Things your parents didn't tell you about turning 40
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My Mum didnt tell me that being in your 40s is way better than being in your 30s.
My 30s was the decade when I spent my time as a single Mum focusing on my daughter through her first decade. I did not think too much about what I ate (do you remember those years when everything you ate was cold and you had to eat it with one hand so you could feed your child?!) and was too exhausted to exercise. She is now 13 and I am 42. Over the last couple of years I have started to be able to do things for myself again and it is very liberating! I took up taekwondo (with my daughter) , have started to have a social life that does not just involve coffee mornings with other Mums when she visits her Dad. I also have more energy - probably because no longer have to deal with interupted nights sleeps and the 100s of questions fired at me by a toddler who isnt really interested in the answer. Don't get me wrong, I wouldnt change it for the world but now is the time to live a little. The plan is to lose the weight I never lost from my pregnancy so by the time I'm 43 I'll look and feel better than I have done since I was 30 - even with the odd uncontrollable thick curly grey hair!
From Kate listening to the rain battering against the window. I know its England but it's JUNE!0 -
i notice aches and pains that aren't debilitation, but they do make me take notice.
^^^^This
I woke up on my 40th Birthday (remind you at that time i was in the gym every morning for a least a year running) with a strange pain in my knee...went away thru the day. Now every now and then I wake up with aches and pains that have "no" explaination.
OH Yeah forgot to mention I have many more nose and ear hairs that I have to pluck daily
Now that I know about mens nose and ear hair I don't feel so bad about my chin hair.0 -
Setting aside the fact that I have a set of reading glasses in every room, the daily plucking of the chin hairs and the weight gain that sticks to you like glue, and oh the mood swings, 40's are Fabulous. This has been the best time in my life. My happiest time.0
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Setting aside the fact that I have a set of reading glasses in every room, the daily plucking of the chin hairs and the weight gain that sticks to you like glue, and oh the mood swings, 40's are Fabulous. This has been the best time in my life. My happiest time.
The chin hair makes me crazy.0 -
me again. i am realizing i need to work on my attitude about myself and my body more so than the weight. so, i may never get to the weight i want to be, but when i love me for me (fat or skinny, healthy and chunky) then that will be my accomplishment.0
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My parents didn't tell me that you could feel good, work full time, have twins and be much more financially secure than if I had started my family when they did and not be 50 lbs overweight like my mother was at the same age.
Oh - and still rock to AEROSMITH !!0 -
I thought I would dread 40, but I've realized that at this age, I'm not afraid to be who am. I'm strong, independent and don't worry if I 'fit' in. It's great finally being a 'grown up"
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I forget Im in my 40s...
43 yrs old and I wear glasses, waiting for the progressives...
Had big babies, which did some strange things to the bladder...but I had the same issue 10 years ago.
Went grey at 26 yrs old...one thing Im not impressed with is the chin hairs..what is up with that?
Too funny! I am turning 40 in October but I am feeling every bit of it now! Grey is coming faster now, same bladder issues after 3 large babies, slow weight loss, ........just noticed the need to take off my glasses in order to read! The best IS the chin hair (just the one but present just the same!). My mother never told me of her pre-menopausal symptoms she had by 40 so that explains my mood swings lately! I am here with the desire to be in the best shape of my life before I turn 41!!0 -
can one be on menopause at 40? i didnt know that :noway:0
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I was once an OB/GYN nurse (now turned psych) but in short no. To explain, they do not say your are "in menopause" but are premenopausal. You are showing the signs that menopause is coming (mood fluctuations, hot flashes, hormone changes, cycle changes....). You are in "menopause" after you have been without a period for 1 full year. All of the precursors can start as far as 10 years earlier. Luckily for me (haha) my mother suffered for a full 10 years with it. She was 40. She finally "hit" menopause at almost 50 (as in no longer visited by TOM). Some women are blessed with little annoyances for only a short period of time.0
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It is so nice to hear that I am not the only one in this boat of being 40 and all the joys and changes that go with it. I too pee when I run/sneeze/cough/laugh. Have to cross my legs so as not to have it run down my legs. My knees are so creaky that my kids can hear them from across the room. I am really trying to get back in shape (this after my 10 year old stood and played with my belly jiggle, the thing I not so lovingly call my food baby). I am kicking the food baby OUT!!!!!!!!!!0
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Yep! I've always worn glasses but now if I'm wearing my glasses, I have to take them off to read. If I'm wearing my contacts I have to put on readers. Add a pair of sunglasses to the mix and I can be walking around with three, count 'em 3, items of eyewear on my head at one time. These forties are not for me. Nope. Chin hairs. What is that all about?! I swear I rub my chin constantly like I'm some sort of sage and then all of a sudden there will be a hair the length of my arm hanging out! ACK!0
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Hello All!
This is just a fun posting about how subtle things in life creep up on you.
For example...I'm going to be welcoming my very first pair of progressive lenses. What are progressive lenses you ask...well it's a nice word for bifocals. I thought my eye sight was a little off lately :laugh:
Yep, got mine about a month ago....I know the feeling...lol0 -
The chin hairs, ya I know! I have to get out the tweezers and pull a few here and there. One time, I was with my son who is in his early twenties and we were shopping in the mall. I was mortified when he said in his louder then normal voice when we were at the checkout counter...." OMG you have a beard!" Let me clarify that I had about three stray hairs, maybe four that I must have missed. I was absolutely mortified and felt like crawling under the counter. At least I can laugh about it now.
I have had to buy reading glasses as I now how to move things farther out to see, and for the life of me cannot make out the directions on over the counter medicine bottles.
My knees are starting to creak too!0 -
I quit plucking chin hairs. I use an electric trimmer now. Easier.
I find that I am a lot less willing to keep my mouth shut than I used to be. I'm more supportive of ME, instead of being Nancy Nice all the time.0 -
Just wait till the hot flashes and night sweats set in !!!!! :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:0
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I have facial hot flashes, have since I was 43, I'm 48. But eating clean and exercising has made my TOM regular. I like that.0
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I wish I had've enjoyed my 20's and 30's more instead of sweating the small stuff.
It's so hard now being around younger and more attractive women. It's really hard to accept "moving over" and being the "attractive older woman" than just being the "attractive woman"
I guess I need to start enjoying my 40's and not worry about all the gorgeous younger women out there as no doubt I'll get to my 50's and 60's and will be jealous of women in their 40's lol
Note to self: Tell my 20 year old daughter to enjoy youth while it lasts!0 -
Age is just a state of mind. I'm sliding into 50 later this year. Sure I have gray hair but that is easy to fix, need bifocals, have wrinkles but I don't feel like I'm 49. This year I decided that I need to start taking care of myself instead of everyone else. I've lost 80 pounds and 68 inches and feel fantastic. I've also started running which I never thought I would ever do. Embrace your 40's. My parents taught me to enjoy life no matter how old you are. I don't think that I did that fully until after I turned 40.0
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I've been in denial over four years about needing bifocals!!!! Finally got a pair two weeks ago!!!!!0
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I quit plucking chin hairs. I use an electric trimmer now. Easier.
I find that I am a lot less willing to keep my mouth shut than I used to be. I'm more supportive of ME, instead of being Nancy Nice all the time.
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Yep! I tell it like it is as well!0 -
They never told me...
about the leaking pee thing (have to really watch water intake before running, jumping jacks, etc.)
that I would grow hair on my big toes (thank God it's blonde)
yes, the eyesight thing (but I'm still in denial at 43)
that I would be in the best shape of my life
that I would have more energy than ever before
that I would start buying shorter heels (comfort matters much more now)
about wrinkling knees and elbows and arms when they are bent
that I would get more sentimental about everything
that I just thank God I am not 50 yet....
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That I could rebuild my life, even at 48.0
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My parents never told me anything about turning 40 but now that I think back on when they were 40ish I remember these lovely things that they went through and I see that it is happening to me now:
The groaning or moaning when trying to sit or getting up
Plucking gray hairs with my tweezer (I stopped because of the feawr of getting bald spots from plucking it all ! LMBO)
Using lotion on my hands so that they don't look so old and cracky
Inability to sit on my knees for a long period of time and then trying to get up
Anxiety Attacks
Blurred Vision
Memory Loss
All in all, such is life. I don't complain about getting old, it doesn't bother me as much other than the weight that I keep gaining as I get older - that's ridiculous !0 -
Bifocals!0
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I turned 41 a couple months ago. I work at an eye doctors office so I've noticed since I've been there that my eyes have gotten worse. My doctor always told me before I turned 40 that I should lose the last bit of weight that I want to lose before I turn 40 because it will take much longer to lose once you are in your 40s and she was speaking from experience as she is a good 5-10 yrs older than I am. Unfortunately for me I wasn't ready to lose weight when I was in my late 30s, in fact I only gained this extra 10 pounds within the last 6-9 months.
One thing that I notice that is different. I don't have as much energy as I used to and when I workout with Leslie Dvds or any workout really I don't feel like I have worked out, feel all stiff and not loose and I workout every day for the most part. It could be my eating habits and other things too..but I know I didn't feel like this 10 yrs ago LOL
Gotta love being 40 LOL0 -
I am 40 in August and determined to get in shape. Most of my friends are younger than me and so don't have the grey hair etc. I am not willing to give in to the grey and will continue to colour it for as long as I can. I have worn glasses since I was 14 so not much I can do about that. I am hoping to loose my muffin top and look better in my 40's than I did in my 30's. So bring it on!0
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I will be 49 in August and hope that this last year in my 40's will be the best of the decade. I have gone back to school and changed careers (just graduated this month!) and will be looking for a job soon so I have started over this decade but my weight and health are of concern now. I just want to be the best I can for the future. I giggled when I read these posts because I thought I was alone in some of these things (bifocals, grey hair, hot flashes, etc.)!! The weight loss thing is scary but I am determined to lose fifty by fifty. I figure if I can go to school and succeed at this age then I should have enough motivation to make it through fifty pounds!0
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Hello There Everyone,
My favorite thing my Mom always said is age is just a number. I'm 45 and have been overweight for years now. I'm slowly getting back on track. The thing Mom never told me was how difficult it is to take care of yourself when you are in between taking care of your kids and your parents along with yourself.
Gotta love it. But I figure if I can do this, I can do anything!
Looking forward to a lighter self!0 -
That my mind would think I'm still 20... but my body would vehemently argue!!! :laugh:0
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