Shrinking Assets Team Chat - NOVEMBER 2021
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@Nature003Life - It sounds as though you experienced some serious physical discomfort after eating the candy; so, it might be a helpful memory to prevent feeling like that in the future. One bad day of eating isn’t going to sabotage your overall progress! I hope you can release the shame. You did a great job facing the feelings of shame ‘head on’ by sharing your experience here. Good for you!
My father used to say guilt (or in this case, shame) is a wasted emotion and he advised us to put our energy into learning and using what we learn to improve. His approach really helped me realize that reflecting on what didn’t feel good is important, but only in terms of learning and informing my next steps. You really learned - and grew in perspective - from that ONE bad day. So, maybe it will ultimately be useful to you. Keep going. Keep practicing. Keep improving. And, congratulations on using ‘crisis’ as opportunity!2 -
Justanotherloser007 5'3 48 yo SW 277 in 2013
PW: 185
CW: 182.4
@cre804 I know you want ideas for snacks, but in the summer I am a cherry addict. After that, I just add flavors to my coffee with sweetleaf, which is no calories.
@KittyInBoots17 Hey Kitty! I hope you find a plan that will help you ((hugs)) I set my calories during the week to a 1-ish lb loss and eat back some of my exercise calories. (I realize this week looks like a winner, but the Doc is messing with my thyroid meds in case they are creating some of my mental fog - so I really felt like I had an assist for the past week) But more importantly, I do Sunday's differently.
Something like this may help you. Since I had 147 lbs to lose at the beginning, my strategies have always been to keep an eye on maintenance. What will it take *if* I lost the weight to keep it off forever? I decided to set my calories on Sunday - to a generous 1500 calories what might be maintenance at my goal weight. (Actually it will be more like 1400 cal if that - cuz I am short and older and sedentary and that does not including the calorie efficiency after you lose significant weight - the body is tricky). Also, if I want to eat back all my exercise calories I do it! I realize some people call these "cheat days" I call them "maintenance days". Partly because it is the plan, and partly because if I use language like "cheat" I feel licensed to do whatever I feel like doing - and that always leads to the poorest choices for me.
Yep, some Sundays I could theoretically eat 1800 calories!! Normally I hover at 1500. Just being able to have that one day, helps a lot. All the goodies that I do not eat or even deal with ever, on Sunday's - within reason - I can have. I still count my calories, and weigh my food, and walk in the morning - because when I get to maintenance I will need to do this for a while to get a feel for where I am at calorie and exercise wise. It is common for me to make a keto cake, or some keto cookies on Sunday (hubby is diabetic). If *item* is the whim for the week - Sunday is when I make happy plans to eat it. I do pay attention to how full I am, however I am not as strict with macros on Sundays. I do notice that the more junk I have, the less nutrition I am actually getting then I will be hungrier. My higher oil lower carb diet has really made me generally less hungry - and pretty much even one sugary snack can make me feel ALL THE HUNGRIES all over again. Which sometimes is a thoughtful price I pay. But of course, now that I know that, this is not a price I am willing to pay all the time. No one wants to feel hungry all the time!
Going slow is not the end of the world some people think it is. Losing slower, is just that - losing slower. But I feel you have way less craziness in the control department and I feel you are setting yourself up for success when you do get to maintenance. I don't know if you know anyone who lost a bunch of weight only to be so glad they were no longer "dieting" then gain it all back (5 family members not even counting friends). Slower helps you keep it off in the long run from what I have read, and I have seen the faster losers not keep their losses so I am willing to try.
Personally, I don't want to go through this AGAIN. I would really really like to learn how to keep the weight off the first time around. So if that means it takes me longer than all the unsuccessful people I know, so be it. I will take however many years it takes me to do it, then I will be on maintenance. Maybe something here will help you help you out my .0000000002 cents.
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@KittyInBoots17 - Your message above really resonated with me because I also had a tough week, mentally, last week. My computer crashed and the darker days seemed to come a bit suddenly. I started switching my clothes for the colder season and the house felt messy and disorganized. I’m also getting ready to transition my exercise routine for the winter and work was busy. The combination of stress and change made me think way too much about food as ‘comfort’ and it took a lot of extra energy to self-talk myself out of sabotaging week. A couple of days, I decided to eat at maintenance level, rather than worry about a deficit for the day, and somehow I still ended the week down .5 pounds.
I had to drive to a computer center to recover my data and I really wanted to stop for a latte and piece of pumpkin bread at the nearby Starbucks to ‘accompany’ me on the drive home. I had to remind myself that the evening dose of caffeine would just feel worse in the long run because I might have trouble sleeping. I tried multiple strategies in addition to the self-talk - such as eating one extra Reese’s peanut butter cup and logging it ahead for the next day - as a way to stay within my daily calories on a particularly ‘down’ day. Sometimes that works for me (e.g., when I know I have a more intense workout the next day and everything will even out). However, it didn’t work this week because I wanted the same snack the next day. So, it just prolonged the inevitable!
Similar to @cobluejay, I typically find that I do well when I can burn 200-300 calories through exercise, which allows me to stay within my daily calorie target with a snack included. I felt very relieved when I was able to recover my computer data, focus on catching up on work tasks, and reduce my stress (and inflammation!) by rewarding myself with better self-care options (e.g., I booked a massage and took a hot bath to relax). At the end of the week, I would have been satisfied with a slight gain or staying the same weight, so I was surprised at the slight loss!
I like your idea of setting your weight loss goal at half a pound per week. When I stopped worrying about a particular timeline - and realized I was making lifelong habit changes - it was a positive game changer for me. My maintenance level nutrition and fitness goals have not really changed compared to my behavior when ‘actively’ trying to lose weight.
Right now, I set my calorie target a little lower than my maintenance plan because I don’t measure my food rigorously. I just guesstimate the calories — though I try to overestimate calorie intake while underestimating my exercise calories burned, since I read most people do the opposite and find it difficult to lose weight. I might have to pay more attention to weighing and calculating my nutrition this year as I work on building my strength and flexibility; but, releasing any weight loss ‘deadline’ plans - and focusing on sustainable habits instead - helped me tremendously. I’m wishing you the best as you try the ‘slow but steady’ approach to losing .5 ponds per week!5 -
Hi team!!
First, I want to apologize for the crappy job I have been doing as Captain. My focus has been elsewhere, which is obvious.
I will be beginning my new career Monday... I am sure this will occupy a great deal of my time. Secondly, I am still very active in AA -- my sobriety is WAY more important to me than my weight at this point. I will be 90 days sober Sunday
I have been juggling many balls, and this is the one that I have dropped. Again, I would like to apologize.
With all this being said, I would like to step down as Captain. I have filled this role for several years and am quite stale. It is time for some fresh, new whippersnapper to take the reins. I would also like to be on the cheer squad for a bit. Maybe till January.
PLEASE someone step up and take this position. It is not very time consuming. It would be perfect for an office worker who can drop by 10 min a day or a retiree looking to fill some space in their day.
My hopes:
More structure.... Hopefully the new job will provide less idle time for me to find things to shove in my mouth. I want to come back in a bit and be an active team member -- not just the absentee captain that enters weigh ins on a spreadsheet.
In the short run, I will miss you all. I will miss the community here. I do want to stay on cheer so I can stop by when I can.
Love to all,
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Cre804
Friday
PW 192.0
CW 192.0
Rocking the maintenance again. /s
All in all, considering we had out of town company and a wedding over the weekend, I guess I’ll take it. I’ve been struggling with eating all the things but it’s been a bit better today. Just have a lot on my plate at the moment so it’s hard to focus on eating right. On the bright side, I haven’t eaten out all week so that is encouraging!6 -
@Beka3695 I’m pretty sure I speak for all of us when I say we really appreciate all that you have done for this team and community. The balls in your real life are a lot more important to juggle than us online folks, so I’m actually glad this is the ball you dropped and focused on your health, career and family instead
I’m hoping we can find a new awesome captain for the team! As I understand, the motivator position is also open. I don’t know if this is allowed, but I’d like to nominate @PatriceFitnessPal to take either position - Patrice, your messages are always insightful, motivating and helpful to others on this team so I think you’d do a great job leading the team also in a more official setting of course other team members would do a great job as well and seeing anyone step up would be awesome!
@Nature003Life I agree with Patrice about the physical discomfort memory - I’ve had that crappy too-much-candy-feeling enough times in my teenage years that I eventually noted how bad it felt and realized candy is not good for me, and I rarely even have it anymore. I sometimes have a couple of pieces from my husband’s bag if he gets some, but my maximum amount is maybe 5 pieces and I’ve successfully stayed this way for more than 10 years. Chocolate and ice cream, on the other hand, are a whole different deal…
Re: the snacking conversation. I really need to stop buying chocolate and chips, and start leaving healthier snacks on the table. I’m thirsty and hungry all the time (hello, breastmilk production!) and I stuff whatever’s on the kitchen table into my mouth whenever I walk past it. One day I had cherry tomatoes and blueberries lying around, so I ate them, but most days it’s been chocolate and chips. Based on this, it seems like a no-brainer I eat what’s on the table, so I have to keep healthy stuff on it.8 -
Anniesquats100
Friday
Pw 169.2
Cw 168.25 -
Jazzadesigns
Saturday
PW: 215.9
CW: 215.8 (-0.1)
I had asked for a pass this week since I had a work conference and ate over my calories and had a few treats (and alcohol). But since I had a loss I figured I’d post it. I hope that’s okay.
October was my worst month on my weight loss journey so I need to get back on track. Like @cre804 I feel like the colder weather had me eating more. And this is the first year ever that I didn’t participate in Trick or Treat. I felt guilty about not giving out candy, but it really helped me as I am not eating left over candy every day like I usually do. Halloween usually kicks off my holiday season of over eating. But I have to remember that Thanksgiving is only one day out of this month and I should stay on track the rest of the days.4 -
Hi everyone! Sorry for weighing in so late in the day. Daughter is starting a new job and needed a few things. Stepped out with her and completely forgot about it.
PW: 275
CW: 276.6
That's not as bad as I thought it would be. Thought I was going to see 280 again.
Thank you everyone for your words of wisdom and encouragement. I am feeling better. Dealing with it head-on. No, I do not feel shame. Let that go when I shared it with you guys. Still a bit bloated. Doing a little better keeping track of what I eat and how much water I drink.
I do not look at candy the same way lol. Actually, get nauseous looking at it. That reminder is stuck. Goal for November is still to get to 270. I know I can do it.
Have a good rest of the day everyone!!!!!
It's a nice day to smile. Or as my co worker says; smile, youre awesome. 3 -
Next week is going to be interesting. My husband goes back to work on Monday, which means we can no longer split the ”night shift” with the baby 50-50 and then sleep in. Instead, I have to manage nights and his workdays on my own with the baby, so that’s going to be a big change. Luckily he’s working from home, so there’s no time spent on commute. Unluckily, our daughter keeps getting fussier and fussier, compared to the first week when she slept 6 hours straight several days in a row… I’m hoping for that to come back!2
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Hello Assets!
You all are doing great - even though there is a bit of a change on the way. It is hard losing @Beka3695 as co-captain, and you'll be needing a bit of bolstering up until your team leadership is renewed and ready to roll.
I'll do my best to keep up with the weigh-ins and any questions you might have about excused weigh-ins, day changes, questions, and fabulous stuff like hitting 50 pounds gone (GO @coblujay !!).
If you are considering the step up to team co-captain or motivator, there is a document that gives a comprehensive list. Check it out at:
https://docs.google.com/document/d/1Cnz79K-9MmrlffrfY-Eo_HQUnEsAOH61JEV9dtSNdvk/edit?usp=sharing
That list makes it look a bit bigger than the job usually is - some of the things on there only need looking after once in a while, and there should be 2 co-captains and hopefully 2 motivators to share it all. The most unavoidable duty is posting the weigh-ins on the spreadsheet. No other spreadsheet editing is required, but it needs to be kept up regularly all week every week. Otherwise, most of the duties are about keeping the team discussions going, coming up with ideas, questions, or even challenges to help everyone stay on track, etc. Of course, every team member can dive in on those kinds of things any time!
So please let me know if anyone would like to try this out. I (and the other Moderators) give a lot of support as you learn the ropes, so it should not be too onerous. Message me or leave a message here and I'll be glad to give you all the info you need.
Tally ho!2 -
November Week 1 is ending soon! Please get these weigh-ins posted here as soon as you can - tallies happen bright and early Sunday morning.
@TheMrWobbly
@DyanasLBSGoingDown
@DeanBurrows
@peachplace
@bionicpuffy
@thetigers
@leni1us
@Stefbomb2020
@taylorhudson175
Thanks!1 -
Here ya go...
leni1us
Friday
Previous Weight: 150.6
Current Weight: 149.45 -
Congratulations to everyone who participated this past week. Way to start November out strong!
Here's a sneak peek of how your team did...
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Restart day for me after holidays and a mad return to work. Looking forward to getting into a routine again
07/11/21 - 114.14 -
November Week 2 Challenge is UP!
Come enjoy playing the numbers this week:
https://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10848383/november-week-2-challenge-magic-numbers/p1?new=14 -
A week down and I gotta say I'm finding it hard to find the willpower to not eat constantly. Work is stressful (we have an audit in 2 weeks) and my usual go-to is food. Gotta make sure I have healthy snacks around as much as possible to avoid the shops.
GelatinousCube
Monday
PW: 193.4
CW: 193.07 -
BlueSkyNomad
Monday
SW: 216 (BMI 34.9)
PW: 208
CW: 205 (BMI 33.4)8 -
Happy Monday everyone. Starting will a lovely warm porridge having looked at the weather outside. Today is going to be a good day!5
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Happy Monday!! Today is my birthday- started out my birthday with Bodyfit by Amy - Bodyweight Sweat workout on YouTube; barre class after work!!
I'm keeping to move as daylight hours shrink & it gets dark by 5PM in WI7 -
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Weigh In Day: Saturday
PW (Previous Weight): 211.6
CW (Current Weight): 208.3
Sorry for the late input....my internet wasn't working5 -
I went to the maternity and baby clinic today for the baby’s appointment, and weighed myself while they were checking the baby. The baby has gained 0.7lbs in a week, which is great, and I lost 18lbs between my final pregnancy weigh-in (probably early October) and now. Interesting to see where I’m at mid-December at my postpartum doctor’s appointment. Considering my total gain from the beginning to the last weigh-in was about 42lbs, I still have a long way to go. I still have 70lbs+ to go, including both baby weight and the obesity I had packed on before getting pregnant.
I’ve successfully went on a walk with the baby every day since the day after coming home from the hospital, so two weeks straight. I’m also producing so much milk I’m calling the hospital tomorrow to ask about donating since my daughter doesn’t eat all of it, so my calorie burns are pretty decent already. Now I just need to figure out my diet. I won’t be calorie counting at least until my postpartum appointment, but focusing on increasing healthy options and decreasing chocolate.7 -
Toriirving
Monday
PW: 143.6
CW: 145.4
Not letting this get me down. Just going to have a week that’s out of my control. Sometimes the body does what it wants.6 -
DyanaLBSGoingDown
MONDAY
OW- 367.6
PW-337.4
CW-333.4
This last week I focused on keeping my salt down to drop some of this water weight I picked up going over my sodium the entire previous week. So this week I am focused on trying to up my exercise minutes and switch up my work out. I have found some good vids on you tube that I think will work. I have a broken foot right now so, I do exercises I can manage.7 -
@LaurieWrobo Happy Birthday! 🎈🎁4
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chublet25
Tuesday, Nov 9
PW: 137.8
CW: 135.8. . . . . 15.8 pounds from goal. I am nothing short of astounded at this. But it's getting cold out and oh, how I miss that built-in insulation!6 -
Well, losing this weight might be easier than I thought… I took our baby to a specialist today, and she put me on a breastfeeding diet to help with the baby’s tummy troubles. Nothing too restrictive in general, but she put chocolate on the ban list! That combined with the fact that the local hospital will be picking up my leftover milk once a week starting Monday is probably going to boost my weight loss, since there’s less calories in and more calories out with all that milk. Turns out, they pay for the milk too! Not very much, but it’s still nice to get a little something for the efforts. I mentioned the donation plan to some other local moms I’m in a chat group with, and two of them already put themselves on a personal ”wait list” to start picking up my extra milk if the hospital can’t use it (they give donated milk to prematurely born babies so they test extra carefully for bacterial growth etc.). So, it looks like I’m set to produce as much milk as possible, it’s going to help multiple babies on top of my own anyway.
Looking back at my previous post, you really do need to be careful what you wish for… just yesterday I wanted to focus on decreasing chocolate, so the universe answered.9 -
@LaurieWrobo Happy Birthday!!
@hipari Wow, that is amazing being able to help out premies ((hugs)) in addition to helping out your own!3 -
So work seems to lurch from one chaotic episode to another. Our EMEA CEO has returned to the Netherlands and I can start to plan. I noticed since both my children were home that has drained my time significantly so I probably needs to have a chat over dinner and point out I am getting back to where I was a couple of years ago able to focus and ready to be p****d off with people who interfered with my plans.
Wishing you a speedy recovery @DyanasLBSGoingDown
That is a really impressive scheme @hipari - I wonder if my doctor would prescribe no sweet stuff for me 1
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