Meeting Like Minded Singles
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Interesting... The title of this discussion is; "Meeting Like Minded Singles". Seems like everybody on this site is like minded to some degree. And the members of this group are supposedly single. So allow me to introduce myself and you'll meet a like minded single right here on "My fitness Pal". LOL.
I'm Phil.
Hi Phil - I'm Robin0 -
Interesting... The title of this discussion is; "Meeting Like Minded Singles". Seems like everybody on this site is like minded to some degree. And the members of this group are supposedly single. So allow me to introduce myself and you'll meet a like minded single right here on "My fitness Pal". LOL.
I'm Phil.
Hi Phil - I'm Robin
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I don't know if it's just being Australian or not (I did go to Hawaii once and found the same thing) - but I just find males now days really, really disrespectful. I don't know where they get off with their disgusting behaviours - but I just don't even bother anymore because they are really, really offputting. I prefer just to hang with mates and more and more just by myself, because I don't think this situation is going to get any better...........0
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Hi Celia and Robin! Nice to meet you both. Robin, I'm sorry to hear you're experiences with dis-respectful men. Don't give up hope. When you least expect it......
Robin, perhaps you can clarify some experiences I had in Australia. About 20 yrs ago, I lived in Guam and traveled to Australia a couple times for work. Once was to Darwin and the second trip was to Brisbane. Seems to me that whenever I visited a club the men sat on one side of the room and the women on the other. ??? I remember on a few occcasions I would speak to and buy a lady a drink and/or light her cig. The reaction I got was one of disbelief on the ladies behalf. Almost as if that sort of thing didn't happen and she was surprised to see me do it. It gave me the impression that the men really didn't care. That baffled me a bit. I mean, all those pretty ladies and nobody was hitting on them. ?? What's your take on that?0 -
Interesting... The title of this discussion is; "Meeting Like Minded Singles". Seems like everybody on this site is like minded to some degree. And the members of this group are supposedly single. So allow me to introduce myself and you'll meet a like minded single right here on "My fitness Pal". LOL.
I'm Phil.
Hi like-minded single Phil!0 -
Hi Scapez!!!0
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I tried the online dating site... it seemed promising until I actually met someone in real life. Online connections are deceiving. You can have the greatest conversations, text for hours and when you meet there's no chemistry, either on one or both sides. Most of the people on those sites say they want to meet someone with similar values, interests etc, and build on a friendship, but I think that what they really want is instant chemistry. Thesse days I don't know how else to do it though. Bars suck. I work from home too so the interaction is really minimized right there.
As for divorced people getting together with other divorced people, I get the feeling that it's more difficult for a divorced to meet and start a relationship with someone who is not in the same boat. Who wants all that baggage from someone else? Am I wrong?0 -
Hi Celia and Robin! Nice to meet you both. Robin, I'm sorry to hear you're experiences with dis-respectful men. Don't give up hope. When you least expect it......
Robin, perhaps you can clarify some experiences I had in Australia. About 20 yrs ago, I lived in Guam and traveled to Australia a couple times for work. Once was to Darwin and the second trip was to Brisbane. Seems to me that whenever I visited a club the men sat on one side of the room and the women on the other. ??? I remember on a few occcasions I would speak to and buy a lady a drink and/or light her cig. The reaction I got was one of disbelief on the ladies behalf. Almost as if that sort of thing didn't happen and she was surprised to see me do it. It gave me the impression that the men really didn't care. That baffled me a bit. I mean, all those pretty ladies and nobody was hitting on them. ?? What's your take on that?
It is actually always a running joke here how the men stand around the BBQ and the women are off on the other side of the garden!!! (the men always just talk about work too!!!)
Now, I don't know if it is a lack of ego with them, an overinflated ego or some sort of shyness (I highly doubt that one). I am guessing it would of been more notable in Darwin also (I spend alot of time in Darwin as well as here on the West Coast).
Women are mostly surprised if any chivalry is shown at all - although with the younger species of female now - the less standards the males have, the females are just falling into line with the lack of respect shown and cop this crap.
I am assuming (I might be wrong) that you were/are in the forces with the work travel you did. I have just got out of the same industry and I can tell you that the majority of these are even worse than the everyday bloke also. There will be a big shake up in the next year of so for these guys - we are getting A LOT of US servicemen (and probably women) setting up at our bases - particularly Darwin and Perth - I know the US servicemen created a lot of 'jealousies' in the 1940s LOL.
I am not sure what is wrong with them - it is almost like they would be considered 'lesser men' if they were to show respect, put in time with their children, understand their wives and girlfriends and accept and embrace the finer things in life. I am not saying they are all like this - but it would be the majority - and the minority have been snapped up.
Anyways - I have given up lol. Until I meet one that is NOT like that. I would rather be single than put up with their bad behaviour. :noway:0 -
@vox23 - I hear what you're saying about the baggage from someone else. I saw this women and boy did dhe have baggage from her ex. The guy's a real jerk and is always using the kids as a way to make her life miserable. And I thought, is this something I want to put up with? I mean it sounds selfish but how can there be happiness if there's always misery? But when you get to my age, almost all the single women have been divorced. The trick is to find the one with the least baggage.
@robin - This is interesting. I'm not saying there is a lot of chivalry in the US. I bet women wish there was more but there seems to be a bit more here than there. Must be a cultural thing. ??? Yes, I was in the US Air Force for 21 years. I did get to travel a lot and miss the travel very much. You say you have given up. I don't believe you. :-) But I do believe that you should be happy and not have to put up with a bunch of BS. I should believe it myself when I say, when you least expect it..... You just never know. :glasses:0 -
I know that in the Houston area there is a web site (and I can not for the life of me remember the name right now) that is for singles but it isn't a dating site. It is all about hooking up with people to do fun activities. Hiking, Music events, Sporting events, etc. I haven't been on it but I am sure that there is probably something like that in a lot of cities.
I live in Houston too. Is it meetup.com? If not when you find it, please let me know.0 -
I tried the online dating site... it seemed promising until I actually met someone in real life. Online connections are deceiving. You can have the greatest conversations, text for hours and when you meet there's no chemistry, either on one or both sides. Most of the people on those sites say they want to meet someone with similar values, interests etc, and build on a friendship, but I think that what they really want is instant chemistry. Thesse days I don't know how else to do it though. Bars suck. I work from home too so the interaction is really minimized right there.
As for divorced people getting together with other divorced people, I get the feeling that it's more difficult for a divorced to meet and start a relationship with someone who is not in the same boat. Who wants all that baggage from someone else? Am I wrong?
Exactly what I've found too. Although I did have a decent relationship with someone I met online, but when his true colours started to show it went bad fast.
I would really like to find something like the OP said, a group of local singles, approximate same age group, to join at the gym or go on nights out etc. It's hard to meet new people when all you do is work and work out.0 -
I'm shy which makes it's hard to meet people. Most peope my age are into partying or hooking up, and that's not me. So it's hard finding like minded individuals. Plus I'm picky and finidng a guy who even meets half of the things I'm looking for is next to impossible.0
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I'm also shy. Which sucks. I spend most of my time at work, or at home, but I play pool 3 nights a week. For a couple of hours. That's the extent of me getting out. I don't get along with the people in this town (hopefully will be moving at the beginning of the year), and I am not into partying, drinking, smoking. That's what dang near EVERYONE in my town does. And it drives me nuts! There's nowhere else in town to meet "like-minded singles". Even my pool team told me I'm boring because they all like to get drunk, and I'd rather drink a bottle of water, maybe a squirt!0
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bump....to quote something i read earlier for a friend.
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I'm also shy. Which sucks. I spend most of my time at work, or at home, but I play pool 3 nights a week. For a couple of hours. That's the extent of me getting out. I don't get along with the people in this town (hopefully will be moving at the beginning of the year), and I am not into partying, drinking, smoking. That's what dang near EVERYONE in my town does. And it drives me nuts! There's nowhere else in town to meet "like-minded singles". Even my pool team told me I'm boring because they all like to get drunk, and I'd rather drink a bottle of water, maybe a squirt!
I wasn't shy up until a few years ago. I used to be able to go up to anyone and chit chat about everything and nothing and now, I just feel so out of place. I went to a fundraising event for a local animal shelter last night and sat by myself while others were mingling and talking. I felt so stupid sitting there, all dressed up and just feeling like a wallflower. The Main Line where the event was located is full of hoity-toity, rich snobby people, wearing their furs (to an animal event, no less) and have the perfect hair, the perfect makeup, etc. I'm not perfect, so I don't quite fit in, but would it be so hard to see someone and say "hey, come join us" if they look like they are there alone??0 -
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@robin - This is interesting. I'm not saying there is a lot of chivalry in the US. I bet women wish there was more but there seems to be a bit more here than there. Must be a cultural thing. ??? Yes, I was in the US Air Force for 21 years. I did get to travel a lot and miss the travel very much. You say you have given up. I don't believe you. :-) But I do believe that you should be happy and not have to put up with a bunch of BS. I should believe it myself when I say, when you least expect it..... You just never know. :glasses:
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Well like I said - I went to Hawaii in 2005 and didn't find them that much better to be honest - I know that is just a small slice of the USA though.
As for here - it happened again the other night - I was out - met a guy and next thing he expects sex - I mean WT?? How cheeky, disrespectful and rude!!! (go hire a pro if you want it now I say) - I don't know if it's maybe the amount they drink - you know give them a bit of dutch courage or something? So yes - they spoil themselves and I have given up because I never meet anyone else that is not like that. Maybe it is just the area I live in - not sure.
Glad you enjoyed your Air Force time and travel. I am a traveller and basically live to travel :-) So there is another reason I don't bother much either - I don't want anyone ruining my travels lol. I am just waiting for my house to sell and I will be travelling around Australia permanently in an RV :happy: :bigsmile:0 -
I do wonder why chivalry isn't terribly common. Most gals I know really appreciate it, even expect it! I will say however, that I've met some... hard core feminists who tear a strip from a guy who's trying to be nice. It ruins it for the rest of us!0
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Hi all my single peeps... I am currently single and un-sure if thats good or bad lol. I like the idea of being in a relationship with romance, fun, and friendship but as I have met men online that thought has changed. I asked myself why and I found that I have changed since I was in a relationship. I want different things now than I did back then. I have new dreams and goals in life and until I figure out who the new me really is and her needs, I feel that I am not ready for that "relationship".
Don't get me wrong I will still go out and have fun meeting new people and experiencing new places and atmospheres since this has helped me realize what I want and don't want. I've met decent men and creepy ones too.. Life is good for now...0 -
My biggest problem is not meeting people its meeting people close to my age. I like going to the bar and playing pool watching movies and just hanging out. But I seem to get hit on by 23 year olds. Now as flattering as that is I really dont need to be someone trainer- If you get what I mean. I couldnt date guys that age when I was that age. Im only 31 but sometimes I swear:grumble:0
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In London and surrounding areas one doesn;t seem to meet in pubs and location anymore, you meet online first, suss out if you are interested, then go on a date and go from there...
I still find it bloody hard though to find someone I am really interested in - but then I might just be fed up anyway due to my last experience.... I shall buy myself a reclused farm in the Beacons and livce there with my twenty dogs (can;t have cats I am allergic) and 100 slightly mental and mean sheep0 -
Sorry Jen. Those 23 year old guys are just getting started. A pretty girl like you will always be hit on by the "cubs".0
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I think I would want an older guy...like for now, I am friends with a lot of guys in their mid 20's, while i'm 19. just more mature, while still being themselves. But I love a guy who can laugh at himself, sense of humor, and I don't mind what he looks like either (or she for that fact LOL) OH and a guy that isn't a complete and utter disrespectful @sshole.....that's a good start =/
hi folkas, I'm Mindi =^-^=0 -
I am the same age as you and I think you look better than most younger girls. You are beautiful.0
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It's hard to meet single men. Most men in my age group are looking for very young girls who wouldn't give them a second look unless they had money. I would love to meet single men in my area to go hiking with. The weather is really nice right now for out door activities.
I am the same age as you and I think you look better than most younger girls. You are beautiful.0 -
I fall into this category..I talk to anyone and everyone...thought of getting a shirt printed saying "will you be my friend?"...LOL! Kidding...maybe not ?!? Funny...was smiling at an elderly man at the liquor store... he looks at me and says "what are you smiling at" I just laughed...God love the grumpy ones tooI meet people everywhere! I can't go to the grocery store without meeting someone new. I try to have a fun attitude wherever I go and strike up converstion with just about anybody.
This is so me right now, everywhere I go I meet new people. Smiling is infectious and it attracts people.
I'm friendly and cheerful...I genuinely like people, for the most part, and I let it show. So, right or wrong, I'm going to go out on a limb and say my body type and lack of confidence might be an issue...I'm improving both, whether it gets me a date or not, but I'm curious for the results. 0 -
I can meet people here and there all the time, but not really singles. Most people that I actually know are married or partnered up with someone. My school is 90% women so that doesn't work, except you can find a lot of friends from school, about 400-500 of us.
Clueless, but if I figure it out I'll share. I did plentyoffish for a few weeks but didn't go out with anyone because everyone who asked me out wanted to go out for drinks and I don't drink. I posted an ad on craigslist but got flagged in 5 minutes...0 -
I am finding it quite hard! I have primary custody of two kids, so that naturally minimizes my 'getting out there time'. I am a full time student at a small private college...no prospects there. My social circle is made up nearly entirely of couples. There are no single guys at church over the age of like 20. I get out for drinks or things with my girlfriends sometimes, but they're all happily settled so it's not a flirty or attention drawing sort of atmosphere. I try to look my best when I'm out and about anywhere, but it's not like guys seem to notice me at all...which is a shame, because I am one helluva nice person, I think. Oh well, maybe it's just not the right time anyway.
I can relate. I raise my kids alone and am a full-time student and there are like 2 single guys at church one who's like 20 yrs older than me and the other just got divorced... The only place I ago besides that is the grocery store. I assume the guys my age are already married... because the one's I actually know are...0 -
I am finding it quite hard! I have primary custody of two kids, so that naturally minimizes my 'getting out there time'. I am a full time student at a small private college...no prospects there. My social circle is made up nearly entirely of couples. There are no single guys at church over the age of like 20. I get out for drinks or things with my girlfriends sometimes, but they're all happily settled so it's not a flirty or attention drawing sort of atmosphere. I try to look my best when I'm out and about anywhere, but it's not like guys seem to notice me at all...which is a shame, because I am one helluva nice person, I think. Oh well, maybe it's just not the right time anyway.
I can relate. I raise my kids alone and am a full-time student and there are like 2 single guys at church one who's like 20 yrs older than me and the other just got divorced... The only place I ago besides that is the grocery store. I assume the guys my age are already married... because the one's I actually know are...
This is my problem too. Hard to get out there when you have to be home by 7:30 every night to put the little ones to bed. Twice a month I get to socialize, and, at this age, the bar is not a viable option. Last time I went to a club, the only guy that hit on me was probably 65! I'm trying to be content with not having a guy in my life, focusing on me, my kids and friends, but it does get lonely.0 -
Will check out fitness-singles.com ... thanks for the tip!0
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I have heard about Fitness Singles, but I have yet to check it out. I am definitely not a fan of some of the online dating sites. I never seem to attract people that I am remotely interested in so it seems a waste of time. I have my daughters the majority of the time, work and go to school so I have been a bit limited on meeting new people.0
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