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christine24t
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I had been on three dates with this guy friend and on the end of the third he kissed my cheek. I have what I call "blackout moments" where when something embarrassing or anxiety-provoking happens, I do things that I normally don't do. In this case, I sprinted away - I think, I don't really recall, but I must have- because he later texted me "don't worry i don't bite."
We kept talking though and he asked me to hang out again. He texted me later to say that our hangout might have to be delayed because of a big project he was working on. I told him that next weekend I was going to the bar and he came out for a while. The next day, we Facebook chatted for ten minutes and that was it. Last time I heard from him - it's been about a week and a half since he has texted me, called me or chatted me on Facebook.
If this was any other person, I would say "okay, big deal he's not into me." In fact, I didn't even think I liked him like that that much to begin with, but getting the experience was good and he is honestly a really great guy and a good friend to me. The problem is though is that we are friends - and I'm going to see him on Saturday at a group hangout at his house.
I don't know what happened - I don't know if it was the awkward kiss or something else.
But I'm really dreading seeing him. Am I suppose to say something about this to him? Or am I supposed to just act like we're friends and not mention it?
We kept talking though and he asked me to hang out again. He texted me later to say that our hangout might have to be delayed because of a big project he was working on. I told him that next weekend I was going to the bar and he came out for a while. The next day, we Facebook chatted for ten minutes and that was it. Last time I heard from him - it's been about a week and a half since he has texted me, called me or chatted me on Facebook.
If this was any other person, I would say "okay, big deal he's not into me." In fact, I didn't even think I liked him like that that much to begin with, but getting the experience was good and he is honestly a really great guy and a good friend to me. The problem is though is that we are friends - and I'm going to see him on Saturday at a group hangout at his house.
I don't know what happened - I don't know if it was the awkward kiss or something else.
But I'm really dreading seeing him. Am I suppose to say something about this to him? Or am I supposed to just act like we're friends and not mention it?
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Have you made any contact with him since your last chat?
If not, I would casually message him and ask if he wants you to bring anything to this get-together at his place, just to open things up and maybe let him know you are okay with where things are between the two of you?0 -
You act just like you did when you were "dating" him and if it is important to you talk to him about what happened.
I am taking it you did not mind the kiss itself and would like to see if the whole thing can progress somewhere.
If for some reason you were put off by it then that is different and would not bring it up,just act like an acquaintance and let it go at that.
In a bigger picture thing,you maybe need to work on getting comfortable with who you are and the whole process.
As a guy have to say my reaction would have been one of confusion (I am not going to try to kiss a lady that did not indicate it was okay) as well as guilt for causing the reaction.
You don`t want that to happen if you like someone. :flowerforyou:0 -
Hey Christine, I was wondering what happened to this guy :bigsmile:
My gut feeling is the guy is confused by your reaction. He took a brave step to attempt to kiss you on the cheek. You rejected him. I feel its now up to you to talk about it with him. But if you ran away from the kiss, then do you think you can broach the subject with him? Are you sure you want to? It really depends what you want here. Do you want to hang out? Date the guy? Form a relationship with him?
If I'm not sure, and you're probably more open on here with us, than you are with him IRL, then I'm sure he hasn't got a clue what you want!! :flowerforyou:0 -
Have you made any contact with him since your last chat?
If not, I would casually message him and ask if he wants you to bring anything to this get-together at his place, just to open things up and maybe let him know you are okay with where things are between the two of you?
I agree. Just talking with him about mundane stuff will help take the uneasy edge off. If you then get comfortable enough to talk about what happened go for it when you're alone with him. But don't see any reason why you have to force that conversation if you don't want to.0 -
I am taking it you did not mind the kiss itself and would like to see if the whole thing can progress somewhere.
I actually don't think I want anything with him anymore. I feel really bad for "leading" him on but I wanted to see what would happen and if I could develop feelings for him. I liked talking to him but I got uncomfortable when things got physical, like the kiss or when he touched my thigh when we were at the movies.Hey Christine, I was wondering what happened to this guy :bigsmile:
My gut feeling is the guy is confused by your reaction. He took a brave step to attempt to kiss you on the cheek. You rejected him. I feel its now up to you to talk about it with him. But if you ran away from the kiss, then do you think you can broach the subject with him? Are you sure you want to? It really depends what you want here. Do you want to hang out? Date the guy? Form a relationship with him?
Aw haha thanks for wondering!!
I don't think I want anything with him. It's not that I don't like him, but I'm pretty sure I don't like him like that. I don't know if I ever did. I want to tell him how I feel so he doesn't think that it was him, but I don't know if I'm brave enough to tell him even though considering how much he put himself out there. I feel like I need to reciprocate that putting yourself out there. This is a wimpy move of me to avoid him - I know that!
And I don't even know if the kiss has anything to do with this, considering he talked to me a week after it happened, and then suddenly just stopped talking to me. If he was upset by it, why would he still talk to me a week after it happened? But it seems to be the only logical thing in my mind that makes me think that upset him.Have you made any contact with him since your last chat?
I actually saw him briefly last night for ten minutes, when I stopped by his house with two of my friends to say hi (he and his roommates were having a bonfire). I said hi to them as a group, and responded to things he said but stuck by my friends for the time we were there.0 -
I don't think I want anything with him. It's not that I don't like him, but I'm pretty sure I don't like him like that.
Then just friend zone him and hang out as usual.I want to tell him how I feel so he doesn't think that it was him, but I don't know if I'm brave enough to tell him even though considering how much he put himself out there.
I think he's felt the vibe and has backed off a bit. Not sure if you need to explain. Not sure I would want further rejection. I think maybe just leave it. If he approaches you for a date or more again, then obviously you'll have to say you dont see him that way :flowerforyou:0 -
I think he's felt the vibe and has backed off a bit. Not sure if you need to explain. Not sure I would want further rejection. I think maybe just leave it. If he approaches you for a date or more again, then obviously you'll have to say you dont see him that way :flowerforyou:
I think I might just have to do that. I just don't want him to think I'm still into him if I'm nice to him at all so that is why I wondered if I should say anything, but maybe I will just be silent!0 -
I am taking it you did not mind the kiss itself and would like to see if the whole thing can progress somewhere.
I actually don't think I want anything with him anymore. I feel really bad for "leading" him on but I wanted to see what would happen and if I could develop feelings for him. I liked talking to him but I got uncomfortable when things got physical, like the kiss or when he touched my thigh when we were at the movies.
Is it because you're uncomfortable with him or with the whole idea of physical contact? Or are you just embarrassed by the way you reacted and don't want to be put in the awkward position of having to make it up to him? When you ran away from him after he kissed you on the cheek, he pretty much felt totally rejected. The silly text was just a way to reassure himself and possibly save face with you. If you didn't respond to that text, then he felt like an idiot.
I'm just making a wild guess and thinking that you possibly are too shy to "put yourself out there" for him, which is something that you're going to have to get over (whether with him or somebody else in a similar situation). I'm only saying this because I was very similar to you at the age of 21 and pretty much clueless as to letting guys know I was interested, even if I knew they were interested in me. If a guy is making all the moves and not feeling that you're responding to that, he's going to move on. I know how unbelievably hard it is to put yourself out there like that, but it is worth even a few rejections once a great relationship starts to develop :-)0 -
I am taking it you did not mind the kiss itself and would like to see if the whole thing can progress somewhere.
I actually don't think I want anything with him anymore. I feel really bad for "leading" him on but I wanted to see what would happen and if I could develop feelings for him. I liked talking to him but I got uncomfortable when things got physical, like the kiss or when he touched my thigh when we were at the movies.
Is it because you're uncomfortable with him or with the whole idea of physical contact? Or are you just embarrassed by the way you reacted and don't want to be put in the awkward position of having to make it up to him? When you ran away from him after he kissed you on the cheek, he pretty much felt totally rejected. The silly text was just a way to reassure himself and possibly save face with you. If you didn't respond to that text, then he felt like an idiot.
I'm just making a wild guess and thinking that you possibly are too shy to "put yourself out there" for him, which is something that you're going to have to get over (whether with him or somebody else in a similar situation). I'm only saying this because I was very similar to you at the age of 21 and pretty much clueless as to letting guys know I was interested, even if I knew they were interested in me. If a guy is making all the moves and not feeling that you're responding to that, he's going to move on. I know how unbelievably hard it is to put yourself out there like that, but it is worth even a few rejections once a great relationship starts to develop :-)
Well said...I would have been mortified if I was the guy (sorry for the bluntness) and would be wondering what I did wrong,am I going to get a visit from the police,will mutual friends hear that I was a creep etc.0 -
I am taking it you did not mind the kiss itself and would like to see if the whole thing can progress somewhere.
I actually don't think I want anything with him anymore. I feel really bad for "leading" him on but I wanted to see what would happen and if I could develop feelings for him. I liked talking to him but I got uncomfortable when things got physical, like the kiss or when he touched my thigh when we were at the movies.
Is it because you're uncomfortable with him or with the whole idea of physical contact? Or are you just embarrassed by the way you reacted and don't want to be put in the awkward position of having to make it up to him? When you ran away from him after he kissed you on the cheek, he pretty much felt totally rejected. The silly text was just a way to reassure himself and possibly save face with you. If you didn't respond to that text, then he felt like an idiot.
I'm just making a wild guess and thinking that you possibly are too shy to "put yourself out there" for him, which is something that you're going to have to get over (whether with him or somebody else in a similar situation). I'm only saying this because I was very similar to you at the age of 21 and pretty much clueless as to letting guys know I was interested, even if I knew they were interested in me. If a guy is making all the moves and not feeling that you're responding to that, he's going to move on. I know how unbelievably hard it is to put yourself out there like that, but it is worth even a few rejections once a great relationship starts to develop :-)
I did respond to the text; I said something about how I'm awkward. I tried to laugh it off.
I think it's being uncomfortable with him. Although I've never been kissed, I have "danced" (and I'm guessing you know what kind of dancing I mean lol) with a few guys out at the bar since I've been 21. There was a boy in my class that I had a huge crush on, and since October, we've ended up dancing when we're out at the bar together. So it's not that I'm uncomfortable with physical contact, although I will say it is a new experience for me.0 -
I did respond to the text; I said something about how I'm awkward. I tried to laugh it off.
Yes, but did you tell him you liked it? That's more what I'm trying to say...all he really wants to hear is that you like him back :flowerforyou:0 -
How would you take it if you kissed a guy and he ran away? I think he is thinking wtf, this is not worth my time or effort. I would just act like friends because I think he picked up on the you are not interested vibe!0
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I did respond to the text; I said something about how I'm awkward. I tried to laugh it off.
Yes, but did you tell him you liked it? That's more what I'm trying to say...all he really wants to hear is that you like him back :flowerforyou:
No I didn't say I liked it because I didn't. It was really, really awkward!!! If you freak out about a kiss on the cheek, how about a real kiss or beyond, you know?
But I've never done this relationship/dating thing before, and we weren't even technically dating so how do you bring that up to someone? I couldn't say "I want to break up with you" you know, especially considering we're friends. Luckily he stopped texting me. But this thing on Saturday is going to be awkward because neither of us have spoken to each other in almost two weeks and we never put an official end to things - I don't know where I stand in his mind or what his intentions are.Well said...I would have been mortified if I was the guy (sorry for the bluntness) and would be wondering what I did wrong,am I going to get a visit from the police,will mutual friends hear that I was a creep etc.
It's funny actually! My roommates all thought it was the cutest thing ever and yelled at me for what I did afterwards. They were like "what happened?" and I said, "I don't know I think I blacked out!"0 -
Hey Christine, I was wondering what happened to this guy :bigsmile:
My gut feeling is the guy is confused by your reaction. He took a brave step to attempt to kiss you on the cheek. You rejected him. I feel its now up to you to talk about it with him. But if you ran away from the kiss, then do you think you can broach the subject with him? Are you sure you want to? It really depends what you want here. Do you want to hang out? Date the guy? Form a relationship with him?
If I'm not sure, and you're probably more open on here with us, than you are with him IRL, then I'm sure he hasn't got a clue what you want!! :flowerforyou:
Agree. He prob doesn't know wtf is going on lol0 -
I would say the only thing left is for everyone to figure out how to make it all his fault and call him a jerk. :ohwell:0
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No I didn't say I liked it because I didn't. It was really, really awkward!!! If you freak out about a kiss on the cheek, how about a real kiss or beyond, you know?
Seriously, this liaison is dead in the water. Go back to being how you were in the hang out situation with all your friends and stop thinking about it.
Hopefully the guy you have a crush on will jump in for a kiss and you will respond differently. To be kissed on the cheek is like an every day occurance in my life. That's how I greet my friends. I really have no idea why you're so worried about it but I understand you come from a different culture. Perhaps you should kiss your girlfriend on the cheek and get comfortable with that kind of contact? Yes, I kiss my girlfriends too.
You're going to have to start somewhere! :flowerforyou:0 -
No I didn't say I liked it because I didn't. It was really, really awkward!!! If you freak out about a kiss on the cheek, how about a real kiss or beyond, you know?
Seriously, this liaison is dead in the water. Go back to being how you were in the hang out situation with all your friends and stop thinking about it.
Hopefully the guy you have a crush on will jump in for a kiss and you will respond differently. To be kissed on the cheek is like an every day occurance in my life. That's how I greet my friends. I really have no idea why you're so worried about it but I understand you come from a different culture. Perhaps you should kiss your girlfriend on the cheek and get comfortable with that kind of contact? Yes, I kiss my girlfriends too.
You're going to have to start somewhere! :flowerforyou:
That is so funny how cultures are so much different! If I kissed my friends on the cheek I probably wouldn't have any friends lol. That was the first time I'd ever been kissed on the cheek, I think, besides my parents.0 -
No I didn't say I liked it because I didn't. It was really, really awkward!!! If you freak out about a kiss on the cheek, how about a real kiss or beyond, you know?
Seriously, this liaison is dead in the water. Go back to being how you were in the hang out situation with all your friends and stop thinking about it.
Hopefully the guy you have a crush on will jump in for a kiss and you will respond differently. To be kissed on the cheek is like an every day occurance in my life. That's how I greet my friends. I really have no idea why you're so worried about it but I understand you come from a different culture. Perhaps you should kiss your girlfriend on the cheek and get comfortable with that kind of contact? Yes, I kiss my girlfriends too.
You're going to have to start somewhere! :flowerforyou:
That is so funny how cultures are so much different! If I kissed my friends on the cheek I probably wouldn't have any friends lol. That was the first time I'd ever been kissed on the cheek, I think, besides my parents.
What? Where are you from the united republic of prudes. Lol I thought it would be pretty common place to greet someone with a kiss on the cheek as a member of the opposite sex that you are friends with? We do in my group of friends..0 -
I'm the kind that when something confusing happens, I act like it didn't happen. lol
It's probably not the best reaction but I hate having those dreadful conversations...
Oh and kissing on the cheek... we Mexicans kiss each other on the cheeks as a greeting. Both cheeks!0 -
This thread is just weird, I don't even know where to begin.
I have a few good female friends who kiss me on the cheek, not really a big deal.
A kiss on the cheek causes someone to blackout and run away? Yikes.
I wonder what you'd do if someone kissed you on your hoo-ha.
If I kiss a date on a cheek it's probably because I went in for a kiss on the lips and she turned her head the other way. Or I'm hoping she turned to meet me half way but didn't.
After three dates some sort of kiss would be expected, poor guy had to try something.
Dirty dancing with someone is not the same thing as physical affection.
You shouldn't go out on dates with guys you don't like that much to begin with.0 -
This thread is just weird, I don't even know where to begin.
I have a few good female friends who kiss me on the cheek, not really a big deal.
A kiss on the cheek causes someone to blackout and run away? Yikes.
I wonder what you'd do if someone kissed you on your hoo-ha.
If I kiss a date on a cheek it's probably because I went in for a kiss on the lips and she turned her head the other way. Or I'm hoping she turned to meet me half way but didn't.
After three dates some sort of kiss would be expected, poor guy had to try something.
Dirty dancing with someone is not the same thing as physical affection.
You shouldn't go out on dates with guys you don't like that much to begin with.
It was kind of hard to say no to him because we were friends. He started texting me and asking me to hang out alone. Because we're friends I had to assume that it was friendly, but then it became obvious it was more like dates once we went out once or twice. It wasn't like we just met off the street, so that aspect confused things.
Like I said above, I don't kiss people on the cheek and people don't kiss me on the cheek! The kiss was so awkward and unexpected, that is why I dashed away. And I don't necessarily think that three dates mean that he has to try and kiss me - I personally would prefer to move more slowly in a relationship, but from what I see on here guys don't like that so I'm probably doomed to be alone forever haha. If a guy likes me, the physical stuff shouldn't matter. Yeah, after a while I get that there should be something, but if he can't wait a few months then that is his problem. If a person likes you, they should respect your boundaries. Just saying. Girls that want to wait don't have to be discounted by men because they won't kiss on the first few dates or whatever.0 -
This thread is just weird, I don't even know where to begin.
I have a few good female friends who kiss me on the cheek, not really a big deal.
A kiss on the cheek causes someone to blackout and run away? Yikes.
I wonder what you'd do if someone kissed you on your hoo-ha.
If I kiss a date on a cheek it's probably because I went in for a kiss on the lips and she turned her head the other way. Or I'm hoping she turned to meet me half way but didn't.
After three dates some sort of kiss would be expected, poor guy had to try something.
Dirty dancing with someone is not the same thing as physical affection.
You shouldn't go out on dates with guys you don't like that much to begin with.
It was kind of hard to say no to him because we were friends. He started texting me and asking me to hang out alone. Because we're friends I had to assume that it was friendly, but then it became obvious it was more like dates once we went out once or twice. It wasn't like we just met off the street, so that aspect confused things.
Like I said above, I don't kiss people on the cheek and people don't kiss me on the cheek! The kiss was so awkward and unexpected, that is why I dashed away. And I don't necessarily think that three dates mean that he has to try and kiss me - I personally would prefer to move more slowly in a relationship, but from what I see on here guys don't like that so I'm probably doomed to be alone forever haha. If a guy likes me, the physical stuff shouldn't matter. Yeah, after a while I get that there should be something, but if he can't wait a few months then that is his problem. If a person likes you, they should respect your boundaries. Just saying. Girls that want to wait don't have to be discounted by men because they won't kiss on the first few dates or whatever.
It is one thing to have boundaries and another altogether to deny any show of affection for possibly months.
I would not expect nor do any ladies on here indicate they are interested in that if the situation was reversed.
I`m sorry but if you do want to develop a mature relationship you are going to have to develop some to go along with it.
Saying that he should only be what I want and not willing to even consider what is just reasonable for a guy to look for means you really aren`t ready to explore a partnership with someone.
No one can fix that except you.0 -
And I don't necessarily think that three dates mean that he has to try and kiss me - I personally would prefer to move more slowly in a relationship, but from what I see on here guys don't like that so I'm probably doomed to be alone forever haha. If a guy likes me, the physical stuff shouldn't matter.
The thing is, it does matter!! It matters in every single adult relationship. Its an expression of love and affection for someone. Its what separates a friendship from a relationship. It's what defines you as a couple. If the physical goes in a relationship, its not long before the whole relationship falls apart!! If I was with a guy that didnt want me physically I would be distraught! I would think there was something wrong with him. And something wrong with me. And something wrong with US!
Yeah, after a while I get that there should be something, but if he can't wait a few months then that is his problem. If a person likes you, they should respect your boundaries. Just saying. Girls that want to wait don't have to be discounted by men because they won't kiss on the first few dates or whatever.
I can understand you not wanting to lose your virginity until marriage. Or saving yourself for the ONE!! And I certainly saved mine for the ONE. I get all that. But what I dont really get is why you feel you need to wait to kiss someone.....on the cheek? Holding hands and cuddling?? Is that not allowed for months either? How will this guy know that you even like him as anything apart from a friend?
I'm not trying to corrupt you, and I'm not saying you're wrong. I think you have to do what you feel comfy with. I'm just really interested in where/why you have these boundaries?? Are your friends all the same?? Are your parents influential in this?? I was kissing boys from the age of 11. Probably younger if I include 'kiss chase' in the playground. To me, its such a natural form of affection that doesnt even enter the realms of 'sex'.
You dont have to explain if you dont want :flowerforyou:0 -
And I don't necessarily think that three dates mean that he has to try and kiss me - I personally would prefer to move more slowly in a relationship, but from what I see on here guys don't like that so I'm probably doomed to be alone forever haha. If a guy likes me, the physical stuff shouldn't matter.
The thing is, it does matter!! It matters in every single adult relationship. Its an expression of love and affection for someone. Its what separates a friendship from a relationship. It's what defines you as a couple. If the physical goes in a relationship, its not long before the whole relationship falls apart!! If I was with a guy that didnt want me physically I would be distraught! I would think there was something wrong with him. And something wrong with me. And something wrong with US!
Yeah, after a while I get that there should be something, but if he can't wait a few months then that is his problem. If a person likes you, they should respect your boundaries. Just saying. Girls that want to wait don't have to be discounted by men because they won't kiss on the first few dates or whatever.
I can understand you not wanting to lose your virginity until marriage. Or saving yourself for the ONE!! And I certainly saved mine for the ONE. I get all that. But what I dont really get is why you feel you need to wait to kiss someone.....on the cheek? Holding hands and cuddling?? Is that not allowed for months either? How will this guy know that you even like him as anything apart from a friend?
I'm not trying to corrupt you, and I'm not saying you're wrong. I think you have to do what you feel comfy with. I'm just really interested in where/why you have these boundaries?? Are your friends all the same?? Are your parents influential in this?? I was kissing boys from the age of 11. Probably younger if I include 'kiss chase' in the playground. To me, its such a natural form of affection that doesnt even enter the realms of 'sex'.
You dont have to explain if you dont want :flowerforyou:
For me, it's about feeling comfortable with someone. I'm definitely not a person who wants to wait until she gets married to have sex. If I met a guy tomorrow that I really liked, I would have sex with him outside of marriage. That doesn't matter to me at all. It's just about feeling comfortable and relaxed. And I guess I didn't feel comfortable yet with that guy.
The majority of my friends have had boyfriends or kissed people at least so no they're not like me, and my parents have no influence whatsoever, as my sister had a boyfriend for almost four years so it's not like they had rules about in - in fact, they would probably love if I dated a guy! I'm not open with my parents regarding matters like that. I was talking with that guy for a month and half and I didn't tell my parents at all. We just don't talk about things like that. I'm the weird one out in general regarding this stuff and I do know this.
I just don't get why everything has to be so physical right away - that is what scares me when I read on here that guys need physical affection from a girl to show she likes him. I want to feel comfortable with someone, and it might take a while before I do. It doesn't mean I don't like the guy.0 -
You need practice.. and I mean that in the best way possible.
If you don't experience any of these things such as kissing you're going to be in shock every time something like this happens. Take it from someone who has been there.. I didn't have any girlfriends or date anyone in high school because I was awkward and had to grow up very quickly when I was in college.. let's just say that I was a bit behind the curve and it showed with my actions. My first kiss was at 16.. then very minimal experience until I was 20.
The major downside to this is you're going through the junior high/high school emotional phase while almost everyone else has already been there and doesn't take things as heavily. When people are in their 20's they expect some sort of physical reciprocation, it doesn't have to be sex but I don't think I'd give a woman the time of day if she ran away from me after something as simple as a kiss on the cheek.
Go make out with someone and don't put so much weight on things. Again, my opinion, but I know how hard it is to be behind the curve..0 -
I just don't get why everything has to be so physical right away - that is what scares me when I read on here that guys need physical affection from a girl to show she likes him. I want to feel comfortable with someone, and it might take a while before I do. It doesn't mean I don't like the guy.
Ok, when you like a guy and feel comfortable with him it should all fall into place. It seems that you haven't had that feeling yet. I hope it happens for you soon, cos its awesome!! :bigsmile: And YOU will want to get physical when you feel it!! It's not about sex, its more about touching someone you feel affection for. Its what we humans do best. That's where it starts.......just from a touch.... dont be scared of this, its the most natural thing in the world :flowerforyou:0 -
The major downside to this is you're going through the junior high/high school emotional phase while almost everyone else has already been there and doesn't take things as heavily
yep this is definitely how I feel!Go make out with someone and don't put so much weight on things. Again, my opinion, but I know how hard it is to be behind the curve..
Haha trust me I've wanted to be kissed since I was in middle school but no one has ever liked me like that to do it! All the guys I have liked enough to let them kiss me have not shown any interest in me whatsoever.
I just don't get why everything has to be so physical right away - that is what scares me when I read on here that guys need physical affection from a girl to show she likes him. I want to feel comfortable with someone, and it might take a while before I do. It doesn't mean I don't like the guy.
Ok, when you like a guy and feel comfortable with him it should all fall into place. It seems that you haven't had that feeling yet. I hope it happens for you soon, cos its awesome!! :bigsmile: And YOU will want to get physical when you feel it!! It's not about sex, its more about touching someone you feel affection for. Its what we humans do best. That's where it starts.......just from a touch.... dont be scared of this, its the most natural thing in the world :flowerforyou:
Thank you I think that is true...hopefully!0 -
I didn't get any attention when I was younger. It was weird when I started to get attention. I was lost.
If I could do it all over again? Find someone, a friend, that I was comfortable with to experience it with. That way, when it happens, and you'll be 100x more nervous then, at least it won't be new territory.0 -
I didn't get any attention when I was younger. It was weird when I started to get attention. I was lost.
If I could do it all over again? Find someone, a friend, that I was comfortable with to experience it with. That way, when it happens, and you'll be 100x more nervous then, at least it won't be new territory.
I find this hard to believe, you look like such a dish @j4nash! :bigsmile:
And that's not a bad idea @Christine, ask a friend to help out so you dont build up too much anxiety about it :flowerforyou:0 -
I didn't get any attention when I was younger. It was weird when I started to get attention. I was lost.
If I could do it all over again? Find someone, a friend, that I was comfortable with to experience it with. That way, when it happens, and you'll be 100x more nervous then, at least it won't be new territory.
I find this hard to believe, you look like such a dish @j4nash! :bigsmile:
And that's not a bad idea @Christine, ask a friend to help out so you dont build up too much anxiety about it :flowerforyou:
Thank you
I am 6'11" and people from high school don't even recognize me.. and there are not many people in this world my height. I've changed significantly since then. It was a weird transition. 0
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