2020 - We can be our BEST SELF every day!
Replies
-
Thank you Snoozie. I really appreciate the good ideas and the support. I found out late yesterday afternoon that my daughter is being put on bed rest for the last month of her pregnancy due to high blood pressure. It was spiking when she went to work but within normal range at home. I’m going to meet her at work today and help her clean out her classroom. She’s changing high schools in the fall so she won’t be teaching at this one again. So I guess I’ll be helping her out at home a bit the next month. We’ve talked my parents into allowing a home health agency to come three afternoons a week. We’re hopeful that will work out but my mom is extremely difficult to deal with. Stress is real and living in my guest bedroom.
Jeez! I sound like such a Debbie Downer! It’s all going to be okay. Everything is going to be fine. I need to concentrate on the things I have control over and take care of myself because I have a lot of people depending on me. Eating right and getting exercise will help me stay healthy and sane. I just need to remember this and put it into action.
Enough about me!!! How is everyone else doing? How are you all dealing with the winter weather and blues?
1 -
Suz how close do you live to your daughter? My sister was on bed rest for a few months during her pregnancy and i know its gotta be stressful for both you and your daughter, but she's very lucky to have you available for sure! Might be tough on hubby having to step up and do a bit more for this last month too! Thats great that you talked your parents into getting some help... i can totally relate to you worrying about your mom not responding well to the help.. my dad was the same and it took a few different "helpers" before he found one he was comfortable with.. it IS hard to let a stranger into your home even if they are they to help!
i loved your line " Everything is going to be fine. I need to concentrate on the things I have control over and take care of myself because I have a lot of people depending on me. Eating right and getting exercise will help me stay healthy and sane." So true!!! (and i did laugh at the "sane" part!!
I had gone for some blood tests on wed - just the usual ones before my sched 4 month apt next week.. but on thurs my doc called and said you need to come in today and start meds..yikes.. but she told me on the phone it was because i apparently i have something called hyperthyroidism; its pretty uncommon as most people have hypo, not hyper - hyper is where your thryoid is in overdrive and pumping out massive amounts of hormones and pretty much throwing your entire system into overdrive. My doc had tested me 4 months ago and it was a little high but i guess the tests this time showed the numbers were off the charts.
Anyway i'm now on meds for a month and then will retest.. i'm really hoping they work cause if not they will have to look at other options which didn't sound that appealing at all!
But it may explain some of the things that have been going on as some of the symptoms include not sleeping (me!) anxiety, muscle weakness etc... but the big one can be weight loss LOL.. so here i have been thinking i've been doing really well as i've lost about 8lbs since October.. but turns out it wasnt me making it happen, it was because of the HT.. BUMMER lol
I'm off today to an art exhibit where a friend has some pieces on display, then a kiddie show at the :LAC tonie... it's going up to 7C here tomorrow woo hoo so i'm thinking perhaps a walk at the lake is in my future! have a great wekeend everyone
2 -
“Sane” is in the eye of the beholder. Lol!
I’m sorry to hear about the thyroid issues. It seems to me that a high percentage of the women I know have thyroid problems. It’s a bummer that the weight loss might be a result of that instead of your efforts but how encouraging to know that the muscle weakness and sleeplessness can be helped! I think it can take some time to get your medication adjusted just right so hang in there. At least they caught it and you’re addressing the problem.
My daughter lives about 35 minutes away, so not too bad. She’s in the exact opposite direction of my parents who live 45 minutes away from me. I’m going to be putting some miles on my car! Lol.
0 -
Thanks Suz... i think the people with "hypo" have a very difficult time adjusting the meds to get to the "right" amount a lot of trial and error.. they are the ones with a really slow metabolism where its underactive and theres a lot of adjusting to get the dosage right.. i'm honestly not sure how it works with the "hyper" tho.. i have to take one pill a day for a week then 2 pills a day for 3 weeks... and i think i have to go for a scan to make sure there's nothing else going on with it. If the meds dont work she said they will use radiation to burn out the thyroid completley.. gak.. so i am thinking positive that the meds will do the job! I'm not sure if the muscle weakness is actually part of it, but i confess i googled the disease (i rarely do that!) and it was listed there so again hoping the meds will fix that up too!! I worked a kiddie show at the LAC last night and i crouched down to ask one of the mom's if they wanted a booster seat for the kid.. but by the time we both figured out what each other was saying it took a few min, and when i went to stand up again i could barely make it back up - i grabbed a seat back to help... so it woudl be good if the meds help out in that area too!
Of COURSE your daughter and parents are in opposite directions from your place.... never fails, eh? Yes youre likely to be putting on the miles so hope your car is in good shape LOL.
When does the parental help start - have they had their first person show up yet? keep us updated as to how it goes if they havent come yet..
It's supposed to go up to 8C this aft - which i think is about 50F ? so im think i'll go to pb for an hour or 2 at noon then hit the lake for a walk... but since i'm still in my jammies i guess it would be a good idea to shower and dress first ha... sunday mornings are meant for jammies and coffee right??
I signed up for the same 2 classes into the spring session which goes to June 22.. but i only took one over the summer.. i figure i'll be out and about enough in the good weather to make up for it!
Oh and i updated my ticker to my current weight so i can see if it starts to level off with the meds or what..1 -
Good Morning everyone,
Suzy, thanks for the support. I do understand the wine, such a tasty relaxer, but full of calories. Thank goodness your daughter has you for support and assistance. Sorry that your parent and your daughter live in the direct opposite.
Snoozie, sorry to hear about the hypothyroidism, but thank goodness one pill daily can solve the problem. Updating the ticker is the story of our lives. But at least we are hanging in there.
I was able to reach 7000 steps twice last week, and once I reached 8000. The rest of the days were 3000 to 5000. I went to the gym once. Still trying to climb the stairs at work. I will take your advice Snoozie and try to reduce the wine to 2 glasses
2 -
Hello, hope everyone is well!!
I was able to reach 7000 steps two days last week.
Enjoying food and wine too much.
Everyone have a good week.1 -
7000 steps is a great accomplishment Milove! Keep it up!
I’ve been enjoying food and wine way too much as well. I’m heavier than I’ve been in almost six years. After my shower this morning, I really looked at myself (probably too much information, sorry about that lol) and got angry. I’m angry that I’ve let myself get back to this weight. Angry that I worked so hard to lose that 35 pounds and then put it right back on.
I have two options:
1) wallow in self pity and continue to eat, then be even more angry when I gain all of my weight back.
- Or -
2) get my act together, cut out the mindless eating/snacking, eat veggies/proteins /complex carbs, measure/weigh my food to be aware of serving sizes, log my food, move more!
I’m choosing option 2. Enough is enough.
1 -
Suz if there is one thing i can relate to its regaining weight that i worked so hard to take off... the anger and disappointment I felt in myself just kept me spiraling downward... so good on you girl for seizing the anger and making it work for you instead by deciding on option #2! And smart on putting together a plan to get to where you want to be! Im trying to go back to some basics too.. the smaller meals, yesterday i had a turkey tomato and lettuce sandwich, it was pretty big so i only ate 1/2 of it and had the other 1/2 around 230pm.. kept me from starving before dinner BUT also had a late dinner and ate way too much because i was hungry again... so note to self.. one day at a time, small changes here and there just like when we started will help us get there!! Hugs2
-
Yep...one day at a time. So true. Not every day is going to go as planned but we have to just do our best, learn from our mistakes and strive to do better.
How are the meds for your thyroid going? Could they be making you more hungry? I bought some herbal teas yesterday and am going to try and drink them when I start feeling hungry between meals and right before dinner. I’m hoping it will help curb my hunger until I get used to eating less.
I’m going over to my daughter’s house tomorrow to do a deep cleaning for her. She’s measuring 39 weeks already and they’re hinting at inducing next week! That’s only a week earlier than we expected but she’s freaking out. Anything I can do to help reduce her stress is a good thing. It will be good exercise for me, too. Win win!! Lol.
1 -
great idea on the teas!! and yep its not about perfection but progress... i'm honstly going to take it one day at a time. Tonite i am gonna try a chicken cacciatore; not sure if the skinnytaste one is to my liking but i figure it can't be too high in cals no matter what.. and i'll have leftovers lol..
I'm not sure how the meds are working yet; i go for blood tests end of next week which may let me know..
I bet your daughter is gonna love you more for the deep clean - and as you said will burn off a few cals too!! oh myyyyyyyyy you're gonna be a grandma in a few weeks!! woo hoo1 -
I’ve got that recipe on my “need to try” list. Let me know how it turns out. We’re having the chicken sausage stuffed zucchini boats tonight. Last night I made the super easy chicken thighs with artichoke hearts and feta. So good!
I updated my ticker weight. How depressing. I’m heavier than I was at the beginning of 2019 by two pounds. My lowest weight was in August 2014 and I was 34 pounds lighter then than I am now. I had lost 44 pounds by then so I’m still down a total of 10 pounds....in six years...really depressing. I’m choosing to look at it as motivation though. I did it before so I know I can do it again. I may be six years older but that’s no excuse. My goal is still to be at 160 by my 60th birthday, which is in 15 months.
1 -
Suz i think updating your ticker was a really good idea (just my thought) - because now you know where you're starting and watching your progress as you go will be very motivating! and you have the 10lbs GONE as a great start too!!! I have no doubt you will get to your goal my friend... i dont know if it will help but i remember years ago a nutritionist telling me for a "quick start" weight loss to just stick with proteins and any green veggies LOL.. i think i made it a week before i started jonesing for a carrot!! It did work to motivate me with a few pounds loss but the nagain that was 20 yrs ago.. when my metabolism actually worked lol
In any case, as we know now, deciding to make changes is the biggest hurdle - and you've already leaped over that one! If i did the math right, aiming for one pound gone every two weeks will get you to your birthday goal - and what a great gift to givey yourself! hugs1 -
oh.. i didn't use the skinnytaste recipe.. i kinda made it up as i went from a few different ones.. basically its jst chicken in a tomato saue with veg lol... i did dice carrots, celery, onion, and mushrooms so at least i got a few veg in. It was just .. ok.... a little bland (which is one reason i hate cooking.. all that work and it's just.. ok lol).. but it wasnt horrible so that's a step up at least!!
The sun is out and its about 40F today so i am gonna head to the lake for a stroll.. havent been out of the hosue for a few days becaus emy foot was messed up but today its way better and cabin fever need to break!! have a good day -
Gail, Vail - hope all is well in your worlds; miss ya!1 -
Sorry, I've been MIA yet again. After poor health since January, I ended up with seasonal flu (yes, I did have the vaccine! But it's not 100%). I am just recovering now. The good news is I lost weight, lol! The bad news is I feel I now want to eat all the meals I missed while I had the flu, and I am so weak it's unbelievable. I'm finding it really challenging to do things like walking a very short distance or housework. Just waiting to get COVID-19 next! There have been some cases locally, but looks like it's going to get everywhere the way it's going. I hope you are all keeping as safe.
I'm going to focus on doing little bits of housework until I feel a bit better, and I will need the energy to cope with work. I'm not going to go to the gym until the epidemic passes over - it's not the most hygienic of places at the best of times! But will try to build my strength up again at home as I recover.
I'm catching up on all your news. I hope your daughter is well, Suzy, and not too stressed. Sounds like you will have some exciting news very soon! I am worse than you with my weight - I'm about 10lb heavier than I was a year ago. Like you, I'm still lighter than when I started, which I honestly think is major - at least we haven't been gaining all these years! I have used herbal teas before to help to stop eating - it does work a little, I think.
Well done on the steps, Milove!
Snoozie, I hope your thyroid meds are working OK. Good luck with your tests. Looks like you have things in hand with the portion control and healthy cooking. I agree that it's frustrating when things aren't too tasty after all the work of cooking, lol! Oh, you asked if I had a cooker, yet - no, I don't! I can't believe it's been this long! I'm managing with my pressure cooker and microwave. Not ideal.
1 -
Vail, I’m so sorry that you’ve been sick. Take your time getting back into the swing of things. I think it’s smart to avoid the gym with your immune system compromised by the flu. I can’t imagine being without my stove/oven for so long. Any idea how much longer?
0 -
Thanks, Suzy. I honestly don't know about the cooker - it's a problem with my kitchen not fitting safety regulations and I can't seem to get any answers.0
-
Vail I'm so sorry to hear you were ill - life is so much harder when you feel like crap; i hope you are well on the mend. I feel for you with the weakness; i know i told you about not being able to get up off the matt at class because i was too weak; and lately my walks at the lake i'm finding im winded far too easily and a few other things are quite challenging these days.. I am sure with time as you recover you will regain your strength....
The weight loss i've been having is from the hyper thyroid, not from me eating well or healthy.. in fact its almost causing me to think i can eat anything and still lose weight.. gak!! Today was the first time the scale was up a bit in a few weeks, so maye the meds are starting to kick in and i will need to smarten up! The ultra sound on my thyroid didn't show any nodules so that's really good; but i have to go for another one on my neck as apparently there are calcium deposits on some of my neck arteries.. hmmm anyhooo they didn't appear to think it was too urgent and they were pretty quick with the other tests so we'll see when that's scheduled...
We are having a lovely break in winter this weekend; about 50F and beautifully sunny; i've had some probs iwth my foot and hip the past few days just annoying but i'm gonna try to hit the lake for a walk both days even if its just a short one. Hope everyone else is having a good day... and Suzy hope all is well with both your daughter and your parents at the moment so you have a little breathing space before becoming a grandma!!2 -
Good for you for taking advantage of the nicer weather even with your aches and pains. I don’t know enough about thyroid issues to ask intelligent questions but I really hope they get it all figured out quickly.
I was doing so good y’all. Really good! Then I got a phone call from my son on Friday that he was driving down from Nashville for the weekend. His girlfriend is touring with Little Big Town and they were in Atlanta tonight so he was picking her up and spending a couple nights with us. He wants to spend some time with his sister before she has the baby. So....last night I blew it (cheese dip and wine!). Today wasn’t much better. Tomorrow is already doomed. Why can’t I stick to my guns when my plans are interrupted? Why can’t I continue to eat healthy and avoid the alcohol in social situations? Ugh. That’s something I really need to figure out.
It’s really good to have my kids here though. To see my son three times in less than four months? Priceless!!!
2 -
Suz - i'm guessing that even with the dip and some wine and a few other goodies thrown in, you STILL either ate something healthy on those days too! Those moments are just the trees, not the whole forest so don't give up and don't beat yourself up over a few indulgences.. its perfectly normal; and understandable with your son visiting! what a treat as you said to get to see him again so just enjoy and don't sweat a bit.. aim for a couple of healthy choices for breakfast or lunch if you can but even if you dont just enjoy yourself
1 -
I love that, “just the trees, not the whole forest.” ❤️
0 -
So I was watching this webinar on my computer and although it deals specifically with Type 2 diabetes, there was a psychologist on there talking about that aspect of dealing with it.. but one of the things she said that REALLY RESONATED with me...
was when she described one technique that was to think of food choices as a trade... you might be trading feeling like a piece of cake... but you're trading that choice for excess weight and heightened blood glucose. And it is a choice... no judgement, just a choice.. and you have to make that choice, knowing what youre trading for it...
I don't know why but that thought process really hit me between the eyes.. more so for the blood sugar because i'm not at target... but also for the weight loss ... for me thinking of some of a my choices as a potential "trade" might make me reach for the orange instead of the cookie... i really liked too that she said you can plan for a "detour" (i.e., a party, your birthday, whatever) in my case, by eating less carbs early in the day, and making sure I try to keep moving during the party, not plop on the couch.. or go for a walk when i get home (alhto i wouldnt walk my neighbourhood at midnite lolol).. but by getting rid of any judgement as to "good or bad" and reducing it to simply a choice that may make you trade your health or weight... i swear im gonna write the word TRADE on my hand for a few days LOL..
and yep. i just ate an orange!!
Anyway just wanted to share as the weight loss aspect is something we are all working on
Hope everyone is having a good week and Vail hope you are feeling better and Suzy i'm assuming we'll be the first.. or second.. or 20th to know when youre a grandma!! (and there WILL be pictures!!)
1 -
Good Morning,
Ladies what I am reading and feeling we are not giving up we are pushing through and we are going to be winners
I am a yo-yo up and down on the scales!!2 -
My son and his girlfriend left yesterday and I’m still eating poorly. Making trades that aren’t going to help me lose weight. I just got back from the grocery store and threw all the leftover crapola in the trash bin. No time like the present to start making smarter choices.
My daughter’s doctor visit yesterday revealed that her baby is now about nine pounds (😳) and she has a narrow pelvic channel, so she’s most likely looking at a c-section in a week or so. Her actual due date is the 18th. Needless to say, she’s terrified and stressing out which is not good for her blood pressure. She was 9.14 when she was born, her brother was 10.12....so big babies run in the family. If you get a minute, send good thoughts her way...thank you!
Milove, I feel like the yo-yo queen so welcome to the club! As long as the downs are greater than the ups in the long run, we’re doing okay! 😂0 -
sending good vibes to your daugher Suz! i know its the fear of the unknown and nobody can help us when we're in that mindset so hopefully just having you around will help her try to not get as stressed - but completely understandable! happy thoughts going her way1
-
Thinking of your daughter, Suzy. It's such a stressful time, and I agree with Snooozie about the fear of the unknown. I think we get so used to being able to at least have some control over our lives and planning for things, but having a baby you go into without much control and no certainty of what exactly is going to happen!
I ended up having an emergency c-section with my son, and I'm only saying because it was such a lovely experience in the end. Obviously it was a long time ago, but I imagine things can only have got better, and with a planned section even better still. My judgment might have been clouded by the fact that I'd been in labour, so I think I was a bit euphoric about having no pain during the procedure! But I felt the staff were very thoughtful, talking to me throughout and holding my son on my chest after he was born (because I couldn't move or pick him up!) and helping me feed him. I hope your daughter knows that it can still be a really good birth with a section.
Thank you for the idea about trades, Snoozie. I do like that and will try to keep it in mind. I know this is ridiculous, but it's almost as if I forget that it's myself I'm rebelling against when I eat things I shouldn't! Thinking of it in a non-judgmental way as a trade might help. That piece of cake is so tangible in the here and now, whereas my future health is a bit vague, and I sometimes forget the "cost".
Milove, I'm also yo-yoing! I lost weight with the flu, but it's gone straight back on again!1 -
I ended up driving my daughter to the hospital today and her husband met us there. She may have to have a c-section. I wasn’t allowed to stay and be there with her because they’re only allowing one person per patient throughout the entire hospital. It was so hard to leave there not knowing what’s going to happen, to not be there if she needs me. We won’t be able to see her or the baby until she returns home. 😢
2 -
Oh Suzy you must be losing your mind!! I’m so sorry you can’t be with her - I know everything will be fine - can your son in law face time on his phone with you at least ?? Not much I know but I feel so bad I know how much you want to be with her sending hugs !0
-
How difficult for you, Suzy. I hope they are managing to keep in touch, but I know it's not always possible and might go on a while. Hopefully she can get home quickly after delivery. Are you able to Skype or anything like that? Fingers crossed, hoping it all goes as well it can do. *hugs*0
-
I have a grand daughter!!! 8 pounds 10 ounces! She did end up having a c-section but momma and baby are doing fine! What a stressful, agonizing, sleepless night...and that was me! 😂 I know it was tough for my daughter but she came through like a champ! My heart is full!
2 -
SO HAPPY for you Suzy - congratulations and welcome to the world little one!!
2
