Selee1987 Member

Reading all these comments really opened my eyes. I'm such a bad mother for putting him first without realizing i was doing it. I wasn't seeking marital advice... but dang guys, i'm glad it came out that way. I had a conversation with him not too long ago. I asked him "why do you say you're a psychopath?" he replies "umm…

WOW! awesome advice. Thank you!

I really like your post. spot on. and i agree is well. I admit he may be an a-hole at times but who isn't, no relationship is perfect. I do love him yet i sometimes dont agree with his views. not gonna lie, i sugar coat a lot of things even though i don't like for others to do the same for me. I do in fact admire his…

Exactly, i dont like lies or white lies or sugar coating for that matter. A part of me was expecting him to lie but what help would that do? I did insist on him to tell me. so its my fault? Anywho, all other matter can be dealt with with some therapy maybe or (a good slap in the face) a good talking to.

Oh no! i never tell my kids that! EVER! they're all brothers and sisters no matter who the father is and they know that. back to the actual topic. As i have been exercising i found that my kids are my motivation. We did the fit test together for the Insanity videos and they were fantastic little motivators. my 7 year old…

Well said, thank you :flowerforyou:

I agree. :smile:

This very helpful thank you :)

I also think he can be an a-hole sometimes. But i know he loves me, hes not the cheating type. When i first met him, i didn't find him attractive but i fell in love with him anyway. would that be the same thing? he doesn't find me attractive (hes clarified that he does) yet he still loves me?

- ok - yes - apparently he knows hes wrong. we had a talk about it. - apparently he knows hes wrong. we had a talk about it. - we both don't like my weight, we both don't like my boobs, hes clarified that hes fine with it and he didn't mean it the way i said it. - I do not. - honesty is the best policy - his views are…

Thank you everyone for your supportive comments. I'm going to end this thread by answering a few repetitive posts. My children come first! always! I'm a package deal and hes fine with that. Hes finally said that he will step up. My weight. I will do it for myself and my children. they're a real handful and its so hard to…

Like i said, i know i was being immature. I realize i should not have stooped to his level.

So he does the grocery shopping because its a big hassle going to the store with everyone, i do the house cleaning, he does other things like feed the dogs, throw the trash. I get about 3-5 hours of sleep, all interrupted though. We do have a membership at the gym for both of us but he says we'll start going after they…

It evolved didnt it. lol. sorry guys.

I read through all the comments. took me a while. but i want to say Thank you everyone for all your support, I didn't think it was much of a big topic but you guys proved me wrong. I do, however, know the type of man/boy he is. He upsets me at times but other times hes the sweetest guy in the world. Our relationship is…

I thought this was funny, because he describes himself as a psycho and i've called him a psycho bf before

yes, only because they bare his last name.

I do agree we need help... but i don't think he will change any. He thinks so highly of his beliefs, its very difficult to change his pov. I do love this man, he treats me well and loves me. He just doesnt think things through at times. an example of his beliefs is: our daughter only has her "true" cousins and "true" aunts…

Thank you. :) He actually hates being told "You knew what you were getting yourself into" his response is, "i just wished it was you and me" .. but he deals with it as best he can and provides for me and the kids. he complains A LOT! like a damn kid. not gonna lie it pisses me off.

Thank you!

I do appreciate that hes being honest. I've never had that blunt honesty before so it took me by surprise. I did however ask him and insisted on him telling me the truth. I asked "do you find me physically attractive?" and he said "just lose weight and I'll have it all"

oh wow. the more i read the more i'm starting to realize what a jerk hes being, and thats because im not adding about the way he feels about my son. I know you MFPers will have a ball on that one. I know if i were to drop the weight i'd be out of his league... maybe you're right, this could be his way of diminishing my…

WHAT!? LOL

we've been together for 1 1/2 years. what i've listed are the only things about my body he is not content with. about my breast, i've wanted to get them "fix" since high school, so we both want that. Overall I'm glad that he was even ok with it to begin with.

I agree with this as well

I will answer a few unanswered questions here; 1. 3 of my kids are from a previous marriage 2. we are not legally married, common law? I sometimes say hes my bf or husband depending on my mood lol 3. He will not watch the kids so i can work out at the gym 4. Being "honest" is his way of motivating me 5. Part of the reason…

I feel your pain! same here. and definitely bad idea to eat the same portions as they do! i did the same thing and i blew up like a balloon! lol We can do this!

Yes i have T25 as well, It looks to me like a combination of Insanity and Hiphop abs all mashed into one 25 minute dvd. Looks good though. I was also looking into the Brazilian buttlift and taking shakeology does that work at all?

I really want to do Insanity by Beach Body, this would be my third attempt at it. The first time i lost 25 lbs but hurt my ankle and gave up. But I'll definitely check that site, Thanks :happy:

Hi, I'm new to this also. Good luck! I'm hoping to lose 60 lbs with staying at 1200 calories also. Ugh its so hard!