How long have you been single?

momtozmc

Divorced for 7 years (after 18 year marriage) - and now, sigh... single again after a year relationship... miss the cuddling! But have more time for running now!

Z_I_L_L_A

Divorced 4 years in February (after 17 years of marriage). I have more time with my kids now, plus they are with me 90% of the time. I'm happy though, so all is good.

baxyboy

Single for 9 years after being in relationship at uni for around 2 years... ended badly & smashed what little self confidence I had left

castadiva

I'm sure we'll all find someone we deserve and need when we least expect it. At least that's what all the people who have someone say... *grumble*lyingbastards*grumble*

I truly loathe that line of 'comfort', especially from my smug married friends. I've always been single, and have never even been on a date. At nearly 30, that concerns and upsets me. Apparently, I'm "intimidating" - presumably because I have career goals, am intelligent, and appear (important word, that!) to have a degree of confidence. The odd thing about that is that those are things I would view as positive attributes in a boyfriend/partner/husband, but it would seem that in a woman, these things are perceived as negatives by a lot of men. I think I'm fairly pretty, and built on a big scale, so have always been 'in proportion', but between not being a stick-insect and having a brain & using it, it seems men just don't see me in a 'romantic' light.

I freely acknowledge the good things about being single as well, but I'd really, really like to have someone in my life to laugh and snuggle with, for whom I'd be one of their top priorities and vice versa, and I want a family at some point, so tthere's that to consider too. I guess at base, I'm just terribly lonely, and the well-meaning platitudes stop having any meaning once you've heard them on a regular basis for fifteen years!

Oops, I seem to have killed the thread! Very sorry! Didn't mean to, just went out for dinner last night with two smug-married, but lovely, couples, and another friend who is engaged, and woke up to an email about her wedding from my best friend from primary school, so the negativity-quotient this morning is quite high!

rae_mayer

I've been single for about 3-4 years. I really don't get out much and I'm admittedly shy around other people. I tend to resent my friends and family saying things like "why aren't you seeing anybody" and "don't you think you should do something about that". I've gotten to the point where I'm almost ready to just go out with some random guy just to make them stop. I know it won't make me happy but at least it'll dull the "roar" of opinions.

Sauchie

I've been single for 4 months. Well I'd say 5 yrs as my last relationship was long distance and we rarely say each other. But I'm enjoying doing me :-)

lottichapman

My name is Charlotte, I'm from Kent in the UK,
I'm 28 and my relationship went pretty much down the drain when I was 11 weeks pregnant with my daughter - she is 7 next month, so I've been single for about 7 1/2 years. I am not that bothered by it and don't really miss much except probably the companionship, someone to talk to. I spend most of the night awake in pain, Which is a chronic condition and at around 7pm on a school night or 8pm at weekends, once my daughter is in bed - that's it!! Its just me, myself and I. Yes the thing I miss the most is having someone there to talk to. My main focus is my daughter. I'm not actively seeking a partner, but if Mr Right pops into my life, then I'm lucky, but I just want to focus on my daughter really. I am only 28 so when she is all grown up, I'll still have plenty of time to look for someone if I wish to.

lottichapman

Single for 9 years after being in relationship at uni for around 2 years... ended badly & smashed what little self confidence I had left

Hello Baxyboy, I too have been single for a long time (about 7 and half years. I am also from the UK - Kent. I was pretty much done over when my ex pretty much left me on an a road a good distance from home, it was about midnight and I was 11 weeks pregnant! My little 1 is nearly 7 now. I don't miss much from a relationship except maybe for the companionship, someone to talk to, you are more than welcome to add me if you wish
Charlotte

ramsesmeza

3 years. I´ve had some flings and stuff but nothing serious.
I had the ugliest break up with the first person I ever loved.
I guess karma came to bite me in the *kitten* for all the **** i did before.
Now, I just don´t want anything serious, but im still open for it.
IDK man, someone will arrive eventually.
I dont stress out about that, I´m more concerned in losing weight! lol

kjannan

Within a month of starting on here I ended a relationship I'd been in for nearly 7 years. That was 4 months ago. My ex is still living in my house, we get on ok but at some stage he's going to have to go so I can move on with my life.

Changing my life healthwise has changed every other aspect of my life- I was miserable in my relationship so I ended it, I was miserable in my job so I found a new one.

I've made HUGE changes in my life in the last 5 months, can't wait to see where I am in another 5!

MelissaT81

I've been single for 5 years now.....still waiting for that "spark"

oldy76

Over five years now. Just haven't put myself out there at all

whitetiger011680

Been divorced 4 years. Dated one guy for 10 months a year after I got divorced. so I guess I've been single only 2 years now. Some days I embrace it. I love not sharing my bathroom or the blankets. Other days I'm lonely wish I had someone to cuddle with.

lwalters5

I've been single for 1 year and 5 months. I love it. I've found since my last relationship that I truly do not believe in monogamy or serial monogamy. It has been most refreshing to be single, and I plan on staying that way.

livetolove24

not long enough..lol...my 5 year relationship ended a year ago.

hobbitgrrl

We separated in 2001, divorced in 2003, and I have been single ever since.

vickijank

Pretty much my whole life, I've never had anything serious. I have plenty of guy friends but I'm always in the friend zone or the causaul dating or the "friends with benefits" (which just ended recently because I finally wised up and a real relationship was never going to come out of that....no worries "it wasn't me....it was him" :noway: ).

I have no game lol. :blushing:

ajfrench

saruman, that's hard to believe, you're a cutie!

I thought the same thing!

Agreed. Wish I knew someone in MS to set you up with!

ajfrench

Okay, just read the whole thread. I'm surprised that so many adorable men on here have never been in a relationship. Surprised!!

kaitiebeth89

Add me to the all my life group

MissAmyB80

This is the first time I have ever been single in my adult life - and I love it. I was ina LTR relationship from 16-21. Met my x-husband about 5 seconds later. We were together for 8 years.

My 1 year divorce-aversary is coming up in a few weeks. Technically single about 14 months though. Not nearly long enough. It took a good....8 months just to get comfortable with the idea. And now I'm actually ENJOYING it.

Dated a couple of guys a couple times this past year - nothing worth noting. Realized I'm super picky and full of myself. And that's fine with me. It's going to take someone super awesome to change my single status again.

I'm not planning to settle....AGAIN.

Tropical_Turtle

I have been single now for oh 4 years now. Now that I am taking care of me, I just really recently wanted to get back on the dating scene.

sofaking6

I've been single for 6 months after almost 6 years...I have been dating but either I'm seeing the wrong guys or I'm *really* not ready since I can't muster up even the slightest excitement about it (by which I mean horniness lol).

SingSmileLaugh

Pretty much my whole life.... "friends with benefits" (which just ended recently because I finally wised up and a real relationship was never going to come out of that)

GOOD GIRL! Get the Heck outta there, ...Get what you want and then leave!
I like to leave on my terms.

Freida_MS

I've been single for 3 years.

msenior

Almost 3 years

kimi131

Officially three months, but it seems longer since my last relationship was on again off again. I'd love to find "the one" but this is maybe the first time ever in my life that I'm truly enjoying being single.