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@Avidkeo can one of you stay at a parents or friends for a bit?
Bear had one 12mg dose of Benadryl and seemed better, although it makes him paranoid and distrustful. I get up this AM and Dh let him outside. Uh? Bear has allergies, the neighbor is mowing, its wet out and whatever he is allergic to is rather high right now. I made him come back in. Idk what’s easier, Benadryl or vet with a steroid shot and antibiotics. I really don’t like the state Benadryl puts him in. Perhaps dd will help me dose him later. Dh just yells at me because “I make it harder”. Uh huh… poor bear.
Pain
I woke up about 3 to visit the loo. Walked with relatively no pain in hip. Massaging, stretching and strengthening plus the vitamin D seems to be paying off. I did wake 3-4 time feeling like the bed was an earthquake (internal tremors). So I suspect something neurological plus low D plus leg/hip are still adjusting to rotation surgery. I am dizzy again today. Which I suspect allergies or neuro. I’m just glad overall things are quieting down with the monster pain and stiffness. I do feel the tension/excitement of jerks coming on but I don’t mind them, not painful just goofy and a bit distracting.
I have to get a move on hw today. It’s due tomorrow.1 -
@swenson19d Poor Bear. Glad your pain is subsiding some. Now - GO DO YOUR HOMEWORK!
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quilteryoyo wrote: »@swenson19d Poor Bear. Glad your pain is subsiding some. Now - GO DO YOUR HOMEWORK!
LOL! 3 pages of writing to go (double spaced) and a discussion on hereditary v environmental traits according to someone... hmm. best get on it.
Dh phoned from his doc appointment
he has been having some tingling in his hands and feet so he had an EMG today. He has bilateral ulnar nerve entrapment. Sounds like they are jumping to surgery. I think PT would be a good start. Any experience or knowledge to share?
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@swenson19d just for you… I call these guys the Trouble Brothers…Fireworks last night were so crazy I made a video of the sound. They were still going at 4 am! My raccoon buddies were up a tree when I saw them. Hopefully it will be a little quieter tonight.
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This is our first 4th of July at the condo and OMG!!! It was insane. At first it was kind of cool, "look at all the fireworks we can see from our balcony". But was the first 30 mins. It went on and on and on. Our dog got an upset stomach and I was up many times with him in the night. At least 5 times! It came out both ends! Some of them were SO LOUD.. sounded like they were right next to the building and these are 11 stories each, so a huge echo.
@shanaber - I remember you having GI issues while running too. I may just have to use running as my ex-lax, lol.
But I will feel some relief to get a clean colonoscopy done.
Kids went home this morning. I went to the beach to sleep(TONS of sunscreen!) and then I got a text that we are closing tomorrow at work to prepare for the storm Elsa. My preparing will be staying another night at condo and then packing for my trip to VA on Thursday! So happy they closed. It really isn't necessary, I'm sure, but you can never predict what a storm will do! Kind of scary we are getting one so early in the year...
Did pretty well on eating all 3 day weekend except last night when I had two cookies. Forgot to weigh in because I was so tired from the dog. Nice nap on beach.
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@swenson19d I'm no help with your DH. Hope you've gotten your homework done by now. LOL
@rheddmobile Those guys are really cute. I hope it is quieter tonight.
@ddmom0811 Glad you enjoyed your weekend at the condo. Yeah for an extra day! I'm sorry you pup got sick from all of the noise. Did the kids get tired of the fireworks before they were over too? WTG sticking to your eating plan too. I don't even try when I have a family get together or special event. Enjoy your trip.
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I am seeing a counsellor tomorrow to talk through with a professional to really get my feelings. I'm also going to have a conversation with a lawyer because in NZ separating is a legal process. So I need to find out what the situation. His parents live here so I think this will go to a trial separation and individual counselling. I'm going to say for 3 months.
Honestly the more I think about it, this has been going on for about 4yrs. Its just come to head with a couple of situations over the last month.
I kinda realised today that he wants who I was 10 years ago, and I want who he was 10 years ago. And I'm not willing to go back to who I was 10 years ago.
Sorry to keep banging on. I'm still sick, so stuck at home in bed. Too much time to think.5 -
@swenson19 homework is good lol. So much reading though1
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@rheddmobile - love the raccoons! So adorable! I hope the noise level has come down some!
@ddmom0811 - I am sure the view was gorgeous for a while. It would be awful to be up several floors with a pup that is so sick!
I think I missed it but why are you going to VA? I hope the weather is nice for you while you are there and the storm isn't just following you north.
@swenson19d - hope you got your homework done and that your pain levels are better. Did you make a decision (or was there a recommendation) for the THR?
I have heard of the nerve entrapment but have no experience or knowledge. I think it is always good to ask if there is a nonsurgical treatment to try first though.
@avidkeo - I hope talking with the counselor helps. Maybe some time apart will help you both to see things more clearly as you are today and if you want to continue to be together. Hang in there and know that we are here for you!
We had a pretty awful 4th... it started out great. BIL came over and we were enjoying visiting and getting ready for dinner. I hadn't heard from Hilde but knew she didn't want to come over with us so planned to take her dinner over. When I got there she didn't answer and I figured she was asleep (not unusual) so I set the plates on the dining room table and turned to find her slumped in her wheelchair in the kitchen. She had been gone for a few hours probably. So our evening was spent with the paramedics, police and coroner. Then they all left and 'left her in our hands'. I was shocked, had never dealt with it and just figured they would take her away and we would make arrangements. Nope we had to call the mortuary to have them come and get her and I was worried since it was a holiday no one would come. Fortunately being organized the way she is she had everything detailed out, who to call, etc.. BIL fed himself (food was all ready just not served) and left and we eventually ate really late. Then I couldn't sleep just everything going through my mind... ended up getting up at 6am because it made no sense to stay in bed. I went for a run but was too tired so I just walked and tried to clear my head. I can't say I am sad exactly and it wasn't totally unexpected but I struggled to call her friends today. I only called one... Not really sure what I feel. Dh and I have been trying to get all the paperwork together that we will need. We will arrange to meet with a lawyer for when we get back from No CA to see what all we need and can do. We have POA and are the named executers but her trust is a mess. We have also heard that it is taking months to get a death certificate here because things are still so backed up because of covid and we can't really do anything until we have that.
On top of all of that our neighborhood sounded, felt and looked like WWIII was going on. It.Was.Nuts!
Poor Hobbes was a basket case drooling, shaking and going from room to room. Fortunately tonight is amazingly quiet.
We leave Wednesday morning to go to our friends' house near San Francisco and then on Thursday afternoon we are going further north near the Russian River. Hopefully the weather will be nice and there won't be fires in the area.5 -
@Avidkeo I hope the counseling helps you sort out your feelings and that a trial separation, if it comes to that, will give you the time you need to decide if you can make it work or not. Hugs. We are here for you. I hope you get to feeling better soon too!
@shanaber So sorry to hear about Hilde. It's not uncommon to feel a sense of relief when someone you have been a caregiver for passes. That doesn't mean that you didn't care about the person. It's hard. I'm glad she had everything detailed out, so you know who to call, etc. Yes, you will need the death certificate before you can do most things required. I hope it isn't months in coming. That's crazy. I hope you can enjoy your time away to N CA for you anniversary. San Francisco is a fun place to visit.
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@shanaber I’m so sorry about Hilde. She was so lucky to have you in her life.
My grandmother passed on the Fourth of July. We were headed to her house as a family to celebrate and she was sitting on the sofa with the TV on - had to get the firemen out to break into the house and they were so kind. It kind of casts a pall over the holiday, doesn’t it? We still raise a glass to her over dessert, which is traditionally watermelon in our family.3 -
So sorry to hear of the passings this weekend. It is definitely a mixed bag of emotions.
@shanaber It took me maybe 2 weeks to get mom's ashes and a death certificate back and that was in Dec. I don't think it will take that long. There is a lot to learn when someone dies and mortuaries (if they are good) are usually so helpful. Glad you got an attorney, make sure they specialize in trusts...it will make things so much easier. The first step is to get your executor certificate naming you the executor (the attorney should be able to file for this for you) and then you will need to open a trust bank account and apply for a tax ID number. From there, it is a matter of figuring out what the trust wants.
@Avidkeo I am so sorry you are experiencing this. It is a very hard time to go through and requires so much soul searching and self honesty. It seems like you have an idea of what is going on and I agree a councilor can help. Head down and keep pushing...one day it will be a memory.
We had a surprise 4 day weekend and I was glad. I got my second covid vaccine on Thursday afternoon and felt good all afternoon and thought I would dodge the ick. Unfortunately I woke up in the early hours of the morning with a violent headache. All day friday I had a low fever and generally felt like *kitten*. I took a tylenol and felt almost fine. I went to the bank to finally sort out Mom's IRA and was told politely I should read my mail and I hadn't sent in a form yet...le sigh. But I noticed a thrift store in the same shopping center and got some good stuff. The tylenol wore off and I went home and was lazy the rest of the day.
Saturday the vet called after black cats biopsy, he does have intestinal cancer. She seemed very matter of fact about it and said we will get him on oral chemo and go from there. She did not seemed overly concerned or worried about his age or progression. Black cat was doing great until yesterday, he has lost another .25lbs, he is now 10.25lbs (for a large cat) and wasn't interested in food. DH gave him nausea meds and he will get some fluids today. Hopefully it is a phase. I spent the afternoon at the Ranch pulling a really old horse trailer out of the dirt and weeds and pressure washing it.
Sunday was a "business day". I worked on my reselling business and it is going well.
Monday I was back at the ranch and finished pressure washing and cleaning out the horse trailers. I also sprayed some coyote bush, that stuff is nasty and very invasive. The mustard is dying so I think I missed the ball on that one and I will have twice as much next year...
Today I need to figure out how to sell the trailers and get some paperwork done. I am also at work today so I need to get caught up on things. There really isn't much to this job...so it can be hard to find motivation.
I have not run in 10 days. I need to get back into it if I am going to do that 25K in Sep. Forgot to weigh in today as well.
Forward momentum!
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I should clarify that my grandmother died decades ago, sorry that wasn’t obvious!1
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@shanaber I'm so sorry about Hilde. Death is never easy.
Death certificates always seem to take a few weeks. My dad's took longer because a full autopsy was requested to determine specific cause (there really wasn't anything). My uncle's was faster because we knew and didn't need the full autopsy.
Insurance can take 6 months to pay out after they get the death certificate. It's seriously a PITA like all insurance. They just don't want to pay. My uncle died in December and we got the life insurance in May if I remember correctly.1 -
@shanaber Sorry to hear of Hilde's passing. Perhaps there is some comfort that she went peacefully.
Alex had a cranial autopsy only due to the violent nature but his body was in the mortuary within 3 days and ready for viewing. Death certificate was received about 2-3 weeks and one insurance paid a few weeks after the certificate was received and the other about 2+ months. The funeral home wasn't concerned with payment knowing insurance was being filed. Settling her estate hopefully won't be too much trouble since she left legal documents.
ETA Re: calling friends/family. Can you ask one of her friends to make the calls?
@Avidkeo Don't apologize for needing us. Share all you need to. Focus on thing getting better in your life. When my ex moved out, it was such a relief for me and the kids. Separation here can be done legally too for the sake of responsibilities and child sharing arrangements.
Bear...
is still a little sick-ish. He feels well enough to go outside but still coughing and congested. I'm holding off on the vet. The water meter reader stopped for some reason and Bear went out there with a fluffy tail and "what are you doing in my yard" swagger... LOL! I grabbed him before there was a confrontations. 😂 I didn't see where the person was, sure they would have been amused to be visited by my guard cat. DD said she'd help with a Benadryl later. Beanies poop is better. No diarrhea, so yay no vet for her.
I haven't done my HW. it is due today by 1159pm.
@rheddmobile Those trouble brother are my background
too cute.
@ddmom0811 I wish they'd do something about the fireworks. All the animals are upset about it. Cori growled at the back door towards the neighbors setting off loads. My dogs were hiding before it even started for the third night in a row. I don't know where my outside cat is.
@CMorning99 Hang in there with the vaccine symptoms. I have heard they can get bad. My niece was throwing up. I was fine but had the one dose. Fluids and eat right and watch the BP, rest as you can. You always sound so busy. My day is wake, couch, bathroom, check mail, couch, snack, couch, throw cat toys, couch, amazon/online orders, couch... LOL!2 -
@CMorning99 Sorry you were hit so hard by the second vaccine. Sounds like you are making progress at your mom's and at work, so that's good. Sorry about black cat having cancer.
@swenson19d Glad your cats are doing better.
I had my 6 month follow up with the cardiologist - nurse practitioner today. I told her about having the feeling of a pounding heart (for an hour) while playing tennis yesterday (don't think I talked about it on this thread). She really had no idea, unless it is an irregular heartbeat. Was really confused since, even though I was breathing harder than I normally would, I wasn't what I would call "short of breath" or was showing any other symptoms. Everything looked good today, so she said if it happened again to call and she would order one of those patch heart monitor's to see if they could figure it out. Hopefully, it was a one time thing and it won't happen again.2 -
@swenson19 thank you as always for your support. I am so lucky to have so many around helping me through. Do your homework. And crap that reminds me I have an assignment due on Friday.
@quilteryoyo hope the heart is under control. Keep an eye on it eh and definitely get checked out if it happens again.
@CMorning99 stink about the vaccine hitting you like that. Definitely not fun.
My update in the spoiler.saw my counsellor this morning. She encouraged a 2 week wait and see approach. Sex is off the table for 2 weeks and we brainstorm ideas about ways we can each make eachother feel wanted. So I think of things I want from DH and vice versa. I booked a session for next Thursday, and another one the following Tuesday. The suggestion was he could go to the session next week, then we come together the following week. Since it's the relationship that needs work. I am open to this and suggested it to DH and he seemed OK with it too.
I commented that this counsellor encouraged me away from separation, because that's what I wanted to do. He was glad of that, then said you realise if you leave me, I'm gone. I'll disappear. I said what about the kids. He said I'm gone, won't have anything to do with them. I said go then. If that's your plan just go. (my dad left us when I was a kid). He said you seem to think we will just share the kids one week on one week off. This has shocked me. I never thought he would abandon the kids.
He is unhappy at the idea of no sex for 2 weeks, to the point he's asked me to sleep downstairs for 2 weeks. I told him that defeats the point. We are trying to find non-sexual intimacy and sleeping separate won't help that. So it's all still up in the air, and now we wait till his counselling session. I was feeling good about things till he dropped those bombshells. I never thought he would just walk away. I always thought he would fight tooth and nail. I now question who he is
Kids had cross country today. I was so impressed by my oldest. She's not athletic at all, and managed to run 1km! My youngest did half a km. So proud2 -
@Avidkeo wow, that part about the kids is heartbreaking. I hope he doesn't really mean it and was only reacting in anger/pain.2
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@Avidkeo I agree with @RunsOnEspresso I’d think it’s a manipulation/guilt tactic spoken of anger. My ex had nothing to do with the kids while married, but talk of divorce and I was an absent mother and he did everything. He planned on moving my kids 4 states away so his mother could raise them. He had the nerve to tell me that “one day he’d have a family of his own and I needed to be okay with that”. You have a family you idiot. Men are infuriating. Asking you to sleep downstairs sounds like he wants you to beg and give in to his demands. I’m frustrated for you.
ETA congratulations to the kiddos!1
