Okay, now silly deal breakers...
toots99
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I brought up the topic of deal breakers the other day...do you have any "silly" deal breakers? I don't mean if someone has kids or is an alcoholic, but things that might not bother others.
I've been talking to this guy for a few days, and very frequently he'll refer to me in the second person when speaking to me. Like "What does Sharon look for in a guy?", "What will Sharon have for dinner tonight?", "I'm curious to see what Sharon likes."
It's starting to drive me crazy, to the point where I've already said something to him about it (half-jokingly, of course.)
I think another deal breaker (when it comes to online dating, really, where most everything starts in text and emails), is text-speak. I even put in my profile that "I have no patience 4 text speak so if U email me using it, UR not going 2 get a reply." It just gives off a lazy vibe. If you're too lazy to type out two more letters, you're too lazy to do much else. It's sloppy, I don't like it. I don't care if you're a bad speller, but at least try.
I've been talking to this guy for a few days, and very frequently he'll refer to me in the second person when speaking to me. Like "What does Sharon look for in a guy?", "What will Sharon have for dinner tonight?", "I'm curious to see what Sharon likes."
It's starting to drive me crazy, to the point where I've already said something to him about it (half-jokingly, of course.)
I think another deal breaker (when it comes to online dating, really, where most everything starts in text and emails), is text-speak. I even put in my profile that "I have no patience 4 text speak so if U email me using it, UR not going 2 get a reply." It just gives off a lazy vibe. If you're too lazy to type out two more letters, you're too lazy to do much else. It's sloppy, I don't like it. I don't care if you're a bad speller, but at least try.
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I think another deal breaker (when it comes to online dating, really, where most everything starts in text and emails), is text-speak. I even put in my profile that "I have no patience 4 text speak so if U email me using it, UR not going 2 get a reply." It just gives off a lazy vibe. If you're too lazy to type out two more letters, you're too lazy to do much else. It's sloppy, I don't like it. I don't care if you're a bad speller, but at least try.
Yes yes yes! I hate hate hate hate this! Complete turn off. Seriously.
Little feet.
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I agree with the text-speak although I do occasionally do it (mostly with friends that can't seem to type normal, want to make sure they understand my reply).
My big stupid issue is with house cleaning and this probably comes from having a disgusting brother as a roommate. I am in no way OCD or a clean freak, I only clean once a week myself. But week old pizza crusts in your room = gross. Dirty bathrooms = :sick: , I don't want to see your hair all over the sink. And by all that is holy if you can manage to not only have a dish make it to the kitchen but if it can make it all the way into the dishwasher I would probably pass out or propose!0 -
I think another deal breaker (when it comes to online dating, really, where most everything starts in text and emails), is text-speak. I even put in my profile that "I have no patience 4 text speak so if U email me using it, UR not going 2 get a reply." It just gives off a lazy vibe. If you're too lazy to type out two more letters, you're too lazy to do much else. It's sloppy, I don't like it. I don't care if you're a bad speller, but at least try.
Ugh I hate that too.
My silly deal breaker - guys that over grooms. If I can tell you get your eyebrows waxed you are doing too much.0 -
They can't have an annoying laugh. If you're getting along well, people tend to laugh a lot. If it grates on my nerves, I wouldn't be able to deal with it.
Also over this weekend, I saw a very attractive woman at another bar. I was turned to the side, watching some basketball when I heard a cackle. I just knew it couldn't have come from her, but then she cackled again. Just ruined the hotness she had going for her.0 -
I've been talking to this guy for a few days, and very frequently he'll refer to me in the second person when speaking to me. Like "What does Sharon look for in a guy?", "What will Sharon have for dinner tonight?", "I'm curious to see what Sharon likes."
It's starting to drive me crazy, to the point where I've already said something to him about it (half-jokingly, of course.)
I think that would drive mad too!! :noway:
Anyone that farts, picks his nose, has greasy hair, non ironed clothes, doesnt offer to buy the first drink before I do, has bad breath, bad teeth, bad manners!! :sick: Urgh!!0 -
They can't have an annoying laugh. If you're getting along well, people tend to laugh a lot. If it grates on my nerves, I wouldn't be able to deal with it.
Also over this weekend, I saw a very attractive woman at another bar. I was turned to the side, watching some basketball when I heard a cackle. I just knew it couldn't have come from her, but then she cackled again. Just ruined the hotness she had going for her.
So much for ever falling for me! When I laugh my kids tell me to be quiet. I tell them laughing is better then yelling!!!0 -
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Anyone that farts, picks his nose, has greasy hair, non ironed clothes, doesnt offer to buy the first drink before I do, has bad breath, bad teeth, bad manners!! :sick: Urgh!!
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You just wiped out 99% of the on-line dating world with that comment, LOL0 -
Anyone that farts, picks his nose, has greasy hair, non ironed clothes, doesnt offer to buy the first drink before I do, has bad breath, bad teeth, bad manners!! :sick: Urgh!!
You just wiped out 99% of the on-line dating world with that comment, LOL
99% of the male population actually. Women fart too!0 -
I've been talking to this guy for a few days, and very frequently he'll refer to me in the second person when speaking to me. Like "What does Sharon look for in a guy?", "What will Sharon have for dinner tonight?", "I'm curious to see what Sharon likes."
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Hell yeah we do!
Anyone that farts, picks his nose, has greasy hair, non ironed clothes, doesnt offer to buy the first drink before I do, has bad breath, bad teeth, bad manners!! :sick: Urgh!!
You just wiped out 99% of the on-line dating world with that comment, LOL
99% of the male population actually. Women fart too!
Most of that stuff I could deal with... except the bad teeth and breath. Thats just lazy poor hygene. All the other stuff are easy "fixes".0 -
I dated a guy who drank the soy sauce out of the little bowl when we were having sushi one night. I gagged a little. So yeah, bad table manners is a big no no for me.
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People who really like to debate, i.e. argue
Guys who pick their teeth, ewwwwwwwww
Bad breath, seriously stores do sell gum and mints
And of course, weird ticklers, I so don't know you that well, please don't try to find my ticklish places lol0 -
Anyone that farts, picks his nose, has greasy hair, non ironed clothes, doesnt offer to buy the first drink before I do, has bad breath, bad teeth, bad manners!! :sick: Urgh!!
You just wiped out 99% of the on-line dating world with that comment, LOL
99% of the male population actually. Women fart too!
I KNOW we all fart, but I would never fart on a date......that's what I meant, if he turns up to a date and farts etc :laugh:0 -
Hell yeah we do!
Anyone that farts, picks his nose, has greasy hair, non ironed clothes, doesnt offer to buy the first drink before I do, has bad breath, bad teeth, bad manners!! :sick: Urgh!!
You just wiped out 99% of the on-line dating world with that comment, LOL
99% of the male population actually. Women fart too!
Most of that stuff I could deal with... except the bad teeth and breath. Thats just lazy poor hygene. All the other stuff are easy "fixes".
Don't forget these are 'silly' deal breakers. Not serious, but off putting nonetheless!! Of course if everything else is perfect, then if a fart slips out it wont really matter!!! :laugh: :laugh:0 -
My silly deal breaker....a woman who wears flannel pajamas to bed!0
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My silly deal breaker....a woman who wears flannel pajamas to bed!
You've just reminded me about a guy I had a couple of dates with. He said his big TURN ON was a woman in a wynciette nightie!! (I'd say a similar look to flannel pj's, just a nightie instead of trousers)
I just could not imagine myself in a wynciette night, so I guess that was a silly deal breaker too! Although, he dumped me! :laugh:0 -
I don't like a guy that can't get dirty .. like who has to sit on his coat on the ground, or something like that.
Guys who use hairspray .. barf.
guys who can't spell. lol.0 -
My friends always make fun of me for these:
I once broke up with a guy because guy didnt know what minnestrone soup was. (He claimed to be Italian)
I never made it to date one with one guy I was talking to because he signed his email 'chow' instead of 'ciao'.
I had someone suggest taking me out to a "nice seafood dinner". It was Red Lobster - no second date for him.
If we make it to the sexy time and he snores...probably no more sleep-overs.
Ok and this is a craziest. I am totally open to race when it comes to dating. My ex-husband was white and we have a son together. However..I once dated a black guy that was super super light. He looked white. I couldnt get past it. Culturally he was totally African american but I just could get this to make sense in my head. It bothered me. Totally embarassed by this but then again apparently Im all ****ed up!0 -
I don't like a guy that can't get dirty .. like who has to sit on his coat on the ground, or something like that.
Guys who use hairspray .. barf.
guys who can't spell. lol.
you had me until this guys who can't spell. lol. darn it and your cute to now i'm going to go play with my marbles in the sand and i'm going to cry maybe make a mud puddle0 -
Ok so most of these aren't necessarily "deal breakers" but it's something I might either question, think it's weird, etc.
-A guy that carries a velcro wallet around - that's for kids and plus the noise is annoying lol - Please carry a man wallet
-A guy who has like 3 pair of shorts under his jeans - that's just completely weird
-A guy who wears his clothes really really big - please wear clothes that fit you
-A guy who would publicly wear shorts shorter than what I would wear - weird times 2
-Guys who get their eyebrows waxed - just seems so unnatural for a guy and it takes the masculine look away IMO
-Guys who use foul language every other word. If you can't say a normal sentence without using the 'f', 's', or 'b' word 99% of the time then I would definitely say that's a dealbreaker for me.0 -
Ooo whats about guys who shave their arms. I find this disturbing and freaky.Ok so most of these aren't necessarily "deal breakers" but it's something I might either question, think it's weird, etc.
-A guy that carries a velcro wallet around - that's for kids and plus the noise is annoying lol - Please carry a man wallet
-A guy who has like 3 pair of shorts under his jeans - that's just completely weird
-A guy who wears his clothes really really big - please wear clothes that fit you
-A guy who would publicly wear shorts shorter than what I would wear - weird times 2
-Guys who get their eyebrows waxed - just seems so unnatural for a guy and it takes the masculine look away IMO
-Guys who use foul language every other word. If you can't say a normal sentence without using the 'f', 's', or 'b' word 99% of the time then I would definitely say that's a dealbreaker for me.0 -
If we make it to the sexy time and he snores...probably no more sleep-overs.
I agree with this haha. I'm such a light sleeper. I can sleep with just about anything in the background... except for snoring. I will never get a wink of sleep if I'm near someone snoring.0 -
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If we make it to the sexy time and he snores...probably no more sleep-overs.
I agree with this haha. I'm such a light sleeper. I can sleep with just about anything in the background... except for snoring. I will never get a wink of sleep if I'm near someone snoring.
I thought the same thing but he was so good at everything else. Now it doesn't really bother me0 -
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My ex used to talk about himself in third-person most of the time. It drove me crazy. I'd ask him how his day was and he would respond with, "Brandon had a good day." Drove me crazy! :noway: Really don't know how I put up with it as long as I did.
He has a daughter and I always worry about how confused she's going to be when she gets a little older. She's going to start out talking with things like, "Ame is hungry." :frown:
He also used to always call his parents "Grandma" and "Grandpa." Yes, he has a child, but he did it when his daughter wasn't around too. In fact, I'm not sure I ever heard him call them by mom and dad.
...Oh wait, this wasn't a complain about your ex thread? oops.... :laugh:0 -
I hate it when guys pretend they know what they're talking about when they have no clue. Once a guy messaged me to tell me how amazing he thought it was that I'm an opera singer and that opera was his "favorite" and then proceeded to ask me why I wanted to go to the Met. Uhhh, guess you're not really an opera fan, are you :laugh:0
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-A guy who has like 3 pair of shorts under his jeans - that's just completely weird
Ummmm, what?!?!0 -
You've just reminded me about a guy I had a couple of dates with. He said his big TURN ON was a woman in a wynciette nightie!! (I'd say a similar look to flannel pj's, just a nightie instead of trousers)
I had to look this up...for us American folk, it's a nightgown. :laugh:0 -
Another one of mine might be...black sneakers. Like high top black reeboks, with jeans. For some reason, that's absolutely a no-go with me. I feel like you should be wearing a half-shirt and a Members Only jacket with it.0
