Living The Lifestyle - Monday 12/2/24
crewahl
Posts: 4,574 Member
This is a thread for everyone. If you're new to GoaD, or to weight loss, your questions and comments are always welcome. If you're maintaining, or a long-term loser, your thoughts on the topic may be just what someone else needs to hear. If you're reading this, join in the discussion!
Each weekday, a new topic is offered up for discussion.
Monday - crewahl (Charlie)
Tuesday – Wildcard
Wednesday-misterhub (Greg)
Thursday -imastar2 (Derrick)
Friday - Wildcard
Today's Topic: Relationships
What personal relationships have changed over time (and how have they changed) as a result of your efforts to lose or maintain your weight?
Each weekday, a new topic is offered up for discussion.
Monday - crewahl (Charlie)
Tuesday – Wildcard
Wednesday-misterhub (Greg)
Thursday -imastar2 (Derrick)
Friday - Wildcard
Today's Topic: Relationships
What personal relationships have changed over time (and how have they changed) as a result of your efforts to lose or maintain your weight?
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Saved my marriage. Including the alone time. If I didn’t drop dead, I was on my way to a debilitating stoke.
I also became an actual dad able to do stuff with my kids.4 -
Not a lot, to be honest. It has allowed my wife and I to have a common goal, though we deal with it differently.3
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I have a negative experience.
I have a family member who has asked me, over the years, what I'm doing to lose weight when I'm in loss mode. She seemed to think there was something magical other can creating a calorie deficit over an extended period. Instead of reading/researching on her own, she wanted me to share anything I'd read/any recipes I was using. We were part of a weekly family text for awhile where the entire group was trying to lose weight. Her texts were usually questions to others about their successes for the week and complaints (not losing quickly enough) despite the fact that she was losing at least a pound a week. She rarely was an encourager/cheerleader for me. I realized she is more of a "taker" in life than a "giver." Years later, that perception hasn't changed. As a result, I'm less open and generous with my time with her as I previously was.
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Nothing. We both needed to lose weight. TOL went back to WW first, and I was using a computer-based program, which I loved, until I upgraded my computer, and it didn't work on the new system. Oh well, so I drifted, and finally came back to WW. We do it together, go to meetings together, plan our meals together, and sometimes shop together.2
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I can’t point to a specific relationship that has changed. However, I found I was more outgoing after I no longer expected people to reject me because of my weight.
Yeah, I know, all that stuff is in my head.2 -
Way back when, probably over the first few years of WW, I realized that most of my friend relationships involved eating, and that was inconsistent with my weight-loss/management needs. While I did alter my eating when eating out, it was really hard to plan all get-togethers around food. I think I slowly drifted away from many of those interactions.
That became even more of an issue when we started keeping kosher, as that effectively cut out all food-related outings.
In more recent years, however, this has all reached an equilibrium. I've got a limited number of places we can eat out, but we do eat at other folks' homes (who keep kosher) regularly. Eating out is still a big challenge for me, but maybe I've gotten more relaxed about it, and that has allowed food to be part of the relationship equation.1
