results of my first date!!!
acasey0123
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So I met this guy at the mall and we started talking a bit and then he invited me to lunch at a restaurant at the mall. Then we were walking around the mall and he said he had tickets to a game that night and wanted to see if I wanted to go and i said YES!!!! So he drove me to the game and then afterwards drove me back to the mall so I could pick up my car. He got out of the car and gave me a hug and we exchanged numbers. I was thinking that he wasnt going to text me and it was a loss cause because he is HANDSOME and skinny and Im well......not 
I got a text from HIM saying he had a good time and I replyed back that I did as well. He then asked me out on another date 
but is leaving what we do up to him.
he took me to lunch/dinner AND a game...so I need something exciting like that...what things should I do????
I got a text from HIM saying he had a good time and I replyed back that I did as well. He then asked me out on another date but is leaving what we do up to him.he took me to lunch/dinner AND a game...so I need something exciting like that...what things should I do????
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Sounds fun! What about mini golf or bowling or something really active like a bike ride/rollerblading?0
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Was going to suggest bowling as well.Sounds fun! What about mini golf or bowling or something really active like a bike ride/rollerblading?0 -
You met this guy in a mall??? Wow! That's like a movie romance!! :laugh:
tbh, I dont know how you can top that. I would do something boring like go for a picnic and go boating on a lake. But not sure what type of stuff you have where you live anyhow.
Good luck. It sounds amazing :flowerforyou:0 -
Score!!!
Something fun like a festival (there's one in Austin every weekend it seems) or a romantic walk somewhere.0 -
You met this guy in a mall??? Wow! That's like a movie romance!! :laugh:
I guess its what they say...you can find romance in the weirdest places
Thanks everyone, I think we are gonna go to olive garden then decide from there what to do after maybe bowling or a movie0 -
Wow happy for you!
I couldn't get into a car with a guy I just met that day, but I'm so glad it worked out for you. I second the mini golf and bowling ideas. It's pretty hard to top being taken to a game... maybe if your town has any cool festivals or concerts?0 -
That is the perfect way to meet someone! I fantasize about meeting someone like this, every time I go to the grocery store. totally j/k! ok no, really, I do.
good for you!!!0 -
^^^^ that's funny I do that same thing but only at the grocery store?!? Like its some kind of singles club? I just figured I'm part crazy but apparently I'm not the only one. I don't actually act like its a singles club, just in my imagination all the other shoppers are there not for food but to potentially date me...0
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I know...I still wonder how this even happened. He moved the date to tomorrow from Wednesday to a work conflict. Now I dont evne know what to do like the what ifs. sometimes i wonder what i get myself in to0
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I know...I still wonder how this even happened. He moved the date to tomorrow from Wednesday to a work conflict. Now I dont evne know what to do like the what ifs. sometimes i wonder what i get myself in to
sounds like a good guy. he rescheduled the date.. probably wants to see you sooner. it's a good thing
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I know...I still wonder how this even happened. He moved the date to tomorrow from Wednesday to a work conflict. Now I dont evne know what to do like the what ifs. sometimes i wonder what i get myself in to
Movie's are boring for first couple of dates... i would say bowling or mini golf... something that you both can make fun of each other and flirt and have a good time with. Movies are 2 hours of not getting to know one another.0 -
^^^^ that's funny I do that same thing but only at the grocery store?!? Like its some kind of singles club? I just figured I'm part crazy but apparently I'm not the only one. I don't actually act like its a singles club, just in my imagination all the other shoppers are there not for food but to potentially date me...
LOL... y'all must have some great grocery stores! I don't know that I would EVER have that fantasy.
BTW... congrats on the date. I say bowling is fun...or going to the driving range if he likes golf...
Japanese hibachi if fun for a date!...0 -
we were TOO stuffed from dinner to go bowling so we went to the movies and ( he didnt hold my hand, put his shoulder around me or even give me a goonight kiss
) though we had SUCH a great time that we are going on a 3rd date and we're going bowling. 0 -
we were TOO stuffed from dinner to go bowling so we went to the movies and ( he didnt hold my hand, put his shoulder around me or even give me a goonight kiss ) though we had SUCH a great time that we are going on a 3rd date and we're going bowling.
He more than likely wanted too... Make sure you're giving out some signs that you might like him to do those things, he might be unsure that you feel that way. Maybe he's just clueless haha. Dont be afraid to put it out there if it will give him the step in the right direction :drinker:0 -
Yay for you!0
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He more than likely wanted too... Make sure you're giving out some signs that you might like him to do those things, he might be unsure that you feel that way. Maybe he's just clueless haha. Dont be afraid to put it out there if it will give him the step in the right direction :drinker:
Im actually not really good at that my only boyfriend I had we had worked together so we spent every day for two months together (it was a seasonal job) 0 -
He more than likely wanted too... Make sure you're giving out some signs that you might like him to do those things, he might be unsure that you feel that way. Maybe he's just clueless haha. Dont be afraid to put it out there if it will give him the step in the right direction :drinker:
Im actually not really good at that my only boyfriend I had we had worked together so we spent every day for two months together (it was a seasonal job)
Yeah can be nerve racking huh!! Just a cheeky little reach to touch his hand while sitting across from if he says something funny..You know what I mean? Nothing crazy but something subtle like that might be just might be that little push he needs.0 -
This thread has given me pleasure. I used to dream about meeting someone at the local supermarket, not i do not care and let destiny do what it has to.
Its cute that people want to find a dream romance... i beleiveit tends to be in the movies only.
Seems like the OP is having fun. Just continue having fun and don't worry. Next time when your date finishes just give him a peck on the cheek and when you have finished pecking just look into his eyes...0 -
we were TOO stuffed from dinner to go bowling so we went to the movies and ( he didnt hold my hand, put his shoulder around me or even give me a goonight kiss ) though we had SUCH a great time that we are going on a 3rd date and we're going bowling.
Awwww this all sounds wonderful. The kiss will come!
I've read so many opinions on this first kiss on this forum, its like there are no rules when it happens. Some guys like to tuck in first date, other guys like to wait, other guys may just need a little clue (or a big clue....lol) that you want them to!
In any case, let us know how the 3rd date goes :bigsmile:0 -
This thread has given me pleasure. I used to dream about meeting someone at the local supermarket, not i do not care and let destiny do what it has to.
Its cute that people want to find a dream romance... i beleiveit tends to be in the movies only.
Seems like the OP is having fun. Just continue having fun and don't worry. Next time when your date finishes just give him a peck on the cheek and when you have finished pecking just look into his eyes...
I actually met someone in the supermarket about a year ago--we kept running into each other in different aisles, and then he waited in the parking lot to ask me to dinner. It was really sweet, and I was sad when, after a few months of dating, that I discovered he was a jerk. But it was fun all the same--I didn't think that kind of stuff happened in real life!!
OP, keep us posted! This sounds like such fun!0 -
I'm thinking I'm over analyzing this but the first date he gave me a hug second he didn't give me a hug so with a kiss that would show where we stand. And so I'm trying my hardest to not come on too strong because for me it's hard to get past the first date or even a date for that matter. But I feel like both of our shy personalities don't help Like when their is a lack of convo what am I suppose to do? Since I think silence at this stage is akward. And I'm the type of gal that doesn't like to initiate even though I know what I want and try to suggest hints though most of the time people don't pick up on them. And it's sad but he keeps wanting me to plan dates I planned 2nd and 3rd but it's very difficult to top a hockey game like he did on the first date and it's still cold out so mini golf is out of question for now0
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Next time just stand really close to him when you get a chance. Look in his eyes, deep in his eyes.. then smile and look at his lips for a second. Maybe even bite or lick your lips (not porn like) for a split second. Sometimes you have to give them hints. :bigsmile:0
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I'm thinking I'm over analyzing this but the first date he gave me a hug second he didn't give me a hug so with a kiss that would show where we stand. And so I'm trying my hardest to not come on too strong because for me it's hard to get past the first date or even a date for that matter. But I feel like both of our shy personalities don't help Like when their is a lack of convo what am I suppose to do? Since I think silence at this stage is akward. And I'm the type of gal that doesn't like to initiate even though I know what I want and try to suggest hints though most of the time people don't pick up on them. And it's sad but he keeps wanting me to plan dates I planned 2nd and 3rd but it's very difficult to top a hockey game like he did on the first date and it's still cold out so mini golf is out of question for now
Yup looking at his lips then his eyes is a good one. Try and forget about how you are coming across and concentrate on putting him at ease with warm friendly smiles. Maybe a date where you can have some contact would be good eg a movie, but even on a walk you can be close. Be direct about what you want with the dates ie you'd like him to plan the next one. Hope he finds his nerve soon!!0 -
Like when their is a lack of convo what am I suppose to do? Since I think silence at this stage is akward.
Well, you could write a list of things to talk about and refer back to it? My mates Mum does this all the time. Not because she is lacking in the talking department (quite the opposite) but because she might forget to say something (relatively) important. Conversation is just about having a good memory! So if you go blank, just take a peek. There are millions of things to talk about when you think about it :bigsmile: You could tell him about this site, and all the varying opinions on when is a good time to kiss!
And I'm the type of gal that doesn't like to initiate even though I know what I want and try to suggest hints though most of the time people don't pick up on them. And it's sad but he keeps wanting me to plan dates I planned 2nd and 3rd but it's very difficult to top a hockey game like he did on the first date and it's still cold out so mini golf is out of question for now
Arghhh!! this is a tough one. But yeah, as Lorro said, suggest to him that the next date be his idea. Or just take it in turns. You dont have to outdo each other now, that's too much pressure. Just do simple things and 'hang out' as you Americans say!! :bigsmile:0 -
. Maybe even bite or lick your lips (not porn like) for a split second.
:laugh: :laugh: @not porn like!!! You made me giggle here MsAmazona!! I would have to be on my 5th tequila to be licking my lips in that fashion. And that would be due to the salt!!! :laugh:
I remember when i kissed the love of my life. Or he kissed me. We were laughing and teasing each other for hours saying how each of us were good kissers/who was the better kisser/bet I kiss better...kinda thing. And then he leaned across the table (at dinner - after we ate) and said 'shall we find out then?".............OMG!! It was the best kiss EVER!!
Now, I can be a bit shy with things like that, but the whole tease thing was fun and kinda took the awkwardness out of it.
I mean, you're dating, so a kiss is inevitable. So, you could bring up the subject in a jokey way?? Or just say, 'I'm too shy to even kiss you' and see if he takes the initiative? 0 -
Blunt method: A girl I met once put an ice cube in her mouth, and said "My ex used to try to get the ice cube out of my mouth, and never could, I'm too good at it", so yeah I said "You bet I can do it?!" and went for (you guessed it) a French kiss (I got the ice cube btw * applause *)I mean, you're dating, so a kiss is inevitable. So, you could bring up the subject in a jokey way?? Or just say, 'I'm too shy to even kiss you' and see if he takes the initiative?
A thing that works well is for the girl to rest her head on the guy's shoulder, then what any normal man should do is surrounding the girl's shoulders with his arm, and when the woman is in this cosy place, you just kiss her on the forehead (she is still looking in front of her or hiding in your arm) and, when she looks at you, intense look, smile, followed by kissing her on the lips (and an optional "You're alright in there?", then girl nods).
The girl started it by resting her head on the guy's shoulder though.
It's so easy...
Also as a man, you can do the "irresistible chin grab", caressing the girls chin with your finger while holding it firmly and forcing the kiss. But that doesn't help probably in your case if man doesn't want to kiss.0 -
Good topics are:Like when their is a lack of convo what am I suppose to do? Since I think silence at this stage is akward.
- Travels: where have you been/how did you like it/best and worst experience
- Relationships: in general or if specific, friends one preferably, don't bash your exes too much or don't talk too much about yourself, but it's always fun
- Hobbies: do you have any in common? If not, everyone will listen to you talking about something with passion, as long as you don't lose them by using technical terms
- Arts (cinema, music mainly): "I hate this/I like this" type of conversation normally can start a good debate
- Politics/society: don't go into personal preferences necessarily, but analyse people's behaviour at a general level (always fun/interesting as long as you/he are not prejudiced)
- News: not gossip about movie stars but the "Ohhh I just remembered, I was reading yesterday that [stuff happened]... This is shocking I think!"
- All the stuff you've got in common.
Never ever get too serious/intense, and laugh at your own opinions sometimes if they seem a bit weird/uncommon.
As others said: take it in turns.And I'm the type of gal that doesn't like to initiate even though I know what I want and try to suggest hints though most of the time people don't pick up on them. And it's sad but he keeps wanting me to plan dates I planned 2nd and 3rd but it's very difficult to top a hockey game like he did on the first date and it's still cold out so mini golf is out of question for now
You don't have to top anything, I mean I always go to places for the people (especially in the case of dating). Of course, it's nice when everything is falling into place (i.e. the place you chose is great), but eh! I'd go out for a crappy coffee just to see a girl I like, hear her voice and see her smile.0 -
but eh! I'd go out for a crappy coffee just to see a girl I like, hear her voice and see her smile.
Awwwwwwwwwwwwwww!!! :flowerforyou:0 -
Blunt method: A girl I met once put an ice cube in her mouth, and said "My ex used to try to get the ice cube out of my mouth, and never could, I'm too good at it", so yeah I said "You bet I can do it?!" and went for (you guessed it) a French kiss (I got the ice cube btw * applause *)
Blunt method or COLD method???? :laugh: I guess gum would work too.......or pizza! :laugh: 0 -
Also as a man, you can do the "irresistible chin grab", caressing the girls chin with your finger while holding it firmly and forcing the kiss. But that doesn't help probably in your case if man doesn't want to kiss.
I would hate if that happened to me! Haha
As for conversation, I ask anything like flamfloz said. I will be like "so do you have any siblings?" "how did your parents meet?" etc0
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