Help me curb the jealousy!
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Just think of it as being a great example/role model to your friend. While I take no joy from my friends struggles and when they gain the weight back, I think of it as hey, I am here waiting for you for when this phase of juicing backfires. Sure, EM2WL can be so hard. But I think its harder to see weight drop quickly, only to come back on and I feel like a complete failure for not being able to have enough "self-control" to keep it off.
I can't imagine she feels great. I would think she would feel tired and light-headed along with other things. She loves the weight loss but I bet there is more going on she doesn't like and won't be able to keep up with eating this way.
You are not just doing EM2WL for you. You are doing this to show everyone that you can still eat and feel great, enjoy life while losing fat and then maintaining.
As a side note: I don't really talk about how awful I feel out loud or about losing fat or anything. I am very aware of the fact I have 3 daughters and my priority is health so they know I like to eat healthy and workout to gain muscle and have a strong heart. We definitely talk about things, but I never refer to myself in a negative manner. It broke my heart yesterday when my oldest, who will be 9 in Sept, told me at lunch she is going to try to eat less so she doesn't get fat. Obviously I talked to her about it and she's very tall and thin anyway. She spent the weekend with my In-Laws and DH's Aunts and such who talk non-stop about how fat they are and so on. Drives me absolutely nuts when people talk without thinking around kids. They are definitely listening. My Grandma always says, "They didn't learn it from no stranger!"
I thought you might appreciate this:
http://jezebel.com/5921867/what-do-you-do-when-your-10+year+old-girl-says-shes-fat?popular=true
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Thank you spotlight!
I even had to bookmark that :laugh:0 -
I am in 5th week of reset and told my husband this morning that I couldn't wait to go to cut because I KNOW that I'm growing muscle under the fat....I'm stronger with some awesome strength NSV's to prove it. To be able to to melt fat off and show muscle that already exists because I ate enough to build it up in the first place is going to be AWESOME!
God, you and me both!! I am dying to see the inches melt off when cut hits, cause I know eith the amount of lifting I have done in the past 8 weeks, there damn well better be something there!!
To the OP, believe me, I can understand the feeling of jealousy. My GF joined the weight loss wagon in January and she has lost about 45 pounds eating basically 1000-1200 cals a day.. We had a get together last weekend for donuts and she refused to eat more than a morsel of chicken at dinner because she wanted the cals for her donut later.. I on the other hand had a great dinner and eat 2 donuts, and didnt feel guilty in the least:)
While I am thrilled she has lost the weight, I am uber jealous that she is now the exact same weight as me, and I havent budged in 3 months. But I know that she will eventually crash off her diet plan, or she will forever be miserable for the little amount of food she is eating.. I will never again have to fear a donut party, or equivalent again0 -
I know how that feels!
I guess I would just say do your best to be genuinly happy for her progress and try not to attach it to yours because one has nothing to do with the other. Our value as people has nothing to do with our weight!!!!0 -
Just think of it as being a great example/role model to your friend. While I take no joy from my friends struggles and when they gain the weight back, I think of it as hey, I am here waiting for you for when this phase of juicing backfires. Sure, EM2WL can be so hard. But I think its harder to see weight drop quickly, only to come back on and I feel like a complete failure for not being able to have enough "self-control" to keep it off.
I can't imagine she feels great. I would think she would feel tired and light-headed along with other things. She loves the weight loss but I bet there is more going on she doesn't like and won't be able to keep up with eating this way.
You are not just doing EM2WL for you. You are doing this to show everyone that you can still eat and feel great, enjoy life while losing fat and then maintaining.
As a side note: I don't really talk about how awful I feel out loud or about losing fat or anything. I am very aware of the fact I have 3 daughters and my priority is health so they know I like to eat healthy and workout to gain muscle and have a strong heart. We definitely talk about things, but I never refer to myself in a negative manner. It broke my heart yesterday when my oldest, who will be 9 in Sept, told me at lunch she is going to try to eat less so she doesn't get fat. Obviously I talked to her about it and she's very tall and thin anyway. She spent the weekend with my In-Laws and DH's Aunts and such who talk non-stop about how fat they are and so on. Drives me absolutely nuts when people talk without thinking around kids. They are definitely listening. My Grandma always says, "They didn't learn it from no stranger!"
AMEN!!! I agree with you 100%!!!! I DO NOT talk down to myself in front of my girls because I refuse to make them ? themselves in light of my goals. My daughter knows that I am working out to be healthy and live a long life.0 -
I am in 5th week of reset and told my husband this morning that I couldn't wait to go to cut because I KNOW that I'm growing muscle under the fat....I'm stronger with some awesome strength NSV's to prove it. To be able to to melt fat off and show muscle that already exists because I ate enough to build it up in the first place is going to be AWESOME!
OMG! YES YES YES! Reading this just pumped me up even more! I am feeling the same way and just CANNOT wait to get to CUT so I can see this fat start to fall off! Totally pumped. Another reason why I love you ladies on here! So motivating!0
