arlyne23 Member

She does not live with us. We live in the US. The above are very good ideas. :)

I know her mother made disparaging comments to her when she was both heavier and thinner but mostly thinner because she was envious. Her mother is overweight and liked it when her daughter was on the heavy side but envious when she was lighter. So sad.

Yes I have really tried to build her up. She's actually my step-daughter and has an abusive mother. I read your blog on self efficacy and am tuning in on the last paragraph: Parents: you can instill high self efficacy in your children through how you give them feedback for anything they do. "wow you're really good at…

Thank you for everything. I will also read the blog on self efficacy.

Oh, THIS is a problem for her. She will not see a therapist. She is quite hard headed.

Ok, I will keep this all in mind. Thank you so much for the thoughts and ideas.

I like your last thought about eating differently.

The bigger she gets, the unhappier and more worn out she is. The last time, she didn't realize how overweight she was until a few strangers made comments. That was the catapult for her change that time.

Makes sense.

This is good to know.