How do others deal with family members who are "dieting", but not following LCHF.
PaulaJSchiller
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My hubby needs to lose a substantial amount of weight, he also has some health issues(HBP, knee issues) and a family history of type 2 diabetes, heart disease, arthritis, both his parents have had their knees replaced, his Mom also had a hip replacement. He has been told knee replacement is in his future as well.
He wants to lose weight, he tried on his shorts and not one pair fit him. So he has said he is going to diet, which I hate that word because it so temporary to me. He's is completely resistant to even TRYING this way of eating. Except of course, he will eat the high fat meals right along side me. I tell him it's not healthy for him to be doing so while still consuming so many high carbs. It worries me, but until he has a major health event I don't think he will "get it".
I am trying to be supportive of any effort he makes towards being healthier. I seriously had to ask him is he had even started his diet, because what I have seen him eat and drink in the past couple of weeks you would not ever know. He said he was and he has lost 4 lbs. I know he's an adult and can make decisions for himself, I try to respect that to the best of my ability. But it is very difficult !
Anyone else??
He wants to lose weight, he tried on his shorts and not one pair fit him. So he has said he is going to diet, which I hate that word because it so temporary to me. He's is completely resistant to even TRYING this way of eating. Except of course, he will eat the high fat meals right along side me. I tell him it's not healthy for him to be doing so while still consuming so many high carbs. It worries me, but until he has a major health event I don't think he will "get it".
I am trying to be supportive of any effort he makes towards being healthier. I seriously had to ask him is he had even started his diet, because what I have seen him eat and drink in the past couple of weeks you would not ever know. He said he was and he has lost 4 lbs. I know he's an adult and can make decisions for himself, I try to respect that to the best of my ability. But it is very difficult !
Anyone else??
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I had to warn my hubby that his higher carb ways woud not mesh well with my high fat meals. Because of this, I tend to make meals slightly lowered fat than I would have otherwise, and then add fats (like cheese) onto my own serving. When he wants to do the same I point out how I have no potatoes and am eating off a small salad plate. A dinner plate of my food would be a day's worth of calories. LOL
Honestly, all I do to help my hubby with weight loss is try to have the foods available that will help him, and remove the foods that will hinder him. I don't buy sweets and limit tortillas and such - those foods that are too easy to overeat in. I've shown him calorie counts of his foods a few times and that helps him keep serving sizes in perspective.
Now that I have been LCHF for a couple of years, he is starting to lower his carb intake. He's getting closer to moderate carb. LOL If you give it time, it may rub off on him, otherwise he has to do his own thing.5 -
My boyfriend had a really bad stomach issue, he would vomit 50 times a day most days. After 3 years we finally figured out it was because he's intolerant to weed. So he gave it up, and now he's eating all the junk food in the world. He will eat a bag or 2 of chips every day, hamburger helper, just carbs galore. He put on about 20lbs in a month. I'm so glad he's not sick anymore but I can see this is going to be an issue. I just told him he can join me whenever he wants.
They're adults and really just have to make the decision for themselves. I think once they see how energetic and healthy, and happy we are with this WOE, eventually they will decide to do it themselves. It really doesn't affect me if he eats all that junk, because I enjoy what I'm eating. So just keep doing you and eventually he might follow!1 -
hmikkola92 wrote: »My boyfriend had a really bad stomach issue, he would vomit 50 times a day most days. After 3 years we finally figured out it was because he's intolerant to weed. So he gave it up, and now he's eating all the junk food in the world. He will eat a bag or 2 of chips every day, hamburger helper, just carbs galore. He put on about 20lbs in a month. I'm so glad he's not sick anymore but I can see this is going to be an issue. I just told him he can join me whenever he wants.
They're adults and really just have to make the decision for themselves. I think once they see how energetic and healthy, and happy we are with this WOE, eventually they will decide to do it themselves. It really doesn't affect me if he eats all that junk, because I enjoy what I'm eating. So just keep doing you and eventually he might follow!
He gave up weed and then got the munchies... it almost sounds like a joke waiting to be made.
Is he actually eating more junk now, or is it just staying in? He might want to get his BG checked - 20lbs in a month is sort of scary.
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hmikkola92 wrote: »My boyfriend had a really bad stomach issue, he would vomit 50 times a day most days. After 3 years we finally figured out it was because he's intolerant to weed. So he gave it up, and now he's eating all the junk food in the world. He will eat a bag or 2 of chips every day, hamburger helper, just carbs galore. He put on about 20lbs in a month. I'm so glad he's not sick anymore but I can see this is going to be an issue. I just told him he can join me whenever he wants.
They're adults and really just have to make the decision for themselves. I think once they see how energetic and healthy, and happy we are with this WOE, eventually they will decide to do it themselves. It really doesn't affect me if he eats all that junk, because I enjoy what I'm eating. So just keep doing you and eventually he might follow!
He gave up weed and then got the munchies... it almost sounds like a joke waiting to be made.
Is he actually eating more junk now, or is it just staying in? He might want to get his BG checked - 20lbs in a month is sort of scary.
He's eating more and it's staying in lol. He needs to see a doctor about it I think because it is crazy. But he was emaciated looking before, and probably dehydrated. Honestly thought he would die. I'm glad he's not a stick anymore but he was 300lbs when I met him and don't want him to be all self conscious like he was.1 -
Since I met him, MH has been trying to lose 15 lbs (he was around 215 for most of his adult life; he's 5'8" with a big bone structure and a lot of muscle). He would never make much progress (but he also didn't really try a defined WOE or program). He developed back issues right after we got married, then was Dx'ed with CAD in 2013. His weight actually dropped to 208 without trying after he finally got all the stents put in, but it gradually climbed back up to 224 by August of '15. I was worried about him after the CAD Dx and would try to gently encourage lowering carbs and calories, made lower carb dinners, etc., but he always felt pulled in a lot of directions and wasn't able to make his health a priority, and he insisted that when he started feeling bad, drinking soda made him feel better. ;P (I'd be like that's not a good sign, you should get that checked out, but his FBG was always normal.)
This fall his back issues were finally better and he made his workouts a non-negotiable prioirty. (He has a demanding job so between that and family and just being worn out, his workouts would often get cut even though I would encourage him to go.) Now he's in a great workout routine every week and while he doesn't log food or follow a defined program, he did lower carbs significantly from his previous woe. He never thought he could get below 200 (he hadn't been there since college and he's 48!) but now he's at 198, aiming for 190 and in great shape.
Long story but the point is, it took several years but once he was able to get in a groove of his own accord, he started really making progress. And he feels so much better now, hopefully he'll stay on a healthy track for life. Although he does eat things like English muffins/toast with breakfast, he really likes having dinners composed of meat and vegetables so that works out well with my WOE.1 -
hmikkola92 wrote: »hmikkola92 wrote: »My boyfriend had a really bad stomach issue, he would vomit 50 times a day most days. After 3 years we finally figured out it was because he's intolerant to weed. So he gave it up, and now he's eating all the junk food in the world. He will eat a bag or 2 of chips every day, hamburger helper, just carbs galore. He put on about 20lbs in a month. I'm so glad he's not sick anymore but I can see this is going to be an issue. I just told him he can join me whenever he wants.
They're adults and really just have to make the decision for themselves. I think once they see how energetic and healthy, and happy we are with this WOE, eventually they will decide to do it themselves. It really doesn't affect me if he eats all that junk, because I enjoy what I'm eating. So just keep doing you and eventually he might follow!
He gave up weed and then got the munchies... it almost sounds like a joke waiting to be made.
Is he actually eating more junk now, or is it just staying in? He might want to get his BG checked - 20lbs in a month is sort of scary.
He's eating more and it's staying in lol. He needs to see a doctor about it I think because it is crazy. But he was emaciated looking before, and probably dehydrated. Honestly thought he would die. I'm glad he's not a stick anymore but he was 300lbs when I met him and don't want him to be all self conscious like he was.
Wow. He's been on the weight roller coaster with this, hasn't he?
Yeah 20lbs/month is not something you want to maintain... That could be 100lbs in under 6 months. Hopefully a good portion of that weight was water.0 -
In the bigger picture it does effect me, I want him around for a good long time. I see how his parents are living and having so many health issues, I don't wan that life for us. I don't even mind if he chooses a different path to get to a healthier self, but he does need to choose. My fear is It will be more harmful for him continuing on this path because he's eating a much higher percentage of fat and still eating high carb.
He has soon first hand proof, how much more energy, happy and healthier this way of life has been for me and it really has been a dramatic improvement. This am not new to LCHF, But he it isn't enough to get him to even try, not even a week!
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PaulaJSchiller wrote: »In the bigger picture it does effect me, I want him around for a good long time. I see how his parents are living and having so many health issues, I don't wan that life for us. I don't even mind if he chooses a different path to get to a healthier self, but he does need to choose. My fear is It will be more harmful for him continuing on this path because he's eating a much higher percentage of fat and still eating high carb.
He has soon first hand proof, how much more energy, happy and healthier this way of life has been for me and it really has been a dramatic improvement. This am not new to LCHF, But he it isn't enough to get him to even try, not even a week!
High carb and high fat isn't great... I'll try to remember some good discussions or videos on this. If I do I'll post it.3 -
I prepare all the food in my family, ergo, if my H doesn't like it - he goes without.
He is seeing my weight loss, and he's now so keen to follow suit, he's taken my lead and is doing his best. To say he was a carb addict is an understatement. The crazy thing is, I haven't personally met a single diabetic who's NOT got a sweet tooth! (I'm not suggesting they don't exist; I'm saying it's a tragic irony, and that I haven't met one.)
The further complication is that he's not a vegetable lover.
But he HAS taken a real shine to my cauli rice and my cream cheese spinach....
All the above said, I totally agree with @hmikkola92 when she says:-They're adults and really just have to make the decision for themselves.
Decisions mean consequences.
Much as I agree that it would be wonderful to wave a magic wand, change their minds and make them 'see sense', sadly all too often, the only way they learn is when they have a doctor by their bedside, TELLING them that unless they take drastic action and change their ways, it's a downhill slope to a final curtain call....0 -
hmikkola92 wrote: »My boyfriend had a really bad stomach issue, he would vomit 50 times a day most days. After 3 years we finally figured out it was because he's intolerant to weed. So he gave it up, and now he's eating all the junk food in the world. He will eat a bag or 2 of chips every day, hamburger helper, just carbs galore. He put on about 20lbs in a month. I'm so glad he's not sick anymore but I can see this is going to be an issue. I just told him he cabbyn join me whenever he wants.
They're adults and really just have to make the decision for themselves. I think once they see how energetic and healthy, and happy we are with this WOE, eventually they will decide to do it themselves. It really doesn't affect me if he eats all that junk, because I enjoy what I'm eating. So just keep doing you and eventually he might follow!
He gave up weed and then got the munchies... it almost sounds like a joke waiting to be made.
Is he actually eating more junk now, or is it just staying in? He might want to get his BG checked - 20lbs in a month is sort of scary.
Hmm. I'm thinking I may have the magic bullet for those last 10 lbs......
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If your hubby starts a diet and its not LCHF but it is working for him, leave him alone. Any calorie restricted diet is going to cause weight loss. If he cant' make it work, then he might listen to you more.0
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From a different perspective, I was the one with the weight problem. My husband is about 5'10" and weighs at most, 165. I'd say he is " naturally thin" but that is not the case. He naturally eats to hunger and really has no interest in food unless he's hungry. I digress...
He never once said a single word about what I ate, how much I ate or made any comment ever, about my 60 pound gain.
Point is, I knew I ate too much. I knew I was getting fat. I knew why I was getting fat. I knew I got winded when we had to walk hurriedly to arrive some place on time. I knew I was growing out of my clothes every year. I knew I was more inclined to want to stay home than go out with friends because I was uncomfortable with how I looked. I knew all those excess pounds were not good for my overall health. I knew what I needed to do to improve my weight and my health.
No one needed to tell me. I changed when I was ready.3 -
PaulaJSchiller wrote: »My hubby needs to lose a substantial amount of weight, he also has some health issues(HBP, knee issues) and a family history of type 2 diabetes, heart disease, arthritis, both his parents have had their knees replaced, his Mom also had a hip replacement. He has been told knee replacement is in his future as well.
He wants to lose weight, he tried on his shorts and not one pair fit him. So he has said he is going to diet, which I hate that word because it so temporary to me. He's is completely resistant to even TRYING this way of eating. Except of course, he will eat the high fat meals right along side me. I tell him it's not healthy for him to be doing so while still consuming so many high carbs. It worries me, but until he has a major health event I don't think he will "get it".
I am trying to be supportive of any effort he makes towards being healthier. I seriously had to ask him is he had even started his diet, because what I have seen him eat and drink in the past couple of weeks you would not ever know. He said he was and he has lost 4 lbs. I know he's an adult and can make decisions for himself, I try to respect that to the best of my ability. But it is very difficult !
Anyone else??
What is his A1c like at this point? If he is prediabetic range, only prep low carb veggies, switch from hamburger buns to whole wheat rounds, use the low carb tortillas, keep pork rinds instead of tortilla strips or chips in the house. Don't let him have cheese sauces etc. on his veggies. (He will think he is starving is my guess.) Make the only salad dressings in the house fit your WOE, none of the low fat stuff. Trim all fats from his meats, buy extra lean for him and fatty for you. If he questions you, just say, "I'd like to grow old with you if you don't mind." The harder you make it at home the less likely he is to eat higher carb, even getting him on a lower carb WOE will be a huge improvement. As his carbs get lower and he starts to lose, he might be more motivated to move even lower.
I started doing these steps with my husband, he had a diagnosis of diabetes. I have never been one to push him into anything he didn't want to do, that sort of thing doesn't work with him anyway, so why try?
I told him how frightening the thought of losing him was to me and if he wanted to commit slow suicide, I was not going to assist him in that. He would eat what I prepared or make his own meals ALL THE TIME. I also told him, he was free to do whatever.
He is a T(rim)O(utside)F(at)Iinside) diabetic. He was the only thin person at the healthcare facilities workshop on diabetes.
After eating this way and monitoring his blood a couple of times daily with a couple of weeks he saw for himself the difference. He is gradually lowering the carbs more and more. He is all in on the sausage and bacon for breakie.
. And his A1c is good enough his dr. has not placed him on any medications. He isn't in the normal range yet but he has only been eating this way a few months. Hopefully he will go under 5.5 soon.
Good luck, hope he wants to be around with you a long time.
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I am supportive like I would want him to be supportive of me.0
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He never once said a single word about what I ate, how much I ate or made any comment ever, about my 60 pound gain.
Point is, I knew I ate too much. I knew I was getting fat. I knew why I was getting fat. I knew I got winded when we had to walk hurriedly to arrive some place on time. I knew I was growing out of my clothes every year. I knew I was more inclined to want to stay home than go out with friends because I was uncomfortable with how I looked. I knew all those excess pounds were not good for my overall health. I knew what I needed to do to improve my weight and my health.
No one needed to tell me. I changed when I was ready.
I totally get that, I said I am supportive of what ever he does towards becoming healthier when he is ready, but that is not the issue here. He does want to eat healthier and lose weight. The problem is he is eating my LCHF foods and meals right along with his own high carb foods. I am trying to make him understand that it is unhealthy for him to do so. I have never made any negative comments about his weight, I just want him healthy.
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PaulaJSchiller wrote: »In the bigger picture it does effect me, I want him around for a good long time. I see how his parents are living and having so many health issues, I don't wan that life for us. I don't even mind if he chooses a different path to get to a healthier self, but he does need to choose. My fear is It will be more harmful for him continuing on this path because he's eating a much higher percentage of fat and still eating high carb.
He has soon first hand proof, how much more energy, happy and healthier this way of life has been for me and it really has been a dramatic improvement. This am not new to LCHF, But he it isn't enough to get him to even try, not even a week!
High carb and high fat isn't great... I'll try to remember some good discussions or videos on this. If I do I'll post it.
It's definitely not good if you're a rat.
High-carbohydrate, high-fat diet–induced metabolic syndrome and cardiovascular remodeling in rats.
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/20966763
I believe Loren Cordain and Stephen Phinney were able to agree that while both LCHF and LFHC might be optimal diets for certain types of people, HCHF is good for about nobody.3 -
Kinda short, super-simple version of HCHF = eat high carbs, get high blood sugars then high levels of insulin (fat storage hormone). Eat high fat too, and the body takes the easy way out and just stores it (why break it down to glucose when there's already lots available in your bloodstream from the HC).3
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I had to warn my hubby that his higher carb ways woud not mesh well with my high fat meals. Because of this, I tend to make meals slightly lowered fat than I would have otherwise, and then add fats (like cheese) onto my own serving. When he wants to do the same I point out how I have no potatoes and am eating off a small salad plate. A dinner plate of my food would be a day's worth of calories. LOL
Honestly, all I do to help my hubby with weight loss is try to have the foods available that will help him, and remove the foods that will hinder him. I don't buy sweets and limit tortillas and such - those foods that are too easy to overeat in. I've shown him calorie counts of his foods a few times and that helps him keep serving sizes in perspective.
Now that I have been LCHF for a couple of years, he is starting to lower his carb intake. He's getting closer to moderate carb. LOL If you give it time, it may rub off on him, otherwise he has to do his own thing.
I don't buy or bring any of the high carb items into our home, we grocery shop together he picks out what he wants. If I won't prepare somethings the way he likes he has no problem preparing somethings for himself. I will make a LC meal and he will make himself a potato or cook pasta to go with it.
I just want him healthy, I love him, he's my rock! If he is telling me he wants to lose weight and be healthier, I feel like telling him he shouldn't be eating my HF foods along with his HC food, is being supportive. I want him to succeed in any choices he makes, they do not have to be my choices.0 -
This is a good, very detailed info about why high carb and high fat aren't a good idea.
http://superhumanradio.com/blog/why-you-may-reconsider-buttering-your-potato.html2 -
I understand that HF and HC are not a good mix but unless you have started cooking high fat meals it seems like he might be eating as he did before. I don't cook high fat meals. I add my own fat to my plate just like your husband adds his own carbs as does my husband though I usually cook it.
If it is just stuff in the fridge that you buy specifically for you, it seems you should just be able to tell your husband please don't eat "x". It is for my lunch ( or whatever). The high fat stuff I eat doesn't have much appeal by itself. Cream cheese, coconut oil. I don't need high fat snacks like pork rinds so I don't buy them.
What high fat food is he eating that he didn't eat before? He lost 4 pounds so he must be doing something right for weight loss. Lots of people eat high fat high carb and are able to lose weight. I personally don't think it is healthy but they are fine with it. Losing weight should help with his high blood pressure. Hopefully. It should also help his knee problems. At least a bit. Other family health problems could be his destiny but maybe not especially if he loses weight.
Give him a High 5 on that 4 pound loss.
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I understand that HF and HC are not a good mix but unless you have started cooking high fat meals it seems like he might be eating as he did before. I don't cook high fat meals. I add my own fat to my plate just like your husband adds his own carbs as does my husband though I usually cook it.
If it is just stuff in the fridge that you buy specifically for you, it seems you should just be able to tell your husband please don't eat "x". It is for my lunch ( or whatever). The high fat stuff I eat doesn't have much appeal by itself. Cream cheese, coconut oil. I don't need high fat snacks like pork rinds so I don't buy them.
What high fat food is he eating that he didn't eat before? He lost 4 pounds so he must be doing something right for weight loss. Lots of people eat high fat high carb and are able to lose weight. I personally don't think it is healthy but they are fine with it. Losing weight should help with his high blood pressure. Hopefully. It should also help his knee problems. At least a bit. Other family health problems could be his destiny but maybe not especially if he loses weight.
Give him a High 5 on that 4 pound loss.
I have changed up my meals since getting back to LCHF. I make a lot of meals/recipes that are filled with fats, HWC and cheese, cook in coconut oil or butter. For instance last night we had baked chicken breast stuffed with cream cheese and pepper jack cheese wrapped in bacon and asparagus sautéed in butter. He is not going to pick eating just a grilled chicken breast and steamed asparagus over what I was eating. I make chicken w/ an Alfredo sauce that I eat over broccoli, he will make pasta. He will make scramble eggs with cheese and have bacon with a side of toast. I can go on but you get the idea, I make a lot of recipes, it's not just meat with a side, where I add in my fat.
I think what is helping him to lose weight right now is he has confessed(haha) to eating potato chips and a lot of other junk. He travels daily for work and he said he ate crap all day. This was eating I never saw, I assumed some of it because of the weight gain and I knew it wasn't from the meals I was preparing previously because they were not HF and we don't keep snack foods in the house. So other then the snacking in the car, which he now says is mainly almonds, not much has changed to his day to day eating that I can tell, except he now will eat the HF meals I prepare at home. He still has cereal each morning and coffee with flavored coffee creamer, a sub sandwich for lunch or other similar, he still has beers a few days a week.
Of course I am celebrating his loss, I am truly happy, it's a move in the right direction no matter how he gets there. Again I just worry his cholesterol and other health markers will go through the the roof because the addition of HF foods and meals he is now eating, but not cutting the carbs.
And just for the record, a lot of this are thoughts going on in my head and that I am coming here for advice or opinions. I'm not picking apart my hubbies daily food intake with him. He is not on the hot seat over his food choices. I'm just sharing my concerns that he's eating way to much fat while still having a lot of HC foods.3 -
PaulaJSchiller wrote: »I understand that HF and HC are not a good mix but unless you have started cooking high fat meals it seems like he might be eating as he did before. I don't cook high fat meals. I add my own fat to my plate just like your husband adds his own carbs as does my husband though I usually cook it.
If it is just stuff in the fridge that you buy specifically for you, it seems you should just be able to tell your husband please don't eat "x". It is for my lunch ( or whatever). The high fat stuff I eat doesn't have much appeal by itself. Cream cheese, coconut oil. I don't need high fat snacks like pork rinds so I don't buy them.
What high fat food is he eating that he didn't eat before? He lost 4 pounds so he must be doing something right for weight loss. Lots of people eat high fat high carb and are able to lose weight. I personally don't think it is healthy but they are fine with it. Losing weight should help with his high blood pressure. Hopefully. It should also help his knee problems. At least a bit. Other family health problems could be his destiny but maybe not especially if he loses weight.
Give him a High 5 on that 4 pound loss.
I have changed up my meals since getting back to LCHF. I make a lot of meals/recipes that are filled with fats, HWC and cheese, cook in coconut oil or butter. For instance last night we had baked chicken breast stuffed with cream cheese and pepper jack cheese wrapped in bacon and asparagus sautéed in butter. He is not going to pick eating just a grilled chicken breast and steamed asparagus over what I was eating. I make chicken w/ an Alfredo sauce that I eat over broccoli, he will make pasta. He will make scramble eggs with cheese and have bacon with a side of toast. I can go on but you get the idea, I make a lot of recipes, it's not just meat with a side, where I add in my fat.
And see, the bold is my point and has been. You have changed your diet. In doing so, you have changed what your husband eats by preparing these fatty meals that he enjoys. Of course he prefers them to a bald chicken breast on the grill. Your choices have caused your concern of HF/HC regarding your husband. Had you not started eating HF and preparing high fat meals that both you and your husband eat, he'd probably just be a high carb, Standard American Diet kind of guy.
Don't get me wrong here. You've been married 32 years. Me, 28. You know your husband's habits. I know my husband's habits. They both eat carby junk. Your husband may very well switch over to high fat (and low carb) but until he does, if he is going to continue to eat his high carbs and you need to relieve your worries about HF/HC as it relates to him, change the meals you cook so you're not preparing/feeding him high fat in addition to his high carbs.
I don't mean to sound harsh but the reality is you have created your own worry. And...I don't think for one second you are picking apart your husband's eating habits or think that he is on the hot seat. I think you are a loving wife who is concerned about her husband's overall health who perhaps just hasn't realized that YOUR change has "created" your own household/meal dilemma. The more important part of this is, that dilemma does not have to exist. As you can see from the posts of others above, because they have others in their family who are not on board with their LCHF choices, some have found ways to accommodate inter-household food choices. You can do the same.
The baked chicken breast stuffed with cream cheese and pepper jack cheese wrapped in bacon and asparagus sautéed in butter sounds delicious BTW. Agreeing that it probably is not so healthy to follow it up with a dessert of ice cream and cake followed by potato chips and cheetos as a midnight snack. Change what YOU can change which in this case may be changing what you cook for meals.
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Ask him straight out, "How do you want me to support you?" Then do what he says. (or negotiate if it's something you can't or won't do, such as make two separate meals-- maybe he makes his and you make yours, etc)
You might not be following the same diet, but maybe you can build similar goals in other areas, like fitness goals, or positive body image goals, or whatever. Something where you both feel supported and you both can use what methods work best for you.5 -
Sometimes I think some of us just need to change our relationship with food. Food is necessary to survive, yet some of us are addicted to it, so it's not like stopping smoking (We need to eat!). There are resources out there like Overeaters Anonymous and AA that can help with things like that. Just finding even one person in private who may act as a sponsor to talk to, may help. When people start to experience serious health issues, that is often the wake-up call they get, to start to pay attention to what they put into their mouths and sit up and take charge more. Unfortunately.
Just my two cents...from a fellow food addict and former emotional eater. I'm still quite the food inhaler and pseudo-gourmand, but making better choices has helped me get my mind right and also fix a lot of my health problems (I almost lost my leg ten years ago and felt like I was close to going blind... am type 2 diabetic and on no meds since May 2016, regulating my blood glucose entirely and down to normal numbers through keto alone now).6 -
Sometimes I think some of us just need to change our relationship with food. Food is necessary to survive, yet some of us are addicted to it, so it's not like stopping smoking (We need to eat!). There are resources out there like Overeaters Anonymous and AA that can help with things like that. Just finding even one person in private who may act as a sponsor to talk to, may help. When people start to experience serious health issues, that is often the wake-up call they get, to start to pay attention to what they put into their mouths and sit up and take charge more. Unfortunately.
Just my two cents...from a fellow food addict and former emotional eater. I'm still quite the food inhaler and pseudo-gourmand, but making better choices has helped me get my mind right and also fix a lot of my health problems (I almost lost my leg ten years ago and felt like I was close to going blind... am type 2 diabetic and on no meds since May 2016, regulating my blood glucose entirely and down to normal numbers through keto alone now).
It sounds like you are doing splendidly - congrats!2 -
Thank you so much. I appreciate it.2
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When I first started Lchf, I was VERY honest with myself. In order to make me stick to this WOE, I'd make ridiculously large breakfast, lunch and dinners every day for the first week. The meals were absolutely delicious..like we all know they are!...and I was so full from eating this gorgeous food, it never crossed my mind to attempt a carby snack.
That first week, I dropped 7lb and kept below the 20 total carb measure. I've stuck to lchf for over 6 weeks now and my appetite has dropped.
My point is, some of us WOULD mistake a way of eating for a diet. But if you overstuffed him with these wonderful meals, he'd might stop worrying about being on a wife-imposed diet, instead looking forward to his next delicious plate of lchf goodness. So, don't give him one chicken breast with all the trimmings, serve him 3 and see if he tucks in to his pasta or potatoes then xxx4
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