Trying to Conceive (TTC)

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  • puffbrat
    puffbrat Posts: 2,806 Member
    Welp, I was right. I was diagnosed yesterday with diminished ovarian reserve. I contacted my doctor and she emailed me some questions and ran some blood work, while also having me do OPKs and chart BBT. Three of my levels are all indicative of diminished ovarian reserve and she said I will have difficulty getting pregnant without assistance.

    I don’t want to do IVF and my husband is fine with that. I may contact one of the fertility specialists my doctor recommended for a consultation to find out if IVF is the only option for us. But at this point my husband and are thinking we are either one and done or will adopt. We don’t want to foster because besides being hard on hubby and I, we don’t think baby Leo or Waldo would do at all well with that level of instability and change.
  • VeryKatie
    VeryKatie Posts: 5,866 Member
    @puffbrat (I read your posts in the wrong order) thats so sad to hear, I'm really sorry! I hope the specialist has some new info for you. I think its a good idea to make sure you have your questions answered.
  • puffbrat
    puffbrat Posts: 2,806 Member
    VeryKatie wrote: »
    @puffbrat (I read your posts in the wrong order) thats so sad to hear, I'm really sorry! I hope the specialist has some new info for you. I think its a good idea to make sure you have your questions answered.

    Thanks! I’m so conflicted. I hated pregnancy and was somewhat traumatized by labor and delivery through no fault of any person. But once we decided to start trying, I became excited about doing it again, watching belly grow, feeling movements, and having a baby from second 1 knowing I made that. But I also like the idea of not starting out parenting a new child while recovering from pregnancy and birth or major surgery like last time. As my husband said, I also like the idea of feeling like we can help 1 or 2 children in need. But especially with older children, adoption has its own struggles. One and done would be the easiest path at this point but we don’t know yet if it’s the right one for us.
  • NatashaLP2014
    NatashaLP2014 Posts: 82 Member
    puffbrat wrote: »
    Thanks! I’m so conflicted. I hated pregnancy and was somewhat traumatized by labor and delivery through no fault of any person. But once we decided to start trying, I became excited about doing it again, watching belly grow, feeling movements, and having a baby from second 1 knowing I made that. But I also like the idea of not starting out parenting a new child while recovering from pregnancy and birth or major surgery like last time. As my husband said, I also like the idea of feeling like we can help 1 or 2 children in need. But especially with older children, adoption has its own struggles. One and done would be the easiest path at this point but we don’t know yet if it’s the right one for us.

    @puffbrat I'm sorry, that sucks! We could get pregnant but between eclampsia at 28 weeks the first time and pre-eclampsia at 36 weeks the second, we didn't feel safe to have more.

    My husband and I have had the adoption debate again and again. It's a hard decision to make. In the end we decided not to as I'm really happy with our family the way it is. I rather like the freedom of knowing we're done and I don't want to start over again!

    I hope you get some answers from the fertility specialist if you decide to speak with them.
  • arendiva
    arendiva Posts: 175 Member
    Hey all. Sorry I've been MIA so the past several months. UGH. I wish I could say I'm here with happy news, but TTC has been a bust. My cycles have been all over the place. My last cycle was 59 days which was so bad that I actually went to my OBGYN to get checked out (despite how much of a nightmare it is to do Doctor's appointments right now). It turns out my thyroid levels are off and I have subclinical hypothyroidism. My OB wants me to stop TTC until we can get my thyroid levels to where they are supposed to be, so now I'm going to be on thyroid meds probably for life. :( On the bright side my OB was optimistic that we would probably get things regulated within 6 months and that I should be able to start TTC again by winter. Fingers crossed.
  • arendiva
    arendiva Posts: 175 Member
    @puffbrat I'm sorry to hear about your reduced fertility. I hope you and your family find a course of action that works for you. I totally get not wanting to do IVF. I find the idea of fertility treatments very intimidating myself.
  • Alioth
    Alioth Posts: 571 Member
    Happy 4th of July! @puffbrat How has it been the last couple months? That was some hard news, but doesn't sound impossible. But I also am not sure I would choose fertility treatments.
    @arendiva I'm glad you got your thyroid checked. Maybe on the medicine you will find things improve and the cycles settle down. Hoping for the best!
  • procolorer
    procolorer Posts: 326 Member
    Hi all! I hope it’s okay I just joined. Been looking for a group similar to this for awhile!

    I’m 29, and losing weight to hopefully help me and my husband conceive!
  • WifiresGettingFit
    WifiresGettingFit Posts: 1,764 Member
    @procolorer Welcome to the group! We're glad to have you! =)
  • procolorer
    procolorer Posts: 326 Member
    I’m curious about everyone’s weekly goals- are people doing 2 lbs, 1 lb etc?

    I’m worried that at 2 lbs- might be too extreme when I read that having too high of a calorie deficit can negatively impact fertility.

    What’s everyone’s experiences?
  • spyro88
    spyro88 Posts: 464 Member
    Hi everyone, just joined the group also. I've been reading this thread and wow, some of you have had a real rollercoaster by the sound of it. Hugs to you guys who are struggling xx
    I am trying to lose some weight before starting TTC first time - hopefully in October I will come off the pill.
    I am in the obese BMI range (just about) so I'm a bit nervous about how that might affect me/ baby if I get pregnant at my current weight.
    So I'm currently just trying to stick to around1500 cals a day and do gym workouts when I can, and seeing what I can lose! I have no particular weight goal, just trying to get in better shape for pregnancy.
    If anyone here wants to add me as a friend, feel free :)
  • WifiresGettingFit
    WifiresGettingFit Posts: 1,764 Member
    @spyro88 Welcome to the group! :)
  • VeryKatie
    VeryKatie Posts: 5,866 Member
    @procolorer yeah I can never maintain a 2lb a week loss. My body really likes 0.75-1 lb a week, which can still be pretty fast. I would be worried about depriving my soon to be pregnant self of too many nutrients at a 1200 cal goal since I do need some junk food to stay on course.
  • VeryKatie
    VeryKatie Posts: 5,866 Member
    We decided to ttc for 2 cycles and re-evaluate after that. Currently waiting 2 weeks starting today to see what happened. I've let my eating of chips and snacks get out of control so I'm trying to find my balance again while I wait for results.

    Aiming for 1800 a day since I've gained 6 lb over the last 2 months... hitting closer to 2100 the past couple but its more about not continuing to put weight on before anything even happens.
  • VeryKatie
    VeryKatie Posts: 5,866 Member
    Still 6 more days of waiting to see if we had success with ttc this cycle. I'm finding it hard to be motivated to track my calories, mostly recipes. I need to just come up with a meal rotation so I can just punch in the same calories over and over. Stupid variety lol.
  • melichalupa
    melichalupa Posts: 257 Member
    Hello 👋
    I am new to this group. I have been trying to find a TTC group for a while (over a year) on MFP and finally found this one. I would love to talk to SOMEONE/ANYONE about my very crazy journey. I am 33 yes old living in NYC and have been TTC with my husband for about 6 yrs. We have gotten some diagnosis for both him and myself and will be starting an IUI cycle hopefully next month. Please feel free to friend me or respond here. I am wishing everyone happy thoughts on their journeys!
    -Melissa
  • Alioth
    Alioth Posts: 571 Member
    Hello 👋
    I am new to this group. I have been trying to find a TTC group for a while (over a year) on MFP and finally found this one. I would love to talk to SOMEONE/ANYONE about my very crazy journey. I am 33 yes old living in NYC and have been TTC with my husband for about 6 yrs. We have gotten some diagnosis for both him and myself and will be starting an IUI cycle hopefully next month. Please feel free to friend me or respond here. I am wishing everyone happy thoughts on their journeys!
    -Melissa

    Hi @melichalupa ! Welcome. This group somewhat petered out during Covid and what not last year. But some of us still check in occasionally as it's a very special place for us where we shared our struggles together. Who knows, maybe more people will join and it will be that place again. I'd love to hear more about your 6 year journey. I love NYC too. I have family in Long Island. Let us know how it goes with your IUI.