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I’ve been thinking a lot about what habit I want to work on this month. It’s tricky. I have my first professional conference that I am attending since the pandemic in mid September. Habits are so rooted to our environment, that when the environment shifts as it does when we’re not home, it’s hard to build the habit.
But there is something I’d like to work on. Something that happens to me weekly. I have a virtual meeting once a week and one of the regular participants is kind of annoying. They often dominate the conversation and talk when other people are trying to chime in. They also ask a lot of questions that would be answered if they could just pause and wait a minute. Talking to this person directly is a nonstarter. It would hurt their feelings and I don’t want to do that. Because it’s just a weekly meeting, I want to work on my response to this person. I want to be less annoyed by them. Habits researchers say that how we respond to people (the trigger) is also habitual… a response to our past experiences with this person. Which is why a lot of couples end up fighting over the same things over and over again. Triggers and responses with habitual behaviors that become a cycle that is hard to break.
So here’s my plan:
Before I launch these weekly meetings I will spend two minutes deep breathing remembering that this person has many wonderful qualities and is acting out of a very bad habit of dominating conversations. I will also remember that I have many bad habits too and my bad habits can be annoying to other people as well. None of us are perfect and I am a work in progress.
When this person says something that frustrates me, I will take a deep breath and pause for 10 seconds and see if my better self can’t craft a better response.
That’s my September goal.6 -
I think I’ll call my September challenge FALLING IN LOVE WITH FITNESS -AGAIN.
Only a few days in Week 1 of the month, but I hit my Goals of 30 minutes each of strength, cardio, and flex/yoga
Sept 1 strength 💪 17, cardio 🏃♀️ 68, but no yoga 🧘♀️
Sept 2 🏃♀️ 85, 🧘♀️ 55, but no strength
Sept 3 💪 20, 🏃♀️20, 🧘♀️5 -
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Goals/ habits for September
* Track honestly 💖
* Maintain weight 58 to 62 kg and build muscle 💖
*Take measurements every 2 weeks💖
* Look for opportunities💖
* De clutter 💖
* In bed by 9pm! 💖
* Focus on an attitude for gratitude💖
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I think I’ll call my September challenge FALLING IN LOVE WITH FITNESS -AGAIN.
Only a few days in Week 1 of the month, but I hit my Goals of 30 minutes each of strength, cardio, and flex/yoga
Sept 1 strength 💪 17, cardio 🏃♀️ 68, but no yoga 🧘♀️
Sept 2 🏃♀️ 85, 🧘♀️ 55, but no strength
Sept 3 💪 20, 🏃♀️20, 🧘♀️
Week 2
Sept 4 -🏃♀️ 20, 🧘♀️15
Sept 5 - 🏃♀️30, 💪18, 🧘♀️15
Oh my @themedalist , I think you September habit is brilliant! I’ve been in meetings with someone like you described, and that’s a great response.2 -
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1. My goal for September (This September I will...")
For September, I am continuing to clear out an old filing cabinet
(Using ‘am’ as opposed to ‘I will … ‘ as it gives me less scope to cop out.
2. The small actions I am taking to accomplish this goal
a) Sort and declutter papers > 10 minutes.
b) Store essential papers; shred/bin the rest
3. The trigger or cue to remember to do my habit.
Reminder on phone.
4. How often am I doing my new September habit (daily is best if possible)
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5. What reward am I immediately giving myself for doing my habit?
I am doing a victory 💃🏼 and 🗑
6. What help do you need from us?
Click “Like” or any of the feedback responses so I know you are reading? Having this place to report in every few days and knowing someone else is reading is really helpful.
7. What does success look like to you at the end of September?
An empty filing cabinet.
I have no attachment to old paperwork! There is so much if it! But it is going down slowly but surely. 👌🏻🐲
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Report 7th
Goals/ habits for September
* Track honestly 💖
* Maintain weight 58 to 62 kg and build muscle 💖
*Take measurements every 2 weeks 👇
* Look for opportunities💖
* De clutter 👇
* In bed by 9pm! 💖
* Focus on an attitude for gratitude💖1 -
2/2 this week for lunch time walks not bad considering I am only in the office 2 days this week so far ! Rowing has increased also slowly getting there5
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🐳🐬 SEPTEMBER 🐬🐳
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Daily Solid Habits:
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1. My goal for September (This September I will...")
For September, I am continuing to clear out an old filing cabinet
(Using ‘am’ as opposed to ‘I will … ‘ as it gives me less scope to cop out.
2. The small actions I am taking to accomplish this goal
a) Sort and declutter papers > 10 minutes.
b) Store essential papers; shred/bin the rest
3. The trigger or cue to remember to do my habit.
Reminder on phone.
4. How often am I doing my new September habit (daily is best if possible)
Daily 🗑 or 🤦♀️
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8 9 10 11 12 13 14
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5. What reward am I immediately giving myself for doing my habit?
I am doing a victory 💃🏼 and 🗑
6. What help do you need from us?
Click “Like” or any of the feedback responses so I know you are reading? Having this place to report in every few days and knowing someone else is reading is really helpful.
7. What does success look like to you at the end of September?
An empty filing cabinet.
I have no attachment to old paperwork! There is so much if it! But it is going down slowly but surely. 👌🏻🐲
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Week 2 - My FALL IN LOVE WITH FITNESS reset Goal is 30 minutes each of cardio, strength, and yoga
Sept 4 -🏃♀️ 20, 🧘♀️15
Sept 5 - 🏃♀️30, 💪18, 🧘♀️15
Sept 6 - 🏃♀️ 60, 🧘♀️15, 💃120
Sept 7 - 🏃♀️39, 💪 22, 🧘♀️15
Sept 8 - 🏃♀️39, 🧘♀️15
Sept 9 - 🏃♀️58, 💃90, 🧘♀️ 15
Sept 10 - 🏃♀️74, 🧘♀️15
Hooray! I got it done. And then some! As you see I also got lots of dancing! 💃❤️5 -
I have been avoiding the rower and some weights I think I did something to my left arm up by the shoulder I hope it over use and not rotator cuff related it gets so sore at night. But moving forward have done well with walks, weight up and down, still incorporating more fruits and veggies will get there slow but sure. Enjoy the rest of the weekend.
I will be good at the small birthday gathering for my mom this morning she will be 80 tomorrow so we have a late muffin and coffee gathering, she struggles with dementia not Alzheimer’s as
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Hi @snowshoe072 - it’s wise to be gentle with that shoulder. You might look up some shoulder rehab exercises and count those as your rowing replacement. Happy birthday to your mom! Hugs to you - dealing with a loved-one’s dementia is very hard.2
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Hello, I just joined this group and back on the app after 2 year hiatus. Fall is my favorite time of year so for September I will try to get outside more often before the snow arrives!4
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@77tes thank you I will check them out not so bad today but will still be cautious
Great birthday mom was waiting for us dad was wondering where we were a nice birthday4 -
Got some spin in rode to some good tunes AC/DC, poison and a few others did a little strength work but no major shoulder work4
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Hello, I just joined this group and back on the app after 2 year hiatus. Fall is my favorite time of year so for September I will try to get outside more often before the snow arrives!
Hi and welcome to the group! Getting outside is a great goal! I’m doing the 1000 Hours Outside challenge this year (my goal is more like 750), but I’m currently hiding from the heat and mosquitoes. 🤣3 -
@TerriRichardson112 , I’m cheering you on! Here’s to an empty filing cabinet! 🥂3
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snowshoe072 wrote: »@77tes thank you I will check them out not so bad today but will still be cautious
Great birthday mom was waiting for us dad was wondering where we were a nice birthday
Kate - I’ll add a tip to look at shoulder flossing (also called neural gliding amongst other names). You can just google it (my physiotherapist helped me with this years ago. May not be the same issue you have but it improves range of motion and reduces pain.
So glad you had a great visit with your mom 🎂
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Week 2 - My FALL IN LOVE WITH FITNESS reset Goal is 30 minutes each of cardio, strength, and yoga
Sept 4 -🏃♀️ 20, 🧘♀️15
Sept 5 - 🏃♀️30, 💪18, 🧘♀️15
Sept 6 - 🏃♀️ 60, 🧘♀️15, 💃120
Sept 7 - 🏃♀️39, 💪 22, 🧘♀️15
Sept 8 - 🏃♀️39, 🧘♀️15
Sept 9 - 🏃♀️58, 💃90, 🧘♀️ 15
Sept 10 - 🏃♀️74, 🧘♀️15
Hooray! I got it done. And then some! As you see I also got lots of dancing! 💃❤️
I love this! Well done 💃💃💃 @77tes4 -
Hi Everyone!
Wow! What a difference a couple of weeks made!
I cannot actually remember a time that my husband took 14 continuous days off from work - likely it was 1988 or so, possibly 1997.
It was perfect. We spent time relaxing so he could recover & he did a bunch of deferred maintenance & updated my computer (took
A day & a half off & on).
Apparently, he’d noted all those things I’d gently mentioned to him in passing & he gradually & happily knocked them all off the list.
Side locking gates, and auto -on lights
Removed old mailbox
More rat & mouse trapping efforts
Completely cleaned his office &
Installed energy efficient light he’d had for a year (with the ladder in the room
To do the job for 3-4 months!)
Our 5-day trip was perfect. As California broiled we, by chance had perfect weather: sunny, cool breeze, 60-70’s. Great hikes, several 2-hour sketch/painting (memories forever!), tons of bird watching - the acorn woodpy6 -
Continued..
woodpeckers were hilarious.
We heard but did not see Ospreys & a Peregrine Falcon OMG! (I’ve become a bride since Feb - pretty exciting)
So, tomorrow, I begin again!
I have read & re-read ALL of your comments, confidence in my ability to do this, and wise advice. “Thank you” doesn’t seem to be enough. THANK YOU!!!!
So my Sept 12-30 “I Will” …
“I am a person who optimizes her health by eating carefully.
I have realized now that my old way of eating makes me unhealthy, uncomfortable, and tired instead of healthy, confident, and energetic. It also makes me gain weight slowly & steadily.
I realized I’ve become bored with our very repetitive meals/foods; however, this is not the time to change this. I will eat my regular breakfast & lunch, knowing they are bery healthy, balanced, filling, & don’t trigger my mouth hunger. Dinner will be our regular pattern, varying veg & protein. Once my BMI is normal again ~ 3.5-5 lb loss, I will try some new recipes, but for now will stick to what has worked well in the past.
If I am Unsuccessful at this, I will implement my back-up plan which occurred to me on our vacation. I will create an at-home version of a 4-7 days worth of food, prepped for each meal. I have the containers. I have the know-how. And this will remove the decision-making in the moment.
I am a person who places my health first & Never Gives Up.”
PS Eating out gives my heartburn & makes me feel queasy. I need to remember this!
I will walk 7K step average around a minimum & play on Beat Saber (Oculus Quest 2)for a minimum of 20 mins each day.
Each day I will say out loud, “I am so lucky to have a healthy, living donor kidney. I will do everything I can to keep it that way.”
Thank you
Maddie xx6