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Three meals a day is a modern luxury. People would have been extinct long ago if they were permanently trashed by lean periods. Ramadan would be a disaster. The sky is falling!!! Etc.

Other than telling them that they're doing the parenting thing wrong here? Sometimes talking helps, sometimes it just makes things worse. You need to judge that one for yourself though. Parents are people. Flawed, annoying people. As a parent, I can say that there are topics where my opinions are probably worth diddly…

I think a lot of things can be aging. People slip into styles of hair and clothes that make them feel bland, so they don't glow. Find something that makes you glow. When someone has no inner glow, they look older and feel older. Change hairdresser, go clothes shopping with someone who has a totally different style to you,…

Correlation ≠ causation The advent of Aircon coincided with the advent of a lot of labour saving devices. Anecdotally, if you notice more obese people using Aircon, it could just be that being obese makes people suffer more in the heat. I'm not going to say it's impossible that there's a slight impact, but I'd want to see…

Anyone who has unkind thoughts isn't the sort of person whose thoughts should matter. If you can afford to, you deserve to buy yourself workout clothes that make you comfortable. It's an investment in yourself. You're braver than I am! I do all my running (and most of my walking) at 5am, because I hate being watched.…

Take as many calories you think you're burning, and divide it by ten :p

Oh, that was a walk! A nice, brisk walk. I think the dogs might have actually died if we'd run it :p as it was, Big Eddie needed halfway ice cream to bribe him to walk back.

I don't have a routine. I lift when I get the urge to lift, walk when I get the urge to walk, run if I feel like running, etc. I find myself getting fewer injuries that way, and I'm only ever doing something I want to be doing. Yesterday I went just under 8 miles. Today I've done nothing. I can't even speculate on…

I'm not a doctor, but I think common sense would say to listen to your body. Listen for the first twinges of injury, or signs of being run down and over stretched. If you feel good all over, you're probably fine.

Drinking buckets of water isn't necessary! That whole, "if a bit of something is good for you, then a whole lot of it is even better!" reasoning can be dangerous. As long as you're drinking enough to feel hydrated and keep your pee a healthy shade, you're doing fine. If you sweat more, drink extra. No magical formula…

Maybe you need to find another outlet for your emotions, so that you don't need to rely on food as much. If not, you're going to have a whole heap of feelings you aren't used to facing. Therapy? Art? Yoga? Prayer? Meditation? Knitting? Journalling? Whatever works for you!

That's what I'd do! I don't have people in my life if I feel like they aren't good for me. That includes friends and family members. But it'd be a dull.world if everyone was the same :)

Honesty. You just need to tell her it bothers you. just explain that sometimes you just need to talk about things and that her listening is a great support, but that you need to work out your own solutions.

Not me. Obviously. I'm eternally youthful.

Repeat after me, "If you don't want what I've made, make your own dinner!" "If you don't like what I've bought, do your own shopping!" I was a mean mother.

I've worked in elder care. I've seen what difference a healthy lifestyle can make. We all kick the bucket eventually, but I've seen a whole lot of drawn out ways I don't want to go, and most of the suffering was preventable. Besides which, being healthy looks good and feels good.

Sounds like you already have the right idea. It's probably a good idea to talk it over with your Dr/midwife, who can help you monitor and adjust. And congratulations! Make the most of sleeping while you still can :)

Good luck! There's plenty of old codgers on here, with similarly long histories of pastry abuse, now making good progress. You'll fit right in!

This is my favourite thread ever.

You're going to crash and burn. Well, unless you're 4 foot tall and lightly built? Honestly, I've never met anyone who crash dieted and then maintained long term. Getting healthy is more important than winning an imaginary race to look good in a swimsuit, the numbers on the scale are the tool not the goal.

I don't do TV, but this is on my phone. <3

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I was mostly single for 15 years, and I find that list kinda insulting. Personally, I was single because I had no inclination to settle for someone who didn't make me incredibly happy and give me the vast quantities of adoration and support that I feel entitled to. Waiting paid off, because I'm now living out the happily…

I've turned to my now (relatively civilised) adult children and said, loud enough for the stressed out mother to hear, "you used to do that!". I hope for the double win, of letting the mother know that we've all been there and they grow out of it, and of embarrassing my kids (who absolutely deserve it!) >:)

That's why I think you need to talk to a pro. Arnold in his prime was probably obese if you just go by weight. Maybe they'll get the calipers on you, or use some more technological method, but they'll be able to give you a better answer.

If you don't have bigger than average muscles, like a bodybuilder, you're probably quite overweight for your height. You're better off asking someone in the flesh though, like a trainer or doctor, who can see your body type and give you a more educated and informed opinion.

I was lucky, in that the first therapist my Dr advised was good for me. I saw another a few years later, and she made me feel quite violated so I never went back. I think that, unless you have negative feelings towards them, you don't really have to connect in order for them to understand your issues and for you to benefit…

Truth. They should be open minded to the fact that I am right.

The inability to accept that I'm right.

Get a checkup. Obviously. Rule out any medical reasons before pushing yourself. If your Dr says it's safe, build up gradually.