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Yes, it can be subjective. She originally described herself as very thin, as I specified in that statement. She later corrected herself and said she *used to be*, which makes a big difference. Frankly, I rarely believe people when they say how many calories they are eating.

I'm with retroguy. I think you should try dumbells. Split squats and lunges could be helpful. But I've heard that machines can exacerbate muscle imbalances whereas dumbells force both sides to work.

I'd say lean bulk and focus on plenty of protein.

Yup. That's exactly what happened to m e with intermittent fasting. "Saving calories" can work for some people, but for me, nope.

That's making a big assumption. It's really common in the dieting community to use laxatives to "clean yourself out" and make your weight go down. People that do this are likely to have issues. Given that the op asks about constipation slowing weight loss, they could be teetering towards doing this. But yes, your average…

Absolutely agree. I think this is one of the biggest issues.

This really is a conversation to have with your doctor. Describing yourself as extremely thin and eating 1200 or fewer calories really is textbook eating disorder. Unless you have cancer. Either of which necessitates a doctor's help.

Don't forget water. Lots of water.

"They wish they had someone to share their life with" therein lies the problem in many modern societies. We see a spouse as our everything. In reality, we share our lives with many people. It is a societal expectation that we "share our life" with our significant other. Some of the times I felt the loneliest in my life…

😂 that's what I did... I used to bring a family size bag of cheetos into work and plow through it throughout the day. Then, I decided "ok, no more bags of cheetos at work". It made a big difference.

You got this. You've realized the most important thing... it's the small changes we make to our lifestyle (ie the diet soda rather than the slushie) that are what create true, long term weight loss and maintenence.

🤣 that's exactly what I do. I tell myself... huh, there must just be some loose flooring where the scale was or something. Oh the things we do for our sanity.

Yup. That's exactly what happened to me..

At the end of the day, you have to want to. I think you know it doesn't take an hour to make a decent meal, which tells me tou may be mentally exaggerating things just a bit to excuse yourself from doing it. And if you don't want to, that's ok. But if you do want to, pick yourself up and just do it. You can eat the same…

You wouldn't repeat the pattern, you would stay at 1500 calories. That's where the misunderstanding is. I believe they think people's advice was to cut 300 calories MORE out every day. It likely wasn't. It was probably to cut 300 calories out, then stay at that. In this example, if you were eating 1800 calories, then to…

Exactly this. There's no shame in realizing that you need a readjustment due to whatever changes going on, and returning to calorie counting to help with that. I used intermittent fasting for over a year with no need to count calories. Until something changed. Then I went back to calorie counting. It doesn't need to be an…

Like Ann said, you certainly can. And if you really, really want to, you can try it for yourself and see how it works for you. The primary issue will probably be that you get too hungry. Otherwise, it's a good idea to keep a varied diet for good nutrition (you know, like Mom always said, eat your veggies).

I feel like it's mostly the online fitness culture that is particularly toxic. I've never experienced that level of toxicity at a gym, or anywhere else, really. Mainly online. But, the internet promotes that kind of toxicity, because it increases engagement. We hate it, but at the same time we love it. Nobody wants to hear…

All of the above is good advice, so I will just add.... sometimes it can be helpful to give yourself a planned diet break after, say, six months of dieting. What I've seen recommended is giving yourself at least a 6 to 12 week break after six months where you eat at maintenence instead of trying to lose. Then go back to…

I'm glad you were lucky enough to find that. And I agree, mutual respect is one of the most important things in any relationship.

How long have you been married for? I would, of course, assume you've NEVER been divorced, so I won't ask that. How many kids do you have? How old? If they're adults, are they married yet?

Definitely start with the tracking. Make sure you're being as honest and accurate as possible when tracking it all. Sometimes we can really surprise ourselves with what we find out about what we're eating.

A half pound per week is a good rate. Also, you mention you're still breastfeeding. Too steep of a deficit and you milk production cam slow or even stop. So it's a good thing your weight loss slowed. Your body is trying to make sure you can feed your baby.

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*Maintain* BMR+ burned calories= Daily caloric intake. Boom! Good points. Basically, yes. A bit oversimplified, sure. I do, however, disagree about willpower. None of us have Will Tennyson Willpower. I've generally relied more on routine than willpower. I eat lower calorie density foods so I'm full and not fighting with…

Oh, trust me, they do tell people with depression that. Add in "you don't have anything to be depressed about, just get over it and stop acting like a spoiled brat"

You can do it, just don't give up, stick with it. Nothing worth doing is easy, or it wouldn't be worth doing.

I second what csplatt said.

🙌💥 preach!

Having had similar experiences myself, I would recommend focusing primarily on your mental health first. My weight issues improved as my mental health improved. Keep up the walking if you can. Try tracking your calories to whatever extent you are able.