneyes Posts: 12 Member
    My wife and I started Keto together. She did it out of support for me. She had only a few pounds to lose and told me she was going back to carbs after she lost the weight. She felt so great on Keto that she's stayed on. Before Keto, she had a lot of digestive and bloating issues after eating...all gone.