I live in a town where I have one friend. That one friend is the person I would spend the rest of my life. However, they are quite a few years older than me, and have been hurt a lot. Now they are under the misconception that they are better off on their own. There are times when I wish I would never have started dating them in the first place, and there are times when I am so glad that I did. The worst part about being single? I miss knowing that that one person loves me. That I can cuddle with them, cry on them, share the good and the bad. I miss having that friendship. Someone to support me in my endeavors and someone I can support in theirs

it sucks because you have no one to celebrate the little things in life with. A cup of coffee, a walk, reading the paper together, just little things. A lot of little things grows into a big thing, and the big thing is what we are all looking for

This definitely.

I miss having someone to share all the small things with and just having someone to talk to about nothing and anything...

This time of year just depresses me to the Nth degree. The holidays are about family, togetherness, love, sharing, giving of your heart and your time. I absolutely adore Christmas, it was my grandmother's favorite holiday and I miss her every year to share those things with. But lately, being single and alone, it becomes more and more difficult. Having to listen to coworkers talk about their kids, their plans, their getaways with their spouses. I'm the only person in my department who is single. The ONLY one and I work with 14 people. It's tough not having someone to come home to, to call, to do things with. The sucky thing is, I have a best friend, who is a guy, whom I am totally in love with and would walk on water for if asked. But, he doesn't feel the same, and it kills me when we spend so much time together and when we're apart, it sucks and I'm even more depressed. =( If he'd JUST look past his own fears ... I understand someone's comment that sucky relationships are also bad. This is true. I witnessed my cousins horrible marriage and ever more horrible divorce, and it wasn't pretty. But he hadn't been divorced for more than a month and already had someone else in his life. I'm not a needy person, I've been single 8 years after my ex decided to sleep with his secretary and I lost a lot of trust in dating and relationships, but not even being able to find a date. I know I'm not the most attractive person in the world, and I'll never be the thinnest, but it seems like people don't even want to give you a change. And online.. most tell you "I'm just here to waste time." Why? It's just a loop of craziness.

Trying to find that perfect girl.... you know the one that every time u think of her u have to smile. Its hard not just setteling for just who ever...... u cand find a date anywhere.... me Im looking for 4 something real

This but obviously with the opposite sex lol. It is really hard not to just let a run of the mill, nothing special relationship drag on just for the company. I have done that in the past and it was so hard to get out of and now I just think I could've missed my soul mate being tied up in a dead end relationship I knew from the start would go nowhere

I have to practice patience! I know that there is a relationship coming. I'm kinda fussy, as I think most of us are, otherwise we wouldn't be single and we'd have Mr or Miss right for now. I'm not looking for now. I'm starting to get a bit worried that I won't find that kind of connection and when I do he'll have a stroke a month later, and I'll be tested in a whole new way!!! It happens...

.....i have no one to kiss, spoil, hug, and pay attention to.

The loneliness and the fact that I really want a family (only child, never knew my pops, want to give my kids better than what I had), and it's REALLY hard to make a baby as a dude when you're all alone. lol

Lack of cudding and sex obviously sucks, but you get used to that.

Hmmm…I am 2+ years into my involuntary celibacy…still waiting to get used to that.

I wouldn't say being single is bad. I mean you've got some extra independence, it's a great way to learn about yourself in a way and to a depth you'd never get to in a relationship, there's a freeness and fluidity to being single that sort of fades away once you're in a relationship. I guess I just say, embrace whatever part of life you're in and the good that results from it; that's what you'll miss once you go into another phase.

I wouldn't say I suspicious of others right off the bat, but it does suck being on your own a lot. I've spent most of this year exercising, and while that's been AWESOME, I've done so much of that alone - which sucks!!

If it helps Jeff, I don't think all single women looks at homes, cars, etc., especially when they're in their 40s/50s and established. I personally don't have 'motives' other than (hopefully someday) meeting a great guy that I'm compatible with!

Let your guard down a little!

Thanks for the advice! I did let my guard down and met someone wonderful!:flowerforyou: