Would need to know the time frame he is talking as well as what "a lot" is to him.

I think they were having a conversation in that early getting to know each other stage of dating. I would not read anything into it...Ive also dated a lot of women. Im 38 and have been divorced for 6 years. It doesnt mean anything when I say it, other than some hilarious first date stories.

I am learning though that everything a man says, at least in the early stages, is going to be examined relentlessly by women. That is a bit off putting because I dont want to be nor will I be on guard when I say things and it seems random non important comments end things with women before they ever get started. That sucks.

I think they were having a conversation in that early getting to know each other stage of dating. I would not read anything into it...Ive also dated a lot of women. Im 38 and have been divorced for 6 years. It doesnt mean anything when I say it, other than some hilarious first date stories.

I am learning though that everything a man says, at least in the early stages, is going to be examined relentlessly by women. That is a bit off putting because I dont want to be nor will I be on guard when I say things and it seems random non important comments end things with women before they ever get started. That sucks.

Usually to the wrong conclusion too.

Oh, and wear more dresses.

I really do not think over analyzing has anything to do with gender. There are some women who over analyze and some who do not and I know for a fact men do the same. I have noticed that women tend to talk more about it where men seem to mull it over quietly, but that's just my personal experience and it could differ for everyone.

From what I've experienced and noticed, people over analyze when they're not confident in the situation, the person, or themselves so I think they just tend to over explore the potential outcomes. There's nothing wrong with it; that's how you learn what works for you and what doesn't and it also helps you prepare for whatever the outcome is. Once you build confidence in yourself, the relationship, or whatever the scenario is, you'll start letting go of the analyzing.

I think there was maybe too much thought into this guy too quickly. If your friend is interested in him, but was confused by what he said then she should just discuss it with him directly when the time is right. It could be as simple as he has dated a lot. It only takes one special person to change someone saying, I dated a lot to I now want to date just you.

Sidebar: I liked the way they met. I'd try this with my dog, but he would just sit at my front door waiting for me to open it...terrible wing man.

I've dated a lot. It doesn't mean that I'm not open to a long term serious relationship, I just haven't met the right person in a while. You may be reading into it a little too much. It also depends on the context of the rest of the conversation.

I'd have your "friend" ask him what his intentions are. He may very well have had a messy divorce and doesn't want anything serious, or he could just be waiting for the right one. Either way it might be best to keep the kid out of it until they know it will be more than just a fling.

I really do not think over analyzing has anything to do with gender. There are some women who over analyze and some who do not and I know for a fact men do the same. I have noticed that women tend to talk more about it where men seem to mull it over quietly, but that's just my personal experience and it could differ for everyone.

From what I've experienced and noticed, people over analyze when they're not confident in the situation, the person, or themselves so I think they just tend to over explore the potential outcomes. There's nothing wrong with it; that's how you learn what works for you and what doesn't and it also helps you prepare for whatever the outcome is. Once you build confidence in yourself, the relationship, or whatever the scenario is, you'll start letting go of the analyzing.

I think there was maybe too much thought into this guy too quickly. If your friend is interested in him, but was confused by what he said then she should just discuss it with him directly when the time is right. It could be as simple as he has dated a lot. It only takes one special person to change someone saying, I dated a lot to I now want to date just you.

Sidebar: I liked the way they met. I'd try this with my dog, but he would just sit at my front door waiting for me to open it...terrible wing man.

I think this detailed analysis proves my point... ;-)

--P

:laugh: Touche.

I have known "mull it over" guys but not "mull it over quietly" guys.

Also, I'm a little bit irked by the suggestion that if a woman is upset over something a man said, she is necessarily overanalyzing. Maybe he's being a self-centered prick and she's had enough of his BS. There comes a point, when you really care about a person, where you start thinking about how your words and actions affect that person. It's called mental and emotional adulthood. Having a penis and being "simple" does not absolve you of any responsibility for the words that come out of your mouth.

I call bull shenanigans.

Men analyze just as much as women do! I hear it all the time

I have known "mull it over" guys but not "mull it over quietly" guys.

Also, I'm a little bit irked by the suggestion that if a woman is upset over something a man said, she is necessarily overanalyzing. Maybe he's being a self-centered prick and she's had enough of his BS. There comes a point, when you really care about a person, where you start thinking about how your words and actions affect that person. It's called mental and emotional adulthood. Having a penis and being "simple" does not absolve you of any responsibility for the words that come out of your mouth.