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Rant Alert!!! - Why is it when you’re nice to someone (opposite sex) they immediately assume you want to get up with them (on MFP). Can't men and women just be friends & supportive. This is annoying. Has anyone else encounter this???
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For me it's usually just the opposite. Although since I usually am only interested as friends, it could be a positive thing.0
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No...I guess nobody wants me or wants me to want on them :sad:0
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Rant Alert!!! - Why is it when you’re nice to someone (opposite sex) they immediately assume you want to get up with them (on MFP). Can't men and women just be friends & supportive. This is annoying. Has anyone else encounter this???
nope! :ohwell:0 -
Me neither :sad:0
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Nope!0
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I think we need a clarification here.
Was this a guy you were decent to and he wrongly made the assumption you were coming on to him so rebuffed you or was it a guy who wrongly thought you were interested so he then came on to you in some manner that was not appreciated?0 -
All the time.
I mean... I'm hitting on MFP women that are nice to me all the time. Isn't it because they love me? :huh:
Serious answer: no. :noway:0 -
Haven't run into this on MFP or in "real" life. I guess no one expects that I would be hitting on them... Sigh*0
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When you get hit on as often as I do. . you just sort of get used to it. . .
(ok. that was me dreaming of what it would be like to be hit on all the time). . I'm a dreamer!0 -
When you get hit on as often as I do. . you just sort of get used to it. . .
(ok. that was me dreaming of what it would be like to be hit on all the time). . I'm a dreamer!
OMG You're on Merritt Island!!!
I live in Rockledge. )) 0 -
When you get hit on as often as I do. . you just sort of get used to it. . .
(ok. that was me dreaming of what it would be like to be hit on all the time). . I'm a dreamer!
OMG You're on Merritt Island!!! I live in Rockledge. ))
Are you hitting on me!?0 -
Totally.0
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Totally.
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Depends on how you do it..
If you're ultra flirty well I'm going to assume you want me! I mean, why wouldn't you??
HAHA. Just kidding.
But yes, I will assume if the guy is extra nice.
I WISH the men I'm trying to hit on would get a clue.
Next time I'll just straddle them and see if they understand THAT.
I'm pissy!!! 0 -
Depends on how you do it..
If you're ultra flirty well I'm going to assume you want me! I mean, why wouldn't you??
HAHA. Just kidding.
But yes, I will assume if the guy is extra nice.
I WISH the men I'm trying to hit on would get a clue.
Next time I'll just straddle them and see if they understand THAT. I'm pissy!!!
I get it mistress!0 -
Rant Alert!!! - Why is it when you’re nice to someone (opposite sex) they immediately assume you want to get up with them (on MFP). Can't men and women just be friends & supportive. This is annoying. Has anyone else encounter this???
Uh... because most of the strangers of the opposite sex who friend you or want to "help" you are trying to get into your pants...? Wow, is it wrong to assume that? Maybe I really am shallow, lol, because I'll accept most anyone's friend request, and I'll reach out to any woman who seems to have a good head on their shoulders...but I'm not going to initiate contact (MFP or real life) with a guy I'm not potentially interested in unless it's job or volunteer related.
I haven't experienced this here on MFP but have in real life. Working in a male-dominated field, it's quite common. All the sudden someone will take an interest in "mentoring" me, or helping my career. I accept the help (because once in awhile it's genuine) but usually it's them trying to get with me. Which I take as a part of life, so it doesn't bother me too much.0 -
Topaz
Topaz?0 -
Damn. :frown:Uh... because most of the strangers of the opposite sex who friend you or want to "help" you are trying to get into your pants...? Wow, is it wrong to assume that?
Working in a male-dominated field, it's quite common. All the sudden someone will take an interest in "mentoring" me, or helping my career. I accept the help (because once in awhile it's genuine) but usually it's them trying to get with me.
I hope this isn't true because I'm helping a girl fixing her computer at her place tonight.
I must be one of the few naive people who believe in male/female uninterested help or friendship then.0 -
I must be one of the few naive people who believe in male/female uninterested help or friendship then.
I've got some platonic male friends, but most of those started out romantically and it just didn't work out. Maybe I'm just jaded ;-)0 -
Rant Alert!!! - Why is it when you’re nice to someone (opposite sex) they immediately assume you want to get up with them (on MFP). Can't men and women just be friends & supportive. This is annoying. Has anyone else encounter this???
There are a couple of things to reference. There's a youtube video of a guy going around a college campus talking with girls about male friends who they think are just friends and aren't interested in them. Then they search out the guys and ask them if they want to hook up with the girls. The answer is invariably yes. It's just how we work. Also, reference Chris Rock's bit about men and wanting to help women, it's all a ploy to place ourselves firmly in a precarious position with you. Men use favors, help, and other things to offer themselves to women. I.e. - Hey, want me to carry your groceries, let's hook up... hey, let me hold the door for ya, wanna go back to my place... wow, you look great today, that ouftit really accentuates your eyes, wanna see how it would look on my floor?0 -
Damn. :frown:Uh... because most of the strangers of the opposite sex who friend you or want to "help" you are trying to get into your pants...? Wow, is it wrong to assume that?
Working in a male-dominated field, it's quite common. All the sudden someone will take an interest in "mentoring" me, or helping my career. I accept the help (because once in awhile it's genuine) but usually it's them trying to get with me.
I hope this isn't true because I'm helping a girl fixing her computer at her place tonight.
I must be one of the few naive people who believe in male/female uninterested help or friendship then.
I don't know if I believe that men and women can be just friends anymore, acquaintances yes, but just 100% friends w/o sexual tension or any sexual history between them.. not sure.
I'm thinking of my guy friends right now. I have one, D, who is my true friend. I don't want him but he definately wants me.
Of course FL, we're definatley just friends but we've had sex and sometimes there's flirtyness.
My old best guy friend was always just my friend but we'd flirt too playfully.
Hmmm0 -
Well I can be friends with a guy - I guess it is because half the time I couldnt tell if he would be hitting on me or not :laugh: (still trying to learn that from fat to fab in this journey)0
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Rant Alert!!! - Why is it when you’re nice to someone (opposite sex) they immediately assume you want to get up with them (on MFP). Can't men and women just be friends & supportive. This is annoying. Has anyone else encounter this???
I dont find this to be true- perhaps maybe the way you show your niceness comes off as flirty? Its a possibility- we are never exactly sure how we are perceived by others.
I just do my very best to avoid private emails with the opposite sex, so they dont think that Im... you know... hunting.0 -
I don't know if I believe that men and women can be just friends anymore, acquaintances yes, but just 100% friends w/o sexual tension or any sexual history between them.. not sure.
I'm thinking of my guy friends right now. I have one, D, who is my true friend. I don't want him but he definately wants me.
Of course FL, we're definatley just friends but we've had sex and sometimes there's flirtyness.
My old best guy friend was always just my friend but we'd flirt too playfully.
Hmmm
My best friend is a 27 year olf drop dead gorgeous frontman in a well known band in NYC. For all the years we've been BFFs, sleeping over in the same bed multiple times a week, always joined at the hip, numb to the gossip, etc... there is nothing sexual between us. The X factor is missing. He looks too much like my dad did when he was 27- and we've become like Harry and Hermoine. We need each other. but we have no desire for each other. Not even almost accidentally when hammered drunk.
If it hasnt happened by now, then thankfully I dont think it ever will. Sometimes you are surprised more by how important someone becomes to your life.. than what gender they are
sorry for hijacking your thread! I am just always happy that I can be a witness for guy/girl friendships still 0 -
awwww that is so awesome. I want a girlfriend like that (A girl that's a friend
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All of mine are like other people said, through sexual feelings or experiences. It's pretty horrible looking at the girls I've been close to and realising that! 0 -
Rant Alert!!! - Why is it when you’re nice to someone (opposite sex) they immediately assume you want to get up with them (on MFP). Can't men and women just be friends & supportive. This is annoying. Has anyone else encounter this???
There are a couple of things to reference. There's a youtube video of a guy going around a college campus talking with girls about male friends who they think are just friends and aren't interested in them. Then they search out the guys and ask them if they want to hook up with the girls. The answer is invariably yes. It's just how we work. Also, reference Chris Rock's bit about men and wanting to help women, it's all a ploy to place ourselves firmly in a precarious position with you. Men use favors, help, and other things to offer themselves to women. I.e. - Hey, want me to carry your groceries, let's hook up... hey, let me hold the door for ya, wanna go back to my place... wow, you look great today, that ouftit really accentuates your eyes, wanna see how it would look on my floor?
So what you are saying is that every single action or gesture a guy makes is to hit on a woman? Does this only apply to singles?0 -
Rant Alert!!! - Why is it when you’re nice to someone (opposite sex) they immediately assume you want to get up with them (on MFP). Can't men and women just be friends & supportive. This is annoying. Has anyone else encounter this???
There are a couple of things to reference. There's a youtube video of a guy going around a college campus talking with girls about male friends who they think are just friends and aren't interested in them. Then they search out the guys and ask them if they want to hook up with the girls. The answer is invariably yes. It's just how we work. Also, reference Chris Rock's bit about men and wanting to help women, it's all a ploy to place ourselves firmly in a precarious position with you. Men use favors, help, and other things to offer themselves to women. I.e. - Hey, want me to carry your groceries, let's hook up... hey, let me hold the door for ya, wanna go back to my place... wow, you look great today, that ouftit really accentuates your eyes, wanna see how it would look on my floor?
So what you are saying is that every single action or gesture a guy makes is to hit on a woman? Does this only apply to singles?
We're only here for the benefit of your penis. And to make sandwiches. Glad you guys finally admitted it in writing lol0 -
Off the wall, but this issue is one of the many reasons I love my gay guy friends... but even then when they're drunk they want to make out... guess it's always an issue. nvm. Haha.0
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Depends on how you do it..
If you're ultra flirty well I'm going to assume you want me! I mean, why wouldn't you??
HAHA. Just kidding.
But yes, I will assume if the guy is extra nice.
I WISH the men I'm trying to hit on would get a clue.
Next time I'll just straddle them and see if they understand THAT. I'm pissy!!!
You are clearly on one today. Would you like to lay on my couch and talk it out? "Therapy" session....0 -
Depends on how you do it..
If you're ultra flirty well I'm going to assume you want me! I mean, why wouldn't you??
HAHA. Just kidding.
But yes, I will assume if the guy is extra nice.
I WISH the men I'm trying to hit on would get a clue.
Next time I'll just straddle them and see if they understand THAT. I'm pissy!!!
You are clearly on one today. Would you like to lay on my couch and talk it out? "Therapy" session....
:huh: Is this a trick question?????
"you are clearly on one today."
Lay on the couch???? :smokin:0
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