October 7
Mrs_Hoffer
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Did I exercise for at least 20 minutes?
Did I stay within my calorie budget for the day?
Did I keep track of everything I ate and drank?
Did I stay within my calorie budget for the day?
Did I keep track of everything I ate and drank?
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- We have to stop blaming our current relationship with food or weight or lifestyle because our childhood was crappy, our marriage sucks, our job is stressful…..and start taking 100% responsibility for our choices.
- Permanent change does not happen by blaming our past (or present) because “it’s not fair.”
- Only change what you’re willing to do the rest of your life.
- Whatever you do today to lose weight must be what you’re willing to do indefinitely.
- People yoyo diet because they start a restrictive diet plan, stick with it for awhile, then abandon it, binge, gain weight, and continue.
- The cycle stops when you take ownership of the journey. What are you willing to do the rest of your life. Ask yourself “what have you done in the past that you enjoyed – or what was too rigid. Refuse to blindly follow any one plan. Realize that no matter what you do, you’re going to have to change it up to work for you. Take 100% responsibility for your journey.
8 - We have to stop blaming our current relationship with food or weight or lifestyle because our childhood was crappy, our marriage sucks, our job is stressful…..and start taking 100% responsibility for our choices.
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I understand what she’s saying here….however
“Only change what you’re willing to do the rest of your life.
Whatever you do today to lose weight must be what you’re willing to do indefinitely.”
Not really true - at least for me. I can eat (a lot) more calories in maintenance than I could when I was dieting.8 -
MadisonMolly2017 wrote: »I understand what she’s saying here….however
“Only change what you’re willing to do the rest of your life.
Whatever you do today to lose weight must be what you’re willing to do indefinitely.”
?Not really true ? at least for me. I can eat (a lot) more calories in maintenance than I could when I was dieting.
On the other hand, you have shown that you are more than willing to do work and research into your past choices. That’s how you have discovered a maintenance level which works for you. I think that shows the truth of the statement. You ARE most definitely willing to do what it takes. [/i]
As for me, these first 2 nuggets are rapidly turning into an almost blow by blow account of my own journey. I so endorse the 100% responsibility model. It goes hand in hand with my belief that everything is a choice.
Now, I'm eager to see what the other 4 nuggets bring, and patience is not my strongest point 😂8 -
Thursday 7 October
I agree that ownership is important and not having a victim/ loop hole perspective is helpful.
Exercise: YES (30 minutes Body Balance)
Calories under: YES
Tracked all: YES
(Pass days used 1/3 so far)6 -
This is a really good one. It stings a bit too. And it can be an ongoing process as well.
Hopefully for everyone it is as simple as lifting a weight off of you and forging ahead without encountering too much resistance in the future.
In the end it comes down to every choice you make is your choice. And technically that should be a no brainer, how can your choice ever possibly be somebody else's choice? Yet how many times has your choice not felt like what you wanted?
In the end, I CHOOSE what I put in my mouth when I CHOOSE to go out with other people to THAT restaurant or event (insert most insanely difficult option here), likewise I CHOOSE to accept those crazy food gifts or treats offered to me by people and then CHOOSE if I eat them.
That sort of stuff is liberating, sure, and also a continuing burden in a way, like @TerriRichardson112 mentioned.
For example, just a year ago I was living through an extended period where I CHOSE to basically give up because I felt so powerless against the incessant waterfall of pure dung called life. In the end nothing got any better, and many things were only made worse. But I CHOSE to make it that way and then CHOSE to stop being an idiot and to start making better choices.
Done though for now. That sucked. Good topic today! Keep 'em coming.7 -
Another fab nugget and great reminder! Xo
*Follow UAC rules 👎Worked out, tracked but 200 over cals so pass for me. I like now that my passes are only over slightly. I think I may be letting go of the "go all out cos it's a pass day mentality"
*Continue to maintain weight 👍
* Actively use grazing container daily👎
* Stretch as much as possible 👎
* Monitor sugars👍
* Journal write👎
* Hve me time👍
* Use complaints free braclet👍
* Keep phone usage to a minimum👎
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MadisonMolly2017 wrote: »I understand what she’s saying here….however
“Only change what you’re willing to do the rest of your life.
Whatever you do today to lose weight must be what you’re willing to do indefinitely.”
Not really true - at least for me. I can eat (a lot) more calories in maintenance than I could when I was dieting.
I can see why you'd come to this conclusion based on how I wrote it. Her point is not to do things like "eat only cabbage soup" or "go on the popcorn diet" or "never eat sugar again". Those types of radical changes that no one can sustain. And the philosophy for maintenance is exactly the things you're doing - you add back in more calories, but maintain all the healthy habits you've developed. It seems so blatantly obvious, but hearing her saying it was so radical for me.TerriRichardson112 wrote: »As for me, these first 2 nuggets are rapidly turning into an almost blow by blow account of my own journey. I so endorse the 100% responsibility model. It goes hand in hand with my belief that everything is a choice.
Now, I'm eager to see what the other 4 nuggets bring, and patience is not my strongest point 😂
I hear ya! For me it's things that I somehow knew, but didn't embrace.WhatMeRunning wrote: »For example, just a year ago I was living through an extended period where I CHOSE to basically give up because I felt so powerless against the incessant waterfall of pure dung called life. In the end nothing got any better, and many things were only made worse. But I CHOSE to make it that way and then CHOSE to stop being an idiot and to start making better choices.
Amen - amen - and amen. BTW - did this turn out to be the same Heather Robertson as the YouTube workout videos?
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An example of these first two nuggets for me - After my divorce 10 years ago, I was sure I'd lose a bunch of weight because I was finally free of a 32 marriage that was full of manipulation and emotional abuse. I was sure I'd be "free at last" and able to stop the binge eating. However, exactly the opposite happened. I gained around 30 pounds, STARTED drinking, and still binge ate. I couldn't blame him for my bad habits. It was almost like self-inflicted emotional abuse. It has been quite a journey to get where I am - which is happy, content, strong, confident, and loved. But this last part of losing weight has eluded me. And so her podcast and truths really speak to me.10
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I don't think so, but I can't say for sure. I suspect if it was the same then it would be easy to find out. There is no mention of "Half Size Me" on the website for the YouTube series workout instructor named Heather Robertson and likewise no links or mention of these workouts on the Half Size Me websitebiketheworld wrote: »did this turn out to be the same Heather Robertson as the YouTube workout videos?1 -
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Reflections on Golden Nugget 2-
I agree that blaming current weight or food issues on external factors is not helpful. Sure, we are all products of our environment, but we are here because we determined we want to work on ourselves. No one can do that but us and it ultimately comes down to boundary setting and making our own choices.
I've been overweight for so long and recently gained another chunk before I got on here. I had decided I would always be overweight. How silly was that? Sure, I'll always be if I choose that! But 86 pounds gone is all the proof I need that this is on me.
Heather repeats often on her coaching calls that we should implement in our journey the strategies we are willing to stick to and for me this is just yo-yo dieting avoidance. I have had SO many people ask me what I'm doing to lose weight. No one likes the CICO answer.. it's not sexy, but CICO is always possible. So is my walking and exercise. There is confidence in my newfound habits, I can take them wherever I go and they're accessible to me in any situation.
Logging in here every day gives me inspiration that this is possible. Another habit I'll love keeping long term is logging into MFP daily. Surround yourself with like minded individuals!8 -
@MadisonMolly2017
I don’t post often outside eof the response to the 3 questions.
I am exercising and not overeating. Just losing interest in food for the most part. Trying to learn to eat to live. Maybe I have psyched myself out. Not sure. Scale doesn’t seem to be moving although I am working to change how I feels about the scale.5 -
7 Oct
Did I exercise for at least 20 minutes? yes
Did I stay within my calorie budget for the day? yes
Did I keep track of everything I ate and drank? yes
Pass days used:0
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7th October
3 x Yes5 -
I like nugget#2, we are a society that in my opinion would rather place blame on someone or something that causes us to have a negative experience. It is so much easier to place blame elsewhere than to accept errors in your life and have the courage to acknowledge and move forward with change. I get it change is hard work but if you want something bad enough you will find a way to make it happen so in plain English quit whining and get moving!!8
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Exercise: Done.
Tracked: Yes.
Within calorie budget: Yes - I actually ate way too little which isn't good.5 -
07/10/2021
Exercise – yes – bike ride and cardio.
Tracked – yes
Calories – yes
“Take 100% responsibility for your journey.”
Yes, this is so true.I left my husband 23 years ago, after nearly 25 years married, and have built my new life. I was unhappy for most of that time, (he was not abusive or unfaithful, I probably shouldn’t have married him in the first place but expectations were different back in the early 70’s, wives were expected to stick with their man). When I first left him, I thought that things would miraculously improve overnight but of course they didn’t. I had to find somewhere to live, I had to cope with the fact that my son found it too difficult and I hardly saw him for over a year. But I found a new job that I enjoyed – a new career- and after the 6 month “trial separation” he agreed that we were better apart, he bought me out of my share of the house so I could buy myself a house of my own. The day I moved in to my own house I promised myself that I would live on my own terms and take 100% responsibility for myself, my health and welfare. I had let myself get into bad habits during the 18 months that I had been on my own by then, picking up take away Chinese 3 or 4 nights a week (I was teaching evening classes so my excuse was that I didn’t have time to cook), having a drink most evenings, given up all my exercise classes. I moved into my own home on December 20th and enrolled in a WW group as soon as possible and by September I had lost 1/3rd of my bodyweight, started Bodypump classes, aerobics etc etc. I was almost unrecognisable.
I have kept my promise to myself ever since and although I do have a boyfriend now, I live on my own terms and he does not live with me or dictate what I can or can’t do.8 -
October 7, 2021
Did I exercise for at least 20 minutes? Yes, EPIC III
Did I stay within my calorie budget for the day? Yes
Did I keep track of everything I ate and drank? Yes
Kitchen Closed? Yes
Did you go "nuts" with nuts today? No (7 days -free)
Over Sugar macro today? No (5 days)
Pass day 0/3 (this is for accountability to myself and my records).4 -
✅ - Exercise 20+ Minutes: 93 minutes, aerobics/walking/circuits
✅ - Calories within budget
✅ - Tracked everything
3️⃣ Pass Days left
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Exercise - yes yoga for 20 minutes, 25 minutes of walking
Calories - yes (by the skin of my teeth!)
Tracking - yes
I like this nugget! I often blame my environment for bad choices but it’s always up to me what I actual eat. I’m not good at saying no to much really but it’s time to take charge!9 -
Egads, today was a planned rest day. I feel like I’m cheating (I haven’t had a planned rest day in my routine for some time now). I did a 20 minute walk to hit the UAC ✅, found two four leaf clovers and a five leaf clover, and called it a day exercise wise.
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I may not be responding to these nuggets directly, but I’m reading everything people are saying and appreciating all of your thoughts. I started a long paragraph last night about the “who” behind someone’s weight loss journey and how before we can do anything we need to ensure we’re losing weight for ourselves and ourselves alone if we want to be long term successful - but I couldn’t bring myself to hit post. It kind of ties Into the nugget about blaming someone else for your habits, but it’s more the “if you’re only doing it to look good/be healthy for someone else and not yourself your motivation is gone when they leave” vein of things. Perhaps I’ll figure out a better way to phrase what I’m thinking and try again later. Cheers 🍻8 -
@lesdarts180 - I wish there was a “love” button for your spoiler. You are my hero.ashleycarole86 wrote: »Reflections on Golden Nugget 2-
I've been overweight for so long and recently gained another chunk before I got on here. I had decided I would always be overweight. How silly was that? Sure, I'll always be if I choose that! But 86 pounds gone is all the proof I need that this is on me.
Heather repeats often on her coaching calls that we should implement in our journey the strategies we are willing to stick to and for me this is just yo-yo dieting avoidance. I have had SO many people ask me what I'm doing to lose weight. No one likes the CICO answer.. it's not sexy, but CICO is always possible. So is my walking and exercise. There is confidence in my newfound habits, I can take them wherever I go and they're accessible to me in any situation.
86 pounds?? That gives you rock star status. And CICO doesn’t sell books either. Kind of sad really.snowshoe072 wrote: »I like nugget#2, we are a society that in my opinion would rather place blame on someone or something that causes us to have a negative experience. It is so much easier to place blame elsewhere than to accept errors in your life and have the courage to acknowledge and move forward with change. I get it change is hard work but if you want something bad enough you will find a way to make it happen so in plain English quit whining and get moving!!
So true. Ask and teacher and they’ll confirm this.
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before we can do anything we need to ensure we’re losing weight for ourselves and ourselves alone if we want to be long term successful - but I couldn’t bring myself to hit post. It kind of ties Into the nugget about blaming someone else for your habits, but it’s more the “if you’re only doing it to look good/be healthy for someone else and not yourself your motivation is gone when they leave” vein of things. Perhaps I’ll figure out a better way to phrase what I’m thinking and try again later. Cheers 🍻
I think you phrased it very well and you’re exactly right. A hard life lesson I had to learn is that I can’t make someone else happy. Therefore, losing weight for someone else is pointless. My ex, early in our marriage, told me he’d divorce me if I ever got fat. He believed telling me that was going to give me motivation to stay thin.5 -
Yes, yes, yes
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A triple day all done4
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Exercise:
Speedy 2.25 mile run today
Tracking:
Calories:
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So, right now, I feel like I am the hungriest I have been in the entire 26 weeks and 4 days that I have been plugging away at this. I don't know why. For the first time I am really considering just eating something--nothing crazy, like 100-150 calories, but nope, I'm not going to do it. When I take a pass day it is going to be worth it, lol!
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October 7 ✅✅✅4
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Nugget #2 Oh, if only it were that easy...I think I am starting to see a trend with this lady. I will just leave it at that because I am feeling a little hangry right now, lol.3
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Oct 7
✅ - Exercise
✅ - Calories
✅ - Tracked
Pass Days Used: 1/3 (4Oct)
Exercise today was 100 minutes walking and giving a massage 💆♀️ tonight after work.4 -
October 7
✅ Exercise - zumba workout
✅ Calories
✅ Tracked
0 Pass Days Used3
