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Applebee's Santa Fe Chicken Salad. I think it was around 1400 calories. And I thought I was making a "healthier choice" lol.

The woman dropped a lot of weight quickly and suffered from clear signs of malnourishment and blames those feelings on the feeling of being thin.

I've always had long, skinny fingers and they got even skinnier as I lost weight. Had to get my wedding ring taken down from a 6 to a 4.5 with just a 30 pound loss.

:flowerforyou: Thank you! I have been focusing on glutes/hammies. I want my @$$ to be round and perky not flat and wide like my before picture.

~21" of pure, sexy muscle

Left pictures I was ~133, middle around ~127, right I had purposefully bulked back up to ~135.

Dating for three months and you still don't trust her? Time to move on, buddy.

I don't think there is much benefit to only staying at maintenance for 2 weeks, unless it is just to eat more around the holidays. I would think a good "metabolism reset" would take longer. However, you're not likely to do any damage either.

Of all the things you say you are doing, counting calories is not one of them. If you want to lose weight you need to eat less calories than you burn. The only way to guarantee that you are doing this is to accurate track what you eat and reduce that until you begin losing.

We spend ~$40 on each (of two) nephew of my DH's. We basically just call up the SIL and ask her what the boys want that she isn't planning on buying herself. My sister is preggers with her first, and I plan on switching from buying my sister gifts to buying my niece gifts.

I don't like kids much but that was one pretty baby that grew into one pretty toddler. Wow.

People let their toddlers run around chemistry labs here. It baffles my mind.

Flavored coffee (Godiva makes a blend, I kid you not). Skim milk. Less creamer and sugar. Or, just stop drinking it. Clearly you don't like coffee so what's the point?

First warm up the muscles a bit (~5 minutes of light cardio). It is recommended that you more specifically warm up muscles before a lift by doing body weight or light weight reps of the lift (i.e. body weight squats before a back squat) to make sure everything is ready before jumping in. Stretching after will probably make…

Honestly, your new found confidence may be contributing to this new interest more than you realize. And I will be frank with you, while emotional issues may have contributed to your obesity, you shouldn't completely absolve yourself from responsibility. If you take on the responsibility for overeating, you will take away…

Muscle definition is a goal of mine.

Since you are new to lifting and are likely still undermuscled/overfat, you are in the unique and shortlived position that will allow you some muscle gains while in a calorie deficit. I would suggest you continue to keep a moderate (15-20% from TDEE) calorie deficit while doing a full-body, heavy weight lifting routine…

Hourglass. I lift heavy, full body, 3x a week. I naturally have a balanced musculature so I design my workouts to keep it that way. If you are a pear, you could consider emphasizing upper back/lat exercises to broaden out your topside to balance your bottom. Or just do full body and embrace the pear (a desirable shape…

You still want to lose another 40 pounds. Losing that will help. However, there is a good chance that lifting weights will give you aesthetic results much quicker.

A 45# bar isn't that much more than 2x15# dumbbells..... The first day I ever tried a squat, I did the bar, and it was too easy.

Squats, deadlifts, straight leg deadlifts, glute bridges, lunges etc. with weights are all good butt workouts. The real question is, what do you mean by tone? Do you want to lose fat on your butt? Do the above with a calorie deficit. To you want to build a bigger, shapelier rear? Do the above with a calorie surplus.

Maybe our goals aren't all about what would make YOU want to date us?

Those look like maybe 15#, not really a heavy weight for most women. Especially for legs. Together, they probably weigh as much as a 4 year old child.

That's my point. The difference are subtle but they are what make the VS pictures into the "ideal" bodies that people think they want. The models have tiny legs and stomachs but VS STILL SHRINKS THEM!

Look closer, there are many changes that the author of the blog missed. Almost all of the shopped images have also had the legs slenderized and the waists raised and narrowed. A few have clearly had their arms shrunk (which seriously, the as-is arms are all twigs so that seems a little redundant).

Geez. Maybe the kid didn't see her or had someplace to be. He's a college student not a doorman.

I have a 24" waist and 14" calves. I think my calves are d*mned sexy.

You are overweight. Your calves need to be big because they need to carry you around all day. If you lose weight, your calves will get smaller. Do you wear a lot of high heels? This will contribute to larger calf muscle. Trying to lose calf muscle on purpose will result in you losing muscle all over, which is very bad for…

Step 1: Realize this is a personal choice for you. This means you don't NEED other people to understand. You don't NEED people to support your choice. You don't need to ruin everyone else's holiday cheer to accomplish it. Step 2: Realize that you can still participate in group situations that revolve around food and still…

VS Models =/= "toned" They are skinny. The skinny look and toned look are different and are achieved by different means.