Question: Could you see a person in your future
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I've been dating younger lately, too. I'm 35, the last few guys I've been seeing were 29-30ish. I'm seeing someone now who is my age, but that is rare. The 30ish range is hard since a lot of people are off the market at that time. And honestly, some men 35-40 were looking a little long in the tooth. I don't mind a "young" 40, but I don't want to be with someone who looks and acts like an old man. I don't really party a lot but my lifestyle still seems to fit better with late 20s/early 30's rather than late 30's/early 40's. No kids, etc. I think as long as they are over 25, it's all good. 25 seems to be when you hit more of a maturity factor. There is still an extended adolescence somewhat (especially in big cities) if you are under 25. And you don't want someone who is just a cougar hunter which is a bit of a trend with some 18-25 year old dudes.
Okay, I will add this to my naughty bucket list. I need a younger man. I'm 32.. what would be considered a "youngen" for me? Maybe a 24 year old?? :devil:
I dated a 45 year old and though he didn't look it, he acted like it. Blah. I guess I am a party girl at times and he was NOT into the late partying which is fine... he's been there done and so have I but obviously I still like to have wild nights.
YES!!! 24!! Do it!!!! lol.
Cougar hunter??0 -
If you disallow someone 'just because' you had sex on your first date, you are not looking at the whole picture. Sex on the first date is a physical act. Becoming a 'partner' for a future is an emotional/logical act. It takes 2 to tango in both decisions.0
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I am just going to hang my head in shame .. lol
Oh dear... 22?????
NO! lol .. 25 ..
That's not bad!!! Do you think of him as a fun toy or more??
I might just start my hunting... You know I have these stupid "rules" like age range 29-37 but maybe I need to be more open. I need to find ways around my rules lol. For example, I can't do the casual sex because sex is emotional for me and I can get attached. Welllll maybe if I were to go for a youngen, I know that's not long term potential so I won't get attached!?
This will be the fine print in my contract lol.0 -
OMG .. I am 39!!! lol. I feel like an evil lady who is preying on the youth of america. lol. But lord is it ever fun.
I say screw the rules .. and whatever .. or whoever else you want! lol. Sex is very emotional .. its supposed to be I think. But there are lots of different emotions. He is so fun and carefree and open. Very different from say a 35 year old. I am pretty much a 39 year old child .. so we mesh well. lol0 -
OMG .. I am 39!!! lol. I feel like an evil lady who is preying on the youth of america. lol. But lord is it ever fun.
I say screw the rules .. and whatever .. or whoever else you want! lol. Sex is very emotional .. its supposed to be I think. But there are lots of different emotions. He is so fun and carefree and open. Very different from say a 35 year old. I am pretty much a 39 year old child .. so we mesh well. lol
Ignore all the rules. It's just a number, I say go for it and just have fun!!0 -
Hey...I was 26 and he was 19 once. That was just seriously fun :bigsmile:0
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OMG .. I am 39!!! lol. I feel like an evil lady who is preying on the youth of america. lol. But lord is it ever fun.
Meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeow.
Well honestly besides him NOT wanting to go out late night with me, my older guy treated me like I was the hottest girl in the world and always asked me why I was into him. I loved it. Ha!
Hmmm....0 -
I'm 31 almost 32 and my Current FWB is 27...... However funny story here. New years eve my girl introduces me to a guy she knows at the bar who is a marine. He was cute tall and leaving in 2 weeks lol. Later that night I find out the guy is 19!!!!!!!!!!!!!:noway: Thankfully before things went to far. I really try to avoid sleeping with anyone who cant legally drink yet lol :drinker: .. However I have become more open about ages I used to only want to date 2 years younger than me or older.....But now I really dont care for the most part0
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Seriously though, I don't think you should overthink it. Age is a number...has nothing to do with our mental state.
If you like him, he likes you, you have a lot of fun and enjoy each other's company, go for it!!!!
I have a friend who is 41 and her guy is 24 (might have turned 25 by now, not sure). They're freaking adorable.0 -
OMG .. I am 39!!! lol. I feel like an evil lady who is preying on the youth of america. lol. But lord is it ever fun.
I say screw the rules .. and whatever .. or whoever else you want! lol. Sex is very emotional .. its supposed to be I think. But there are lots of different emotions. He is so fun and carefree and open. Very different from say a 35 year old. I am pretty much a 39 year old child .. so we mesh well. lol
I agree with pa_jorg..........ignore the rules........there are no real rules.
And....I asked if I was a cougar..........was told by a guy that
a. you can't be a cougar until you are 45-50........so I am a "puma"
b. boy needs to be under 25 to qualify
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Has anyone else noticed that none of the guys have said a word yet? Maybe they're just not online, but I also think that if roles were reversed and we were talking about a 39 year old man dating a 25 year old woman, there wouldn't even be much of a conversation - just a shrug.0
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And I think we've (women) all been twirly together lately.. lol
Or is that just me? Seems we're talking about IT a lot more lately.0 -
Oh gosh .. thank you all so much. You are making me feel better!
His mother called me a cougar.. *backtohaningmyheadinshame* ... I hate that word. lol.
A puma! lmao .. hahahahahaha
La .. sounds like you have the reverse situtation!!! talk about meooooow! lol0 -
Has anyone else noticed that none of the guys have said a word yet? Maybe they're just not online, but I also think that if roles were reversed and we were talking about a 39 year old man dating a 25 year old woman, there wouldn't even be much of a conversation - just a shrug.
Or he would be called a dirty old man.
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And I think we've (women) all been twirly together lately.. lol
Or is that just me? Seems we're talking about IT a lot more lately.
No .. we definitely have been twirly together lately! lol!!!!
Yeh .. where are those boys?? lol. It would be a high five for a 39 year old man and a 25 year old woman. You are right about that!!!0 -
Honestly though,it seemed like a "ladies" moment here and just didn`t want to inject myself into that.
Really was not for any reason other then respecting the fun and excitement that you all were having. :flowerforyou:0 -
When I was younger, I preferred older women. But now, I'm shifting to younger.
I don't think May - December relationships are impossible, but they do bring some added complications (particularly in the long run). Is he going to want kids? Are you willing to have kids?0 -
Okay I un-hid my profile (again) and changed my age range from 22-40 LOL.
I had it 29-37...
Just to experiment!0 -
When I was younger, I preferred older women. But now, I'm shifting to younger.
I don't think May - December relationships are impossible, but they do bring some added complications (particularly in the long run). Is he going to want kids? Are you willing to have kids?
Uck. that was my thought too. But who knows what will happen. So should I sacrifice happiness for something may or may not happen? That is really what I have been struggling with. How do you even bring up kids with someone you are JUST starting to get to know .. especially a 25 year old without freaking him the f@ck out. lol.0 -
Honestly though,it seemed like a "ladies" moment here and just didn`t want to inject myself into that.
Really was not for any reason other then respecting the fun and excitement that you all were having. :flowerforyou:
CARL. I always want your thoughts!Okay I un-hid my profile (again) and changed my age range from 22-40 LOL.
I had it 29-37...
Just to experiment
Good for you!! Go get em girl!!! lol You will have to keep us posted and see how it turns out.
**gunna see if I can do this quote thing .. lol.0 -
When I was younger, I preferred older women. But now, I'm shifting to younger.
I don't think May - December relationships are impossible, but they do bring some added complications (particularly in the long run). Is he going to want kids? Are you willing to have kids?
Uck. that was my thought too. But who knows what will happen. So should I sacrifice happiness for something may or may not happen? That is really what I have been struggling with. How do you even bring up kids with someone you are JUST starting to get to know .. especially a 25 year old without freaking him the f@ck out. lol.
It sounds like you just met him in the past few weeks. Give it a month or two to see if it's anything more than just physical before worrying about serious topics.0 -
Okay I un-hid my profile (again) and changed my age range from 22-40 LOL.
I had it 29-37...
Just to experiment!
How fun, keep us posted! You also need to add this photo with the knee socks - if it isn't already on your profile - I think it will make the youngens flock to you!0 -
When I was younger, I preferred older women. But now, I'm shifting to younger.
I don't think May - December relationships are impossible, but they do bring some added complications (particularly in the long run). Is he going to want kids? Are you willing to have kids?
Uck. that was my thought too. But who knows what will happen. So should I sacrifice happiness for something may or may not happen? That is really what I have been struggling with. How do you even bring up kids with someone you are JUST starting to get to know .. especially a 25 year old without freaking him the f@ck out. lol.
Why are kids even a consideration? Might you be overthinking things a bit? We all do it.
I'm also guessing this 25 year old doesn't fix motorcycles.0 -
Okay I un-hid my profile (again) and changed my age range from 22-40 LOL.
I had it 29-37...
Just to experiment!
Can we hear 46? :flowerforyou:
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When I was younger, I preferred older women. But now, I'm shifting to younger.
I don't think May - December relationships are impossible, but they do bring some added complications (particularly in the long run). Is he going to want kids? Are you willing to have kids?
Uck. that was my thought too. But who knows what will happen. So should I sacrifice happiness for something may or may not happen? That is really what I have been struggling with. How do you even bring up kids with someone you are JUST starting to get to know .. especially a 25 year old without freaking him the f@ck out. lol.
Why are kids even a consideration? Might you be overthinking things a bit? We all do it.
I'm also guessing this 25 year old doesn't fix motorcycles.
Pretty important compromise if he expected to have some and now that isn't going to happen with her, don't you think? If you're going to completely adjust your life path, you have to give up a part of yourself. The bigger the age difference, the more off path you're likely to be going.0 -
Okay I un-hid my profile (again) and changed my age range from 22-40 LOL.
I had it 29-37...
Just to experiment!
Can we hear 46? :flowerforyou:
If you can get on the pole with me, we might be okay.0 -
Okay I un-hid my profile (again) and changed my age range from 22-40 LOL.
I had it 29-37...
Just to experiment!
Can we hear 46? :flowerforyou:
If you can get on the pole with me, we might be okay.
You have no idea!0 -
Okay I un-hid my profile (again) and changed my age range from 22-40 LOL.
I had it 29-37...
Just to experiment!
Can we hear 46? :flowerforyou:
If you can get on the pole with me, we might be okay.
You have no idea!
Oh really???? :bigsmile: I'm telling you... I'm a wild one.0 -
When I was younger, I preferred older women. But now, I'm shifting to younger.
I don't think May - December relationships are impossible, but they do bring some added complications (particularly in the long run). Is he going to want kids? Are you willing to have kids?
Uck. that was my thought too. But who knows what will happen. So should I sacrifice happiness for something may or may not happen? That is really what I have been struggling with. How do you even bring up kids with someone you are JUST starting to get to know .. especially a 25 year old without freaking him the f@ck out. lol.
Why are kids even a consideration? Might you be overthinking things a bit? We all do it.
I'm also guessing this 25 year old doesn't fix motorcycles.
Pretty important compromise if he expected to have some and now that isn't going to happen with her, don't you think? If you're going to completely adjust your life path, you have to give up a part of yourself. The bigger the age difference, the more off path you're likely to be going.
EXACTLY! lol .. to both. It is crazy to think about kids and all that at this point .. lord knows I don't want to so why would he .. but on the other hand .. it is a HUGE life path adjustment.. either way it may go. so why start something you know you can't finish. It is complicated.0 -
LOL .. he doesn't fix motorcycles ..hahahahahaha!!!!!0
