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Uh-oh, sorry! Meant "formal apology halloween costume" There should be images of people in formal wear with an "I'm sorry" sign worn around their necks or pinned to their clothes. It's not super popular, but enough so that there should be image results.

Google "formal apology" If I can squeeze into my mother's prom dress I'm going to do this. The male equivalent would have to be nicer than a 60's prom dress, though. (Maybe a tux)

I agree with the "nice guys are often whiny" idea, and actually tried explain that to a nice guy friend last night, but I struggled to be constructive vs. critical, so I shut up. What I wonder about is this intangible "mystery/danger" piece. I think I've always dated "bad boys" to a degree, and I could never get a good…

My experiences with this tell me to keep my daughter as uninvolved as possible until it's unavoidable that she be introduced. I could give examples and explanations, but long story short: it was very hard to console my daughter through the loss of the fantasy life she wanted with my last boyfriend and his daughter while I…

I very much agree with the idea of going against "type" but in reality this is the hardest thing I've ever tried to do. It's not a physical type, but a way of functioning in a relationship that's hard to screen for in the initial stages of getting to know someone. I don't want to dismiss someone because they read the same…

I see the drama potential here, but if someone were going to throw a fit about a roommate-I think the drama could be created out of anything. Some of us are more prone to it than others- I sometimes think actual circumstances don't have a lot to do with it. Roommate or not- probably same outcome. I had a male roommate in…

First, effing hell no to glitter sneezes (this is truly my reality with crafty 7 yr old daughter). Second, I'm not sure I understand how this is supposed to work; I'd maybe choose something completely hedonistic with the caveat that it wouldn't get boring. Does it have to be purposeless? Edit: nevermind, I already have…

I'm not excited to stand in line in the cold with a bunch of drunk kids for a haunted house, but I do have a cheaper/less gory alternative: there's an enormous marble mausoleum in a cemetery near where I live (so creepy- ancient furniture, marble, and red velvet everywhere- Stanley Kubrikesque in a way). I went in to…

I'm wondering if he has very little dating experience? Mention of deleting the online profile on the first date would make me feel uncomfortable, but as a few others have said: you have time to feel this out. Just be smart, and keep your eyes open- but sounds like you're already doing that. Have fun!

I think this is wise, but obviously nobody knows. I'm often wishing the internet were an accurate magic 8 ball.

Sorry, I know what it's like to have this kind of thing on internal talk repeat. It's just one of the hazards of having unsure/insecure moments at the beginning of a relationship. Don't buy into it- easy to say. I went on a few dates with someone a couple of months ago, and I had maybe 2 of these moments that lasted about…

The quotes in the article about women holding other women to a higher standard are pretty much hammered into us since birth, and not regarding swearing specifically, but everything. I work with small groups of kids, and I feel like I spend a lot of time fighting my instinct to let boys get away with more disruptive…

Although I've never heard anyone say it directly, I definitely understand the perspective from the south about women staying away from $ if they're looking for love. There are douches at all levels, but our society seems to expect and tolerate bad behavior from some more than others, and social class and $ has a lot to do…

Nordstrom. Barney's has crazy online sales sometimes, too. ($300 jeans for 50 a month ago)

This- I am having drinks now trying to quell anxiety related to friends coming over. The benzos are only for emergency. This is why night time outings work much better- alcohol is usually available at restaurants and smallish music venues. I've met men during the day at coffee shops and stuff, but I am completely incapable…

I know, I looked at a few 1200-1500 sq ft places, but I knew I'd be okay in smaller. The purge was awesome. My favorite part is the closeness with my daughter. She's just started going in her room with the door closed, so we have some separation, but I still know exactly what she's up to. And I agree about it being worth…

I currently live in Denver. No, I hardly ever wish for more space. The only problem is retrieving summer/winter clothes from the attic because I don't trust myself not to fall off the ladder. I worried at first, but the house is super cute (red brick and ivy) and I could rent it if I suddenly felt trapped. I don't think…

My question to my single peeps is: 1. Do you find it daunting when lease time comes up (if you are a renter) ? When I rented I always looked forward to leases ending. I liked to move around when I was younger. Now it sucks, but I could hire movers, I guess. 2. Should socializing take precedence over comfortable living?…

Apple. So much speculation about their complacency, though. We'll see....

I don't feel this from married friends who are actual friends, but when I meet a new couple I am very careful. I met some very cool new people over the weekend, and I made sure to really connect with the wife. I saw the husband yesterday, reintroduced myself, and told him to say "hi" to his wife. After I know them better,…

I’m sure you realize that the patience and love required to have lived the way you have is extraordinary, and is what will potentially attract and keep a partner : ) (Not that partnership is always what everything is about, but still...) Edit: My ex husband and I put our lives on hold (when we were going to leave the US)…

The sex V. Yay for that! Favorite: hands with longish fingers-used to love watching ex play the piano.

I agree, reading this thread is a little heartbreaking : ( I generally like the holidays because my daughter is 7, it's fun and about her, and there are a lot of good lessons to be taught that time of year. My best friend is single without kids, and I just want to squeeze her and not let go during all of December because…

There are so many variables here, and I'm wondering if you're comparing apples to apples? Have you been in multiple relationships of the same intensity with women of both similar and different ethnic/cultural backgrounds with children? Or do you "just know" or what are your experiences? There's probably some biology behind…

Yay- who references The The anymore? That's awesome! Matt Johnson is one of my two enduring teen crushes. I agree with this wholeheartedly . Age has drastically changed the things that I look for and avoid now, and health wasn't on my list until I became a mom.

I absolutely agree with the passive aggressive control piece being an enormous red flag here, and that is aside from the infantalizing and condescension. The idea that when she brought up something of legitimate concern (that he patronizes and infantalizes her) and that it turned into a fight with him shouting at her is…

I think we'd be too busy having and looking for sex to do much else? Societal advancement would stop, and who would raise the kids?

Aww, that's great! Kinda brought tears to my eyes, actually! Good for you!

I don't think you've really explained what you're doing, so of course people are going to question what's happening when the word cleanse is involved. You list these steps, but it sounds like complete pseudo-sciencey jargon unless you explain exactly HOW all of those things supposedly happen. What is involved in each step?…

Agree with this as a generality, but additionally think that there's an emotional piece that men can be the gatekeepers to even after commitment is established (sometimes commitment is basically exchanged for sex. and commitment can sometimes be a shallow thing without the emotional piece that goes along with it.) I think…