If the police chase you, they put handcuffs on you if you're caught. Are you ladies hoping to be handcuffed?
I think the biggest mistake people make is assuming there is a right way or a wrong way. If you want "happily ever after," you have to be yourself and have faith that you will find someone whose personality and goals and dreams complement yours, AND you have to have the courage to believe that it's far lonelier to be in a relationship with the wrong person than it is to be alone.
The first step is knowing who you are and what you need. What qualities does the other person need to have and what do they need to give you in order for the relationship to enhance your life? If you can't answer those questions confidently, then you need to develop some self-awareness because if you don't know, then the only way anyone else can contribute to your happiness is by making a lucky guess.
Once you know what you're looking for, there's not so much thinking and analyzing about who should be doing what. It either feels right or it doesn't. If it feels right, you won't have to force anything. Even the hard stuff will be stuff you WANT to do because you understand the reward. If it doesn't feel right, you won't bother trying to force it. You'll just move on because you understand there IS no reward.
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