I tried the online dating site... it seemed promising until I actually met someone in real life. Online connections are deceiving. You can have the greatest conversations, text for hours and when you meet there's no chemistry, either on one or both sides. Most of the people on those sites say they want to meet someone with similar values, interests etc, and build on a friendship, but I think that what they really want is instant chemistry. Thesse days I don't know how else to do it though. Bars suck. I work from home too so the interaction is really minimized right there.

As for divorced people getting together with other divorced people, I get the feeling that it's more difficult for a divorced to meet and start a relationship with someone who is not in the same boat. Who wants all that baggage from someone else? Am I wrong?

I'm also shy. Which sucks. I spend most of my time at work, or at home, but I play pool 3 nights a week. For a couple of hours. That's the extent of me getting out. I don't get along with the people in this town (hopefully will be moving at the beginning of the year), and I am not into partying, drinking, smoking. That's what dang near EVERYONE in my town does. And it drives me nuts! There's nowhere else in town to meet "like-minded singles". Even my pool team told me I'm boring because they all like to get drunk, and I'd rather drink a bottle of water, maybe a squirt!

I meet people everywhere! I can't go to the grocery store without meeting someone new. I try to have a fun attitude wherever I go and strike up converstion with just about anybody.

This is so me right now, everywhere I go I meet new people. Smiling is infectious and it attracts people.

I'm friendly and cheerful...I genuinely like people, for the most part, and I let it show. So, right or wrong, I'm going to go out on a limb and say my body type and lack of confidence might be an issue...I'm improving both, whether it gets me a date or not, but I'm curious for the results.

I am finding it quite hard! I have primary custody of two kids, so that naturally minimizes my 'getting out there time'. I am a full time student at a small private college...no prospects there. My social circle is made up nearly entirely of couples. There are no single guys at church over the age of like 20. I get out for drinks or things with my girlfriends sometimes, but they're all happily settled so it's not a flirty or attention drawing sort of atmosphere. I try to look my best when I'm out and about anywhere, but it's not like guys seem to notice me at all...which is a shame, because I am one helluva nice person, I think. Oh well, maybe it's just not the right time anyway.