wonderfullymadebyhim Member

For me, it's like saying to a drug addict, what's wrong with one pull of this joint?

Sorry then, I picture freaking out as going batsh*t on her in the line up. Of course it's annoying that I have to look at that crap in the line up and know that my daughter is being taunted by it every time she comes with me. So am I .. I used to be totally addicted to sugar. Seeing a chocolate bar triggers the desire. I…

We're on page 7.. you've got some reading to do!!

Again, the stores wouldn't put the stuff there if they didn't know 100% that incites desire. You can say your child is wonderfully controlled but we know that they sell billions of dollars of candy and spend millions on advertising, consumer research, product placement, commercials etc because it impacts our behavior as…

Welcome to the conversation! LOL

Why do you assume I freak out? I rarely even raise my voice to her.

I prefer to keep my private diary private but I'll share the general details. I was on a calorie restricted diet many times over and it never worked -- I failed and hungered. More recently, I've switched to a ketogenic diet and the weight is coming off effortlessly. I rarely feel like hungry, my mind is sharp, and I don't…

Didn't see your comment, couldn't keep up... Look, that's your choice... expose your kids and then they'll be conditioned to self control? I'm more likely to say... there is a garbage can over there. You don't need to open it to know it's garbage. I'll just point and say, don't open that it's yucky. I'm glad you've got…

It's been a long conversation so it's no wonder you're confused. My point is and has always been a response so someone who said that it is all about our own will and choice in terms of our success. You put it in your mouth, you did it and that's it. I responded that I believe the food industry is culpable to a large degree…

I wasn't responding to you RH.. what question did you pose that I ignored?

If my child wasn't surrounded by candy, she wouldn't want it. It's quite well known that grocery items are strategically placed to incite desire. Have you been to a grocery counter that didn't have a pack of gum at arms reach? Do you think they see more or less gum sales from people because they are easy to pick up while…

What do you expect? You just told me to "woman up" and judged me because I most certainly must not say "no" so that's why my child desires candy at the counter because you've got a child that doesn't? You just implied my parenting style is "yes" to whatever she desires and that created that behavior. That's not how this…

Yes, I agree that you give every effort for your child to survive and thrive. Doesn't mean I give up on things like criticizing the food industry for the impact they have on us, our food choices, our health. My family is ultra important and that's why social justice and accountability to those that have an impact on our…

And my kid can say the alphabet backwards and yours can't so you need to learn to teach her better? C'mon!! If you're trying to compare how great and well-behaved your kid is to mine, please don't. You have no clue how I parent my child.

Well, I'm sorry if my words were too harsh, my answers were too quick and you felt undervalued.

Of course, encouragement is amazing and can really help a child grow and do well. The reality is though, great children and great parents will still have to face failures, mistakes, wrong decision making. Ideally, our children would be perfect and have a perfect environment. Poor people would easily climb social ladders…

No, but get pretty pissed off that the store has to surround her with every interesting treat and candy at the point of check out where we have to park the longest. It's pretty impossible for a young child not to yearn for that stuff. Wish I didn't have to expose her to that when I'm picking up my spinach.

Really? If you only knew who has lived in my house!

Really? I thought it was more like 95%. ;)

Not an excuse but I can say that my 4 year old is not a robot isolated in a bubble, with a personality that only I can control. A child's will is not simply built by parent.

RHachicho why do you keep editing your responses after posting? I can't keep up with your revisions.

Wait until your kids are teenagers and those perfect parent/ perfect child living in a bubble ideals roll away. Great parents can still end of with kids who make bad choices -- why? because they have other sources of influence their whole lives. You may set a good foundation but they will eventually make friends, have…

Well, would you? for some people, their dogs are part of their family. What if that dog trainer promised you that they had a fantastic education? Or they had seen a video on do training once and seen a few people walking their dogs. Yeah, you'd tell them to give you lots of advice right? Or that surgeon promised he had…

Sorry, not going down the this illogical pathway. How about this... would you hire a dog trainer that has never trained an actual dog?

I didn't give you a sob story and you went from saying "The obvious culprit. And the one we want to ignore because we know it is the source. Personal and Parental responsibility. " to "sometimes" and "You can't monitor....control everything". I see my point sank in. When you are trying to shuffle your 4 year old through…

Sure, but don't debate on parental responsibility if you have none. It's insulting.

It's pathetic when someone who has NO IDEA on the difficulties of raising a child in this world, blames everything on only one factor - parents and not the environmental impact of the world around. Kids spend 8 hours a day in a school with public education (provided by government), eat in school cafeterias, see billboard…

And most of us will be dead -- of a preventable disease caused by poor nutrition. Sad in our "enlightened" world.

So what did you think about that Fifth Estate report? I assume you have a semi open mind and can understand what it's saying?

Baloney because every loving family on my street fed their kids the same crap in the 1970s that we had in our cupboard. My own parents would have stood in front of a train for us but had no idea the impact of the processed foods we had. You think all people have the resource, time and energy to be walking nutritional…