I'm currently going through this in the worst way I ever have in my life with my girlfriend's family hating me because they believe I "made her gay".... they loved me before they knew we had anything going on and now her mother can't even say my name, see me in the same room and is forcing my girlfriend to pick between me and the Bible/her faith-- that's another story in itself of how that is transpiring.


I personally just shrug their ignorance and intolerance off and know that in the future, the hate will cease to exist as much. I rely on those closest to me (whether they're LGBT+ or not). I explain my views to whoever will listen if they agree with me and tell them that I would not force my opinion down their throat just as I do not want theirs shoved down mine.

Stay strong. As cliche as it sounds, it gets better. :flowerforyou:

Thank you . I'm pretty level-headed and have dealt with it well since I came out (5 years ago). In reference to your situation, you must be her first known gf. Parents like to blame the partner in the first "out" relationship, sadly. My mother has more of a distaste for my first gf (she never met her) than she does for my current one whom I am attached to at the hip lol. It's so silly. My theory about parents who don't approve of a same-sex relationship is that above all else parents want the best for their children. That is a gift and a curse. It is a curse in terms of the religious aspect (they think that is best) BUT it's a gift in the sense that if a parent witnesses someone loving their child, making them genuinely happy, and sticking with them they usually automatically soften and develop a level of respect for the relationship. Even if if takes a while, even if things are never on particularly "good" terms, they back off a bit just from experience.

Yeah, there's a bunch to the story and I'm basically coming to the same conclusions that you have about the situation... it's just a big bunch of crazy. Keeps me motivated and in the gym to work off my frustration though lol gotta have a plus somewhere! :drinker:

Lol right! Good luck

Hya peeps:) I am a straight female and I really can't understand the fuss either. I am yet to have children with my husband, but we've talked about it. We both just wouldn't give a damn whether our child was gay, straight or any other variation on lovely. I just don't want them to turn out to be an *kitten*. I wonder why people set themselves up for so much heartbreak by striving for this tiny narrow window of what is 'acceptable'.

I think that you can analyse the whys forever, but the reality is that alot of people just suck.

Thanks for your response . I hear ya. I know no one will ever really know why, especially across the board. People are just plain silly for many reasons (including that they just suck). My gf and I hope to raise well adjusted children who don't suck and aren't of the *kitten* variety one day as well lol.