Not unlike cleaning out a closet...it always looks worse with all the contents spread out in the room, where you're trying to decide whether to give away, pitch or keep. I remember as a little girl and my mom would tell my sister and I to neaten our dresser drawers. We would take a slip and lay it, oh, so carefully, over the top of the (messy) contents of each drawer. How did my mom always know that we didn't quite accomplish the task set before us?

This (slip/dresser) memory triggered another one…my mom clearly gave up when my sister and I were teens. She would occasionally come into our room and open an air freshener and toss it under that same dresser. When my sister and I eventually got around to cleaning our room, we would find several of these air fresheners. A statement of the infrequency of cleaning our room!

I understand the feeling. It can feel overwhelming. That's why I'm a dib and dab declutterer; although, I must say I am tempted to just through it all away.

Sending hugs. You and Benny are doing great work!

I was trying to throw away my sister's " poo pillow," and she wouldn't let me. I unsuccessfully tried to clean it, then announced that I would throw it away, and she got mad and went out to work on it. It looks clean now, but I'm not going to use it! I will put the decorative pillows in the dryer with dryel.

That dog poo pillow stayed in our hallway for a month with sis saying she would clean it. That's when I know I am living with a hoarder.

I have my own issues, but have gotten better. I am working on hanging up my bags of clean clothes. I used to always hang up my clothes, but fell behind a while ago.

I'm off to do some vacuuming! Dibs and dabs will make it better!

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Yes, I may have to separate at some point. She is usually not this weird.