Hmm... curious.
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sweetcurlz67 wrote: »Why oh why do you womenfolk have to be so freaking confusing??? lol
Single - no bf
Ummm why do MEN have to be so confusing???
There's a guy I've sorta seen a few times since March. He acts like he likes me when he calls, texts, sees me. Thing is, he hardly ever calls, texts, sees me. So I give up on him thinking he's not into me then he'll call & we'll see each other. Or say something promising. And before you ask... nothing sexual with this guy yet. Only a hug so far. He seems like a real gentleman. Again... why are men so confusing???
Btw... I am NOT putting my life on hold for this guy. But if he steps it up... GREAT!
LOL OK OK maybe it just isn't women that are confusing. Maybe it isn't so much gender-based as people that have a screw loose. Whatever the case, I've moved on from mine. Not sure what the issue is/was and it is a bit of shame since the first (and only) date was so much fun (I've contacted her a couple times since then but no change) but I totally get not putting your life on hold for someone. Moving on, better days ahead!
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laurenz1017 wrote: »Jennifer10723: I did a free trial for eHarmony and I DIDN'T HAVE ANY MATCHES! HAHAHA! Ughhhh!!
I got the same thing, really makes a person feel good about themselves
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sewerchick93 wrote: »laurenz1017 wrote: »Jennifer10723: I did a free trial for eHarmony and I DIDN'T HAVE ANY MATCHES! HAHAHA! Ughhhh!!
I got the same thing, really makes a person feel good about themselves
I wouldn't worry about that. I dont think they have a huge database and I think their matching system sucks.![:\](https://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/resources/emoji/confused.png ":\")
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The slowness is all him. Hugs & all. So I think he's not into me but then I'm "his" insert various pet names. I have asked him out & it fell thru. Soooo guess I keep playing the game while going with other guys & if my man comes along...0
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Yeah save yourself some heartache. I was in the same exact situation a couple of yrs ago. Granted, were still great friends but that's all he wanted from me though there were confusing signs. I don't hate him because he did communicate it to me. I moved on and dated. He's met several of my bfs! He even came around a couple of months ago and met my man now that I live with. I wouldn't even play the game. If you need to have no contact for a while, do it. But don't get all confused everytime he calls you a pet name. You don't deserve that.0
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I'm totally single, and I am also totally ok with it. I don't even have time to meet anyone right now, and the men around me are just too young. Is it bad that I can't even remotely find a guy under the age of 27 attractive? lol0
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Single and not even dating at this point. Just ended a 1 1/2 year relationship about a month and a half ago and right now I'm reassessing myself and what I want in life.0
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OperationSuperKate wrote: »I'm totally single, and I am also totally ok with it. I don't even have time to meet anyone right now, and the men around me are just too young. Is it bad that I can't even remotely find a guy under the age of 27 attractive? lol
Speaking for all of the old(er) guys out there...that isn't bad at all! haha
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Separated from my husband (who I was with since I was 20) in June. Not 100% single, but not exactly taken. I'm in no-man's land....literally.
I know he's dating - which is good for him, but I think it would be .... not right (for me anyhow) to start dating at the moment until the divorce proceedings are official or complete. It just doesn't seem right otherwise.
And while I've met people in my single-ish status, I haven't met anyone I'd want to date for their sake.0 -
Single and happy
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Single and just starting the dating scene. Had a date last Friday and hoping for another this weekend.0
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Joannah700 wrote: »Separated from my husband (who I was with since I was 20) in June. Not 100% single, but not exactly taken. I'm in no-man's land....literally.
I know he's dating - which is good for him, but I think it would be .... not right (for me anyhow) to start dating at the moment until the divorce proceedings are official or complete. It just doesn't seem right otherwise.
And while I've met people in my single-ish status, I haven't met anyone I'd want to date for their sake.
Having been through it recently I completely agree with the waiting until at least the divorce is complete (and maybe longer). I made the mistake of starting what ended up being a serious relationship when I'd just gotten through my divorce and she was in the middle of hers...while it was a great relationship while it lasted after a year she ended it because of needing to figure out who she was after all that time (15 years of being a couple with her husband then directly into a year as a couple with me). Anyhow, I was crushed since before that it had been really great and we were talking about possibly getting engaged but in the end it was the right move for both of us (we're great friends now).
Anyhow, just adding a little vote that you're doing the right thing there @Joannah700 (not that you needed it, but just throwing it out there lol)0 -
caved in......joined POF lol
I have no problem meeting women in the real world but I've had bad luck this year, 2015 new places new faces N'all that'0 -
gym_king_carlie wrote: »caved in......joined POF lol
I have no problem meeting women in the real world but I've had bad luck this year, 2015 new places new faces N'all that'
Good luck!!!
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dbrightwell1270 wrote: »sweetcurlz67 wrote: »Why oh why do you womenfolk have to be so freaking confusing??? lol
Single - no bf
Ummm why do MEN have to be so confusing???
There's a guy I've sorta seen a few times since March. He acts like he likes me when he calls, texts, sees me. Thing is, he hardly ever calls, texts, sees me. So I give up on him thinking he's not into me then he'll call & we'll see each other. Or say something promising. And before you ask... nothing sexual with this guy yet. Only a hug so far. He seems like a real gentleman. Again... why are men so confusing???
Btw... I am NOT putting my life on hold for this guy. But if he steps it up... GREAT!
How hard is it to say, "You are really confusing me. What's up with the infrequent nature of calling me?" or even better, you like the guy enough that you're qualifying your relationship as nothing sexual YET. Why not take some initiative and call him to arrange doing something?
Very hard because then you are needy and smothering him with "relationship" questions when the guy didnt even think thats what was going on. Lol.
Idk I used to ask questions like that but i hate to say I just assume they are bored with me and have moved on. Oh well.0 -
MissingMinnesota wrote: »laurenz1017 wrote: »That would soooooo be my luck too!! I hate hate hate dating. Plus I hate logging on and seeing someone I have been talking to already online .. lol. I'm like really dude?? lol I have issues.
I'm the same way!! Especially someone I've been talking to for awhile and if it seems like it's going in the right direction then I see them logged in! I swear when that's the case I usually just sign on to get rid of notifications and delete messages. Which could also be true for the guy but....somehow I doubt it! lol
But you are logging in to be able to see that he is on line. Maybe he sees you on line and thinks the same thing as you do that you are seeing what else is out there.
I do have to agree with this! I have thought the same thing..."Well obviously I'm logging in also" but honestly 90% of the time I log in is to just delete other messages. I hate having a junked up inbox or regular email inbox!I have OKC and POF apps on my phone. Unless I specifically log out of the apps each time I use them, they will report me online as long as there is an internet connection. My ex and I did a test on this after we met.
This is also true. I'm pretty sure these apps leave me logged in also. One of my male friends is on there "as a joke" and he'll text me late at night asking what I'm doing up when I've been asleep for hours! ::shrug::
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And I had a psychology prof in college that actually made us all sign up for an Eharmony personality profile. So not the dating part necessarily, but just the long questionnaire to tell us about our personality. Talk about depressing when at the end of it all, it gave me my personality profile, and said that Eharmony would not be able to match me with anyone. The site didn't even give me an option to get rejected, it rejected me from even moving forward to the dating part.
LOL same thing happened to me when I signed up for eHarmony! No matches!
ETA: Ahhh crap. Just realized I posted that before haha sorry!
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Single and I guess I'm ok with it (most of the time). And that may be the crux of my problem (being ok with it). I've been officially divorced for 3 years. Single for almost 4 years. I have dated in that time. I've been on enough dates that I have begun to realize that I might not be boyfriend material! It's not because I have nothing to offer (because I really think I do) but rather it's because I don't know if I'm willing to change my life and prioritize someone above all the millions of other things I have going on.
It may be that I just haven't met someone that makes me WANT to give them my time. I keep hoping that will happen. . but for today, I just kind of feel 'meh' about the whole thing (that's today. . tomorrow I will feel different!).0 -
@Joanna. . I think it shows class and wisdom to wait. It's an emotionally draining and confusing time (Unless you're a sociopath). It's tough to keep your focus from drifting back to what was and focus on what is. If you find your mind constantly wandering back to your marriage or your ex.. you probably aren't ready. . It's a cruel truth, because all you want is a distraction from that crap!0
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Cameron_1969 wrote: »It may be that I just haven't met someone that makes me WANT to give them my time. I keep hoping that will happen. . but for today, I just kind of feel 'meh' about the whole thing (that's today. . tomorrow I will feel different!).
I think this is it. you just haven't met someone yet to make you WANT to give them your time and effort. when you meet that person, it'll change.
there's only been two people i've wanted to give my efforts to but neither worked out. so i'll continue to move forward. sifting through the rift raft...
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I am legally married but haven't lived with my husband in three and a half years. I don't date because it just seems wrong, and I don't want to make someone a priority.0
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Single, not dating...nothing!0
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I've been single now for...wow...two full on years. I've gone on a few dates, even a few second and third dates, but none have panned out as relationships.0
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Single; I haven't had a date in a very long time...0
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Single and not dating0
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Lauren and Jennifer, I've done some research on these sites, cause I'm single and nerdy and get depressed at how little action I get online dating. So I was debating doing Match or eHarmony (actually went through the eHarmony test and they had no matches for me LOL), because I was doing okc and pof and kept talking to a-holes, flakes, and losers. You can see the salary ranges on those sites and I make at least double what 80% of the guys on these sites say they make. Not that I'm looking for money, but I don't want a lot of drama about how I'm more educated/successful, blah blah blah, plus I do want someone who has a real job and his life together! Anyway, I thought maybe a paid site would be better, but wanted to do some research first....so apparently the stats of the paid sites are artificially inflated...they include active AND inactive members as well as paying members AND nonpaying members. As some of you have probably found out, there's no way to tell if someone is a paying member....you don't know if a guy is ignoring you or just isn't paying for the site. And on top of that, it doesn't pay for the site for you to actually meet someone and fall in love and stop subscribing, so they're really not going to help you find paying, active members.
So that got long...but that's why I won't bother paying for a dating site unless one comes along that's a little more effective and honest...
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Sabs .. thanks for that information! I completely got rid of both sites. I am done trying to find someone. I am quite certain I will die alone .. lol.0
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Lauren and Jennifer, I've done some research on these sites, cause I'm single and nerdy and get depressed at how little action I get online dating. So I was debating doing Match or eHarmony (actually went through the eHarmony test and they had no matches for me LOL), because I was doing okc and pof and kept talking to a-holes, flakes, and losers. You can see the salary ranges on those sites and I make at least double what 80% of the guys on these sites say they make. Not that I'm looking for money, but I don't want a lot of drama about how I'm more educated/successful, blah blah blah, plus I do want someone who has a real job and his life together! Anyway, I thought maybe a paid site would be better, but wanted to do some research first....so apparently the stats of the paid sites are artificially inflated...they include active AND inactive members as well as paying members AND nonpaying members. As some of you have probably found out, there's no way to tell if someone is a paying member....you don't know if a guy is ignoring you or just isn't paying for the site. And on top of that, it doesn't pay for the site for you to actually meet someone and fall in love and stop subscribing, so they're really not going to help you find paying, active members.
So that got long...but that's why I won't bother paying for a dating site unless one comes along that's a little more effective and honest...
With the constant evolution of social media, I think the online dating world is now switching over mainly to apps. Love it or hate it, it might be time for everyone who wants to be dating to get on Tinder, Clover, Scout, The Grade or others. Personally, I find more people actually 'talk' on them than online too.0
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