Does being single embarrass you?
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The thing that really gets me about being single with no kids is how it always appears to me that married people or people with kids seem to get more leeway at work.
We can only have one person off at at time at work and all my family lives back in MN and I had a ld relationship with a guy back in MN. Last Christmas I wanted time off to spend with my family and my BF at Christmas but the married ones with kids seemed to think their time with family was more important then mine. When this was being planned I was even stating it would probably be the last Christmas I had with my grandfather (who ended up dieing before Christmas) but the heartless *****es I work with would still not give in. Not being able to go home for Christmas was the straw that broke the camels back in my relationship.
Unless I am on my death bed I can't call in for a day off sick but they are always getting days off if they need to be home to take care of their spouse or kids because they are sick.
We are also the ones that they expect to work over time as "there is no one waiting at home for us".0 -
The thing that really gets me about being single with no kids is how it always appears to me that married people or people with kids seem to get more leeway at work.
We can only have one person off at at time at work and all my family lives back in MN and I had a ld relationship with a guy back in MN. Last Christmas I wanted time off to spend with my family and my BF at Christmas but the married ones with kids seemed to think their time with family was more important then mine. When this was being planned I was even stating it would probably be the last Christmas I had with my grandfather (who ended up dieing before Christmas) but the heartless *****es I work with would still not give in. Not being able to go home for Christmas was the straw that broke the camels back in my relationship.
Unless I am on my death bed I can't call in for a day off sick but they are always getting days off if they need to be home to take care of their spouse or kids because they are sick.
We are also the ones that they expect to work over time as "there is no one waiting at home for us".
That's bad! Never been in this situation myself, but surely that's akin to singleism!! (you know like, sexism or racism!)
Personally, I would make this situation known to my boss! :grumble: There should be a holiday rota in force (and a sick leave rota, but keep that one quiet :laugh: )
Dont get me wrong, I think parents DO have to run off and look after their kids, and should be allowed to do so, but not at the sacrifice of a single colleague just because they are single!0 -
The thing that really gets me about being single with no kids is how it always appears to me that married people or people with kids seem to get more leeway at work.
We can only have one person off at at time at work and all my family lives back in MN and I had a ld relationship with a guy back in MN. Last Christmas I wanted time off to spend with my family and my BF at Christmas but the married ones with kids seemed to think their time with family was more important then mine. When this was being planned I was even stating it would probably be the last Christmas I had with my grandfather (who ended up dieing before Christmas) but the heartless *****es I work with would still not give in. Not being able to go home for Christmas was the straw that broke the camels back in my relationship.
Unless I am on my death bed I can't call in for a day off sick but they are always getting days off if they need to be home to take care of their spouse or kids because they are sick.
We are also the ones that they expect to work over time as "there is no one waiting at home for us".
I had a job with some similar issues (but not nearly as severe). We got 3 personal days each year, but they were supposed to be used to take care of sick kids or spouses/go see kids games/plays etc, and other stuff like that. Being kidless and single, I had 3 days off I wasn't really allowed to take each year. (I still did for when I was sick and out of sick time).
I also think it was a huge factor as to why I was laid off in the initial round of layoffs when the housing crises hit (it was an engineering consulting firm specializing in residential development). Everyone else was having a kid, getting married or buying houses. I was just saving, so clearly I could weather the hit better. So I was let go despite the fact I put the most work in and brought them out of the stone age when it came to their drawings.
But that turned out to be a blessing in disguise. Despite being laid off for almost 2 years, my current job pays over 2.5 times what i was earning there, I get to see the world, have earned enough points with airlines/hotels/rentals that I'll have at least one free really really good vacation and most of all it has much less stress.0 -
The thing that really gets me about being single with no kids is how it always appears to me that married people or people with kids seem to get more leeway at work.
We can only have one person off at at time at work and all my family lives back in MN and I had a ld relationship with a guy back in MN. Last Christmas I wanted time off to spend with my family and my BF at Christmas but the married ones with kids seemed to think their time with family was more important then mine. When this was being planned I was even stating it would probably be the last Christmas I had with my grandfather (who ended up dieing before Christmas) but the heartless *****es I work with would still not give in. Not being able to go home for Christmas was the straw that broke the camels back in my relationship.
Unless I am on my death bed I can't call in for a day off sick but they are always getting days off if they need to be home to take care of their spouse or kids because they are sick.
We are also the ones that they expect to work over time as "there is no one waiting at home for us".
This crap totally irks me! The same thing happens at my work. People with children are given more leadway with time off but us childless people don’t get that luxury!0 -
The thing that really gets me about being single with no kids is how it always appears to me that married people or people with kids seem to get more leeway at work.
We can only have one person off at at time at work and all my family lives back in MN and I had a ld relationship with a guy back in MN. Last Christmas I wanted time off to spend with my family and my BF at Christmas but the married ones with kids seemed to think their time with family was more important then mine. When this was being planned I was even stating it would probably be the last Christmas I had with my grandfather (who ended up dieing before Christmas) but the heartless *****es I work with would still not give in. Not being able to go home for Christmas was the straw that broke the camels back in my relationship.
Unless I am on my death bed I can't call in for a day off sick but they are always getting days off if they need to be home to take care of their spouse or kids because they are sick.
We are also the ones that they expect to work over time as "there is no one waiting at home for us".
Sometimes saying no to an employer earns you more respect from them. Maybe you take a sick day when you are actually sick.
Just being there's no one waiting at home, that doesn't mean a single person doesn't have needs. We need to have the time to go on dates, develop a social life, etc.0
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