I don't wanna be single anymore!
Jennifer10723
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I am stomping my feet. But .. I want a relationship that is a partnership. Why is that so dang hard to find! Just because I am the girl in the relationship doesn't mean that I am your caregiver. I don't want the old fashioned let me make you dinner and iron your **** relationship.
I just want someone who wants to do stuff with me and love me and have loads of sex with me. Who WANTS to come home to me.
I am tired of being alone. My last relationship he lived almost an hour away from me and it was hard to see him. I always had to drive there .. even tho I was the one with the kid. I always had to pick up food on the way. I always had to suggest something to do. Over it.
Grrrrrrrrr. I don't want to go through the whole dating online thing .. that was a lot of work!
sigh. lol
I just want someone who wants to do stuff with me and love me and have loads of sex with me. Who WANTS to come home to me.
I am tired of being alone. My last relationship he lived almost an hour away from me and it was hard to see him. I always had to drive there .. even tho I was the one with the kid. I always had to pick up food on the way. I always had to suggest something to do. Over it.
Grrrrrrrrr. I don't want to go through the whole dating online thing .. that was a lot of work!
sigh. lol
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I feel your pain! You're not alone. I want the same things. But I actually DO like to make them dinner and iron their shirts lol (to an extent!! It's a plus if the guy likes to cook also!) The last guy I was "talking to/dating" (for lack of a better term) in May didn't drive to me once and we saw each other for about 2 months. I drove there every time because otherwise I wouldn't see him. (No sex btw) When I actually asked him to come by my way, he made an excuse and said he couldn't make it that night. He had made comments before about me living far away. 30 min drive is far to some people apparently :noway: But you picked up food on the way too?! Hell no!
I'm tired of being alone too :frown: It sucks. I should be used to it by now. 7 years.0 -
I just got out of a 4.5 year relationship where I felt more like his mom than his fiance, so I know what you're talking about. I'm only 5 months out, though, so I'm still in "happy to be single" mode.
There is a difference between taking care of someone because you want to and taking care of someone because they won't do it themselves. I also love cooking and don't really mind housework. But when I work 40 hours a week and you work 40 hours a week.... I'd better not be doing everything while you plop your *kitten* in the recliner, bub.
I'm not harboring any ill feelings, obviously.
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It took me a lil bit but after a 22yr dysfunctional marriage that I had to care for the invalid and another 9.5 yr relationship... I'm FINALLY at the point that I'm ENJOYING being single!!!! I'm about 10 months out from any serious relationship & feel GREAT! No one to report to, I can do what I want, no one asking why I didn't answer the phn, texts, no arguments, I can watch whatever I want on tv (except when my son is home), I can go on & on. Of course there's some things that I miss that I had in the 9.5 yr relationship but not the 22 yr one: friendship, love, awesome sex, respect, etc. but it'll come in time, maybe. I'm just gonna enjoy the freedom for now.0
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But when I work 40 hours a week and you work 40 hours a week.... I'd better not be doing everything while you plop your *kitten* in the recliner, bub.
EXACTLY!
Haha!I'm not harboring any ill feelings, obviously.0 -
Here Jen, I just read this profile on Tinder. Seems to be every womans dream...............not!!
"I am a man. I hunt. I'm hunting vagina...................................I can be contacted as randybugga on kik"
Sorry, I should be cheering you up about the online dating thing!!! :laugh: :laugh:0 -
Here Jen, I just read this profile on Tinder. Seems to be every womans dream...............not!!
"I am a man. I hunt. I'm hunting vagina...................................I can be contacted as randybugga on kik"
Sorry, I should be cheering you up about the online dating thing!!! :laugh: :laugh:
OMG! Are you kidding? Please tell me you are kidding!
I just *sigh* signed up for POF again. barf.0 -
Yeah .. I waited a good 2 1/2 years after my divorce to date ..lol. Definitely didn't want another man at that point. But I am ready now.0
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Nope......not kiddin!! Sad, isn't it? :noway:0
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Well I found a guy I know that is married with a toddler on Tinder. Makes my skin crawl now when I see him.0
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Ruth oh no!!! is this the guy that you went on the date with recently???Well I found a guy I know that is married with a toddler on Tinder. Makes my skin crawl now when I see him.
Edit: Nevermind I read that incorrectly, I'm an idiot. Sorry!0 -
Well I found a guy I know that is married with a toddler on Tinder. Makes my skin crawl now when I see him.
Seriously. What is wrong with people. If you are unhappy .. LEAVE. He isn't doing the wife any favors by staying. That is for sure.0 -
^^^ THIS!!!0
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Well I found a guy I know that is married with a toddler on Tinder. Makes my skin crawl now when I see him.
Grrrrr! :grumble:0 -
Did I mention that I ran into my ex husband on there (I posted that in the main forum and those people are too stupid to comprehend their *kitten* from a hole in the ground) but the thing said active an hour ago when I swiped on his photo.
He's currently married, and I found it funny that he only mentioned about his two girls and not his son. Oh well not my circus, not my monkeys. Once a cheater always a cheater.
I agree those guys make me wanna blow thier cover. But again...circus...monkeys....not mine...um yeah.0 -
Did I mention that I ran into my ex husband on there (I posted that in the main forum and those people are too stupid to comprehend their *kitten* from a hole in the ground) but the thing said active an hour ago when I swiped on his photo.
He's currently married, and I found it funny that he only mentioned about his two girls and not his son. Oh well not my circus, not my monkeys. Once a cheater always a cheater.
I agree those guys make me wanna blow thier cover. But again...circus...monkeys....not mine...um yeah.
OMG! Seriously?! So he is re-married and still looking to date?! More like *kitten* .. not monkey..lol.0 -
My ex, who had a new girlfriend within two weeks of me kicking him out, texted me earlier today asking if I still had the pictures from when I tried on wedding dresses last year. He "never got to see them".
If he keeps bugging me about it, I think I just say, "How about I send them to your girlfriend and you can get them from her?"
He's such a schmuck.0 -
My ex, who had a new girlfriend within two weeks of me kicking him out, texted me earlier today asking if I still had the pictures from when I tried on wedding dresses last year. He "never got to see them".
If he keeps bugging me about it, I think I just say, "How about I send them to your girlfriend and you can get them from her?"
He's such a schmuck.
at first i didn't 'get' why my ex didn't want any communication with me, but stories like this and others i've read, i'm quite glad he doesn't!
he also doesn't speak w/his son but that's another whole d-bag story...0 -
I'm sick of being single too! I haven't had a serious relationship in YEARS, just keep finding guys who think I'm great for a few dates, but then they flake. It gets old, and I can never enjoy the "honeymoon" of a new relationship because that's when they all fail!! But I have my own place, a car, an awesome job, and a great education, so I don't want anyone to take care of me, I just want a partner and friend and someone to snuggle with at night 0
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I hear ya!! I was engaged earlier this year, found out my fiance was still looking and trying to have random hookups. Called it off. He recently got ahold of me again and wanted to work things out. We talked, hung out but then found out he's still doing the same crap he was doing before. SEE YA!!! I know I deserve better. I'm not going to settle. So....until Mr Right comes along....single life it is!!!! But I do miss having someone to watch movies with, make dinner with, talk, laugh, and just do life together. Someday....someday....0
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I do, but then I don't. After 7.5 years with a lying lowlife, I now have 2.5 years alone and a big part of me is really protective of MY time and MY space. Probably not a healthy feeling but I don't know how to change it. Also the guys I meet really seem to want to move fast, every time that happens I assume the guy is just there for sex and I bolt.0
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carliecarl1987 wrote: »I was to tollerant with my ex, put myself in uncomfortable situations because she threw the 'your insecure' word at me every time I raised an eyebrow at something, her behaviour was suspicious, she couldnt drive to see her boyfriend, but was happy enough to drive 30 minutes less to meet a fella I found out she met on a dating site only weeks before she met me......good riddance, then I met the sweetest gal, we dated for 2 months and she ended it suddenly, I really miss her, so many times I get tempted to text her, meh christmas time, single, least I got my gym lol
Awwww, I'm sorry it didnt work out. I remember you saying when you met her. Do you know why she ended it? My ex just vanished and it bugs me every day that I dont know why!!
I think we all get lonely at xmas and are tempted to text with an ex, so it's perfectly natural to feel that way. Just no point really as they would get in touch if they felt the same.
Hey, at least it's party season so you never know who you might bump into!!
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Jennifer10723 wrote: »I am stomping my feet. But .. I want a relationship that is a partnership. Why is that so dang hard to find! Just because I am the girl in the relationship doesn't mean that I am your caregiver. I don't want the old fashioned let me make you dinner and iron your **** relationship.
I just want someone who wants to do stuff with me and love me and have loads of sex with me. Who WANTS to come home to me.
I am tired of being alone. My last relationship he lived almost an hour away from me and it was hard to see him. I always had to drive there .. even tho I was the one with the kid. I always had to pick up food on the way. I always had to suggest something to do. Over it.
Grrrrrrrrr. I don't want to go through the whole dating online thing .. that was a lot of work!
sigh. lol
Deffanately NOT alone. That's all I want too.. don't understand why its so hard to freaking find!! Lol but you said it exactly how I say it to people.0 -
I'm over being single. The worst part is I felt "single" in my last relationship... meaning he MADE me feel very alone. It wasn't healthy and my emotional detachment happened way before the relationship ended... so I'm ready for someone new!
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I am so tired of being single. I would love to find someone and a relationship in which we compliment each other. I have been single for so long it is ridiculous. My last relationship was over 3 years ago....and he was an *** who cheated on me. I have been doing the online thing trying to find people, but that's not working either. Sometimes I think that I should just lower my standards to see what happens. But, then I remember that I have standards for a reason and I have always been told that as soon as you stop looking that's when everything happens, when you least expect it. So even though as hard as that is, I think that if I focus on myself, rather than a relationship, maybe someday when I'm not looking, it will happen.
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I am in the same boat. Been single for over 5 years. I think well if i was thinner or prettier but then i think... then he will just want me for physical reasons and i don't want that either. When something prettier comes along he'll be gone. Why can't guys just be honest and open?0
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I've always been off and on in my dating life. I dated some in high school and college, but then I had a crummy relationship (he was dating both me and my roommate for an entire year and telling each of us that the other was just a "friend") and I really gained weight so I swore off dating from age 19-29. I dated a few guys over the next 5 years and some of them were longer relationships, but it's been 2 years since the last one ended and a year and a half since I've even tried dating. I keep telling myself that it's good to take a step back, but honestly it's because I never seem to meet guys that are interested in me romantically or that I'm intrigued enough to try. I also feel at a real disadvanatge because of those gaps in dating. I have less dating and relationship experience than a lot of guys who are 10 years younger than me
^^^This is my biggest fear about getting back into the dating scene. I once had an ex who saw a picture of me at my heaviest and told me point blank that he would never have even started a conversation with me if I'd still looked like that when we met.I think well if i was thinner or prettier but then i think... then he will just want me for physical reasons and i don't want that either. When something prettier comes along he'll be gone.
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Yikes is that why he is an ex now??? I guess you have to give him some small amount of credit for honesty, but still...photo_kyla wrote: »^^^This is my biggest fear about getting back into the dating scene. I once had an ex who saw a picture of me at my heaviest and told me point blank that he would never have even started a conversation with me if I'd still looked like that when we met.
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Actually, no it's not. He's an ex for other reasonsYikes is that why he is an ex now??? I guess you have to give him some small amount of credit for honesty, but still... but I have noticed a huge difference in how guys treat me based on weight. When I'm over 220, I become the invisible woman and instantly in the friend zone.
On one hand, I almost don't want to get involved with somebody who wasn't attracted to me when I was heavier, because that just seems so superficial to me. But on the other hand, I still have not met a single guy who has been attracted to me when I was over 220. There was even one guy who I started dating when I weighed about 210 and over the 10 months we were together I gained almost 30 pounds (because he's a guy and ate enormous servings and would give me the same amount of food even when I asked for half) and I'm pretty sure the weight gain was a huge factor in why he dumped me.
Sorry for such a long response, it's a bit of a tender subject for me.0
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