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This is totally false.

With what as grounds? Your registered nurse made a suggestion, and I don't want to comply? Nobody is forcing anything here. The parent doesn't have to do anything except say "no thanks."

Wow, you're taking this waaaay to personally. You're creating a lot of unnecessary emotions here. (I refer to this as drama) Just say "Thanks, but we're on top of things, and see the pediatrician regularly." The end.

I haven't read all of the replies, but what is concerning is the way he speaks to you. Whether you want to to think so or not, this is abusive. I mean- this isn't going to stop as your daughter gets older and able to understand him. You know this, right? I hope you want more for her than that? (I have a daughter, and ended…

Caffeine is a stimulant- stimulants curb hunger. Your problem is the cream. I'm also a sweet/white coffee drinker, but I use about a tsp of sugar and 2 ounces of 1% milk for every 16 oz of coffee. As others are saying, cut the cream.

Referrals and IEP reports are the main duties of a school nurse. (I also work in a school) I'd guess she's an RN doing part of her job- a discussion is not a big deal- she's doing her job and trying to help, and a lot of families don't have the resources or knowledge, and would appreciate the support. The family always has…

Depends on who, I'll add. The first time my high school boyfriend declared his love we were on a mountain trail and found an enormous dog without an owner. I refused to leave the dog, and spent 2 hours coaxing it to come with us. I apologized for being stubborn about it, and boyfriend said "this is why I love you..." A…

I go back and forth. Lately, it's back (am eating waay too much sugar). I know I can cycle it around when I'm more active. Activity dictates things for me. No activity=bad eating.

This. I was actually afraid to sleep with last boyfriend because I just knew it would be bad- like ONLY soft focused slow motion passive "love-making." COMPLETELY the opposite of what I expected.

I took my daughter yesterday. Super cute, and even though part of me wanted to hate the sugar rush land- it was really the perfect Candyland/Oz. Nothing like the animated under-dog winning in the end.

Agree with others who are skeptical of David. The texts you describe are clearly inappropriate to send to someone in a committed relationship. Ask him what his intentions are, or if you are uncomfortable doing that and also unsure if he would be interested in a relationship if you broke up with Philip, then I'd totally…

Totally agree with wariness of labeling. Despite being in the DSM-IV, ODD isn't really a disorder- just a label for a group of behaviors that don't have an identified root cause. "I would suggest getting a second opinion, especially before giving your daughter a mental health label. It is hard to shake those once you've…

Music, cleaning the kitchen sink, pilates (at home now instead of at a studio) and "mommy needs a time out" meaning I go into my room and close the door for 15 min- no dog, no daughter (also have a 7 yr old girl) . But, I'd say the best thing to bring me back into emotional homeostasis is walking fast. I make it into a…

I'd say my married life was MUCH more selfish than my single life. I had another person completely centered on my needs. Even though it was reciprocal- it felt pretty selfish. Single life is all about my kid, dog, and very needy kids at work, so it's possibly just my circumstances.

I absolutely tried to ignore this, but REALLY?! I feel kinda sad for you that this has been your 30 yrs of experience with women. Lots of men (even your age and younger) genuinely enjoy and respect women, and that's the treatment they get in return. Sorry.

I love this- one of the funniest string of words that I've ever read. I seriously heart incongruity. Regarding the doll, I'm 100% all for breast feeding (I combined breast and bottle with my kid), but I've met too many crazy rigid breastfeeding tyrants, and this doll seems completely their domain. It feels like some kind…

You know, even though there is the"should have done something for others" piece, it's probably not actually worth having regrets about it because then they still have an element of power. Gross. I need to reconsider whether this should really be a regret. For you, 16 is waaay too young for there to be any expectation of…

I didn't think I was into the idea of regrets or no regrets until I read this. I completely relate. I was 17- 18 and this *kitten* was one of my bosses. It was so disgusting that I was in full denial for awhile. Like- I must not be understanding what he's saying because he has a regional accent, or the 4 foot berth I've…

Didn't read the article(sorry) , but the number of people here that are not interested or apathetic sort if surprises me; not sure why. Unfortunately, I do want to get married again (forever) and am doing nothing right now to make that happen. I realize it's just a piece of paper or even less romantically- a contract, but…

She's clearly using the word "hate" as an exaggerated expression of her frustration, not as a judgement of her son. It's "judgy" and self righteous to post something in response simply saying "parents are a reflection of their kids, blah blah you are essentially a bad parent, so shut up."

Your underlying anxiety issues didn't "ruin things" and she did not break up with you because of outside forces (daughter, nursing exam). These are things that can be worked through if both people are willing. She clearly has a lot of stuff going that you are probably in denial about because of your feelings for her. You…

That's awesome and helpful. Edit: To the OP: ignore the *****y/judgy comments from people who do not have children or whose children are under ten.

It sound like you are aware of the dangers of enabling him, so that's in your corner- good for you. So, does he know what the consequences will be if he doesn't work/finish high school in a certain amount of time?If he's not attending school is he expected to work and pay rent? If he's not productive does he realize that…

While this is an extreme example of hateful craziness, don't give up on empathy! I think anyone who reads your description would want to give you a hug and then turn around and tear up that entire scene of *****y moms. While I'm saying don't give up on empathy, I really hate that this kind of cannibalism is totally out…

While this might seem a little too elemental- I agree to an extent. I'd put him on the very periphery because otherwise he's the model for comparison, and nobody will compare. Also, isn't there some kind of guy adage about "eff a hundred to get over one?" Not suggesting that exactly, but I've healed to a degree by engaging…

It does go both ways because people regardless of sex are judged and included or excluded based on outward appearance all the time, but I think there's an argument that there's precedent to women being reduced to this kind of judgement alone a lot more often than men. This sentence out of context:"The women who care more…

That string of words= vomitorium But- in some cases (not all) I am afraid there could be some kind of unpleasant positive feedback loop.

I think this depends on how you feel. If he is actually "constantly" texting he might need to hear something explicit to get the message. I think it also depends on how much you've responded. I felt okay about disappearing because I hadn't really responded much in the first place. Good luck.

Time investment tells me whether or not this is out of the ordinary. It's probably more irritating because this guy came on so strongly in the beginning with all the texting- raising expectations. Sorry. Generally, it's just a few dates "the conversation" isn't really necessary. I've disappeared this way, but also felt…

This is a big deal! The first noticeable change seems to me to be the most important. Also, clothes that are too tight are HORRIBLE to wear. I bet you feel great- nice job!