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My mother had me young and had the same issue. I suspect women think I'm younger than I am purely because I'm short. I get ID'd all the time despite being WAY past that! I've had a few "well you do bounce back into shape if you have a baby whilst you're still a child yourself" comments, having had my one and only at 30 I…

I can totally believe that, I left my last job because I was pretty much forced out, slim and blonde (wouldn't consider myself beautiful!) seems to trigger some women into meltdown. It got so bad that I had self confidence issues taking my son out to toddler groups and the like. Try being a slim mother, ostracized is…

I have more of an issue with height than weight. I like a man who makes me feel tiny, which is just my personal preference. Weight wise I guess I would be more inclined to go for a guy who is slightly over weight wise than slightly under on that premise. I married my husband who ticks all my boxes (not just the physical…

How long has it taken you to lose that 20lb? If you've done it in less than 10 weeks then that would indicate that you are eating at more of a deficit than you think you are, which could explain the hunger. How much weight do you have left to lose? Your BMI is currently around 29 correct? You might find that you are coming…

I don't always stay in control. I have 10 periods a year which are a complete non-event in that I get no period pain, cravings, mood swings etc. Then about every 6 months I have the period from hell and I am a moody, ravenous, cramping mess. It's the one thing I don't beat myself up over if I over indulge a bit. When I was…

Eating a calorie excess that is going to take me for than 3-4 days of eating at a moderate restriction to compensate for.

I got bored reading all the quoted stuff several pages back, so forgive me if I'm asking something already mentioned. But surely I'm not the ONLY woman on the planet who loves getting checked out? I'm happily married and not actually interested, but hey if someone wants to do some harmless window shopping and checks me out…

Physical connection is an emotional form of bonding, they are one and the same thing. All aspects of physical contact reinforce the emotional bond between two people. It's why we mate for non-reproductive purposes, to reinforce those bonds. You can have the best partner in the word, funny, kind, humerus, great parent etc…

Older men for sure for me. IMO most men, not all admittedly but most, get better as they age, far sexier. I like at least 10 years old, I'm 33 and all my crushes are 45-50 years old.

I had terrible problems with water retention. I'd eat at a deficit (250 calories) per day, weighing out all of my food religiously and my weight wouldn't budge for ages. Then all of a sudden it would all fall off in a big lump. I'm not talking about 2 weeks of nothing then losing 1lb, I'm talking 12-16 weeks of nothing…

Agree with comments regarding locking down your target client areas. If you're aiming to help people get truly made over (i.e. low body fat) then your marketing is going to be different compared to if you're aiming to help people into a better (but not necessarily "best") version of themselves. Are you wanting to work with…

I'm naturally rather more blessed than I'd like to be in the boob department for my frame, so I can understand the desire to have proportional boobs to the frame, I can understand why people would want reductions, and I can understand why people could have implants. I'd never judge anyone who undertook the path to achieve…

Yup, I completely agree with all that, and if it was a case of waiting out 2-3 weeks before seeing my water weight come off I really would just have sucked it up and waited, but spiking my calories to deliberately trick my body into dropping that water weight is the only thing which kept me motivated. 30% of one days…

Really good article! I've always had big problems with 'whooshing'. I won't go 2-3 weeks without losing then suddenly drop a couple of lb. I'd go 13-16 weeks without losing then suddenly drop 10-14lb over the course of 3-5 days. I really have to watch my sodium/potassium levels like a hawk (unlike most people I tend to…

Congratulations! Great going :D

I'm 154cm and weigh 48.5kg and I'm losing currently on 2150 calories per day! I am super active and lifting, though trying not to lose weight. How many calories you need to 'break even' is dependant on so many things, height - yes, but also weight, age, sex, activity levels and the amount of lean body mass you have. I…

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Good for you. You've lost the weight because you've realised that your worth the time and effort, so hold out for the partner who's also going to treat you like your worth the time and effort. I have to say I've dated a few guys in my younger years who I really enjoyed spending time with but just didn't didn't fancy in…

Thank you both! I am eating fairly spread out, there is no way I could manage a lump of steak, not if I wanted to moved afterwards anyway! I think I just needed some common sense input, which I got. I have to wonder how much of the extra protein I was eating was actually being digested/absorbed anyway, it could be that I…

Beans and lentils set me off if I get that protein threshold up over about the 35g mark because I just can't digest it. I have an IgE reaction to all dairy, milk, cheese, yogurt, butter etc and that is cow, sheep, buffalo and goat :( They have tested them all and I've had all sorts of skin tests and ELISA testing. I've…

Hilarious thread! Sadly I know the OP's position all too well. I do actually have IBD so if I eat the wrong thing it's anything from 1-3 days of severe digestive side effects! Dairy and fats (even the 'good' ones) are the worst for setting me off and I've been in that situation where I've had to justify to a room full of…

Did your doctor have no advice other than take a pill? I never suffered with lack of period when I was at 15% body fat, in fact I fell pregnant at 32 the first month we tried. Women clearly do need a certain amount of body fat, but getting your BMI down to normal shouldn't be enough to stop your periods if it's been done…

Not only do you obviously look amazing, but your posture is SO much better now your slimmer, and you just look so much happier!

I have IBD and hyper-mobility which is mainly restricted to shoulders, spine, SIJ's and hips. Interestingly to the other lady who posted up with hyper-mobility and bloating - my general surgeon said he see's lots of patients with IBD/IBD/digestive complaints who are also hyper-mobile. The two quite often go hand in hand…

I've literally just started IF (I'm on day 6), and I'm doing the restricted hours version. I'm eating TDEE +300 (bulking) daily but only eating between 12-1pm and 8pm. I decided to switch over to this when I couldn't control my appetite, once I'd had breakfast for the day I was just continuously hungry. I'm finding the IF…

I get the ridiculous cup cake comments too. Why do people get awfully offended if you say "looks delicious but not for me thanks"? 1. I don't actually even like cupcakes. 2. Dairy and excessive amounts of egg are both triggers for my IBD, I'm not going to spend 2-3 days in agony by eating a cupcake. 3. I'm 'spending' all…

I have IBD and loads of the foods mentioned are on my trigger list (grains and legumes especially, although interestingly I'm fine on wheat/gluten!). All that happens if I eat them is I'm ill. I'm not dying any faster than I was dying before I ate them! It's staggering what unfounded and ill informed claims people will…

Bed rest whilst very ill during pregnancy, spent the whole 9 months vomiting. Almost bled to death during c-section. As a result of being so depleted I was both 'skinny fat' and absolutely starving. I spent 5-6 months just eating and (over all from pre preg) put on ~40lb fat and lost a lot (~10lb ish) of muscle.

I do 5-10 hours a week of hard gardening. Digging, carry trugs of soil etc not sat on a ride on. As I've always done it it's never even crossed my mind to log it. I can't fathom why someone would log a 5 minute wipe down of the kitchen or 10 minutes pushing the Hoover around!

My husband brings out the very best there is in me, regardless of challenge or goal. I've set myself a challenge, for ME (this one is all about me) and he's been nothing but helpful, supportive and quick with compliments and to notice changes. So yes, having my husband be who he is does help my motivation. But I have to…