People who judge how you diet
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Were you able to have a discussion with your brother? How did it turn out?
Bottom line is people who have been there done that are offering you their perspective of WLS because they want you to succeed, your brother I think is coming from the same place.
You have a lot of support and I think you know that.
Keep Going!!!! :drinker:
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I still weigh all of my portions, and log every bite of food that goes in my mouth every day. It's easy to do, and it becomes second nature after a little while. And whenever I notice a couple of pounds creep on, I know exactly how much to cut back for it to disappear again. It's a great feeling to be in control of it for a change.
Similar to Garber, I recently had a friend tell me that I was being obsessive by weighing and logging, and thought it might be a sign of an eating disorder. I don't know what the technical definition of an eating disorder is, to be honest. But when I was 475 pounds I knew for certain that I had one. If I have an eating disorder now, I would much rather have this kind than the Super Morbidly Obese one.
I'm with Grim on all this. It's not that you are following the advice of your nutritionist and eating a solid food meal it's that your looking for validation when you deviate from that advice and get upset when that validation is not forthcoming. I wish you success but will not tell you how great you are doing when you are freely admitting that 1/3 of the time you are not following the plan.
I also weigh and log all my food, every day (including Holidays, Birthdays and special occasions). My WLS was the start of a lifestyle change not a quick fix. I now have a positive eating "disorder" - I eat in Dis-Order: 1) Plan, 2) Weigh, 3) Log, 4) Enjoy and 5) Exercise.0 -
Lots of comments today.
Thank you all for your concerns, advices, sharings. They are all taken into consideration with personal self-reflection, as is the purpose of anyone posting a discussion.It is always good to have different perspectives.
Failure only happens when you stop trying. Being im-perfect is not an indication of future failure or even current failure. If that was true then we are ALL failures. I personally think it is more beneficial to my success to focus on things I am doing right than on discouraging and demotivating myself by dwelling in little mistakes.
The original post was asking for advise on how to deal with people who are close to you, who think they know your diet better than you, and how to politely get them to stop abrasively judging your choices.
Angela, positive thinking is great, but even here you admit you make mistakes. Like I said before, there isn't a lot of room for mistakes in this process, especially after surgery. Even little mistakes are mistakes and they can cause problems. Imperfection is not an indication of possible failure, but not doing what you need to do in a strict program like the pre-weight loss surgery process could very well be an indication though.
As far as failure, I get what you are saying, but let's face it, if we hadn't all failed at trying to lose weight normally, we wouldn't be preparing for or living with weight loss surgery. I tried to lose weight many times, but failed because I didn't do the right things. Failure doesn't just happen when you stop trying, failure can occur when you don't do things the way they should be done.
As far as your original post, people were commenting on a lot of information you put out there, not just the question about how to deal with people judging People were just trying to give advice based on what you put out there. Everyone here has experience of one sort of another that we can all learn from. This is not a process that you can look at through rose colored glasses. You can self reflect on and rationalize anything, we all can, we have all done it and that's why a lot of us are here, but being introspective is not the same as being committed to the process.
I sincerely hope you heed the advice that you are getting here. Please do all that you can to get it right BEFORE you have your surgery. I truly believe this is one of the keys to success. We all care and we all want to see each other be successful.0 -
Angela, positive thinking is great, but even here you admit you make mistakes. Like I said before, there isn't a lot of room for mistakes in this process, especially after surgery. Even little mistakes are mistakes and they can cause problems. Imperfection is not an indication of possible failure, but not doing what you need to do in a strict program like the pre-weight loss surgery process could very well be an indication though.
As far as failure, I get what you are saying, but let's face it, if we hadn't all failed at trying to lose weight normally, we wouldn't be preparing for or living with weight loss surgery. I tried to lose weight many times, but failed because I didn't do the right things. Failure doesn't just happen when you stop trying, failure can occur when you don't do things the way they should be done.
As far as your original post, people were commenting on a lot of information you put out there, not just the question about how to deal with people judging People were just trying to give advice based on what you put out there. Everyone here has experience of one sort of another that we can all learn from. This is not a process that you can look at through rose colored glasses. You can self reflect on and rationalize anything, we all can, we have all done it and that's why a lot of us are here, but being introspective is not the same as being committed to the process.
I sincerely hope you heed the advice that you are getting here. Please do all that you can to get it right BEFORE you have your surgery. I truly believe this is one of the keys to success. We all care and we all want to see each other be successful.
Love this, thank you!0
