SqueezyLemmon

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I think ladies, the trouble with this thread is that people are just reading the OP and no further.

You are quite possibly right. I've only had two relationships and the first was abusive - to tell you the truth, my current partner pretty much saved me from my abusive partner. I know it must sound absolutely crazy to you that I consider him not being abusive a good trait rather than a normal thing, but the fact that he…

Thank you. I love him and I want it to work.

Haha, I will. Although it has turned into a "just break up" thread, I am really pleased with the responses, I was clearly completely ignorant of the effects of low T and only related it to lack of sex, bit it's clear there's more to it. Now I've learnt a little I feel like I have something to work toward and something I…

I wish this too. And I can't edit my OP now.

Ah, now I've been very ill and virtually unable to get out of bed before, and he was my rock. Seriously, he helped me to the toilet, came home on his lunch break to make me food, bathed me, the lot. This was a couple of years ago, before he changed. This is what I mean; he is a good guy, and this is out of character.

He does have trouble sleeping. And he is generally unhappy, but I always thought it was because of his job, as he hates his job. I have to be honest I had no idea low testosterone caused that many problems, and if that's genuinely 'all' it is, I'd be really, really happy. I will talk to him and try and get him back to the…

The sex thing. We have sex about once a month on average. It never used to be like that, we had a good sex life. He's very affectionate however; we kiss and cuddle a lot. I completely forgot to add however, that he had a blood test about 6 months ago and was told he had low testosterone. He was booked another appointment…

This is what I struggle with. I've come from an abusive relationship so by God I know I could do so much worse. So should I appreciate him for what he DOES bring to our relationship, rather than berating him for what he doesn't? As for the mothering side, I just don't know. His mother died when he was 22 and it hit him…